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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tell my team mates where we go in PUBG and they listen to me.
If we die, I blame one of them so they keep listening to me and my strategies."
And you just summed up my inbox in one.
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
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I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t "
But dom is different to dominant is it not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never seen myself as a "dom", but nor am I submission.
I am however, as I've been told as it never occured to me, a pleasure dom. I can see where they're coming from I guess.
I get a huge kick out of spending a long time satisfying a woman by finding all of her pleasure spots, especially orally. Apparently that makes me a pleasure dom, so... |
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"I tell my team mates where we go in PUBG and they listen to me.
If we die, I blame one of them so they keep listening to me and my strategies.
And you just summed up my inbox in one.
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Get a lot of gamers in your inbox  ? |
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"I've never seen myself as a "dom", but nor am I submission.
I am however, as I've been told as it never occured to me, a pleasure dom. I can see where they're coming from I guess.
I get a huge kick out of spending a long time satisfying a woman by finding all of her pleasure spots, especially orally. Apparently that makes me a pleasure dom, so..."
Pleasure Dom always makes me laugh, where's the dominance in that? |
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?"
I don’t think i get it - the whole D/s thing I have tried to understand it - I thought D/s was a dominant and submissive combination based on characteristics that each enjoy. If being ‘a Dominant’ is different from being Dominant - I think that’s the point where my head goes foggy and i need to look at boobs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never seen myself as a "dom", but nor am I submission.
I am however, as I've been told as it never occured to me, a pleasure dom. I can see where they're coming from I guess.
I get a huge kick out of spending a long time satisfying a woman by finding all of her pleasure spots, especially orally. Apparently that makes me a pleasure dom, so...
Pleasure Dom always makes me laugh, where's the dominance in that? "
I'm curious to the whole concept myself, maybe it's something very simple, perhaps the knowledge of knowing that person is in control of your pleasure, they know exactly how to make you orgasm and know how to build you up to that climax.
I think it's mainly a control thing, rather than an orgasm coming along through persistent stimulation, the "pleasure dom" has the control to bring on an orgasm.
That's just my take on it though. I don't think pleasure dom necessarily needs to be dominant/alpha male-ish/overpowering/assertive |
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"I've never seen myself as a "dom", but nor am I submission.
I am however, as I've been told as it never occured to me, a pleasure dom. I can see where they're coming from I guess.
I get a huge kick out of spending a long time satisfying a woman by finding all of her pleasure spots, especially orally. Apparently that makes me a pleasure dom, so...
Pleasure Dom always makes me laugh, where's the dominance in that?
I'm curious to the whole concept myself, maybe it's something very simple, perhaps the knowledge of knowing that person is in control of your pleasure, they know exactly how to make you orgasm and know how to build you up to that climax.
I think it's mainly a control thing, rather than an orgasm coming along through persistent stimulation, the "pleasure dom" has the control to bring on an orgasm.
That's just my take on it though. I don't think pleasure dom necessarily needs to be dominant/alpha male-ish/overpowering/assertive"
No need for the Dom aspect, a man like that is just a pleaser. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?"
Very different. Dominant men are the leaders, decision makers , doers in groups etc volunteer first to take responsibility and control
I not sure why someone who clearly is, isn’t allowed to say so ? I am, always have been.
What is a Dom ? No idea …. Harry Potter fan in sone secret munch club that learns how to aftercare from watching YouTube videos
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never seen myself as a "dom", but nor am I submission.
I am however, as I've been told as it never occured to me, a pleasure dom. I can see where they're coming from I guess.
I get a huge kick out of spending a long time satisfying a woman by finding all of her pleasure spots, especially orally. Apparently that makes me a pleasure dom, so...
Pleasure Dom always makes me laugh, where's the dominance in that?
I'm curious to the whole concept myself, maybe it's something very simple, perhaps the knowledge of knowing that person is in control of your pleasure, they know exactly how to make you orgasm and know how to build you up to that climax.
I think it's mainly a control thing, rather than an orgasm coming along through persistent stimulation, the "pleasure dom" has the control to bring on an orgasm.
That's just my take on it though. I don't think pleasure dom necessarily needs to be dominant/alpha male-ish/overpowering/assertive
No need for the Dom aspect, a man like that is just a pleaser. "
True, I never saw myself as a pleasure dom but it was pointed out to me once by someone I was with. I've only ever really seen myself as a guy who gets off on pleasing the woman. I do it because I want her to have a great time, but also the ego boost I get from it too |
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?
Very different. Dominant men are the leaders, decision makers , doers in groups etc volunteer first to take responsibility and control
I not sure why someone who clearly is, isn’t allowed to say so ? I am, always have been.
What is a Dom ? No idea …. Harry Potter fan in sone secret munch club that learns how to aftercare from watching YouTube videos
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This actually got Me thinking which is something I tend to do off here rather than on but I think people who take control and volunteer first for this that and the other aren’t dominant - makes me think of the apprentice where all these people want to take charge and its a car crash - it made me think back to corporate life where I was asked to lead by a group of my peers who saw me as having the ability and the respect if the group to lead them. One if the key skills i discovered is realising when you aren’t the right person to do something …. And being fluid in being able to support rather than lead when necessary - i bet ive never sounded so sexy!! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?
Very different. Dominant men are the leaders, decision makers , doers in groups etc volunteer first to take responsibility and control
I not sure why someone who clearly is, isn’t allowed to say so ? I am, always have been.
What is a Dom ? No idea …. Harry Potter fan in sone secret munch club that learns how to aftercare from watching YouTube videos
This actually got Me thinking which is something I tend to do off here rather than on but I think people who take control and volunteer first for this that and the other aren’t dominant - makes me think of the apprentice where all these people want to take charge and its a car crash - it made me think back to corporate life where I was asked to lead by a group of my peers who saw me as having the ability and the respect if the group to lead them. One if the key skills i discovered is realising when you aren’t the right person to do something …. And being fluid in being able to support rather than lead when necessary - i bet ive never sounded so sexy!! "
Sometimes there simply is no one else to step up, if you wait until you’re not scared you would never do anything. I’m not talking about egos competing for validation.
The apprentice is TV it’s not real life.
If you don’t think you’re a dominant person it’s probably because your aren’t . It really isn’t complicated
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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The truth is everyone has different dynamics and relationships yet some 'experienced' people like to roll their eyes at others dynamics and relationships.
I prefer to be dominant in the bedroom but I am not a Dom. I once was seeing a girl that wanted that dynamic relationship and I very quickly learnt it was horrendous for me.
But people can say or do what they like. Some people might say they are doms just because they tell their girlfriend to bend over and she does. Doesn't matter much to me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That word gets thrown around far too much and it's actually scary.
I've had messages from people claiming to be experienced Doms and what they describe is bordering on assault.
Personally, I think the same about the word sub too.
I say this as someone who isn't really into labels in general though.
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?
Very different. Dominant men are the leaders, decision makers , doers in groups etc volunteer first to take responsibility and control
I not sure why someone who clearly is, isn’t allowed to say so ? I am, always have been.
What is a Dom ? No idea …. Harry Potter fan in sone secret munch club that learns how to aftercare from watching YouTube videos
This actually got Me thinking which is something I tend to do off here rather than on but I think people who take control and volunteer first for this that and the other aren’t dominant - makes me think of the apprentice where all these people want to take charge and its a car crash - it made me think back to corporate life where I was asked to lead by a group of my peers who saw me as having the ability and the respect if the group to lead them. One if the key skills i discovered is realising when you aren’t the right person to do something …. And being fluid in being able to support rather than lead when necessary - i bet ive never sounded so sexy!!
Sometimes there simply is no one else to step up, if you wait until you’re not scared you would never do anything. I’m not talking about egos competing for validation.
The apprentice is TV it’s not real life.
If you don’t think you’re a dominant person it’s probably because your aren’t . It really isn’t complicated
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Where there is no one or no decision making process in place or a complete lack of direction then in that situation you take control.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never seen myself as a "dom", but nor am I submission.
I am however, as I've been told as it never occured to me, a pleasure dom. I can see where they're coming from I guess.
I get a huge kick out of spending a long time satisfying a woman by finding all of her pleasure spots, especially orally. Apparently that makes me a pleasure dom, so...
Pleasure Dom always makes me laugh, where's the dominance in that? "
I think it’s wonderful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That word gets thrown around far too much and it's actually scary.
I've had messages from people claiming to be experienced Doms and what they describe is bordering on assault.
Personally, I think the same about the word sub too.
I say this as someone who isn't really into labels in general though.
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That sounds full of red flags, although there are some play types that are physically and mentally dangerous. Part of being an ethical practitioner, RACK for a reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?
Very different. Dominant men are the leaders, decision makers , doers in groups etc volunteer first to take responsibility and control
I not sure why someone who clearly is, isn’t allowed to say so ? I am, always have been.
What is a Dom ? No idea …. Harry Potter fan in sone secret munch club that learns how to aftercare from watching YouTube videos
This actually got Me thinking which is something I tend to do off here rather than on but I think people who take control and volunteer first for this that and the other aren’t dominant - makes me think of the apprentice where all these people want to take charge and its a car crash - it made me think back to corporate life where I was asked to lead by a group of my peers who saw me as having the ability and the respect if the group to lead them. One if the key skills i discovered is realising when you aren’t the right person to do something …. And being fluid in being able to support rather than lead when necessary - i bet ive never sounded so sexy!!
Sometimes there simply is no one else to step up, if you wait until you’re not scared you would never do anything. I’m not talking about egos competing for validation.
The apprentice is TV it’s not real life.
If you don’t think you’re a dominant person it’s probably because your aren’t . It really isn’t complicated
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A leader isn't necessarily a dominant person though. And someone who is dominant in bed isn't necessarily dominant in real life. I'd say the Doms I've met have been split 50/50. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm still very much of the opinion that if you need to tell people your dominant and all that your trying to convince yourself as much as whoever your trying to convince.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its funny the dom word lol the world we live in now is where a man can go to the gym and watch a couple podcasts and believe theyre dominant "
And any sub worth her salt will be able to tell... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its funny the dom word lol the world we live in now is where a man can go to the gym and watch a couple podcasts and believe theyre dominant "
Or any young lady can watch a video on tiktok and call themselves a domme |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its funny the dom word lol the world we live in now is where a man can go to the gym and watch a couple podcasts and believe theyre dominant
Or any young lady can watch a video on tiktok and call themselves a domme
How hard is it to do as you're told? Lol"
That's all D/s is about to most people I guess.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its funny the dom word lol the world we live in now is where a man can go to the gym and watch a couple podcasts and believe theyre dominant
Or any young lady can watch a video on tiktok and call themselves a domme
How hard is it to do as you're told? Lol
That's all D/s is about to most people I guess. "
Exactly |
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By *AM-93Man
over a year ago
scunthorpe |
Personally in my experience I set out boundaries, safe words with the female and make sure we both stick to them. A lot of people miss use the “dom” word as they think that just taking the lead in the situation is a dom. I might be wrong that’s just my view and how I do things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would you describe yourself as a Dom?
(Sidenote....I love that fact the most common typo of Dom is dim, that could get you in trouble couldn't it!)
I wouldn’t - other people have said Im an alpha male and dominant - i feel dominant is quite an oppressive term and it makes me uneasy. Im happier with assertive… Ive always thought people that describe themselves as alpha males - probably aren’t
But dom is different to dominant is it not?
I don’t think i get it - the whole D/s thing I have tried to understand it - I thought D/s was a dominant and submissive combination based on characteristics that each enjoy. If being ‘a Dominant’ is different from being Dominant - I think that’s the point where my head goes foggy and i need to look at boobs "
Some people who are submissive in every day life are dominant in the bedroom and vice versa xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not as I tend to have too much self doubt, in fact, I think I have a bit of a praise kink where I like being told on doing a good job which I think probably might be more suited to a submissive role |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I have ever described myself as a Dom. I have been referred to as "my Dom" tho.
Discussion of ssc, rack, prick, and often aftercare is almost seen as alien sometimes on here.
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There is that |
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"https://badgirlsbible.com/types-of-doms
For all the wannabe or self confessed Dom's, little light reading for you all...
Pay particular attention to the last on the list "
Too right… number 19 are ten-a-Penny  |
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It's hard to describe myself as a Domme, you are forever learning.
New things in the fetish world come about.
People's idea's of the kink world change.
Everyone's view of the kink world is different.
I didn't see being a Domme as as sexual thing, so my take on the lifestyle is different from others.
I love control and pain, that's my buzz of being a Dominatrix
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's hard to describe myself as a Domme, you are forever learning.
New things in the fetish world come about.
People's idea's of the kink world change.
Everyone's view of the kink world is different.
I didn't see being a Domme as as sexual thing, so my take on the lifestyle is different from others.
I love control and pain, that's my buzz of being a Dominatrix
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It is a journey, there really is no end to it either. There is always a new dea, a new way of exploring a dynamic, a new scene to try. Even within static dynamics there is always that one thing you always wanted to try but never got the courage up to ask.
If you ever think you are done, well you may well need to take another look. |
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