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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
If I say I'm meeting I'm always turning up. Not sure what the deal is with some guys. I guess they may be intimidated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont give it much thought tbh.
Been talking to someone recently, loose arrangement to meet socially on sunday, boom he goes MIA.
I dont know what's going on in his life do I so I just pass on it.
Not worth getting upset over it.
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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It's not just guys, its all about talking the talk and not walking walk.
Not looking for guys - been there done that  but
For guys its often the chase they are after, not the outcome, want to feel they still can pull. Some may just be nerves and lack of confidence.
Guys brag a lot on sites like this - usually all big talk. So in the end some guys may feel they have a lot to live upto, if they meet they may disappoint end up being named and shamed. Others have other reasons - many other threads on that subject.
Women - my area of interest its often more about the fantasy often just want that. Others just doing it for their partner and not really into it if partner can't join in. Have organised girly meets in the past and only one or two if any would turn up, not that I'm complaining . One once turned up with partner  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
Love a strong woman with a great body.......and will always turn up when agreed, in fact I like to be early ......  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
Errrm. Women do this as well.
And yes - it's fucking annoying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
Ghosters...oh boy |
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I dont ghost women when a arrangeing a meet. I always show up.
There was a woman I arrange to meet at a hotel and when the day came not only didnt she show up but also ignored my phone calls and messages. Very annoyed that I reported her on the site |
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I believe a lot of the guys on here live in their own little fantasy world. They brag in messages about their size, stamina, conquests etc. But they know that after all this they'll never be able to meet because the reality is a stark contradiction.
For example:
"I have ten throbbing inches and I can fuck for hours/days/weeks nonstop culminating in a cum eruption so huge and fierce it'll fill a water bed in the blinking of an eye"
Translates into:
"I have a mini twiglet and on an exemplary day I could possibly last two maybe even three minutes finishing with a slight dribble that wouldn't be enough to rehydrate one of those tiny chunks of carrot you find in Pot Noodles".
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I don’t do no shows or time waste
But I think some just bottle it when it comes to meets, it’s just a thrill of the chase for them. which obviously does not fair really well for the rest of us. (bloody twats or dickheads)
I would suggest keep it within 10 miles, so at the very least, if anything changes or happens you still can do things or even arrange another social
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
Woundnt know, as I've never done it...FAF |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
I don't know either, and I don't understand it. Men here are by far and wide desperate alone to the fact that they outnumber the women and couples. So they finally DO get a date, and then don't show? It makes no sense.
My best guess is: They hold you as an option, but when the time comes, they aren't ready to take up on it because they were never that attracted in the first place.
Men don't generally play ego games the way women do by just seeing if someone is interested. Men play ego games by banging as many as possible (it is just different for men and women).
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Oh 100% been the victim of this, very recently too. A simple, no this isn't going to work for me text would have been fine, I'd have bid them happy swinging.. but no arrange something for THAT day (after two previous meets!) and then... gone nothing.. Read my messages no response.. hey ho.. life goes on, read their profile a few days later and they were moaning about something.. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"Oh 100% been the victim of this, very recently too. A simple, no this isn't going to work for me text would have been fine, I'd have bid them happy swinging.. but no arrange something for THAT day (after two previous meets!) and then... gone nothing.. Read my messages no response.. hey ho.. life goes on, read their profile a few days later and they were moaning about something.. "
Worse is when they string you along and pretend like they're just late but on their way |
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"Oh 100% been the victim of this, very recently too. A simple, no this isn't going to work for me text would have been fine, I'd have bid them happy swinging.. but no arrange something for THAT day (after two previous meets!) and then... gone nothing.. Read my messages no response.. hey ho.. life goes on, read their profile a few days later and they were moaning about something..
Worse is when they string you along and pretend like they're just late but on their way"
I've experienced that, but with ladies/couples. However, I then assume the profile was an elaborate fake.... and possibly not a female/couple at all, which makes me feel even more embarrassed  |
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
They finished their wank  |
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Never ghosted anyone but had it happen to me after after chatting for ages, having a social and arranging a play meet at HER suggestion. Didn't cancel - just didn't answer messages on the day and then blocked me few hours before. This lady described herself a strong but polite with good manners or words to that effect. Still on here saying how she respects honesty and manners. A few months later noticed she had unblocked me so asked her what happened. She said "I just got a better offer" and anyway "you are ugly, smelly and a disgusting person". I had done nothing to provoke that - guess I got off lightly as my veri might not have been great Some people male and female are just cockwombles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
I've been ghosted by a woman. So not always the men.
And if a man doesn't show up and ghosts...he's more than likely attached! |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
This may be controversial but I actually feel for women who are stood up more than men. I actually think it's super shitty to do if they have started to get ready because we all know women put in GRAFT before a meet whereas all a man does is put cologne on his pubes.
Wait is that just me? |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"It's not just guys, its all about talking the talk and not walking walk.
Not looking for guys - been there done that but
For guys its often the chase they are after, not the outcome, want to feel they still can pull. Some may just be nerves and lack of confidence.
Guys brag a lot on sites like this - usually all big talk. So in the end some guys may feel they have a lot to live upto, if they meet they may disappoint end up being named and shamed. Others have other reasons - many other threads on that subject.
Women - my area of interest its often more about the fantasy often just want that. Others just doing it for their partner and not really into it if partner can't join in. Have organised girly meets in the past and only one or two if any would turn up, not that I'm complaining . One once turned up with partner "
This is all spot on however it doesn't justify men actually arranging a date and not turning up or giving notice beforehand to cancel. The empathy in those situations from the man is a grand total of 0 and my advice would be to never deal with them again.
It's also why I could never say I'll fuck you alllllll night  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This may be controversial but I actually feel for women who are stood up more than men. I actually think it's super shitty to do if they have started to get ready because we all know women put in GRAFT before a meet whereas all a man does is put cologne on his pubes.
Wait is that just me? "
Not all women brucey.
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I had 2 potential meets do this a few weeks ago and it really properly pissed me off as I have so much going on at the moment - I needed the downtime and the distraction- one wven came back with an outrageous excuse and thought I’d say ohhh really and give them a 2nd bite at wasting my time.
Its people with no respect for others that do this - so most likely be a crap shag too |
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"This may be controversial but I actually feel for women who are stood up more than men. I actually think it's super shitty to do if they have started to get ready because we all know women put in GRAFT before a meet whereas all a man does is put cologne on his pubes.
Wait is that just me? "
I resent that remark. I shave mine meticulously as well, pluck my eyebrows and wash my pants and best shirt Oh and go out a buy new box of condoms.
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"This may be controversial but I actually feel for women who are stood up more than men. I actually think it's super shitty to do if they have started to get ready because we all know women put in GRAFT before a meet whereas all a man does is put cologne on his pubes.
Wait is that just me?
Not all women brucey.
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You could turn up in a string vest reeking if sherry and i still would!! Wait a minute… have we already met??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a mini twiglet and ... Pot Noodles".
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Oh I love both, could live off Pot Noodles (had them nearly every day for a year for my lunch once) and as for twiglets, it must be the marmitey taste combined with a nice resounding crack as you bite into the stick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love the movie ghost and ghostbusters.. Nothing wrong with ghost movies.
Never come here with expectations, hopes, dreams or beliefs that fab can be full of honesty with you. Honesty runs rife in many but small amount are not.
My system, block and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I couldn't imagine doing that to someone.
Don't worry ladies, Ghosting isn't rejection, it's protection. Protection against who they really are.
That sounds so ominous and creepy."
That's why it's protection. If they ghost you , It's a clear insight into who they probably are as a person, so as a woman you've probably dodged a bullet. |
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It's somewhat bizarre to me that men are doing this, given how hard it is in general for single men to stand out and how outnumbered we are, seems insane.
My experience is it's women who ghost, often after a few messages, or a week. Between those it's usually promising. |
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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
In business, it’s often said that you haven’t closed a deal until the money is actually wired into the account.
I kind of take the same approach when it comes to online dating: I just assume that a meeting is *not* going to happen until I see the person turn up in the flesh. Sad state of affairs but one has to protect their mental well being. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London | Belfast |
"In business, it’s often said that you haven’t closed a deal until the money is actually wired into the account.
I kind of take the same approach when it comes to online dating: I just assume that a meeting is *not* going to happen until I see the person turn up in the flesh. Sad state of affairs but one has to protect their mental well being."
So you don't shower or clean up your place? |
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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago
Manchester |
"In business, it’s often said that you haven’t closed a deal until the money is actually wired into the account.
I kind of take the same approach when it comes to online dating: I just assume that a meeting is *not* going to happen until I see the person turn up in the flesh. Sad state of affairs but one has to protect their mental well being.
So you don't shower or clean up your place?"
This only represents a low, extra effort - considering how I try to maintain my place and myself clean at all times, regardless of my dating opportunities |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So gents whats the deal with not turning up then or ghosting.????
You like the chase, the attention or wha...and how come if a woman asks the question you all get deffensive and nasty...intimidated by a strong woman much????"
I thought nobody meets here lol
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By *hloe577Woman
over a year ago
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I totally agree! I'm pretty new on here, why bother wasting someone's time? As girls we have generally a lot of choice, so if we make the effort to meet and get stood up, the few are ruining it! I have arranged 7 meets and two were no shows?! |
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"I totally agree! I'm pretty new on here, why bother wasting someone's time? As girls we have generally a lot of choice, so if we make the effort to meet and get stood up, the few are ruining it! I have arranged 7 meets and two were no shows?! "
Maybe you need to refine how you go about things |
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By *hloe577Woman
over a year ago
fort william |
Hey, how do you manage to suss out the non genuine? Last night the guy text me until about half hr before? I'm assuming its just the chase they r after? Just frustrating as I have very limited free time |
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"Hey, how do you manage to suss out the non genuine? Last night the guy text me until about half hr before? I'm assuming its just the chase they r after? Just frustrating as I have very limited free time "
Researches train times to oban |
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Although I am totally honest about them and don’t give bullshit excuses 