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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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They do. If they want to.
Men can get their shit together. Really easily. Only if they want to though. When they want something? They'll make it happen.
If they don't want to make it happen? It won't.
So if it doesn't happen? Be a bit sad. Move on. Life is too short.
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really "
hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"They do. If they want to.
Men can get their shit together. Really easily. Only if they want to though. When they want something? They'll make it happen.
If they don't want to make it happen? It won't.
So if it doesn't happen? Be a bit sad. Move on. Life is too short. I know yeah
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"In what way ? It's a bit of sweeping generalisation ? he has had a lot going on a for a few years now and I have been there to help but he just want to "
Just wants to.........awww, come on, give us a clue  |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"In what way ? It's a bit of sweeping generalisation ? he has had a lot going on a for a few years now and I have been there to help but he just want to
Just wants to.........awww, come on, give us a clue "
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"In what way ? It's a bit of sweeping generalisation ? he has had a lot going on a for a few years now and I have been there to help but he just want to
Just wants to.........awww, come on, give us a clue what clue do you need "
He just want to do what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot "
Maybe you aren’t that special for him?Move on  |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
Maybe you aren’t that special for him?Move on "
bit harsh say how you really feel |
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me "
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me . |
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me "
Milkmen definitely aren't what they used to be |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me ."
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over a year ago
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol"
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x "
honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me |
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over a year ago
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me "
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. Your worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you  |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. You’re worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you "
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. You’re worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you thank you for saying that I’m just tired of going for the wrong guys "
PM GeneralKenobi - he seems keen on you and he's a nice guy.  |
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over a year ago
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. You’re worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you thank you for saying that I’m just tired of going for the wrong guys "
On a side note I’ve just seen your profile and your bloody gorgeous, what a figure. Straighten that crown sweetie and go get someone who deserves you xx |
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. You’re worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you thank you for saying that I’m just tired of going for the wrong guys
PM GeneralKenobi - he seems keen on you and he's a nice guy. "
Hey who’s been telling my secrets?! I’m a terrible person I’ll have you know and an even worse cat |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. You’re worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you thank you for saying that I’m just tired of going for the wrong guys
On a side note I’ve just seen your profile and you’re bloody gorgeous, what a figure. Straighten that crown sweetie and go get someone who deserves you xx "
thank you but I just don’t feel like I’m people just want to use me x |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"They do. If they want to.
Men can get their shit together. Really easily. Only if they want to though. When they want something? They'll make it happen.
If they don't want to make it happen? It won't.
So if it doesn't happen? Be a bit sad. Move on. Life is too short.
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Exactly, Meli.
If someone wants something to happen, they'll make room and time.
If not, they're just hyping.
One man tells me I'm.great but doesn't go OTT. But he makes the time to come see me whenever he possibly can... he lives 500 miles away 
Someone else tells me he wants to, I'm the greatest woman he has ever spoken to, but yet he can't find time to travel 50 miles. I know which of the two I'm important to really. |
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"Why can’t men get they shit together
Have you tripped over some guys shit .well he like to keep putting it at my doorstep and the go all weird on me
All I can say to that is quote from a song .
Don't marry him fuck me .lol
Did you want more with a guy and he’s unsure? Sorry your going through a shit time babe x honestly I want to hang out with him and he keep going weird on me
It’s a true saying if he wanted to he would. I’ve been on the end of love and lust where it’s just not reciprocated and the only one who stands to get hurt is you. As hard as it is I’d move on darling. You’re worth so much more than some guy who isn’t sure about you. The right guy would give anything to spend time with you thank you for saying that I’m just tired of going for the wrong guys "
Don't want to repeat myself
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"They do. If they want to.
Men can get their shit together. Really easily. Only if they want to though. When they want something? They'll make it happen.
If they don't want to make it happen? It won't.
So if it doesn't happen? Be a bit sad. Move on. Life is too short.
Exactly, Meli.
If someone wants something to happen, they'll make room and time.
If not, they're just hyping.
One man tells me I'm.great but doesn't go OTT. But he makes the time to come see me whenever he possibly can... he lives 500 miles away
Someone else tells me he wants to, I'm the greatest woman he has ever spoken to, but yet he can't find time to travel 50 miles. I know which of the two I'm important to really."
exactly I just got caught up in the feelings silly me x |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot "
So, one man relates to all men does it... |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
So, one man relates to all men does it..."
don’t act like you men don’t do it to |
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over a year ago
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U mean why can't we human beings (supposedly said to be the most intelligent species in the animal Kingdom) get our sh*t together...!?
Simple answer is because we are "ALL" flawed in some way or another...!
Some of us more than others... |
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"PS if your not this guy number one
Priority then he ain't for you.i have known this but you these damn feelings "
I recommend you join my how to learn how not to waste time on people are not worthy of you .course . it comes with a certificate and fuck on graduation . |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"PS if your not this guy number one
Priority then he ain't for you.i have known this but you these damn feelings
I recommend you join my how to learn how not to waste time on people are not worthy of you .course . it comes with a certificate and fuck on graduation ."
lol and where do I obtain? One of them lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot "
I have one of those too, which is why after 5 years we are still only friends and probably always will be. At the end of the day, no matter how much you care for that person, you have to put your own emotional wellbeing first. Sending hugs |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
So, one man relates to all men does it... don’t act like you men don’t do it to "
Don't generalise the shit out of things, and base all men on your experience of one. My ducks are all in a row except Kevin..who's a bit roque |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot "
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
So, one man relates to all men does it... don’t act like you men don’t do it to
Don't generalise the shit out of things, and base all men on your experience of one. My ducks are all in a row except Kevin..who's a bit roque "
wow why are you getting so mad it’s my experience I can generalise the shit out things if I want to. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
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nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later |
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"PS if your not this guy number one
Priority then he ain't for you.i have known this but you these damn feelings
I recommend you join my how to learn how not to waste time on people are not worthy of you .course . it comes with a certificate and fuck on graduation .lol and where do I obtain? One of them lol "
I run a number ofcourse weekly
The lady here will tell you .
My learn how to not give fuck was very popular .my shyness had lots
Of subscribers .
Enrolements you simply personal message and I'll give you course and what time class are what not to wear and things that all have oral exams you have to complete the medical accessment . |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
I have one of those too, which is why after 5 years we are still only friends and probably always will be. At the end of the day, no matter how much you care for that person, you have to put your own emotional wellbeing first. Sending hugs "
most definitely see some one who gets it |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"PS if your not this guy number one
Priority then he ain't for you.i have known this but you these damn feelings
I recommend you join my how to learn how not to waste time on people are not worthy of you .course . it comes with a certificate and fuck on graduation .lol and where do I obtain? One of them lol
I run a number ofcourse weekly
The lady here will tell you .
My learn how to not give fuck was very popular .my shyness had lots
Of subscribers .
Enrolements you simply personal message and I'll give you course and what time class are what not to wear and things that all have oral exams you have to complete the medical accessment ."
haha and okay |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
So, one man relates to all men does it... don’t act like you men don’t do it to
Don't generalise the shit out of things, and base all men on your experience of one. My ducks are all in a row except Kevin..who's a bit roque wow why are you getting so mad it’s my experience I can generalise the shit out things if I want to. "
You can generalise all you want but here's a truth for you. It's not about men or a man, it's you and your bad decision making. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
So, one man relates to all men does it... don’t act like you men don’t do it to
Don't generalise the shit out of things, and base all men on your experience of one. My ducks are all in a row except Kevin..who's a bit roque wow why are you getting so mad it’s my experience I can generalise the shit out things if I want to.
You can generalise all you want but here's a truth for you. It's not about men or a man, it's you and your bad decision making. "
we’ll I know that thanks for making me feel crap |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
So, one man relates to all men does it... don’t act like you men don’t do it to
Don't generalise the shit out of things, and base all men on your experience of one. My ducks are all in a row except Kevin..who's a bit roque wow why are you getting so mad it’s my experience I can generalise the shit out things if I want to. "
So not mad, just a reply to your comment |
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"PS if your not this guy number one
Priority then he ain't for you.i have known this but you these damn feelings
I recommend you join my how to learn how not to waste time on people are not worthy of you .course . it comes with a certificate and fuck on graduation .lol and where do I obtain? One of them lol
I run a number ofcourse weekly
The lady here will tell you .
My learn how to not give fuck was very popular .my shyness had lots
Of subscribers .
Enrolements you simply personal message and I'll give you course and what time class are what not to wear and things that all have oral exams you have to complete the medical accessment .haha and okay "
Let's just be clear you want placec on the. Course .because I know how fickle some women are here .
I had young lady here yesterday say she was on her way in taxi to share my Jaffa cakes and had requested Yorkshire tea to go with them .I asked what time she was arriving of course no more was hear from her. |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later "
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this.... |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later "
Probably time to move on then.
Focus on yourself and see if someone with their shit together comes along. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Probably time to move on then.
Focus on yourself and see if someone with their shit together comes along. "
hmm don’t think I want any one |
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over a year ago
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this...."
This, you're enabling his behaviour. |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour. "
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner."
don’t let him do any thing |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner."
Exactly this. OP be firm and clear. Clearly you care about him. If he wants to, he would have. He doesn't want to. For whatever reason.
You're allowed to be sad/hurt or whatever - those feelings are valid. He's not a bad person - he just doesn't really want to.
Change your behaviour. Start focusing on other things.
There's so much happiness to be found OP. |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner.
Exactly this. OP be firm and clear. Clearly you care about him. If he wants to, he would have. He doesn't want to. For whatever reason.
You're allowed to be sad/hurt or whatever - those feelings are valid. He's not a bad person - he just doesn't really want to.
Change your behaviour. Start focusing on other things.
There's so much happiness to be found OP. "
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right
now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner. don’t let him do any thing "
On further reflection perhaps
My get your own shit together course maybe more beneficial to you .ofcourse you still get a certificate and a fuck on graduation
And have to under go the oral test and medical examinations. |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner.
Exactly this. OP be firm and clear. Clearly you care about him. If he wants to, he would have. He doesn't want to. For whatever reason.
You're allowed to be sad/hurt or whatever - those feelings are valid. He's not a bad person - he just doesn't really want to.
Change your behaviour. Start focusing on other things.
There's so much happiness to be found OP. sorry but change what behaviour"
So, do you jump every time he messages, do you go running to him? Do you prioritise him when he gets I contact? Making him of more importance than anyone else.
Do you emotionally invest in somebody who obviously doesn't give thst back? Those kind of behaviours |
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner.
Exactly this. OP be firm and clear. Clearly you care about him. If he wants to, he would have. He doesn't want to. For whatever reason.
You're allowed to be sad/hurt or whatever - those feelings are valid. He's not a bad person - he just doesn't really want to.
Change your behaviour. Start focusing on other things.
There's so much happiness to be found OP. sorry but change what behaviour
So, do you jump every time he messages, do you go running to him? Do you prioritise him when he gets I contact? Making him of more importance than anyone else.
Do you emotionally invest in somebody who obviously doesn't give thst back? Those kind of behaviours "
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By *isslush OP Woman
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right
now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner. don’t let him do any thing
On further reflection perhaps
My get your own shit together course maybe more beneficial to you .ofcourse you still get a certificate and a fuck on graduation
And have to under go the oral test and medical examinations."
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner.
Exactly this. OP be firm and clear. Clearly you care about him. If he wants to, he would have. He doesn't want to. For whatever reason.
You're allowed to be sad/hurt or whatever - those feelings are valid. He's not a bad person - he just doesn't really want to.
Change your behaviour. Start focusing on other things.
There's so much happiness to be found OP. sorry but change what behaviour
So, do you jump every time he messages, do you go running to him? Do you prioritise him when he gets I contact? Making him of more importance than anyone else.
Do you emotionally invest in somebody who obviously doesn't give thst back? Those kind of behaviours no "
OK so if you don't do anything of this nature, why does it affect you so badly?, I'd argue you probably (I'm not saying you definitely do) do, do these things without being aware....remember this is just my perspective, from the outside looking in...which coukd wrong or right, im not saying its either btw.... |
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"We are not the smartest bunch but depends on what’s gone on really hmm but still like I have this friend I like him a lot but he just can’t get it together and I know he has been though a lot
He's probably concentrating on what's most important to him right
now.
Stick around, help out, don't crowd him and you may find he'll focus on you.
nah done that enough and still get no where he just picks up and randomly messages me and lead me and then changes his mind a few days later
Stop allowing him to pick you up amd put you down as he wishes...
You can't change his behaviour or him in this, so change what's in your power your behaviour in this....
This, you're enabling his behaviour.
100 per cent, and making it acceptable for him to be treating the OP in this manner. don’t let him do any thing
On further reflection perhaps
My get your own shit together course maybe more beneficial to you .ofcourse you still get a certificate and a fuck on graduation
And have to under go the oral test and medical examinations. lol and thanks for letting me in "
I'm happy to enrole you in my course
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If I knew why I couldn't get my shit together, I'd probably get my shit together.
Of course, this depends on what the shit is, how much shit there is, how together it needs to be, when it needs to be together... and whether it's really my shit, or someone else's shit that's been landed on me with a false expectation.
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Im having therapy just now following a bad break up and I’ve realised I have something called anxious attachment. My ex was an anxious avoidant. The relationship was doomed from the beginning. 4 years wasted as i couldn’t walk away. Waiting for his breadcrumbs and allowing him to pick me up and put me down when he wanted. He knew I’d never leave cause I loved him so much. Look into it OP there could be an underlying issue as to why you let him come in and out of your life. It’s time to say ENOUGH, NO MORE!! |
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