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I asked my mate Mr. G and he said
Breadcrumbing is a term commonly used in the context of modern dating and relationships. It refers to a behavior in which one person sends intermittent and often vague messages to keep another person interested or engaged, without any intention of fully committing or entering into a relationship |
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Yes, it's a new term in "dating"
Examples of...
They flirt repeatedly, but never ask you out.
They message you to say hi and offer compliments, but ignore your suggestions to meet.
They leave comments on your social media but don't respond to DMs or texts.
They send memes and GIFs, but never engage in a proper conversation. |
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"I asked my mate Mr. G and he said
Breadcrumbing is a term commonly used in the context of modern dating and relationships. It refers to a behavior in which one person sends intermittent and often vague messages to keep another person interested or engaged, without any intention of fully committing or entering into a relationship"
Thankyou, well I should know that one , it happens a lot to me in fact as we speak , food for thought,bit like ghosting. |
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"Yes, it's a new term in "dating"
Examples of...
They flirt repeatedly, but never ask you out.
They message you to say hi and offer compliments, but ignore your suggestions to meet.
They leave comments on your social media but don't respond to DMs or texts.
They send memes and GIFs, but never engage in a proper conversation."
Resonating through my bones... |
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"Google is your friend
Do you know him too
I do! Such a cool dude. So much better than that bitch Alexa.have you tried telling her she's not funny?"
No but I often ask Chat gpt if it loves me ..... |
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"I asked my mate Mr. G and he said
Breadcrumbing is a term commonly used in the context of modern dating and relationships. It refers to a behavior in which one person sends intermittent and often vague messages to keep another person interested or engaged, without any intention of fully committing or entering into a relationship"
Simply this |
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"What's with all the different names for things like this? Surely there's only 2 different types of people, genuine ones and time wasters.  "
If we make an Official Category then it's an Official Problem and we can assign blame.
I think.
(I think there are more than two categories but I'm not sure the neologisms help) |
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There are new terms for things every week, the latest is "Open Casting".
Breakcrumbing is kinda like benching, keeping someone just interested enough, that they are an option while your explore other perceived better options, so keeping the person breadcrumbed on the bench.
The other is related to ego-matching. This is where someone matches you for the buzz of being wanted and feel better about themselves, even tho they have no interest in the person. They proceed to give the person just enough attention that they feed the person need for attention, but have no future interest.
Least that's how I understand it.
This all started by learning about love languages, I'm telling you dating in the modern age is screwy. |
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"Yes, it's a new term in "dating"
Examples of...
They flirt repeatedly, but never ask you out.
They message you to say hi and offer compliments, but ignore your suggestions to meet.
They leave comments on your social media but don't respond to DMs or texts.
They send memes and GIFs, but never engage in a proper conversation."
Well that nicely sums up my dating history! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In FAB terms it would mean .......
Someone who flirts n giggles n edges to getting it on but never does ...... it means giving you just enough to keep you dangling but the sex will never happen"
Aaaand that's summing up a lot of my fab history!
Wow I could have saved a fortune in therapy! Lol  |
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So, let's say, hypothetically, for example, if someone said they'd keep in touch but it'll probably fizzle out in a few weeks and then say on top of that they'd MAYBE meet up again in a couple of months, when you're getting vibes you're being discarded, could that be classed as breadcrumbing? |
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"So, let's say, hypothetically, for example, if someone said they'd keep in touch but it'll probably fizzle out in a few weeks and then say on top of that they'd MAYBE meet up again in a couple of months, when you're getting vibes you're being discarded, could that be classed as breadcrumbing?"
If they pop up every so often then disappear again yes |
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"There are new terms for things every week, the latest is "Open Casting".
Breakcrumbing is kinda like benching, keeping someone just interested enough, that they are an option while your explore other perceived better options, so keeping the person breadcrumbed on the bench.
The other is related to ego-matching. This is where someone matches you for the buzz of being wanted and feel better about themselves, even tho they have no interest in the person. They proceed to give the person just enough attention that they feed the person need for attention, but have no future interest.
Least that's how I understand it.
This all started by learning about love languages, I'm telling you dating in the modern age is screwy. "
That's saying something. Open Casting....sounds just like a buzz word for validation seeking. |
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It's not just dating its this swinging too. Men think we can't see what's going on but we do and it's boring. Fanny goes dry as soon as they start with this shit. |
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"It's not just dating its this swinging too. Men think we can't see what's going on but we do and it's boring. Fanny goes dry as soon as they start with this shit."
I think the women are equally culpable of such conduct ma'am. x |
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"It's not just dating its this swinging too. Men think we can't see what's going on but we do and it's boring. Fanny goes dry as soon as they start with this shit."
Oh absolutely  |
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"So, let's say, hypothetically, for example, if someone said they'd keep in touch but it'll probably fizzle out in a few weeks and then say on top of that they'd MAYBE meet up again in a couple of months, when you're getting vibes you're being discarded, could that be classed as breadcrumbing?
If they pop up every so often then disappear again yes"
Oh the irony...as I chortle musing thoughts of cognitive dissonance (not directed at the poster of the message I have replied to) x |
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It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was"
Why tolerate it?
Personally I think it's abusive and disrespectful.
It certainly isn't normal civilised behaviour. Smacks of narcissism. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was"
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it."
I called it out straight away.... unfortunately I think I fell into the trap that was set for me! #manipulated. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it."
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them."
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead? |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?"
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type."
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless."
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless.
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost. "
Sounds a bit like the setup from the film "Billy Liar". No offence intended. It's an interesting old film. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless.
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost.
Sounds a bit like the setup from the film "Billy Liar". No offence intended. It's an interesting old film."
I don't get offended by people's opinions on situations they don't understand |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless.
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost.
Sounds a bit like the setup from the film "Billy Liar". No offence intended. It's an interesting old film.
I don't get offended by people's opinions on situations they don't understand "
I guess you'll also have to watch the film to see the relationship between the protagonist and his girlfriend.
I can only speculate. given the paucity of information on your acquaintance... x |
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Yes isn't it the pleasure some get from having a crusty ball sack exfoliated over their open mouth? It's the male version of likening to go down on blue waffle. It's why some people seek out the great unwashed on certain adult sites, the big issue sellers are minted because of this fetish. |
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"Yes isn't it the pleasure some get from having a crusty ball sack exfoliated over their open mouth? It's the male version of likening to go down on blue waffle. It's why some people seek out the great unwashed on certain adult sites, the big issue sellers are minted because of this fetish."
Think the topic was about psychological abuse in the internet with social media apps. |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless.
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost.
Sounds a bit like the setup from the film "Billy Liar". No offence intended. It's an interesting old film.
I don't get offended by people's opinions on situations they don't understand
I guess you'll also have to watch the film to see the relationship between the protagonist and his girlfriend.
I can only speculate. given the paucity of information on your acquaintance... x"
You assume I haven't seen it  |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless.
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost.
Sounds a bit like the setup from the film "Billy Liar". No offence intended. It's an interesting old film.
I don't get offended by people's opinions on situations they don't understand
I guess you'll also have to watch the film to see the relationship between the protagonist and his girlfriend.
I can only speculate. given the paucity of information on your acquaintance... x
You assume I haven't seen it "
I did. it's not everyone's cuppa. mind you if you have seen it. fair play to you. it's not your modern popcorn muncher |
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"It's someone who likes to keep you hanging on, and if they think you are starting to lose interest they will toss you a few more breadcrumbs.
I've been involved with a serial breadcrumber for years, but I don't think he's realised that my tastes have rapidly changed and he's nowhere near as interesting to me as he once was
But you accept it and allow it to continue? for years…..why ? Why not just say to him what you said above and end it.
Because he's not really harming me, I just let him hang around and get in touch whenever, he's not a bad person and I like to know he's ok. Difference being now he's throwing me breadcrumbs but I'm no longer eating them.
what happened to just having a normal catch up conversation instead?
Hmm we aren't really the catch up conversation type.
takes alsorts I guess....what purpose does it serve then? sounds almost pointless.
The purpose it serves for me is knowing the guy is doing ok, he isn't a bad person and sometimes needs someone looking out for him. What purpose it serves for him, I'm not sure, I guess it gives him some kind of ego boost.
Sounds a bit like the setup from the film "Billy Liar". No offence intended. It's an interesting old film.
I don't get offended by people's opinions on situations they don't understand
I guess you'll also have to watch the film to see the relationship between the protagonist and his girlfriend.
I can only speculate. given the paucity of information on your acquaintance... x
You assume I haven't seen it
I did. it's not everyone's cuppa. mind you if you have seen it. fair play to you. it's not your modern popcorn muncher "
Personally I prefer the musical. People can watch movies before their birth date. Nah Billy liar is not relevant to my life in any way. |
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