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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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I could and I dont mind it because I am a bit messy myself, well not so messy. I have sometimes few things laying around that kind of thing, but not too much, to be honest. I like it to be a bit messy, to have few things here and there.
What about you, could you date someone who is messy and how is your home?  |
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Yes I could! On the other hand not someone who is completely opposite! I go on holiday with my sister every year and she is a clean freak even on holiday! She did suggest that maybe I could go live with her in our twilight years! (I'm in mine lol) but I said as much as I love u I couldn't live 24/7 with u lol x we are complete opposites in every way! As I say love her dearly! I'm what she would consider messy! I think I'm mediocre clean but lived in kinda house love all my toot! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.
They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio."
Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend  |
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"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.
They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.
Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend "
And I was gonna ask in one of your other posts can I bring my own duct tape…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.
They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.
Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend "
If anyone redeems themselves I'll let your friend know.
Not looking promising though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "
Wow that's harsh!
How does it reflect their life exactly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I couldn't, I like a tidy house ...but a dirty mind.
They'd end up in one of the plots I've already dug out under the patio.
Are these plots rentable? Asking for a friend
And I was gonna ask in one of your other posts can I bring my own duct tape…."
I’ll ask my friend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work "
Vans should be a mess they are for work cars shouldn't be |
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "
I think I would agree to an extend and personally I like a tidy one though there are always things you have to prooritise in life. On the other hand there are a lot of free spitited and happy people, and I have a few friends like that, who don't pay much attention to a particularly tidy home but are great people and have perfectly 'tidy' lives, just not a particularly tidy home. Untidy of course does not mean unclean |
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"I could and I dont mind it because I am a bit messy myself, well not so messy. I have sometimes few things laying around that kind of thing, but not too much, to be honest. I like it to be a bit messy, to have few things here and there.
What about you, could you date someone who is messy and how is your home? "
Date no fuck why not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "
This is very true for me at the minute actually. Everything is a mess! |
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work "
Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment…. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
This is very true for me at the minute actually. Everything is a mess!"
Oh dear xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work
Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment…."
We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods 
*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone |
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work
Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….
We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods
*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone "
Why’s it always Barry? And you could have told them it’s the fat guy’s fantasy to be k1dnapped by a hot, sexy milf…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work
Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….
We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods
*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone
Why’s it always Barry? And you could have told them it’s the fat guy’s fantasy to be k1dnapped by a hot, sexy milf…. "
My friend originally called him something else but it was my dads name so Barry he became  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sure. I just wouldn't live with them.
My house and my car are both a work in progress. I'm not a messy person but I have several "colleagues" who are.  . If a guy judges me for that, probably not the guy for me! |
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
My van is a mess and my house is clean and tidy, how does that work
Bodies all over the place as she can’t get in touch with her friend at the moment….
We k1dnapp3d an overweight guy the other day and called him fat Barry. Wondered what we’d say if we’d have been stopped by the plods
*disclaimer: Twas two flat packed wardrobes from ikea weighing approximately 18 stone
Why’s it always Barry? And you could have told them it’s the fat guy’s fantasy to be k1dnapped by a hot, sexy milf….
My friend originally called him something else but it was my dads name so Barry he became "
I thought you was saying Barry was named after your dad and I was referencing a hot milf….(awkward) almost…. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
This is very true for me at the minute actually. Everything is a mess!"
Why? |
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I wouldn't date anyone...full stop.
.but as for visiting people's houses for sex I've met a few who's places were complete tips...but they in themselves were clean and presentable..my house is probably not the most presentable...but it's generally clean and tidy.. apart from the room the horse lives in...but I don't use that room for entertaining anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I'm quite messy myself so it isn't too much of an issue. I don't mind messy but I do mind dirty. I couldn't date someone who left bins unemptied, surfaces not wiped and stuff like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unclean, obviously not.
Messy, it would depend. Cluttered I can live with.
Simply messy by full intent to be, and zero care for it, on a regular basis. Then no thanks."
Agree with the poster above |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I'm messy, so it would be hypocritical of me to say no. But I have way more things to do than sort out stuff. I get around to it every now and then.
I'm clean though. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"Yes I could! On the other hand not someone who is completely opposite! I go on holiday with my sister every year and she is a clean freak even on holiday! She did suggest that maybe I could go live with her in our twilight years! (I'm in mine lol) but I said as much as I love u I couldn't live 24/7 with u lol x we are complete opposites in every way! As I say love her dearly! I'm what she would consider messy! I think I'm mediocre clean but lived in kinda house love all my toot! X"
Yes, that is good you could do that too and yes, not someone who is completely opposite x |
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Depends as there's different levels of messy. If its a thing where most of a women's house is mostly tidy but her room has a few clutter around then its fine but if its messy all over then no.
In fact the first thing I check when I go to their house is the bathroom as it gives me an indication on how tidy there are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life "
Or the state of their mental health. |
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By *rincipessaWoman
over a year ago
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I like to be organised and in control, was just last night discussing the organisation that goes into my wardrobes
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My cars a working vehicle. Always covered in sand, in dog hair, bits of sea glass and stones in every crevice, smells of seals and sea. As soon as I clean it, it’s a mess again before the end of the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends as there's different levels of messy. If its a thing where most of a women's house is mostly tidy but her room has a few clutter around then its fine but if its messy all over then no.
In fact the first thing I check when I go to their house is the bathroom as it gives me an indication on how tidy there are"
Are you a fab home checker.
Out of curiosity if my bathroom is clean you think I am a tidy person?
If it is not.. Then what?
Considering you not seen my bathroom or anything.
Are we judging homes now before we jump into bed?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
Or the state of their mental health."
So we judging on how clean a car is? Full of condoms okay? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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No. I find it difficult enough clearing up after my son and dogs.
I want to go somewhere that I can relax and feel peaceful; not be constantly feeling like I should tidy up.
I know some people are super busy, but living on your own there shouldn't be much mess.
People with children, I'm not pointing the finger at you.
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"Depends as there's different levels of messy. If its a thing where most of a women's house is mostly tidy but her room has a few clutter around then its fine but if its messy all over then no.
In fact the first thing I check when I go to their house is the bathroom as it gives me an indication on how tidy there are
Are you a fab home checker.
Out of curiosity if my bathroom is clean you think I am a tidy person?
If it is not.. Then what?
Considering you not seen my bathroom or anything.
Are we judging homes now before we jump into bed?
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Hygiene is quite important to me, again a house doesnt have to be spotless but has to be some level of tidyness. Just to give you an example I met a girl (not on here) at her house and her place was already untidy but what really kill it for me was her bathroom where there was a lot of hair around the floor, bathtub and even toilet. So while I did have sex with her I didnt stay the night as I made up an excuse and didnt see her after |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"No way in hell could I date a messy girl.. if you see someone's car a mess inside or their house is a tip that reflects their life
Or the state of their mental health."
Or the people they have in the car, or the other people who use the car.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I like to be organised and in control, was just last night discussing the organisation that goes into my wardrobes
But
My cars a working vehicle. Always covered in sand, in dog hair, bits of sea glass and stones in every crevice, smells of seals and sea. As soon as I clean it, it’s a mess again before the end of the day."
That's my house, without the sand etc.
Mine is my son's trainers, work boot, tools, materials and general crap all taking up space in my rooms.
As soon as I clear somewhere he finds something to put in the space. Golf clubs, gardening equipment, laundry baskets. I honestly don't know how he accumulates so much stuff.
He had the cheek to complain about a couple of bags of books and costumes in the gym room he never uses.
I gave up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like to be organised and in control, was just last night discussing the organisation that goes into my wardrobes
But
My cars a working vehicle. Always covered in sand, in dog hair, bits of sea glass and stones in every crevice, smells of seals and sea. As soon as I clean it, it’s a mess again before the end of the day.
That's my house, without the sand etc.
Mine is my son's trainers, work boot, tools, materials and general crap all taking up space in my rooms.
As soon as I clear somewhere he finds something to put in the space. Golf clubs, gardening equipment, laundry baskets. I honestly don't know how he accumulates so much stuff.
He had the cheek to complain about a couple of bags of books and costumes in the gym room he never uses.
I gave up."
sounds like my place - son’s eh! only way to stay on top of it for me is to be up early every day & blitz everywhere. Proper housework is bloody time consuming and exhausting-feels like a gym session  |
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I have kids, I can’t live in a totally clean house…teens think the floor is the place for anything. Same with a car.
So whilst I’m clean and tidy, my house and car do have some messy bits at times.
If that was the only stress in your life then I’m doing ok.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was in a relationship with her first year, I gutted her flat, decorated can be difficult being a single parent when everything gets on top of you sometimes you just need a helping hand..."
Sounds like she had her priorities right - kid before decorating |
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"I have kids, I can’t live in a totally clean house…teens think the floor is the place for anything. Same with a car.
So whilst I’m clean and tidy, my house and car do have some messy bits at times.
If that was the only stress in your life then I’m doing ok.
K
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Exactly this, if a bit of mess was my biggest worry I'd be elated. After tidying up it can take about 0.5 seconds for a child to undo it all.
I think anyone stressed about a few messy things lying around would be far too upright for me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have kids, I can’t live in a totally clean house…teens think the floor is the place for anything. Same with a car.
So whilst I’m clean and tidy, my house and car do have some messy bits at times.
If that was the only stress in your life then I’m doing ok.
K
Exactly this, if a bit of mess was my biggest worry I'd be elated. After tidying up it can take about 0.5 seconds for a child to undo it all.
I think anyone stressed about a few messy things lying around would be far too upright for me anyway."
This. My sister in law was absolutely fastidious re tidying. Even with two toddlers. I felt the kids were looked after but not in the right way - there’s no way you can invest loads into cleaning etc AND be there/present for your kids emotionally. She’d be a nervous wreck almost waiting for me to finish my cuppa so she could clean up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes, I could and I have and I am.
I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.
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"Yes, I could and I have and I am.
I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.
Miles"
I actually believe that completely |
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"Yes, I could and I have and I am.
I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.
Miles
I actually believe that completely "
You can see it, can’t you, just how uptight I’d be without her free spirit.
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"Yes, I could and I have and I am.
I couldn’t be with someone like me; overly structured and neat. Tones injects the right amount of chaos to keep me sane.
Miles
I actually believe that completely
You can see it, can’t you, just how uptight I’d be without her free spirit.
Miles"
Well Tones is definitely that haha |
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No. I have done before and hated it.
Clothes strewn all over the floor, rubbish not discarded, clutter and unorganized paperwork all over every available shelf and surface, various items left all over the bed that they couldn't be asked to put away properly...
Some would argue that maybe their priorities are just different and they would rather "enjoy life rather than spend time cleaning", but from my own personal experience, it was just laziness and it made my life harder trying to complete tasks AROUND the mess, or having to clean up their mess so I can do something that needs doing.
I like things tidy and organised and I get stressed around mess because I feel it's something that can only escalate... |
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