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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore |
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over a year ago
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I’m 10 years older than you and I still feel young. It’s all about your outlook on life.
I know people who are younger than me in age, but definitely waaaaay older in mindset |
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Um. I thought I'd be too old at 25, then 30, then here I am at 36 joking about soon to be over the hill at 40, but not actually feeling it at all.
At some point already I probably stopped being young by various definitions. But I can still feel youth and life, and I think there's years of that left to come  |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore"
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!! |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!"
45 is nothing  |
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I'm 20 years older than you and have accepted that I've gone past half way of my life expectancy, loosing friends to cancer and other diseases really hits home my mortality, so I live every day positively and am grateful for every morning that I wake up. Yes I've things I want to do and see but family comes first  |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!
45 is nothing "
Well I always say you're as old as the person you feel    |
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Age was never my concern because I’m 25 at heart, always was and always will be. But somehow I can feel the sense of my own mortality since my 50th birthday.
I don’t know why and how exactly to describe but I think this answers your question Pickle. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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It happened to me at 50. As much as everyone says it’s just a number and look good for my age, you can do anything etc. Certain things are just not that sensible to do that were still feasible in my mid 40s and definitely fine 35-45. |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!
45 is nothing
Well I always say you're as old as the person you feel "
Well I say you’re as old as the dick that fucks you and let’s just say it’s my Fab motto I’ll stick to |
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"Generally I feel young, but when I was super poorly and had to go into hospital for big serious surgery earlier this year then it hit me that I really am middle aged!"
Exactly this. We are both still playful, physically strong, adventurous and full of dreams of the future. And yet… illness, paramedics, tests, doctors… and suddenly it’s like, oh yeah, 45, almost a half century. Not actually young anymore. When did that happen? It’s a sobering realisation. |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!
45 is nothing
Well I always say you're as old as the person you feel
Well I say you’re as old as the dick that fucks you and let’s just say it’s my Fab motto I’ll stick to "
Haha love it might have to steal that one |
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"I still don't feel "old", I'm still amazed someone trusted me with a mortgage  "
Also, you are young! As is Mr Pickles.
I, on the other hand, feel mentally and physically much older than my age and much older than I look. But I know I'm not THAT old |
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When you start seeing pictures of people you went to school with or running into them in public and think oh my you look so middle aged.
Then the harsh realisation of they're probably thinking the same about you sets in. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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It's more that I can be youthful and then mature. Wise or daft. Childlike or adult. Responsible or free. We embody all of these aspects of ourselves at all stages in life. Being human is all of this!
Only our bodies age continually without going back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you kind of stop being young when you become independent and make decisions for yourself. And this happens at different ages for different people. "
Are you trying to tell me that I’m not young |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!
45 is nothing
Well I always say you're as old as the person you feel
Well I say you’re as old as the dick that fucks you and let’s just say it’s my Fab motto I’ll stick to "
If there's more than one is it the mean mode or average? |
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"I think you kind of stop being young when you become independent and make decisions for yourself. And this happens at different ages for different people.
Are you trying to tell me that I’m not young"
Is being young that important? I kinda don't get the obsession with the pursuit of youth. As long as you're fit and healthy it's all good. I know old people in their 90's with a bigger twinkle in their eyes than some 20 year olds. Life if for living rather wasting it away, worrying about being young or old. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!
45 is nothing
Well I always say you're as old as the person you feel "
26! Would you like to be 26 again… or? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you kind of stop being young when you become independent and make decisions for yourself. And this happens at different ages for different people.
Are you trying to tell me that I’m not young
Is being young that important? I kinda don't get the obsession with the pursuit of youth. As long as you're fit and healthy it's all good. I know old people in their 90's with a bigger twinkle in their eyes than some 20 year olds. Life if for living rather wasting it away, worrying about being young or old.
I think it’s more the idea that I’ll (all being well) still have lots left to enjoy. And if I don’t it won’t be due to age taking its toll. I finished school and became a legal adult less than 10 years ago. I’ve not had long to enjoy adulthood so I do like to hope there’s many more years to look forward to yes. At least at this age I feel that way **"
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So weirdly I even now gauge by context, like that person was 2 years above me at school, that’s so and sos dad. My rude awakening was last winter in boots at my appointment for a flu jab. Told the pharmacist I still needed to pay. She asked my DOB and then smiled “ oh no sir you get it free due to your age” . The single most crushing sentence I’d heard for ages |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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I am 42. I don't feel young but I certainly don't feel old. I just feel like me. Content with who I am, how I look, my place in life, my inner self and I am having the best sex of my life.
I relate to my early 20s self more than my early 30s self these days. But that probably has a lot to do with the state of mental health in my 30s more than anything.
I joke about my age a lot but I honestly don't give a fuck how old I am.
However I have zero desire to be in my 20s or 30s again. |
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"I think you kind of stop being young when you become independent and make decisions for yourself. And this happens at different ages for different people.
Are you trying to tell me that I’m not young
Is being young that important? I kinda don't get the obsession with the pursuit of youth. As long as you're fit and healthy it's all good. I know old people in their 90's with a bigger twinkle in their eyes than some 20 year olds. Life if for living rather wasting it away, worrying about being young or old.
I think it’s more the idea that I’ll (all being well) still have lots left to enjoy. And if I don’t it won’t be due to age taking its toll. I finished school and became a legal adult less than 10 years ago. I’ve not had long to enjoy adulthood so I do like to hope there’s many more years to look forward to yes. At least at this age I feel that way ** ****
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Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Physically, I feel older than 52, but that's only because my body has gone through some really crappy health issues these past few years.
But mentally, my brain makes me believe that I'm 30 years younger than I actually am, in the sense that I still have a playful and young-at-heart attitude.
Would I like to be 26 again? Hell no! I had my son at 23, so my 20s and 30s were a chaotic blur of family life. And I really like this calmer period of my life |
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I feel youthful I stopped feeling young on my 7th birthday . I clearly recall sitting on a low window sill and thinking "well you've made it! No more growing up to do". I don't feel old yet though. |
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"I think you kind of stop being young when you become independent and make decisions for yourself. And this happens at different ages for different people.
Are you trying to tell me that I’m not young
Is being young that important? I kinda don't get the obsession with the pursuit of youth. As long as you're fit and healthy it's all good. I know old people in their 90's with a bigger twinkle in their eyes than some 20 year olds. Life if for living rather wasting it away, worrying about being young or old.
I think it’s more the idea that I’ll (all being well) still have lots left to enjoy. And if I don’t it won’t be due to age taking its toll. I finished school and became a legal adult less than 10 years ago. I’ve not had long to enjoy adulthood so I do like to hope there’s many more years to look forward to yes. At least at this age I feel that way ** ****
Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness. "
I get you. And I don’t think I’ll want to stop being youthful or fit and able etc. but I do think I’ll stop feeling as though I’ve not ‘lived’ for very long at some point. 26 years is a long time but most of that was spent not even being able to make decisions for myself.
I’m not disagreeing with you. I’m just saying that I am young and that I’ve not enjoyed adulthood for very long. I’ve had plenty of life experiences and done things that plenty of older people may not have etc but I’ve just not lived very long that’s all I’m saying |
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"I am 42. I don't feel young but I certainly don't feel old. I just feel like me. Content with who I am, how I look, my place in life, my inner self and I am having the best sex of my life.
I relate to my early 20s self more than my early 30s self these days. But that probably has a lot to do with the state of mental health in my 30s more than anything.
I joke about my age a lot but I honestly don't give a fuck how old I am.
However I have zero desire to be in my 20s or 30s again. "
My 20s have been a rollercoaster but excited for the 30s
And the 40s too if the sex gets better? |
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"I think you kind of stop being young when you become independent and make decisions for yourself. And this happens at different ages for different people.
Are you trying to tell me that I’m not young
Is being young that important? I kinda don't get the obsession with the pursuit of youth. As long as you're fit and healthy it's all good. I know old people in their 90's with a bigger twinkle in their eyes than some 20 year olds. Life if for living rather wasting it away, worrying about being young or old.
I think it’s more the idea that I’ll (all being well) still have lots left to enjoy. And if I don’t it won’t be due to age taking its toll. I finished school and became a legal adult less than 10 years ago. I’ve not had long to enjoy adulthood so I do like to hope there’s many more years to look forward to yes. At least at this age I feel that way ** ****
Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness.
I get you. And I don’t think I’ll want to stop being youthful or fit and able etc. but I do think I’ll stop feeling as though I’ve not ‘lived’ for very long at some point. 26 years is a long time but most of that was spent not even being able to make decisions for myself.
I’m not disagreeing with you. I’m just saying that I am young and that I’ve not enjoyed adulthood for very long. I’ve had plenty of life experiences and done things that plenty of older people may not have etc but I’ve just not lived very long that’s all I’m saying "
Lol all is good. Everyone's view point of young is different and that's ok. Feeling like you lived and youth to me are two very very different things.  |
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You know, I used to feel terrified of growing old. Ridiculous I know, but seeing the 30s approaching was so scary. I felt like life was moving too fast and I was devastated that my 20s would be gone. And then I lost my brother and he will forever be 30 years old. And it really hit me that 30 is fucking young. You've got your whole life ahead of you. It's almost like your life hasn't even begun. When I lost my brother, my whole perspective on age completely changed.
I don't feel so old now. And I'm not sure when I will feel old. But I know for a fact every day is a blessing and growing old is a privilege. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm 46 (still clinging on to middle aged), your body will tell you when you're old, and at that point you tend to realise what you can do realistically, if you ignore, your body will shout at you and make you know for days after |
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore
Grrrr I'm 45 ! You're still young !!!
45 is nothing
Well I always say you're as old as the person you feel
26! Would you like to be 26 again… or?"
I was having a lot of fun in my mid 20s , had been with my now husband a couple of years, so yeah maybe just for a year and then back to 45 I reckon... having a lot of fun again after a few years of struggles and stresses |
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"I am 42. I don't feel young but I certainly don't feel old. I just feel like me. Content with who I am, how I look, my place in life, my inner self and I am having the best sex of my life.
I relate to my early 20s self more than my early 30s self these days. But that probably has a lot to do with the state of mental health in my 30s more than anything.
I joke about my age a lot but I honestly don't give a fuck how old I am.
However I have zero desire to be in my 20s or 30s again.
My 20s have been a rollercoaster but excited for the 30s
And the 40s too if the sex gets better? "
Ooh, it definitely does Mr P |
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" Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness. "
As much as I set my mind to it, I ain't going to be climbing on any rooves. I've not been able to do such things since late 2016. I didn't want to slow down/stop doing things either, but we don't all get a "choice".
My Dad is 84. He wants to be active but because he's developed dementia, he's starting to lose the ability to do certain things. His body is pretty fit and strong but his mind is failing. Again, not a lot he can do for "mind over matter" because he's losing neurons without doing anything to cause it.
Keeping as healthy and active as one can is great, yes. But sometimes the healthiest and fittest people still find themselves less able or unable to do things. |
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I get you. And I don’t think I’ll want to stop being youthful or fit and able etc. but I do think I’ll stop feeling as though I’ve not ‘lived’ for very long at some point. "
None of us want to stop being "able" but sometimes it happens. It doesn't always* have to be a super bad thing, though.
*sometimes the loss of ability will, of course, render a person totally unable to do anything independently and that can happen at any time, any age. |
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" Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness.
As much as I set my mind to it, I ain't going to be climbing on any rooves. I've not been able to do such things since late 2016. I didn't want to slow down/stop doing things either, but we don't all get a "choice".
My Dad is 84. He wants to be active but because he's developed dementia, he's starting to lose the ability to do certain things. His body is pretty fit and strong but his mind is failing. Again, not a lot he can do for "mind over matter" because he's losing neurons without doing anything to cause it.
Keeping as healthy and active as one can is great, yes. But sometimes the healthiest and fittest people still find themselves less able or unable to do things."
I get what you're saying Mrs KC. My mates dad is deaf as a bat and having a conversation is difficult especially when he's on a roof. But he's doing the best with the hand he's been dealt. I've lost friends in my 20s and 30s. I've watched a dear friend battle and loose her battle with cancer, but she did the best and lived to the max despite it. With her sick pan in the footwell of her car and her chemo in a rucksack on her back. She was dealt a shit hand but she lived so much it was inspiring. My Dad had a life long injury (was on traction in hospital for a long period of time followed by full body cast) in his 20's and it made him bitter and stopped living life. I guess we all have limitations on how we live our lives and we can't stop that, but we either choose to live or exist (hope that makes sense and isn't patronising, I'm badly explaining how I've experienced it). |
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" Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness.
As much as I set my mind to it, I ain't going to be climbing on any rooves. I've not been able to do such things since late 2016. I didn't want to slow down/stop doing things either, but we don't all get a "choice".
My Dad is 84. He wants to be active but because he's developed dementia, he's starting to lose the ability to do certain things. His body is pretty fit and strong but his mind is failing. Again, not a lot he can do for "mind over matter" because he's losing neurons without doing anything to cause it.
Keeping as healthy and active as one can is great, yes. But sometimes the healthiest and fittest people still find themselves less able or unable to do things.
I get what you're saying Mrs KC. My mates dad is deaf as a bat and having a conversation is difficult especially when he's on a roof. But he's doing the best with the hand he's been dealt. I've lost friends in my 20s and 30s. I've watched a dear friend battle and loose her battle with cancer, but she did the best and lived to the max despite it. With her sick pan in the footwell of her car and her chemo in a rucksack on her back. She was dealt a shit hand but she lived so much it was inspiring. My Dad had a life long injury (was on traction in hospital for a long period of time followed by full body cast) in his 20's and it made him bitter and stopped living life. I guess we all have limitations on how we live our lives and we can't stop that, but we either choose to live or exist (hope that makes sense and isn't patronising, I'm badly explaining how I've experienced it). "
I get we all have different experiences.
I don't know your friend's circumstances, so caveat the following with that. There's a lot of difference (in my view) between having to live a long life with constant pain and disability, versus knowing you have a short(ish) period of time, with pain and disability, before succumbing to a terminal condition.
Obviously I don't have personal experience with dealing with a terminal diagnosis so I won't know exactly how I'd deal with it, unless it happens. But I can totally understand why someone who acquires disability in their 20s would become bitter and would stop trying to push on.
As you know, I live in constant pain every day and just planning a simple journey or day out is an absolute pain in the arse. To get into work of a morning takes x10 as much effort as it does for my colleagues.
It's mentally and physically exhausting to keep on living, in spite of disability and the longer it lasts, the harder it can be. I try not to think about getting genuinely old because the idea of being in my 80s and even more immobile and in pain than I am now, drives me to pre plan my one way trip to Switzerland. |
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" Yeah but I'm in my 40's and hope that there loads more adventures coming my way. Actually I know there are, doing something that's been on my bucket list for years in this coming week.
It's a mindset my best mates Dad is in his late 80's, he's fitter than most people I know my age and younger. Last time I visited could hear him shouting my name couldn't see him, he was on the roof fixing it. He's not slowing down because he doesn't want to. Maybe that is the key to eternal youth and happiness.
As much as I set my mind to it, I ain't going to be climbing on any rooves. I've not been able to do such things since late 2016. I didn't want to slow down/stop doing things either, but we don't all get a "choice".
My Dad is 84. He wants to be active but because he's developed dementia, he's starting to lose the ability to do certain things. His body is pretty fit and strong but his mind is failing. Again, not a lot he can do for "mind over matter" because he's losing neurons without doing anything to cause it.
Keeping as healthy and active as one can is great, yes. But sometimes the healthiest and fittest people still find themselves less able or unable to do things.
I get what you're saying Mrs KC. My mates dad is deaf as a bat and having a conversation is difficult especially when he's on a roof. But he's doing the best with the hand he's been dealt. I've lost friends in my 20s and 30s. I've watched a dear friend battle and loose her battle with cancer, but she did the best and lived to the max despite it. With her sick pan in the footwell of her car and her chemo in a rucksack on her back. She was dealt a shit hand but she lived so much it was inspiring. My Dad had a life long injury (was on traction in hospital for a long period of time followed by full body cast) in his 20's and it made him bitter and stopped living life. I guess we all have limitations on how we live our lives and we can't stop that, but we either choose to live or exist (hope that makes sense and isn't patronising, I'm badly explaining how I've experienced it).
I get we all have different experiences.
I don't know your friend's circumstances, so caveat the following with that. There's a lot of difference (in my view) between having to live a long life with constant pain and disability, versus knowing you have a short(ish) period of time, with pain and disability, before succumbing to a terminal condition.
Obviously I don't have personal experience with dealing with a terminal diagnosis so I won't know exactly how I'd deal with it, unless it happens. But I can totally understand why someone who acquires disability in their 20s would become bitter and would stop trying to push on.
As you know, I live in constant pain every day and just planning a simple journey or day out is an absolute pain in the arse. To get into work of a morning takes x10 as much effort as it does for my colleagues.
It's mentally and physically exhausting to keep on living, in spite of disability and the longer it lasts, the harder it can be. I try not to think about getting genuinely old because the idea of being in my 80s and even more immobile and in pain than I am now, drives me to pre plan my one way trip to Switzerland. "
I hear you, I am biased I'll admit. His disability led to horrific child abuse. For which I lost my childhood and the vast majority of my 20's. Something I know from our interactions on here you'd never do to your children.
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I hear you, I am biased I'll admit. His disability led to horrific child abuse. For which I lost my childhood and the vast majority of my 20's. Something I know from our interactions on here you'd never do to your children.
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You should never have had to endure that, we both know that, Frida. You did not cause that, you did not deserve it and it should never have happened .
I worry constantly that my disability negatively impacts our daughter in particular. Our son to some extent too.
I genuinely don't want to think about getting to the kind of age where most people develop impairment just through the function of age. It's a brain fart I like to put in a box labelled "do not look/think".. |
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Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore"
I don't think about being young/old (the terms are arbitrary anyway). However, I'd say after university (~21) is when I started being aware of the passage of time in years (as everything's structured before). Now, I want to achieve my goals ASAP - there's so much I want to see/do/experience. |
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I’m 43 and still think I’m young and I think I will always feel young. I don’t think we ever get to an age and think … damn I’m old
More like fucking hell how am I 43 already |
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26
Oh I was innocent then double that still innocent
Young heart young mind I am one of a kind
I was out fri sat and sun
Had about 4 jobs
Life was sweet
Sex was good too
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"Sometimes I think to myself, I’m only 26. There’s so much life still to live and so many positive changes still to make.
Anyway- at what point do you feel like you’ll stop being young? I know it’s relative but when do you think you’ll think- I’m not young anymore"
Never ! |
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40.
I always thought 20 was going, 30 was getting older and 40 was dead old!
So when people said the 30s are the new 20’s I bought into the fact that in my 30s I was still young (see reason above to see why) but when I turned 40 I was getting older, and no longer young anymore.
Now I’m moving nearer to my 50s…. And death. |
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I didn't feel old until I hit 50. I think that's partly because it's easier to feel young when your life is sorted. When that gets turned upsidedown you realise that you no longer have youth on your side. Everything just feels harder. |
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Age is just a number it’s your frame of mind that keeps you young.
My Nan is 100 in December but until about 5 years ago she was completely independent. But now her body is failing her but her mind is still 25.
The mr |
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"Even if you feel young forever you are not young forever "
I think in my OP I meant. When do you stop feeling like- I’ve not been alive for very long at all?
Not when do you feel like you’re old in your mindset. It’s ok to feel like ‘I’ve been alive for a pretty long time even though I still feel youthful and able to do anything’.
No offence but in terms of average life expectancy etc, being 50, you’ve lived most of your life. You aren’t young. You can feel it that’s not what I’m disputing though. If that makes sense?
It’s more of a, I’m curious about when you felt like, ‘I’ve lived for a long time actually’ vibe.
BUT- I am loving the responses and I love that people feel so youthful still. That is beautiful and fills me with joy and hope x |
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BUT- I am loving the responses and I love that people feel so youthful still. That is beautiful and fills me with joy and hope x
I'd fill you "
let’s be honest, who wouldn’t  |
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. Do not feel my age. I was out earlier this week with a family female friend. She bumped into a female she knew. Who I had never seen before. I was introduced and friend asked female to guess how old I was. She thought first I was around her age or just above. So was 14 years out. I showed her my driving licence to prove date of birth. 