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Is keeping in touch with an ex ever a good idea?
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Depends on the situation. My ex husband is still in my life as we have children together, we've also managed to get back to having a lovely friendship. It took a few years but I'm glad we did. It's lovely for us just as much as the kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Secretly keep in touch with ex and mother of my eldest child , we split in 2001 .
She’s had a few partners since and I’ve had the one , but we always have that connection with each other that we’ve can’t get with anyone else, regularly text each other for advice and to see how each other is.
I called to her house a few years back to get daughters stuff to take to uni .
We ended up fucking furiously in the kitchen, it was so wild and passionate, she ended up squirting all over the floor! But we can’t live together that for sure, we’re better apart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know how it will work in the future when my ex gets a new partner, but for now it works well. We share having our dogs, we don't live near eachother so that makes the dynamic different. So far we are being supportive friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, not a good idea, unless you have children otherwise what's the point?
It makes it harder to move on, sort of keeping the door open to rekindle things.
Out of respect for a new relationship too I would end all contact, I wouldn't be able to give a new person my full attention if still messaging an ex.
Usually ex's want to stay in touch in case there's a sex opportunity. Move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The poly in me says it’s not a bad idea. It can be a very good idea actually. But I think you have to be honest about what the friendship or contact can look like. Be honest with them and with yourself |
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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago
Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston |
I don’t think so, as it can give false hope. I had to block an ex on all communication channels. I just wanted friendship, he still wanted love. I felt it was fairer for me to block him so he could move on. I guess it depends on the individual.
Red |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Even if it ends amicably?
Thoughts? "
I'm freinds with all bit one of my EX and done if they're relatives keep in contact with me. I have no children. The answer to that question is: can you and then still be friends. Even when they're may still be enjoying there? |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I don’t think so, as it can give false hope. I had to block an ex on all communication channels. I just wanted friendship, he still wanted love. I felt it was fairer for me to block him so he could move on. I guess it depends on the individual.
Red "
I am not going to question the morality of your decision, but what negative emotional impact may that have caused on you and the other person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not a good idea. I had an ex from college and we broke up before I came to uni. One year later she start the same uni with me and we started to living in the same flat. We lived in the same flat while I have another girlfriend because of she didn't wanted to move somewhere else and I didn't able to change my flat. Definitely worst experience for my gf but I didn't mind to see her. But my ex's was very toxic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see why not. If things were civil, it wasn't a messy or spiteful break up, and you still like the other person as a friend, there shouldn't be a problem right? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Omg guess what the answer will be... It depends!
Some of my exs I'm still on great terms with. Some I'm not.
I don't regret still keeping in touch with them. Things are fine.
Shocking I know, strange how things are not simply black and white, variables and different factors stop things being an absolute. |
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"Secretly keep in touch with ex and mother of my eldest child , we split in 2001 .
She’s had a few partners since and I’ve had the one , but we always have that connection with each other that we’ve can’t get with anyone else, regularly text each other for advice and to see how each other is.
I called to her house a few years back to get daughters stuff to take to uni .
We ended up fucking furiously in the kitchen, it was so wild and passionate, she ended up squirting all over the floor! But we can’t live together that for sure, we’re better apart"
Or better off parting her lips |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Omg guess what the answer will be... It depends!
Some of my exs I'm still on great terms with. Some I'm not.
I don't regret still keeping in touch with them. Things are fine.
Shocking I know, strange how things are not simply black and white, variables and different factors stop things being an absolute. "
This. If you could pin a comment it would be an this.
I don't regret being in contact with them. If it wasn't for an ex I would not have discovered Fab. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If it ends amicably? Of course. If you value the ex as a person, want them as a friend, I think as long as you're both honest and clear with each other than it can work. I don't think it's something you can make happen straight away, space is a good idea. |
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