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It's never wrong the 2 go hand in hand really.
Life is not just living to work and paying bills.
Have to enjoy life as much as we can along side our priorities
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"It's never wrong the 2 go hand in hand really.
Life is not just living to work and paying bills.
Have to enjoy life as much as we can along side our priorities
Work hard play hard or play even harder "
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"It's never wrong the 2 go hand in hand really.
Life is not just living to work and paying bills.
Have to enjoy life as much as we can along side our priorities
Work hard play hard or play even harder "
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should "
That's what's called talking bollocks.
But sadly you and lot of people get sucked into alcohol and people think its OK because they do it .your in the majority. |
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The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows 
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me  |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me "
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that. |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that."
You are correct but you just need to Monitor it |
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"Thanks I like the numbing effects from a stressful week."
 enjoy OP no one has to live your stress but you.
Everyone chooses to do what gets them through their stresses of life
You sound like you are aware of yourself and probably do it from the comfort of your own home.
Some just find negativity in another's enjoyment although they don't contribute to your life or assist in anyway
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"Thanks I like the numbing effects from a stressful week.
enjoy OP no one has to live your stress but you.
Everyone chooses to do what gets them through their stresses of life
You sound like you are aware of yourself and probably do it from the comfort of your own home.
Some just find negativity in another's enjoyment although they don't contribute to your life or assist in anyway
Happy Friday "
Happy Saturday morning , good words |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that."
He works, none of us know what he does for a living.
It's his own choice and he is not doing it because he's feeling low he's had a long week
That's how he chills out and he can do that.
I would be more concerned for a person doing it because they feel low or don't work and whenever they get money it goes on mainly alcohol
We don't get to dictate and its also Friday.
It's factual more people find it too easy and quick to criticise a person just for however they feel to enjoy an evening
I would rather that then a person on sniff and all these pills and balloons some people do |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that.
You are correct but you just need to Monitor it"
I have sensed the OP monitors it otherwise he wouldn't have known to tell us in the way he did.
He's told us he's chilling out and some on thread should do just that themselves 'chill out that doesn't include yourself |
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"Thanks I like the numbing effects from a stressful week.
enjoy OP no one has to live your stress but you.
Everyone chooses to do what gets them through their stresses of life
You sound like you are aware of yourself and probably do it from the comfort of your own home.
Some just find negativity in another's enjoyment although they don't contribute to your life or assist in anyway
Happy Friday
Happy Saturday morning , good words "
Thank you feels like Friday still until I doze off loool |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that.
He works, none of us know what he does for a living.
It's his own choice and he is not doing it because he's feeling low he's had a long week
That's how he chills out and he can do that.
I would be more concerned for a person doing it because they feel low or don't work and whenever they get money it goes on mainly alcohol
We don't get to dictate and its also Friday.
It's factual more people find it too easy and quick to criticise a person just for however they feel to enjoy an evening
I would rather that then a person on sniff and all these pills and balloons some people do "
Yes people don’t know what other people are going through
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"Thanks I like the numbing effects from a stressful week.
enjoy OP no one has to live your stress but you.
Everyone chooses to do what gets them through their stresses of life
You sound like you are aware of yourself and probably do it from the comfort of your own home.
Some just find negativity in another's enjoyment although they don't contribute to your life or assist in anyway
Happy Friday
Happy Saturday morning , good words
Thank you feels like Friday still until I doze off loool "
I know what you mean , me sleeping is a Miracle haha |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that.
He works, none of us know what he does for a living.
It's his own choice and he is not doing it because he's feeling low he's had a long week
That's how he chills out and he can do that.
I would be more concerned for a person doing it because they feel low or don't work and whenever they get money it goes on mainly alcohol
We don't get to dictate and its also Friday.
It's factual more people find it too easy and quick to criticise a person just for however they feel to enjoy an evening
I would rather that then a person on sniff and all these pills and balloons some people do
Yes people don’t know what other people are going through
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We don't and we shouldn't need to know in order to than be kind to a person.
That's why some humans don't like humans they carry too many bad traits that they don't want to lose.
People usually can't be kind or speak kind unless there's something in it for them or they feel attracted to a person.
There are a small few who are just kind regardless, it's in their nature also easy for them to be that way (unless of course if disrespected) |
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"Thanks I like the numbing effects from a stressful week.
enjoy OP no one has to live your stress but you.
Everyone chooses to do what gets them through their stresses of life
You sound like you are aware of yourself and probably do it from the comfort of your own home.
Some just find negativity in another's enjoyment although they don't contribute to your life or assist in anyway
Happy Friday
Happy Saturday morning , good words
Thank you feels like Friday still until I doze off loool
I know what you mean , me sleeping is a Miracle haha "
Feels like that for me too loool |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that.
He works, none of us know what he does for a living.
It's his own choice and he is not doing it because he's feeling low he's had a long week
That's how he chills out and he can do that.
I would be more concerned for a person doing it because they feel low or don't work and whenever they get money it goes on mainly alcohol
We don't get to dictate and its also Friday.
It's factual more people find it too easy and quick to criticise a person just for however they feel to enjoy an evening
I would rather that then a person on sniff and all these pills and balloons some people do
Yes people don’t know what other people are going through
We don't and we shouldn't need to know in order to than be kind to a person.
That's why some humans don't like humans they carry too many bad traits that they don't want to lose.
People usually can't be kind or speak kind unless there's something in it for them or they feel attracted to a person.
There are a small few who are just kind regardless, it's in their nature also easy for them to be that way (unless of course if disrespected)"
Problem is some people find kindness a weakness which is sad . It cost nothing to be kind right ? |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that.
He works, none of us know what he does for a living.
It's his own choice and he is not doing it because he's feeling low he's had a long week
That's how he chills out and he can do that.
I would be more concerned for a person doing it because they feel low or don't work and whenever they get money it goes on mainly alcohol
We don't get to dictate and its also Friday.
It's factual more people find it too easy and quick to criticise a person just for however they feel to enjoy an evening
I would rather that then a person on sniff and all these pills and balloons some people do
Yes people don’t know what other people are going through
We don't and we shouldn't need to know in order to than be kind to a person.
That's why some humans don't like humans they carry too many bad traits that they don't want to lose.
People usually can't be kind or speak kind unless there's something in it for them or they feel attracted to a person.
There are a small few who are just kind regardless, it's in their nature also easy for them to be that way (unless of course if disrespected)
Problem is some people find kindness a weakness which is sad . It cost nothing to be kind right ? "
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He said himself he is drinking more than he should. Not being judgemental, being factual. Too much drink is bad for you, every single person knows that.
He works, none of us know what he does for a living.
It's his own choice and he is not doing it because he's feeling low he's had a long week
That's how he chills out and he can do that.
I would be more concerned for a person doing it because they feel low or don't work and whenever they get money it goes on mainly alcohol
We don't get to dictate and its also Friday.
It's factual more people find it too easy and quick to criticise a person just for however they feel to enjoy an evening
I would rather that then a person on sniff and all these pills and balloons some people do
Yes people don’t know what other people are going through
We don't and we shouldn't need to know in order to than be kind to a person.
That's why some humans don't like humans they carry too many bad traits that they don't want to lose.
People usually can't be kind or speak kind unless there's something in it for them or they feel attracted to a person.
There are a small few who are just kind regardless, it's in their nature also easy for them to be that way (unless of course if disrespected)
Problem is some people find kindness a weakness which is sad . It cost nothing to be kind right ?
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The fact you feel the need to even ask this question OP tells me that you already know the answer.
Lots of helpful advice regarding alcohol dependency can be found around if you need to talk to someone.
I’m typing this very words out of my own experience and no judgement whatsoever. |
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should "
As long as it doesn’t become a habit it’s fine. Whilst the purists won’t really agree a bit of indulgence from time to time really is ok. |
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I can't answer that for you. If you think it's too much (which you say in your OP), then it's probably a sign you need to seek out other things and/or help. Alcohol can have negative long term health consequences. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that it’s affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me "
He asked about drinking more than he knows is good. That guilt will certainly affect your life
Live and let live sure, but curious why so many need alcohol or vveed after work each day ? It is very very common - It would imply to the life is far from, ‘In order’ if the mind needs to be regularly altered to cope |
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I like a drink after work occasionally but only a couple at the most as I work early and don’t like to feel groggy.
But I do think it’s more the social aspect of being out with friends I like.
But I can go weeks sometimes without going out out…
That said I had a great night last night in Leeds. And probably had a few to many Rums
But that’s allowed right?  |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that it’s affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He asked about drinking more than he knows is good. That guilt will certainly affect your life
Live and let live sure, but curious why so many need alcohol or vveed after work each day ? It is very very common - It would imply to the life is far from, ‘In order’ if the mind needs to be regularly altered to cope"
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"Different coping mechanisms will serve you better in the long run
Such as ..."
Personally I find exercise to be the best way to get rid of the day to day stresses.
Nowt beats a good weights or cardio session followed by half hour in the sauna. That work stress just melts away. It's one of the best anti depressants going! |
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that it’s affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me
He asked about drinking more than he knows is good. That guilt will certainly affect your life
Live and let live sure, but curious why so many need alcohol or vveed after work each day ? It is very very common - It would imply to the life is far from, ‘In order’ if the mind needs to be regularly altered to cope"
Your curious to know why people need alcohol or a spliff after a day's work? Interesting
Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order
What they do from the comforts of their own home is down to them even if they have shared what they are doing no one is in a position to criticise and dictate but yet people feel entitled to give their opinion what a world
He's not doing needles hard core drugs, I also didn't read his comment as guilt but everyone would interpret a message different from another |
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over a year ago
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order…. "
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life! |
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life! "
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick |
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life!
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick "
The text of the OP includes the words "drinking more than you know you should"
Which indicates he might be concerned.
And no, people with alcohol problems are not all unemployed and homeless. That's a terrible stereotype and harmful to those with problems (which I'm not saying the OP has). |
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should "
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x |
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life!
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick
The text of the OP includes the words "drinking more than you know you should"
Which indicates he might be concerned.
And no, people with alcohol problems are not all unemployed and homeless. That's a terrible stereotype and harmful to those with problems (which I'm not saying the OP has)."
People have to know if they have an issue or not for themselves its no good others saying so
Might and does are two different things
OP has not expressed that he may have an issue people just read into things too much.
Can't read into everything so much and all the time |
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life!
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick
The text of the OP includes the words "drinking more than you know you should"
Which indicates he might be concerned.
And no, people with alcohol problems are not all unemployed and homeless. That's a terrible stereotype and harmful to those with problems (which I'm not saying the OP has).
People have to know if they have an issue or not for themselves its no good others saying so
Might and does are two different things
OP has not expressed that he may have an issue people just read into things too much.
Can't read into everything so much and all the time "
So, if someone asks if something is wrong and it might be too much, we should read into it that it's fine and we should celebrate it?
A reading where the OP wanted a genuine answer to the question requires far less inference than having to assume we have to be pro alcohol because he has a job. That seems like you're importing some of your assumptions and pretending that it's neutral. It's not. |
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x"
I don't seek validation from others.
People just seem to have a problem with allowing a person to be responsible for themselves and also enjoy life.
Also taking things too literal he said he's chilling out and people are jumping on the sentence drinking more than you should.
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life!
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick
The text of the OP includes the words "drinking more than you know you should"
Which indicates he might be concerned.
And no, people with alcohol problems are not all unemployed and homeless. That's a terrible stereotype and harmful to those with problems (which I'm not saying the OP has).
People have to know if they have an issue or not for themselves its no good others saying so
Might and does are two different things
OP has not expressed that he may have an issue people just read into things too much.
Can't read into everything so much and all the time
So, if someone asks if something is wrong and it might be too much, we should read into it that it's fine and we should celebrate it?
A reading where the OP wanted a genuine answer to the question requires far less inference than having to assume we have to be pro alcohol because he has a job. That seems like you're importing some of your assumptions and pretending that it's neutral. It's not."
We are Adults, adults are responsible for themselves. If a person has an issue that is for them to know that so they can do something about it.
If that problem is not there why make a problem that is not there
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x
I don't seek validation from others.
People just seem to have a problem with allowing a person to be responsible for themselves and also enjoy life.
Also taking things too literal he said he's chilling out and people are jumping on the sentence drinking more than you should.
He's not even said how many he's had and no one has cared to ask yet a lot of jumped to conclusions he may have an alcohol issue "
Hence why I literally said “if you NEED alcohol to chill out and you are drinking more than YOU think you should”
Literally exactly the point I made….
Doesn’t matter how many he’s had, if he thinks he’s drinking too much then that’s the answer.
I don’t see any one on this forum with a problem or taking things too literal.
Post publicly, asking for advice, you get advice from all walks of life.
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“Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.”
I’m sorry but with respect, that’s not the case with all addictions and addicts at all.
Addicts (of anything!) can be extremely good at hiding their addiction.
Those that you see on park benches and walking up and down streets represent just a section of addicts in society.
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Not read the full thing, mainly the first few and last few, but where on earth do we get the vibe that the OP is a functioning alcoholic? He posted on a Friday night, presumably after a long week at work.
I have a beer or two most evenings after work to unwind. By no means am I dependent, I enjoy it. I'm sure the OP, with the odd splurge too, is similar. |
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"Not read the full thing, mainly the first few and last few, but where on earth do we get the vibe that the OP is a functioning alcoholic? He posted on a Friday night, presumably after a long week at work.
I have a beer or two most evenings after work to unwind. By no means am I dependent, I enjoy it. I'm sure the OP, with the odd splurge too, is similar. "
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"Not read the full thing, mainly the first few and last few, but where on earth do we get the vibe that the OP is a functioning alcoholic? He posted on a Friday night, presumably after a long week at work.
I have a beer or two most evenings after work to unwind. By no means am I dependent, I enjoy it. I'm sure the OP, with the odd splurge too, is similar. "
I used the term “functioning alcoholic” but it was not with regard to the OP, more as an example to make a point about something else.
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x
I don't seek validation from others.
People just seem to have a problem with allowing a person to be responsible for themselves and also enjoy life.
Also taking things too literal he said he's chilling out and people are jumping on the sentence drinking more than you should.
He's not even said how many he's had and no one has cared to ask yet a lot of jumped to conclusions he may have an alcohol issue
Hence why I literally said “if you NEED alcohol to chill out and you are drinking more than YOU think you should”
Literally exactly the point I made….
Doesn’t matter how many he’s had, if he thinks he’s drinking too much then that’s the answer.
I don’t see any one on this forum with a problem or taking things too literal.
Post publicly, asking for advice, you get advice from all walks of life.
Literally why my message states it’s subjective to each person. "
The amount does matter, if people cared that much they would ask out of sheer concern for a human as opposed to running to give their opinions so fast.
To me the OP was more making a statement not seeking advice, I've seen the threads where people ask for advice and he hasn't shown real concern
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"Not read the full thing, mainly the first few and last few, but where on earth do we get the vibe that the OP is a functioning alcoholic? He posted on a Friday night, presumably after a long week at work.
I have a beer or two most evenings after work to unwind. By no means am I dependent, I enjoy it. I'm sure the OP, with the odd splurge too, is similar. "
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life!
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick
The text of the OP includes the words "drinking more than you know you should"
Which indicates he might be concerned.
And no, people with alcohol problems are not all unemployed and homeless. That's a terrible stereotype and harmful to those with problems (which I'm not saying the OP has).
People have to know if they have an issue or not for themselves its no good others saying so
Might and does are two different things
OP has not expressed that he may have an issue people just read into things too much.
Can't read into everything so much and all the time
So, if someone asks if something is wrong and it might be too much, we should read into it that it's fine and we should celebrate it?
A reading where the OP wanted a genuine answer to the question requires far less inference than having to assume we have to be pro alcohol because he has a job. That seems like you're importing some of your assumptions and pretending that it's neutral. It's not.
We are Adults, adults are responsible for themselves. If a person has an issue that is for them to know that so they can do something about it.
If that problem is not there why make a problem that is not there
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He asked if there's anything wrong with it. He said it might be more than he should be having.
I'm not breaking into his house and taking his alcohol. I'm saying that there might be a problem.
Taking responsibility for yourself includes asking if what you're doing is ok, and being prepared to hear feedback if you do ask that question.
I also haven't said there is a problem. I've said there might be a problem and he should consider it. Giving an opinion, which he asked for, which might aid him in taking responsibility for his habits.
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x
I don't seek validation from others.
People just seem to have a problem with allowing a person to be responsible for themselves and also enjoy life.
Also taking things too literal he said he's chilling out and people are jumping on the sentence drinking more than you should.
He's not even said how many he's had and no one has cared to ask yet a lot of jumped to conclusions he may have an alcohol issue
Hence why I literally said “if you NEED alcohol to chill out and you are drinking more than YOU think you should”
Literally exactly the point I made….
Doesn’t matter how many he’s had, if he thinks he’s drinking too much then that’s the answer.
I don’t see any one on this forum with a problem or taking things too literal.
Post publicly, asking for advice, you get advice from all walks of life.
Literally why my message states it’s subjective to each person.
The amount does matter, if people cared that much they would ask out of sheer concern for a human as opposed to running to give their opinions so fast.
To me the OP was more making a statement not seeking advice, I've seen the threads where people ask for advice and he hasn't shown real concern
Text is read how a person interprets it and often people get it wrong
Phone and facial communication is quite harder to receive wrong "
The amount doesn’t matter unless you’re comparing yourself to others, which is what you said you don’t do.
My point was, if you come to a sex site and state “drinking more than you should” that depends on what and why you think you should be drinking and your thinking about it enough to post it on a sex site and discuss it.
Not once said he has an issue in anyway.
Someone can have 1 drink and day and think it’s acceptable, others won’t.
Literally why I said it’s subjective and no issue with chilling out
Feel like people really are reaching here to try and cause friction… all I see is helpful people passing comment on a post on a swinging site. No nastiness
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"….The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order….
….Someone who has a job and does their best to keep a job has life in order….
You keep saying this as though someone who holds down a job couldn’t possibly have an alcohol problem. But it is possible, that’s why some are often referred to as functioning alcoholics (albeit more correctly known as Alcohol Use Disorder I think, these days).
Now I’m not saying if the OP has a drink problem - I don’t know him or his circumstances etc. BUT if you come onto a public forum and ask whether it’s ok to drink knowing that you drink too much you can see how people might assume that he’s in denial and/or worried about his drinking habits.
What I would say OP, is if you are at all concerned then speak to someone who knows what they are on about so you can get proper support and advice.
And if you’re not concerned and all is tickety boo, then you do you.
But maybe look for other ways to help switch off and chill out too. Variety is the spice of life!
The title of this thread " Is it so wrong to chillout after work"
He's not said he's worried about it so why are others speculating?
Those who really have alcohol problems are on park benches walking up and down the streets not holding down a job.
The title of the thread says to me someone away from here may be criticising the OP for having glasses of alcohol after a hard days work
It's not a crime and who is a person troubling if they are enjoying a few glasses? If they are d*unk texting getting abusive to others that's a different ball game
People just have too much to say on what others do just because its not what they themselves participate its sick
The text of the OP includes the words "drinking more than you know you should"
Which indicates he might be concerned.
And no, people with alcohol problems are not all unemployed and homeless. That's a terrible stereotype and harmful to those with problems (which I'm not saying the OP has).
People have to know if they have an issue or not for themselves its no good others saying so
Might and does are two different things
OP has not expressed that he may have an issue people just read into things too much.
Can't read into everything so much and all the time
So, if someone asks if something is wrong and it might be too much, we should read into it that it's fine and we should celebrate it?
A reading where the OP wanted a genuine answer to the question requires far less inference than having to assume we have to be pro alcohol because he has a job. That seems like you're importing some of your assumptions and pretending that it's neutral. It's not.
We are Adults, adults are responsible for themselves. If a person has an issue that is for them to know that so they can do something about it.
If that problem is not there why make a problem that is not there
He asked if there's anything wrong with it. He said it might be more than he should be having.
I'm not breaking into his house and taking his alcohol. I'm saying that there might be a problem.
Taking responsibility for yourself includes asking if what you're doing is ok, and being prepared to hear feedback if you do ask that question.
I also haven't said there is a problem. I've said there might be a problem and he should consider it. Giving an opinion, which he asked for, which might aid him in taking responsibility for his habits.
You're the only one saying that there's only one answer here. "
He said is it so wrong to chill out after work.
He's let us know he's had a long week.
He's chilling out with some alcohol and said more than he should
This could be a one off that he's having whatever amount he would normally have doesn't say he does it all the time.
If he had a problem and wanted advice I'm sure he's not gonna turn to forums here
I'm also not the only one with the view point that he's probably fine and unwinding
I have spoken how some have been not pin pointed a person to compare them to others
Thank you have a good weekend
OP probably having a nice time with friends or family yet here are a bunch of people speaking on something about another person they don't know interesting.
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x
I don't seek validation from others.
People just seem to have a problem with allowing a person to be responsible for themselves and also enjoy life.
Also taking things too literal he said he's chilling out and people are jumping on the sentence drinking more than you should.
He's not even said how many he's had and no one has cared to ask yet a lot of jumped to conclusions he may have an alcohol issue
Hence why I literally said “if you NEED alcohol to chill out and you are drinking more than YOU think you should”
Literally exactly the point I made….
Doesn’t matter how many he’s had, if he thinks he’s drinking too much then that’s the answer.
I don’t see any one on this forum with a problem or taking things too literal.
Post publicly, asking for advice, you get advice from all walks of life.
Literally why my message states it’s subjective to each person.
The amount does matter, if people cared that much they would ask out of sheer concern for a human as opposed to running to give their opinions so fast.
To me the OP was more making a statement not seeking advice, I've seen the threads where people ask for advice and he hasn't shown real concern
Text is read how a person interprets it and often people get it wrong
Phone and facial communication is quite harder to receive wrong
The amount doesn’t matter unless you’re comparing yourself to others, which is what you said you don’t do.
My point was, if you come to a sex site and state “drinking more than you should” that depends on what and why you think you should be drinking and your thinking about it enough to post it on a sex site and discuss it.
Not once said he has an issue in anyway.
Someone can have 1 drink and day and think it’s acceptable, others won’t.
Literally why I said it’s subjective and no issue with chilling out
Feel like people really are reaching here to try and cause friction… all I see is helpful people passing comment on a post on a swinging site. No nastiness
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I don't compare others and I'm also not in the forums to cause friction.
I say kind things onto others on other threads and I get involved in the games on other threads.
When certain individuals want to tell me I'm stereotyping, who wouldn't see that as an attack on them?
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Well I'm the one who called out the
Op for talking bollocks .
Just watched an interesting interview with Brad pit on YouTube
Telling how he found his life improved because he stopped
Using alcohol to relive the stress in his life .I recommend it . |
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"Not read the full thing, mainly the first few and last few, but where on earth do we get the vibe that the OP is a functioning alcoholic? He posted on a Friday night, presumably after a long week at work.
I have a beer or two most evenings after work to unwind. By no means am I dependent, I enjoy it. I'm sure the OP, with the odd splurge too, is similar.
I used the term “functioning alcoholic” but it was not with regard to the OP, more as an example to make a point about something else.
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Not even sure I read yours tbh so it wasn't a slight at you, it's just a term I would use to describe how the OP was being... Described |
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Dust a bad week I work in social housing and some things you see need to be wiped from your mind. As a self employed person we don't get much support.
So this week had to do another safeguarding for a minor, then had a job in an old gentleman's flat that stunk of damp with roaring food still in pots on the cooker and the last straw was my last job Friday the house was full of dog sh1t it was even in the bedroom where the lady was sleeping.
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"Even if its means drinking more than you know you should
Depends where what you “know” comes from?
Are you saying you drink more than the recommended amount daily, or are you saying you’re drinking more than you “should” based on your own lived experience?
Winding down after work isn’t a bad thing at all, if you NEED alcohol to wind down daily I’d say it’s a dependency issue. But that’s only my opinion, people can drink daily through choice and not have a dependency issue equally.
Disagree with the above, many people with alcohol problems have jobs and families it’s not about being homeless and park benches. Very stereotypical.
It’s a very subjective question and will get differing answers based on how much that person also drinks alcohol.
If you think your drinking more than you personally should, above what you believe are your own limits; there’s lots of places for support x
I don't seek validation from others.
People just seem to have a problem with allowing a person to be responsible for themselves and also enjoy life.
Also taking things too literal he said he's chilling out and people are jumping on the sentence drinking more than you should.
He's not even said how many he's had and no one has cared to ask yet a lot of jumped to conclusions he may have an alcohol issue "
Fist I had 2 bottles of proseco for me that's to much.
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"Dust a bad week I work in social housing and some things you see need to be wiped from your mind. As a self employed person we don't get much support.
So this week had to do another safeguarding for a minor, then had a job in an old gentleman's flat that stunk of damp with roaring food still in pots on the cooker and the last straw was my last job Friday the house was full of dog sh1t it was even in the bedroom where the lady was sleeping.
I don't drink during the week and don't do drugs but just need forget the week. "
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"Dust a bad week I work in social housing and some things you see need to be wiped from your mind. As a self employed person we don't get much support.
So this week had to do another safeguarding for a minor, then had a job in an old gentleman's flat that stunk of damp with roaring food still in pots on the cooker and the last straw was my last job Friday the house was full of dog sh1t it was even in the bedroom where the lady was sleeping.
I don't drink during the week and don't do drugs but just need forget the week.
Find another job that suits you ."
Got 4 years till I retire why change 4 1 really traumatic week someone has to do the work.
Not all jobs are easy to cope with.
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Nothing wrong with having a drink after a busy day or to de-stress now and then, but if you’re starting to rely on alcohol to cope or if you know it’s affecting your health, then I would class that as a problem. |
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"Nothing wrong with having a drink after a busy day or to de-stress now and then, but if you’re starting to rely on alcohol to cope or if you know it’s affecting your health, then I would class that as a problem."
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"Well I'm the one who called out the
Op for talking bollocks .
Just watched an interesting interview with Brad pit on YouTube
Telling how he found his life improved because he stopped
Using alcohol to relive the stress in his life .I recommend it ."
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"Dust a bad week I work in social housing and some things you see need to be wiped from your mind. As a self employed person we don't get much support.
So this week had to do another safeguarding for a minor, then had a job in an old gentleman's flat that stunk of damp with roaring food still in pots on the cooker and the last straw was my last job Friday the house was full of dog sh1t it was even in the bedroom where the lady was sleeping.
I don't drink during the week and don't do drugs but just need forget the week.
Find another job that suits you .
Got 4 years till I retire why change 4 1 really traumatic week someone has to do the work.
Not all jobs are easy to cope with.
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"Dust a bad week I work in social housing and some things you see need to be wiped from your mind. As a self employed person we don't get much support.
So this week had to do another safeguarding for a minor, then had a job in an old gentleman's flat that stunk of damp with roaring food still in pots on the cooker and the last straw was my last job Friday the house was full of dog sh1t it was even in the bedroom where the lady was sleeping.
I don't drink during the week and don't do drugs but just need forget the week.
Find another job that suits you .
Got 4 years till I retire why change 4 1 really traumatic week someone has to do the work.
Not all jobs are easy to cope with.
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I get that! Some weeks my job is total dog shit, and I'll kick back with some escapism at the bottom of a bottle  Not just that easy to state find a new job then? I'm not 17 to start anew, I don't want to work for less than my current salary, I can't fuck off my bills... Sooo... |
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"Dust a bad week I work in social housing and some things you see need to be wiped from your mind. As a self employed person we don't get much support.
So this week had to do another safeguarding for a minor, then had a job in an old gentleman's flat that stunk of damp with roaring food still in pots on the cooker and the last straw was my last job Friday the house was full of dog sh1t it was even in the bedroom where the lady was sleeping.
I don't drink during the week and don't do drugs but just need forget the week.
Find another job that suits you .
Got 4 years till I retire why change 4 1 really traumatic week someone has to do the work.
Not all jobs are easy to cope with.
I get that! Some weeks my job is total dog shit, and I'll kick back with some escapism at the bottom of a bottle Not just that easy to state find a new job then? I'm not 17 to start anew, I don't want to work for less than my current salary, I can't fuck off my bills... Sooo... "
Glad someone said it, its definitely not easy to just switch job.
I've had members accuse me of trying to cause chaos that's definitely not why I join in on the forums
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"The OP has shown he works so he clearly has his life in order.
He is not relying on alcohol so people please don't put words into his mouth and make it come across like he's drowning sorrows
It's easier to point fingers and try criticise a person than actually allow a person to live their life as it suits them.
He is not displaying that its affecting his life some comments show how judgemental people can be goodness me "
He asked a question to get opinions from a lot of people and there are such things as functioning alcoholics and drinking way more than you know you should every night is alcohol dependency and it will destroy you so please don't try to white knight especially if it's potentially destructive and while he's actually asking for opinions. We do it occasionally too and once we've had a couple every night for a week we acknowledge we have to fix it |
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