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How gos are you at putting yourself first?
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over a year ago
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I used to be such a people pleaser, and I still kinda am in a way.
But I’ve had to really make an effort to remember that everyone else will be putting themselves first, so sometimes I need to do that too.
And there’s nothing wrong with communicating what you need/want |
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Now then Pickles. It depends on the level of hurt... if I'm burnt out and need a break and the person would just get the hump, I'm doing it.
If there were deeper levels then I'd have a serious conversation with them first, so we can move forward together x |
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It’s inevitable someone has to go first, it’s also inevitable someone will be upset at not being first - whose upset is more important? To me, mine is, to them, theirs is - I’m not a martyr & certainly wouldn’t get any thanks for being one so yes, more than happy to put myself first if the need arises  |
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Well. It depends is a cop-out, but it really does. I've got better over the years as I've realised that if I'm not healthy, I can't be the wife/mother/employee/friend I want to be. Sometimes it's short term pain for long term gain.
Mrs TMN x |
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I'm more okay with it the older I get. Most people aren't hurt when you put yourselves first, they are just bothered that their needs aren't met which in itself is putting theirselves first. I spent too many years being other people's rock, now all that's left is a shell and I need to take care of that. |
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Think have wasted most of my life trying to please others and not succeeding and also not knowing what pleases me.
In a weird way it is currently keeping me going as it pleases others to have me around |
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I'm pretty rubbish. My childhood involved looking out for or after adults and it's become imprinted upon me to look after everyone else first. As I approach my fourth decade, I am trying to change that. |
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"I used to be such a people pleaser, and I still kinda am in a way.
But I’ve had to really make an effort to remember that everyone else will be putting themselves first, so sometimes I need to do that too.
And there’s nothing wrong with communicating what you need/want"
I'm so similar. I always put others first . But now I realise I'm so important |
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