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They are definitely happy with who I ended up with. If my mum had chosen my partner I think I would have been very unhappy. It would probably have been someone religious, very traditional and from what she considered a 'good family'. I suspect she would have aimed for money too. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"They are definitely happy with who I ended up with. If my mum had chosen my partner I think I would have been very unhappy. It would probably have been someone religious, very traditional and from what she considered a 'good family'. I suspect she would have aimed for money too. "
If I had a daughter, I would make her marry someone rich, too, who has to suck up to me and shower me in expensive gifts so I allow their marriage |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Eh my parents are low class narcissists, they don't ever cared about anything. Never introduced one girlfriend, never even dropped names. They don't ask, I don't tell."
Dang that really sucks  |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
My dad was always a tits man but I'm more of a booty guy. But I guess sometimes you just have to put on those big boy shoes and say fuck you dad, I'll like what I like!
I'm thinking of turning that story into a children's book one day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They wanted a "nice" man for me. I failed.
They are delusional that'll I'll eventually settle down with a "nice" man. I'm gonna fail.
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There aren’t many left. Hopefully There’s a liquidation sale. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok  "
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life |
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Dad probably would've liked someone from the Upper Class, but I have me an original peasant instead 
My mother? I wouldn't even care to think about her. I'd waste brain cells.
Dad seems to like Mr KC very much indeed. Most important in my mind, my Grandad liked Mr KC very much. His views did matter to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They wanted a college educated,suit and tie type ,with no baggage.
I met a school drop out ,single father,who works outdoors and comes home dirty....
They forced me to go to counseling "
Only to find out it’s probably their fault  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And do you think they are happy or would be happy with who you’ve ended up with? "
My parents threw a party when I left my husband so I guess they didn’t want him as my partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!
My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable |
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"They wanted a college educated,suit and tie type ,with no baggage.
I met a school drop out ,single father,who works outdoors and comes home dirty....
They forced me to go to counseling
Only to find out it’s probably their fault "
They paid good money for that news too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They definitely wanted/want me to marry a Jatt, Sikh girl. They don't have to be overly religious, but need to come from that background/culture. It's a bit stifling and would like them to just be happy with me finding someone without those permutations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life "
We’ve been married nearly 4 years  it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it |
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"They are definitely happy with who I ended up with. If my mum had chosen my partner I think I would have been very unhappy. It would probably have been someone religious, very traditional and from what she considered a 'good family'. I suspect she would have aimed for money too.
If I had a daughter, I would make her marry someone rich, too, who has to suck up to me and shower me in expensive gifts so I allow their marriage"
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My parents would never ever have considered giving me their thoughts on that… they knew if they did they would’ve got the round of fucks I would give to anyone else. It’s no one else’s business.
I can fuck it up on my own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They definitely wanted/want me to marry a Jatt, Sikh girl. They don't have to be overly religious, but need to come from that background/culture. It's a bit stifling and would like them to just be happy with me finding someone without those permutations"
Culture should be with culture is a difficult thing to navigate and I’m sorry man that feels like it’s long.
I hope you find or have found someone that makes you happy and am sure ultimately that’ll make them happy |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life
We’ve been married nearly 4 years it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it "
Now I have wedding role play in my head  |
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"They are definitely happy with who I ended up with. If my mum had chosen my partner I think I would have been very unhappy. It would probably have been someone religious, very traditional and from what she considered a 'good family'. I suspect she would have aimed for money too.
If I had a daughter, I would make her marry someone rich, too, who has to suck up to me and shower me in expensive gifts so I allow their marriage"
Reverse dowry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life
We’ve been married nearly 4 years it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it
Now I have wedding role play in my head "
Ffs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They definitely wanted/want me to marry a Jatt, Sikh girl. They don't have to be overly religious, but need to come from that background/culture. It's a bit stifling and would like them to just be happy with me finding someone without those permutations
Culture should be with culture is a difficult thing to navigate and I’m sorry man that feels like it’s long.
I hope you find or have found someone that makes you happy and am sure ultimately that’ll make them happy "
Yeah, it's not great, especially when there's only a small pool of "suitable" women to begin with. I appreciate that though man 
I still hold out hope that there's someone out there  |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life
We’ve been married nearly 4 years it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it
Now I have wedding role play in my head
Ffs "
It's just a party shiv! 
(You still have the dress right?) |
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life
We’ve been married nearly 4 years it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it
Now I have wedding role play in my head
Ffs
It's just a party shiv!
(You still have the dress right?) "
Omg… Brucey. Have you seen THAT porn movie? It’s awesome |
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They quite liked the 1st one but noticed they were changing, tried to warn me & I ignored them. Then I found out they cheated on me so now they want to poke needles in their eye & wish them a slow & painful death. But are polite to their face.
They adore T as he respects me, makes me so happy & brings out the best in me. He’s also the best fuck I’ve ever had
J x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life
We’ve been married nearly 4 years it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it
Now I have wedding role play in my head
Ffs
It's just a party shiv!
(You still have the dress right?)
Omg… Brucey. Have you seen THAT porn movie? It’s awesome "
How many wedding porn movies u seen? Ha ha |
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"I don’t think they really cared all that much to be honest.
My dad gets on great with my husband though, so I think I did ok
Can’t believe you’re married and I’m like 2 years away from your age. I need to get my life
We’ve been married nearly 4 years it’s really just an excuse to get dressed up and have a party. I wouldn’t worry about it
Now I have wedding role play in my head
Ffs
It's just a party shiv!
(You still have the dress right?)
Omg… Brucey. Have you seen THAT porn movie? It’s awesome
How many wedding porn movies u seen? Ha ha "
My second favourite porn movie of all time |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"No woman is good enough in my mums eyes and my old man is happy for me to plough whoever I want
Mums of boys are all the same"
Many of my friends mums love their partners so I can't fully agree with that but I know what your saying.. think mums who have raised their sons by themselves are more protective |
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"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!
My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable"
Pickle my parents are just like the comment above |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!
My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable
Pickle my parents are just like the comment above "
Mine ? |
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"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!
My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable
Pickle my parents are just like the comment above
Mine ?"
Huh  |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!
My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable
Pickle my parents are just like the comment above
Mine ?
Huh "
You said pickle my parents are just like the comment above .. my comment was above |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My mother would have only cared about social status and money! Someone to boast to her friends!
My dad would just have wanted me looked after by someone nice and stable
Pickle my parents are just like the comment above
Mine ?
Huh
You said pickle my parents are just like the comment above .. my comment was above "
I think she meant the comment she quoted |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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My dad thought I needed a "proper black man" to keep me in line.
Yep. Grim.
My mum? She thought I'd never love/find anyone.
Sometimes I'm very, very grateful that my fiancé came up to me in that dungeon. |
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I was thinking about this laying in bed this morning.
My mum used to attend a women's prayer meeting at someone's house. We were some weird branch of Quaker. The husband led the group because women weren't allowed to speak in church or lead prayers or important man stuff  . They had two kids, no telly and it was all very Victorian middle class. The kids were dressed like something out of Enid Blyton and were very quiet and according to my mum, playing snap until 7 pm when you'd hear them go upstairs, the tap running and then presumably these paragons of virtue went to bed. A very far cry from our noisy home full of children, some of the church members referred openly to us as a 'tribe'. That is the kind of life and husband my mum would have wanted for me in an ideal world.
The thing that made me laugh a lot was that the boy of that family attended the boys school next to mine and smoked, drank, swore and really rebelled. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mum didn't care or have any opinion. She was too self centred in the end.
My dad hated my ex husband for many very valid reasons but ultimately he wanted me to be happy.
I think he would have liked whoever it was to be someone he could get on with and who was a good partner and father to my boys.
Equally I know he was proud of me going it alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A good Christian man, probably an accountant.
Excuse me as I go run screaming into the night."
I’m not an accountant but I once was a good Christian man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My mother moved us out of London so I would have brown babies make of that what you will…
So you would or so you wouldn’t
Oh, wouldn’t "
Bloody saaaf lundan |
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