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"When the tall 38 year old good looking guy you're going to meet for a social turns out to be a 5ft 60 year old Indian man who thinks we're going to carry on the social "because we're here now". "
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A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me. |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me."
You think they are a time waster because they don't want to meet you?! You are wasting your own time. |
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"When the tall 38 year old good looking guy you're going to meet for a social turns out to be a 5ft 60 year old Indian man who thinks we're going to carry on the social "because we're here now". "
Wtf!! |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me."
This is common & rife on hère. |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me.
This is common & rife on hère. "
Just because a woman talks to you, she’s not obliged to meet you.
It’s not time wasting to chat. |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me."
That would be a green flag for me because it meant she had read and understood my profile.
I don't expect every conversation to lead to a meet and I don't expect every social meet to lead to sex.
A red flag would be someone pushing to meet or pushing to skip the social. |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me.
You think they are a time waster because they don't want to meet you?! You are wasting your own time. "
Can you explain what you meant with your comment? I’m genuinely asking!!
Comment said “she talked the talk”, as in she talked about meeting but when push came to shove she navigated around it with (in his opinion) no intention of meeting !
Or that’s what I read?
Are you suggesting he should expect to talk endlessly in the hope said women will choose to meet ?  |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me.
You think they are a time waster because they don't want to meet you?! You are wasting your own time.
Can you explain what you meant with your comment? I’m genuinely asking!!
Comment said “she talked the talk”, as in she talked about meeting but when push came to shove she navigated around it with (in his opinion) no intention of meeting !
Or that’s what I read?
Are you suggesting he should expect to talk endlessly in the hope said women will choose to meet ? "
Not at all. If they keep talking about meeting and/ or do sex chat but don't arrange anything then move on. |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me.
This is common & rife on hère.
Just because a woman talks to you, she’s not obliged to meet you.
It’s not time wasting to chat. "
Agreed! The entitlement to a meet because you responded is ridiculously high. Then you get the daily threads, "why will no-one reply to my messages?"
This attitude right there. For many the talking is the foreplay. Seeing if you connect and will continue to a meet. The amount of people who have written something that's made me change my mind. Huge percentage. As I'm sure I've been the same for others. |
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"When they say you can find me on ShagMeNow or when they send an Amazon shopping cart  "
You mean it's not normal to send your wish list to everyone hoping to get into your knickers?
How else will they know what I want for my Birthday? |
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"When they say you can find me on ShagMeNow or when they send an Amazon shopping cart
You mean it's not normal to send your wish list to everyone hoping to get into your knickers?
How else will they know what I want for my Birthday? "
I get blocked when I send them my wish list with Gillete razors and shower gel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When someone is neber online during the evenings or weekends - screams attached/married to me
Or they're binge watching something on Netflix. "
I think when they tell me they’re married, that is when it screams they are married. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"When someone is neber online during the evenings or weekends - screams attached/married to me
Or they're binge watching something on Netflix.
I think when they tell me they’re married, that is when it screams they are married. "
Or! They want to get rid of you secretly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When someone is neber online during the evenings or weekends - screams attached/married to me
Or they're binge watching something on Netflix.
I think when they tell me they’re married, that is when it screams they are married.
Or! They want to get rid of you secretly "
Out the back door? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"When someone is neber online during the evenings or weekends - screams attached/married to me
Or they're binge watching something on Netflix.
I think when they tell me they’re married, that is when it screams they are married.
Or! They want to get rid of you secretly
Out the back door? "
They must commit to their deception! |
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By *ay VhonMan
over a year ago
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"When the tall 38 year old good looking guy you're going to meet for a social turns out to be a 5ft 60 year old Indian man who thinks we're going to carry on the social "because we're here now". "
That really tickled me lmao xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me."
I'd rather chat than meet straight away. We're very new to this and have done clubs but never meets so chatting is a must for us as I'm sure we'll meet sometime. |
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Buzzword overload completely glancing over I’m a human in the 1st message 
“I want your *BBC* for my *WAP* and to have my *cuck* who is a *bottom* watch me be your *sub* as i show him how you *dom* me in my *ddlg* fantasy”
Sometimes, this can have a variance and I’m in the mood.
But it’s 9am Sharon! A “hi” would have sufficed. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately can’t say op as that would be give away things so people would know not to trip them "
Very wise words from Ned Stark
"I don't fight in tournaments because when I fight a man for real, I don't want him to know what I can do." |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unfortunately can’t say op as that would be give away things so people would know not to trip them "
Biggest red flag for me, is really old pics, it’s such disappointment meeting someone and it turns out that they are wayyyyyy older than they say they are.
I quite like older and find them v attractive but why lie about it?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Buzzword overload completely glancing over I’m a human in the 1st message
“I want your *BBC* for my *WAP* and to have my *cuck* who is a *bottom* watch me be your *sub* as i show him how you *dom* me in my *ddlg* fantasy”
Sometimes, this can have a variance and I’m in the mood.
But it’s 9am Sharon! A “hi” would have sufficed. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1. He smells like faeces
2. He smiles with a sparkle in his eye
3. He asks if he can blindfold you in a hotel room
4. He brings his dog without my consent (Ricky did this once).
5. He texts his mum every five minutes to send her an update
5. He refuses to split the bill
8. He's not good with numbers |
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"A couple profile where there's only pictures of a woman which is highly likely to be operated by a man trying to get kinks from it"
when it's a couple who want to meet other couples ,with no pics of mr it's a flag for me.
I think its usually because they want all play to focus on the lady of the couple ,so me seeing the male is irrelevant to them.
We just avoid those type of profiles .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who arranges to meet, disappears on the day and then the next day asks me what happened as they wanted to meet me! one of them turned out to be a catfish using fake photos, the other turned out to be in a relationship (which I knew) but got cold feet. What they had in common is that they both blamed me - serious gaslighting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When they put other women on the site down, to pay me a compliment.
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You are the most radiant Courtesan on this site, far superior to the other lacklustre Harlots on here."
I will have you know I am covered in LUSTRE! (Flounces) |
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In any walk of life people who say
"If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best"
Well actually if you think I need to put up with bad behaviour before you're nice to me I'm out of here quick smart you entitled, selfish person |
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"When they put other women on the site down, to pay me a compliment.
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You are the most radiant Courtesan on this site, far superior to the other lacklustre Harlots on here."
They're not usually as eloquent as that |
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"Kiss ^
This man is a good example of a green flag. "
Can I have a green flag lemon I think that would be great
Addition to the profiles of men the miss lemon green flag of approval .a lady of excellent taste .and beauty . |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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Wanting to know you a little too much through messaging.
Rearranging first meet. (whatever the excuse).
"single mum"
Profiles that are just a list of demands that read like a prison ward welcoming the newbies.
Incongruent behaviour like being single but never staying overnight. Never meeting at her place. Avoiding whatsapp and only using kik or something. (cheater).
Pics that are always at an extreme downangle (insecurities for being out of shape I suppose. Out of shape is maybe a little unattractive but no date killer, being insecure about it is though).
When I write 5 sentences, and you ignore all of them in the reply (that is just not how conversations work).
Wanting to meet in a hotel but want me to pay half in advance.
Asking me about CCTV in the marina. Especially after asking if the boat is in a good condition or not. (wtf trying to steal my boat or something??)
Bringing drugs to my place.
Wanting freebies in their status updates ("I got a broken faucet, ha, I wish I knew some sexy handyman on here" or the alltime favourite "Oh, gold is running out tomorrow....". It's a fiver, don't be that cheap, cmon.)
Asking me to meet, then 5 minutes before I show up ask how I would like a threesome in a hotel very close by, some guy would offer it...
Probably more but I am getting bored writing this all up now. So many red flags out there |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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The men who talk the talk then don't commit to anything.
I refuse to give anyone anything to wank over now.
My brain time is precious and I don't want to waste it chatting to someone who has no intention of meeting.
I know I can chat a while before feeling the attraction but I wouldn't say I'm up for meeting anyone just for some attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they bitch to me about someone they don't know I've met.
No thank you.
Apart from that? I'm going to follow the wise words of Natalie above."
Or people they know you’ve met? … which would be worse? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If they bitch to me about someone they don't know I've met.
No thank you.
Apart from that? I'm going to follow the wise words of Natalie above.
Or people they know you’ve met? … which would be worse? "
Ha, possibly. No, people don't tend to. So yeah, I'll keep that as a red flag. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"Also when you talk to someone but they dont want to show their face like they are a ghost or something. Total red flag"
"I want to keep my anonymity due to my job, I hope you understand".
Or you have to ask 5 times in 5 messages and they ignore your request for a face pic so much it just gets awkward to ask further |
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"When the tall 38 year old good looking guy you're going to meet for a social turns out to be a 5ft 60 year old Indian man who thinks we're going to carry on the social "because we're here now". "
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When someone isn't even pic verified is a red flag. If it's a new profile then for the first day or 2 you can understand but after that their is no reason to not be pic verified.
Also couples profiles who always put up that the misses is away and they are looking for someone for the male half and no one has ever met the female half of the couple |
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"When the tall 38 year old good looking guy you're going to meet for a social turns out to be a 5ft 60 year old Indian man who thinks we're going to carry on the social "because we're here now". "
Oh no sorry you went through that  that's why I video call before setting any dates for a social or meet
Can't just trust a picture and those with sense will feel safe and comfortable to have one as I will be showing I match the pictures I am posting on my profile. |
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"A red flag for me would be if chatting to a person and no mention of a meet from them ..and you have mentioned interest in one already but nothing from them ..then it would scream Timewaster to me..and it has happened ..so l politely show myself to the door , block and start again ..l was chatting to a woman here who talked the talk but when push came to shove..she had no intention of ever meeting..just wanted her ego fed ..and who knows she could have been doing the same to loads of guys..but that type of behaviour is certainly a red flag to me."
Not many humble people around but a little chat shouldn't be seen as harm and damage done unless the chat is not saying where it will lead to then yes that is time wasting fully xx |
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"When someone is neber online during the evenings or weekends - screams attached/married to me"
Or maybe they're one of those people who work evenings/ weekends you know when you go do your shopping , restaurant,night out for drinks  |
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"When the tall 38 year old good looking guy you're going to meet for a social turns out to be a 5ft 60 year old Indian man who thinks we're going to carry on the social "because we're here now". "
We might as well, right ?
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"Also when you talk to someone but they dont want to show their face like they are a ghost or something. Total red flag
"I want to keep my anonymity due to my job, I hope you understand".
Or you have to ask 5 times in 5 messages and they ignore your request for a face pic so much it just gets awkward to ask further"
Yeap exactly that |
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"Also when you talk to someone but they dont want to show their face like they are a ghost or something. Total red flag
"I want to keep my anonymity due to my job, I hope you understand".
Or you have to ask 5 times in 5 messages and they ignore your request for a face pic so much it just gets awkward to ask further Yeap exactly that"
Add on. I asked to have a clean civil voice chat. Even over safe telgram.
From another site and off here they replied back.
We are not ready to talk yet!! They most or all disapear. |
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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
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"Also when you talk to someone but they dont want to show their face like they are a ghost or something. Total red flag
"I want to keep my anonymity due to my job, I hope you understand".
Or you have to ask 5 times in 5 messages and they ignore your request for a face pic so much it just gets awkward to ask further Yeap exactly that"
Just had to come back to report: I found another one!
Profile has no pics, the profile text is very short and has a line "I do not share pictures of here due to discretion! If you can’t understand that well then you probably shouldn’t message! Haha" in it but I am waiting an hour now for her to upload a pic "oh oops. takes longer than usual to upload hihi".
It's a simple request, nothing big, and yet I have to keep asking. Da hell |
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