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Is Fabs what it used to be for you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been on and off this site for a good few years. I say I probably joined around 2014. Under a different name. Although I always was a single male on the profile it never seemed to hinder me that is until a few years ago. I met many good people on here and some great socials and fun times but now it is a very different case. Ghost accounts, people selling content, selling services, men claiming to be in a couple or female to name but a few.
I always know it’s far harder being a single male on here obviously but I am not getting the same vibe from this site that I used to. |
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I don’t really see these ghost accounts and people trying to sell me stuff. Maybe I am using it differently to others or I am better at filtering the junk out but it seems to be the same as it always has to me. |
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It’s not really changed although I remember the forums being very toxic.
Peoples perception about it change and that’s probably the reason.
Profiles which are not moaning from the off and with a good selection of pics fair much better - it’s how you sell yourself on here which makes all the difference to your experience in my opinion.
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I've been here over 7 years and haven't noticed much difference in the site or the demographics.
I've changed my approach a few times over the years due to other people's drama but all in all I only use this site as a distraction and a hobby. It has never been a lifestyle choice for me so I'm happy to take my time when chatting or meeting.
For those reasons I've never once engaged with a fake profile or been catfished or had a no show. |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
I've learnt over the years to be more proactive, limit the Fab admin, and dodge the fakeness and daydreamers where possible... but it has become a more mainstream site than 10 years ago  |
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Personally I find fab is way less easy to meet suitable people than say around 2013-17 for me anyway . I am a rarity looking for another rarity so I know it’s always going to be a slow grind .
Saying that I barely bother with it much these days in the same way I used to .
Definitely notice a huge difference between paying and non paying vs the level of interaction I get .
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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago
Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work) |
It’s down in the dumps with time wasters. Back in my day a short and curt “FAF?” would secure a meet and a “hi” would be taken as an effortful approach. Sadly now, it isn’t the same… |
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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago
tipperary |
"It’s down in the dumps with time wasters. Back in my day a short and curt “FAF?” would secure a meet and a “hi” would be taken as an effortful approach. Sadly now, it isn’t the same…"
Am gonna start trying the FAF approach |
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It's definitely got worse for meets..but I don't know if that's cos I'm more fussy than when I first joined..or it's the fact I'm too old for most now..or I've just got more scarier... could be a bit of all 3 maybe  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If anything it's better for me.
That's mainly down to me having the confidence to say yes to more things - new adventures, meeting people who I didn't think would be interested in me.
I've not really noticed the time wasters etc. The fakes. Even my inbox is filled with nice messages, very rarely a penis photo (which I do miss but hey ho). I'm very happy with my fab experience currently and looking forward to the coming months a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Something something rose tinted glasses (no, not him)...
I think things have gotten better for me over time, just down to actually going out to socials and events. And accepting that on the rare occasion I do get a message, they really do want to bang me... probably 
You get out what you put in, as they say  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Something something rose tinted glasses (no, not him)...
I think things have gotten better for me over time, just down to actually going out to socials and events. And accepting that on the rare occasion I do get a message, they really do want to bang me... probably
You get out what you put in, as they say "
You could get a lot out of me if you put something in. 
(I'm sorry, it was too easy and right there) |
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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago
Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work) |
"It’s down in the dumps with time wasters. Back in my day a short and curt “FAF?” would secure a meet and a “hi” would be taken as an effortful approach. Sadly now, it isn’t the same…
Am gonna start trying the FAF approach "
I hope you have several inboxes ready to handle the traffic you’ll receive! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been on and off this site for a good few years. I say I probably joined around 2014. Under a different name. Although I always was a single male on the profile it never seemed to hinder me that is until a few years ago. I met many good people on here and some great socials and fun times but now it is a very different case. Ghost accounts, people selling content, selling services, men claiming to be in a couple or female to name but a few.
I always know it’s far harder being a single male on here obviously but I am not getting the same vibe from this site that I used to. "
I’ve also been on since 2014 and it’s definitely changed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something something rose tinted glasses (no, not him)...
I think things have gotten better for me over time, just down to actually going out to socials and events. And accepting that on the rare occasion I do get a message, they really do want to bang me... probably
You get out what you put in, as they say
You could get a lot out of me if you put something in.
(I'm sorry, it was too easy and right there)"
Speaking of easy and right here... |
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I think it's everything and more. As a single male, always found it difficult, but after getting into the forums, attending an organised social, find it easier to chat to people and build up ability to chat and meet
There does seem to be more profiles where they are happy to take you offline and ask for money for services though! |
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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago
Market Harborough/ Kettering |
It's completely different now to what it was when I joined. It used to be propper swingers on here looking for good sex without all the bullshit. Don't get me wrong there are still a lot of genuine people on here but there's also a lot of dreamers and attention seekers. You never saw people (mainly single ladies) putting on their status "can you fab my pictures" until the last couple of years. What the heck is that all about?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's completely different now to what it was when I joined. It used to be propper swingers on here looking for good sex without all the bullshit. Don't get me wrong there are still a lot of genuine people on here but there's also a lot of dreamers and attention seekers. You never saw people (mainly single ladies) putting on their status "can you fab my pictures" until the last couple of years. What the heck is that all about? "
All about ‘creating content’ babes |
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"If anything it's better for me.
That's mainly down to me having the confidence to say yes to more things - new adventures, meeting people who I didn't think would be interested in me.
I've not really noticed the time wasters etc. The fakes. Even my inbox is filled with nice messages, very rarely a penis photo (which I do miss but hey ho). I'm very happy with my fab experience currently and looking forward to the coming months a lot."
I'll send you one  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If anything it's better for me.
That's mainly down to me having the confidence to say yes to more things - new adventures, meeting people who I didn't think would be interested in me.
I've not really noticed the time wasters etc. The fakes. Even my inbox is filled with nice messages, very rarely a penis photo (which I do miss but hey ho). I'm very happy with my fab experience currently and looking forward to the coming months a lot. I'll send you one "
Thank you Maggy, I'd really like that.
Can you also attach faf or similar please? I keep getting date offers but right now I'm really just wanting to be fucked. |
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The more mainstream line above probably sums it up. Everyone knows the site now, more people are now open to no strings, or more openly open! So this site is feeding that need.
I think that's brought in more people looking for just sex than swinging.
People in general and on social media seem to have become a bit more toxic (that sounds a bit extreme but hopefully you get my gist), and so that is reflected in this site. |
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"If anything it's better for me.
That's mainly down to me having the confidence to say yes to more things - new adventures, meeting people who I didn't think would be interested in me.
I've not really noticed the time wasters etc. The fakes. Even my inbox is filled with nice messages, very rarely a penis photo (which I do miss but hey ho). I'm very happy with my fab experience currently and looking forward to the coming months a lot. I'll send you one
Thank you Maggy, I'd really like that.
Can you also attach faf or similar please? I keep getting date offers but right now I'm really just wanting to be fucked."
Leave it with me I'll see what I can do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aye, t’was all fields round here when I joined and every meet was up a steep cobbled hill I had to to climb with my bike whilst someone played Dvorak’s New World symphony. "
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"Our first profile was 2010 approx...only real change is less cock and sky remote (or lynx for that matter) pictures...
Sky remotes and Lynx cans have bizarrely suffered from deflation. "
Yeah sky Q and it's little remote really ruined fab. |
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"Our first profile was 2010 approx...only real change is less cock and sky remote (or lynx for that matter) pictures...
Sky remotes and Lynx cans have bizarrely suffered from deflation.
Yeah sky Q and it's little remote really ruined fab. "
Also a lot more "fab for friends " type pictures too...that wasn't a thing back in the day  |
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I'm with you, I think there's a lot of only fans wannabees and people looking for dates. It used to be straight to the chase no faff, it was a yes or a no and we all moved on (and it was mostly yes's...because we all wanted the same thing, none judgemental fun)
"I have been on and off this site for a good few years. I say I probably joined around 2014. Under a different name. Although I always was a single male on the profile it never seemed to hinder me that is until a few years ago. I met many good people on here and some great socials and fun times but now it is a very different case. Ghost accounts, people selling content, selling services, men claiming to be in a couple or female to name but a few.
I always know it’s far harder being a single male on here obviously but I am not getting the same vibe from this site that I used to. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've noticed changes, a slump if I'm honest.
I do though wonder if lockdown played a part in that.
There's definitely been a surge in fantasists, and a downfall in experienced swinger's, from my perspective.
I can't say I've come across any openly selling content, assuming you mean OF. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
Fairytale Wood |
FAB hasn't changed people have, my kids have grown up and have their own families now while I have been on here. Lot of the people are here younger than my kids. Different views, ideas, expectations, different demographic, dynamics.
Fakes, time wasters, ghost accounts, fantasists, daydreamers, entitled attitudes, all factors of these sites. whether true or not.
What has become more prevalent is the fake, time waster cries. "You won't drop your pants for me so you must be a fake or a time waster", "You don't have any pictures on you're profile you must be fake", "You won't join us for a 3sum - fake/timewaster"
Not angry post I know there are a lot of posts about - can't get any because of all the fakes and time wasters is as old as the sites themselves. Usually just pass them by like if a suspect.
Time to go now but one last question for the nay sayers
What actually is a fake? Is the occasional pretending to be a female? Why does it matter - never likely to meet them. Or is it embarrassment about being duped.
In the end are we not all guilty of some fakery, profiles, forums, chatrooms, in life? People liked to be liked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"FAB hasn't changed people have, my kids have grown up and have their own families now while I have been on here. Lot of the people are here younger than my kids. Different views, ideas, expectations, different demographic, dynamics.
Fakes, time wasters, ghost accounts, fantasists, daydreamers, entitled attitudes, all factors of these sites. whether true or not.
What has become more prevalent is the fake, time waster cries. "You won't drop your pants for me so you must be a fake or a time waster", "You don't have any pictures on you're profile you must be fake", "You won't join us for a 3sum - fake/timewaster"
Not angry post I know there are a lot of posts about - can't get any because of all the fakes and time wasters is as old as the sites themselves. Usually just pass them by like if a suspect.
Time to go now but one last question for the nay sayers
What actually is a fake? Is the occasional pretending to be a female? Why does it matter - never likely to meet them. Or is it embarrassment about being duped.
In the end are we not all guilty of some fakery, profiles, forums, chatrooms, in life? People liked to be liked "
Very true |
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