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How have you declined someone politely?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Few of my fav
“You are too beautiful and out of my league”
“If my wife was to find out, she would be well jealous”
“I only play with men when they are part of a couple”
“Meet me at a club”
“Since you don’t rim, I don’t think we will be compatible” |
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"I just stick with no thanks. If I'm not interested I'm just not interested 
Joys of being a woman  "
Yes. We never have to lie or make shit up just to get persistent people off our backs.
The unjustness you poor men must feel.
I don't see any need to lie to someone to soothe their ego, nor do I feel the need to rip someone apart. So, if I'm not interested, then it should only be no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky. |
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky. "
If lying to them makes you feel better, that's your choice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky.
If lying to them makes you feel better, that's your choice."
I could be wrong. Maybe men understand it better what it’s like to deal with rejection |
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky.
If lying to them makes you feel better, that's your choice.
I could be wrong. Maybe men understand it better what it’s like to deal with rejection "
From seeing the abusive messages friend get sent due to rejection, I'd argue this point, and the total lack of some being at to manage the feelings if rejection. |
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky.
If lying to them makes you feel better, that's your choice.
I could be wrong. Maybe men understand it better what it’s like to deal with rejection "
Sounds like you might be the one that's fragile |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"No thank you. Is my default response "
This. 
I've told a few people that I'm not free at the moment when they've asked me to meet that night.
I simply said that it wasn't an option, but I'd be happy to look again in the future.
Most were fine about it.
Some assumed that as a single guy I should be grateful.
Yeah. Nah.
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I tend to give a reason, but the quickest way out (and the most consistent) is not to provide one I think - in terms of replying at all that is - instantly blocking being the quickest of all of course!
There is always that one person who tries and argue with it (ie your wishes), but that's a small price to pay for my own interpretation of politeness imo. If I'm in a really polite mood! I expect that most people probably mix these things up according to their mood tbh.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No thank you. Is my default response
This.
I've told a few people that I'm not free at the moment when they've asked me to meet that night.
I simply said that it wasn't an option, but I'd be happy to look again in the future.
Most were fine about it.
Some assumed that as a single guy I should be grateful.
Yeah. Nah.
A"
Oh...so if I've asked a guy to meet and he's said he can't at the moment, he's letting me down? Well this is sad news.  |
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky. "
So question is why can't you be honest about that, but put it down to women's supposed sensitivities |
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky. "
If someone is reacting like that to you saying "no thanks" then that is on them. It's perfectly polite. Have you had poor reactions to this previously?
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"I feel Women are too fragile, I could never say “no thanks” as they would only imagine something is wrong with them. When the fact is my mind and sexual requirements are a bit whacky.
If lying to them makes you feel better, that's your choice.
I could be wrong. Maybe men understand it better what it’s like to deal with rejection "
If that is true then they'll never understand if people continually sugar coat it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't know about other women here, but I can cope with "no thanks I'm not attracted to you". We are not fine china.
I give no reason for "not interested thank you". If I say they're too far away, they will argue the toss. If I say we are looking for different things, they will alter what they're looking for from what the profile says. Short and sweet. |
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"A man we met had been told several times that he looked too much like their brother. "
-Lol being turned off by that is probably quite common, I've had that experience on FG but I've never used it as an excuse in that context though!
Funnily enough though, I have actually used the excuse when in the end I blocked someone from sending me these simple "that pic is lovely" type of messages from time to time (a guy who I'm fairly sure genuinely used his real name as his user name) - which was also that of my brother (yes I really really don't like this brother!) - when I explained this to him in the bonkers fabguys forum - and that I woudn't normally care - he actually got really cheesed off as he really hates blocks and loves to look at profiles and message people, and he clearly thought I was a bit mad and really unfair!
But even a name can put people off sometimes! I think that before people know anything about you, your name is quite a thing. Only when they get to know you the name becomes just a simple connecting word again, and you just 'see' the person. So profile names are kind of important really, and it's potentially a little bit risky using (or choosing) a common name - it could potentially evoke somebody else until someone properly speaks to you!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't have a line we use, we tend to express whatever we feel is appropriate.
One example though, as this is one we've touched on several times.
Sorry to say, but you're out of our comfort zone regarding age.
Hope you find what you're looking for.
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If effort is put into the message and it’s clear they have read our profile, then we would reply with a reason why we’re not interested. If it’s a one liner or generic copy and paste. They just get a “no” |
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Why is this a problem when this site has stated ad nauseam that no reply should be seen as a polite/firm 'No thank you'?
Fab could hardly have made it easier for the percentage of users who are in possession of a modicum of savvy.
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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Yesterday I told a rather insistent young man that I was sorry, but he was just too big for me and I wouldn't be able to fit him.
When he didn't give up and told me how I'd change my mind when he fucked me, I told him he was an entitled wanker and blocked him. Job done. |
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"Yesterday I told a rather insistent young man that I was sorry, but he was just too big for me and I wouldn't be able to fit him.
When he didn't give up and told me how I'd change my mind when he fucked me, I told him he was an entitled wanker and blocked him. Job done. "
Excellent work  |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Yesterday I told a rather insistent young man that I was sorry, but he was just too big for me and I wouldn't be able to fit him.
When he didn't give up and told me how I'd change my mind when he fucked me, I told him he was an entitled wanker and blocked him. Job done.
Excellent work "
Thank you. Tbh I should have just blocked him when he led with a dick pic - but I thought I'd try being diplomatic. Needn't have bothered.  |
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"Yesterday I told a rather insistent young man that I was sorry, but he was just too big for me and I wouldn't be able to fit him.
When he didn't give up and told me how I'd change my mind when he fucked me, I told him he was an entitled wanker and blocked him. Job done.
Excellent work
Thank you. Tbh I should have just blocked him when he led with a dick pic - but I thought I'd try being diplomatic. Needn't have bothered. "
Oh dick pics are all good… I print them all off as I’m papering my downstairs loo with them |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Yesterday I told a rather insistent young man that I was sorry, but he was just too big for me and I wouldn't be able to fit him.
When he didn't give up and told me how I'd change my mind when he fucked me, I told him he was an entitled wanker and blocked him. Job done.
Excellent work
Thank you. Tbh I should have just blocked him when he led with a dick pic - but I thought I'd try being diplomatic. Needn't have bothered.
Oh dick pics are all good… I print them all off as I’m papering my downstairs loo with them "
I'll be wanting to visit your downstairs loo sometime to see this |
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"Yesterday I told a rather insistent young man that I was sorry, but he was just too big for me and I wouldn't be able to fit him.
When he didn't give up and told me how I'd change my mind when he fucked me, I told him he was an entitled wanker and blocked him. Job done.
Excellent work
Thank you. Tbh I should have just blocked him when he led with a dick pic - but I thought I'd try being diplomatic. Needn't have bothered.
Oh dick pics are all good… I print them all off as I’m papering my downstairs loo with them
I'll be wanting to visit your downstairs loo sometime to see this "
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I usually preempt it before they've even sent me their photo. When she sends the first message but is incapable of living up to her own rules of conversation and momentum (as inferred in her profile), I just close down the chat with self-explanatory silence. |
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"I usually preempt it before they've even sent me their photo. When she sends the first message but is incapable of living up to her own rules of conversation and momentum (as inferred in her profile), I just close down the chat with self-explanatory silence."
By which point the shallow and presumptuous chambermaid has hopefully seen enough of the forum to greet your punishing silence with a long and deep sigh of relief |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"I usually preempt it before they've even sent me their photo. When she sends the first message but is incapable of living up to her own rules of conversation and momentum (as inferred in her profile), I just close down the chat with self-explanatory silence.
By which point the shallow and presumptuous chambermaid has hopefully seen enough of the forum to greet your punishing silence with a long and deep sigh of relief"
Why get so personal with him? Why is he not allowed to ignore them? |
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For us, "meet me at a club" is not a decline. We are unable to accommodate, boring detail but lots of couples can't.
We post all our meets, so when we say meet us at a club it's as close to a "come and get me" as you will ever get. |
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