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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’VE just found out my parents are swingers. I don’t understand how they can do something like this just for sexual kicks.
I’m a 17-year-old girl and I recently found out what they were up to via our computer. I found stuff on there I wish I hadn’t seen.
My parents are both 39. They have no idea I know, nor do I want to confront them about it.
To be honest I can barely look at them. I just can’t get my head round why they would want to risk a loving relationship for such (often dangerous) sexual kicks.
I’m really worried it could be damaging their emotional commitment to each other.
If they can sleep freely with other people, what would stop them going off and sleeping with someone else without permission?
My mum has always drummed into me about how serious sex is in a relationship.
She said my dad was the only person she’s been with and it made me respect her so much.
It made me feel guilty inside as I’ve already slept with three guys since I was 16.
Whenever we had a sex talk I felt dirty because of what my mum had said.
She thinks I’m still a virgin by the way. Yet they are obviously relaxed about sleeping with other people who may also have kids.
There is a small part of me that isn’t bothered because millions of couple do it - but I do feel like they’re hypocrites and I’m worried in case it all ends badly in divorce.
DEIDRE SAYS ::
No wonder you feel angry and deceived. Your parents have given you one set of rules but lived by quite another themselves.
I’m accepting that you mean what you say, that you don’t want to confront them – at least for now (though I suspect what you know will come bursting out during a row one day). So try to accept that they are fallible human beings who are not managing to live by the guidelines they believe are right.
But that doesn’t make the guidelines wrong. Think your standards through for yourself. You’re right that deception isn’t good, that once you push the boundaries of sexual fidelity it generally increases the pressures on a relationship. Live by your own standards.
But forgive yourself for having had sex with three guys since you turned 16. That’s one area where your mum clearly would have no right to make you feel guilty. But do still look at those experiences and think whether they were ones that made you happy, so you can make good decisions for yourself in future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does Dreary Diedrie have to be such a patronising old cow ?"
She actually has a profile on here, so she is also a two faced old cow too!!! (and a crap shag!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to like Deirdre but I read her 'advice' for swingers on the sun webpage, and i was livid lol, there was no way of telling her tho and I wanted to!! |
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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago
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"Why does Dreary Diedrie have to be such a patronising old cow ?
She actually has a profile on here, so she is also a two faced old cow too!!! (and a crap shag!)"
Well thats just your humble opinion Bigfella - i thought her uptightness and frigidness was rather endearing actually!!!
LOL x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've often wondered how all these Agony Aunts in newspapers manage to be such experts at all things if they are living perfect lives themselves.
I mean, how can you comment on something with expertise if you haven't experienced it, yet if you are an expert then you must have experienced it in which case you're a fucking asshole preaching to people when you did the same fucking thing yourself.
And if you're not an expert coz you haven't experienced it then shut the fuck up until you know what you're talking about.
See! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Completly agree my dear wishy!"
Did I tell you I am an expert in making women cum for hours n hours n hours until they feel like they're floating all fluffy like in the clouds and get a warm feeling all over them and end up purring like kittens?.. Did I tell you that? Huh? Huh? ... No?... Fuck!.....
Well, I am an expert in making.... hehehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why does Dreary Diedrie have to be such a patronising old cow ?
She actually has a profile on here, so she is also a two faced old cow too!!! (and a crap shag!)
Well thats just your humble opinion Bigfella - i thought her uptightness and frigidness was rather endearing actually!!!
LOL x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let's remember that the sun is written by a bunch of hypocrits anyway. When they called Jade Goodie a racist on the front page there was inside a picture of a chinese smoker player with the line, pot noodle. They also regularly run articles on people who have exploited children by using them in pornography, yet only a few years ago used naive 16yo girls as page 3 models. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In reality she's probably is a dirty old man with filthy clothes and jamjar glasses, secretly getting off on everyones pervy stories.
Dear Davy more like it lol |
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