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Looks are the a reflection of the person & personality
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
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People do assume that good looking people are shallow.
Attractive people are treated favourably too.
I know people say looks don't matter to them but they're the minority in my opinion. Most of us do judge a book by its cover until we know someone a bit better. It's vital that we do, it's what keeps us safe in some situations |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People do assume that good looking people are shallow.
Attractive people are treated favourably too.
I know people say looks don't matter to them but they're the minority in my opinion. Most of us do judge a book by its cover until we know someone a bit better. It's vital that we do, it's what keeps us safe in some situations "
Food for thought. Looks are very decieveing to say the least.
I dont even go by the words that are uttered. I look at the real actions overtime.
And mostly the actions fully tell on the very people over time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People do assume that good looking people are shallow.
Attractive people are treated favourably too.
I know people say looks don't matter to them but they're the minority in my opinion. Most of us do judge a book by its cover until we know someone a bit better. It's vital that we do, it's what keeps us safe in some situations "
I wonder how much of that is enabled by people who bend over backwards for more attractive people compared to others? The Halo Effect is very real so probably gives some attractive people a reason to act uppity and better because they're literally treated as if they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like hot guys
Fancy lowering those standards a little?"
Why so,get them higher and higher!
I say bring some value,and engage.
Rather than asking for a paycheck before the graft! |
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"People do assume that good looking people are shallow.
Attractive people are treated favourably too.
I know people say looks don't matter to them but they're the minority in my opinion. Most of us do judge a book by its cover until we know someone a bit better. It's vital that we do, it's what keeps us safe in some situations
Food for thought. Looks are very decieveing to say the least.
I dont even go by the words that are uttered. I look at the real actions overtime.
And mostly the actions fully tell on the very people over time.
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Yes I go by what people do not what comes out of their mouth. The two things are often at odds with each other.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Pretty privilege often means those people didn’t learn to overcome obstacles or develop interpersonal skills like others do. It’s not a sneer but if you ate always treated favourably you don’t get to practice them as much. There is a small scrap of truth in stereotypes.
People who are bitter and cynical do begin to look like old witches as they age too, the face can't hide the thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People do assume that good looking people are shallow.
Attractive people are treated favourably too.
I know people say looks don't matter to them but they're the minority in my opinion. Most of us do judge a book by its cover until we know someone a bit better. It's vital that we do, it's what keeps us safe in some situations
I wonder how much of that is enabled by people who bend over backwards for more attractive people compared to others? The Halo Effect is very real so probably gives some attractive people a reason to act uppity and better because they're literally treated as if they are."
Exactly my point,
The looks and body are a mere shell!
The heart and engine is the very mind and personality that drives it all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Pretty privilege often means those people didn’t learn to overcome obstacles or develop interpersonal skills like others do. It’s not a sneer but if you ate always treated favourably you don’t get to practice them as much. There is a small scrap of truth in stereotypes.
People who are bitter and cynical do begin to look like old witches as they age too, the face can't hide the thoughts "
110% cheers for shareing. |
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"People do assume that good looking people are shallow.
Attractive people are treated favourably too.
I know people say looks don't matter to them but they're the minority in my opinion. Most of us do judge a book by its cover until we know someone a bit better. It's vital that we do, it's what keeps us safe in some situations
I wonder how much of that is enabled by people who bend over backwards for more attractive people compared to others? The Halo Effect is very real so probably gives some attractive people a reason to act uppity and better because they're literally treated as if they are."
It's certainly true in my experience that attractive people are treated better. I can't say that it gives them a reason to act uppity and better but it does often give other people a reason to assume they will. I've experienced bad attitude from people of all levels of attractiveness, I know some beautiful people with cracking personality and vice versa.
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I don't think it's true.
I have the face of a an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with but on the inside I have the disposition of an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with .......
Oh wait....... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think it's true.
I have the face of a an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with but on the inside I have the disposition of an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with .......
Oh wait....... "
Your a deep rash where ever you go. Granny smith lol |
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"I don't think it's true.
I have the face of a an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with but on the inside I have the disposition of an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with .......
Oh wait.......
Your a deep rash where ever you go. Granny smith lol"
And there is the undisputable truth of your opening post....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think it's true.
I have the face of a an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with but on the inside I have the disposition of an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with .......
Oh wait.......
Your a deep rash where ever you go. Granny smith lol
And there is the undisputable truth of your opening post....
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Online is a wet dream. We take all info's into account in real time and from real reality exchange of meetings in person,as times gone by that was the trend and channels to follow.
This new wave of comms,if failing and is where we are because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have resting bitch face but I'm actually lovely "
i dont buy that sales pitch!
On the london tubes many resting Bitch faces all on my journey to work. As i shall embark on at 3pm today. I always pleasantly smile, and keep my gaze far away from the sour faced act's
" oh dont you knw ,who we are, hard en all " lol
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"I don't think it's true.
I have the face of a an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with but on the inside I have the disposition of an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with .......
Oh wait.......
Your a deep rash where ever you go. Granny smith lol
And there is the undisputable truth of your opening post....
Online is a wet dream. We take all info's into account in real time and from real reality exchange of meetings in person,as times gone by that was the trend and channels to follow.
This new wave of comms,if failing and is where we are because of it. "
I think that all the time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's true.
I have the face of a an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with but on the inside I have the disposition of an irritated bull frog with an itchy anus and nothing to scratch it with .......
Oh wait.......
Your a deep rash where ever you go. Granny smith lol
And there is the undisputable truth of your opening post....
Online is a wet dream. We take all info's into account in real time and from real reality exchange of meetings in person,as times gone by that was the trend and channels to follow.
This new wave of comms,if failing and is where we are because of it.
I think that all the time. "
We seem to have a very rare but seemleas understanding here. How long could that last online?? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many serial killers look innocent and friendly apparently so who knows...  
Tones
Ahhh shit, I look like that!
As if looks could kill?!
T"
Oh are you making a bold claim - "I have a killer body!"  |
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"Is this not just another way of saying some ugly people are nice and some attractive people are horrid?"
I think the truth of the matter is that some people are nice and some people are horrid and you can't tell the nice from the horrid just by looking at them.
When it comes right on down to it most people are nice with horrible bits thrown in. |
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Someone could be drop dead gorgeous but within 5 minutes with them I couldn't stand them cause they have a terrible accent or shit personality
Someone could be on the less physically attractive side of the scale but I'll be sucking their cock by the end of the night if their personality is great
So maybe initially looks are the attraction but that attraction can be quickly killed |
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"Someone could be drop dead gorgeous but within 5 minutes with them I couldn't stand them cause they have a terrible accent or shit personality
Someone could be on the less physically attractive side of the scale but I'll be sucking their cock by the end of the night if their personality is great
So maybe initially looks are the attraction but that attraction can be quickly killed"
Win/win is attractive physically and personality wise though. That's what I look for. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Someone could be drop dead gorgeous but within 5 minutes with them I couldn't stand them cause they have a terrible accent or shit personality
Someone could be on the less physically attractive side of the scale but I'll be sucking their cock by the end of the night if their personality is great
So maybe initially looks are the attraction but that attraction can be quickly killed
Win/win is attractive physically and personality wise though. That's what I look for. "
I sure do. A sound heart and mind will out last any looks. |
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"Someone could be drop dead gorgeous but within 5 minutes with them I couldn't stand them cause they have a terrible accent or shit personality
Someone could be on the less physically attractive side of the scale but I'll be sucking their cock by the end of the night if their personality is great
So maybe initially looks are the attraction but that attraction can be quickly killed
Win/win is attractive physically and personality wise though. That's what I look for.
I sure do. A sound heart and mind will out last any looks. "
That's assuming that people grow less attractive as they grow older. I understand prioritising personality especially in long term relationships but why can't we try to be our best in personality and appearance? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Someone could be drop dead gorgeous but within 5 minutes with them I couldn't stand them cause they have a terrible accent or shit personality
Someone could be on the less physically attractive side of the scale but I'll be sucking their cock by the end of the night if their personality is great
So maybe initially looks are the attraction but that attraction can be quickly killed
Win/win is attractive physically and personality wise though. That's what I look for.
I sure do. A sound heart and mind will out last any looks.
That's assuming that people grow less attractive as they grow older. I understand prioritising personality especially in long term relationships but why can't we try to be our best in personality and appearance?"
Sure we can, and it is,and does happen,but all the youth,glow,supplness ect does erode with time. But we become wiser,mature,experienced about life people,opinions,likes,tastes etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy."
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!! "
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc?? |
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??"
No, one or the other |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other "
Hot it is,then you make them laugh n giggle!
Winner combo there?? |
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other "
What if you are neither? #askingForAFriend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other "
Why? |
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?"
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy "
I've not been at work today.
And I want both. |
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy
I've not been at work today.
And I want both."
Have you found both yet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. There isn't some dichotomy.
No one is perfect (although my nan says I'm very close*).
It all come down to preconcieved judgements and those are warped by society.
*I don't have a nan. If I did she would definitely say that though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy
I've not been at work today.
And I want both.
Have you found both yet? "
Found. Lost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info? "
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? |
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy
I've not been at work today.
And I want both.
Have you found both yet?
Found. Lost. "
Actually sorry to hear that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy
I've not been at work today.
And I want both.
Have you found both yet?
Found. Lost.
Actually sorry to hear that "
The exposes your lies there. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy."
I'd get suspicious of any super attractive person checking me out
As long as they don't mind dad jokes, Warhammer and theological discussion over strong lager I'm good  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys?"
not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
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"I'd happily go for the less physically attractive guy that I can have great conversations with rather than a vacuous pretty boy.
I get your mindset. I have been down that path of Beuty etc. It comes at a cost.
Reliable,funny,head & heart in the right place,humour,beuty can be found anywhere if we look abit deeper!!
Can we not have hot and funny etc etc??
No, one or the other
Why?
Cuz I've been at work since 730, and not feeling generous....don't be greedy
I've not been at work today.
And I want both.
Have you found both yet?
Found. Lost.
Actually sorry to hear that
The exposes your lies there. "
To remove any confusion of sincerity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
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Can you give me some examples of what you mean? |
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
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How does anything we see, or hear be erased?.
We can develop new conditioning, but that orginial conditioning remains... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x"
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas? |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?"
Not the toffee penny? Ugh. |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh."
That's my favourite |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?"
Something like that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x"
Ive seen the devil in the prettiest of faces, and seen an Angel in some deemed not so good looking by many. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh.
That's my favourite "
Oh, no... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh.
That's my favourite "
nom nom nom! Nomnomnom!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh."
No one eats them at Christmas let alone 6 months after  |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh.
No one eats them at Christmas let alone 6 months after "
I do but.....I am a little weirdo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
How does anything we see, or hear be erased?.
We can develop new conditioning, but that orginial conditioning remains..."
It sure does. It goes to the Black boz part of the Brain.
Any truama we have been through, we have to go through therapy,and find closure in some way shape or form.
Then a flushing is done of the bad,and not so good stuff we most carry around,which stops us from going forwards in life,and adult life daily. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am drawn to faces and bodies online, true, but I look for goodness and kindness in reality.
The problem being, I don't think I am those things, although I try to be."
..we can what we wish and dream to be.
But change ,a
Mental shift has to happen before anything outside of you can actually start changeing. |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh.
No one eats them at Christmas let alone 6 months after
I do but.....I am a little weirdo "
That’s very weird |
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
How does anything we see, or hear be erased?.
We can develop new conditioning, but that orginial conditioning remains...
It sure does. It goes to the Black boz part of the Brain.
Any truama we have been through, we have to go through therapy,and find closure in some way shape or form.
Then a flushing is done of the bad,and not so good stuff we most carry around,which stops us from going forwards in life,and adult life daily. "
So, when you saying 'flushing' are you saying this trauma goes? Due to having thearpy. |
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Yes looks can be deceiving yet you can also often see the look in their eyes, read their face as they react to your words and actions. I've known many folk at all levels and learnt that attractive faces, their looks, count for nothing. Time is the only way to truly discover what is inside, sometimes it is beautiful and pure, sometimes horrible and twisted beyond our comprehension.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
Can you give me some examples of what you mean?"
All the info we recieve as a child from very close circles,ie parents ,gran- parents,siblings,school etc. All form us, like a CD, what program we put on it thats what it is. Same with humans.
But we humans and the brain is way far complex and deep. It stores all info's .consious,subconcious plus more.
Ive explained abit,about flushing on the other segment! |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x"
There are equally "ugly" people that do this though too.
I don't agree with the association.
I know loads of good looking people who are awesome.
No one is perfect though. *shrugs* |
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
Can you give me some examples of what you mean?
All the info we recieve as a child from very close circles,ie parents ,gran- parents,siblings,school etc. All form us, like a CD, what program we put on it thats what it is. Same with humans.
But we humans and the brain is way far complex and deep. It stores all info's .consious,subconcious plus more.
Ive explained abit,about flushing on the other segment! "
Please explain flushing, if you don't wanna hijack the thread dm me as I'm intrested in what this is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh.
No one eats them at Christmas let alone 6 months after "
Or if you have fillings. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
Can you give me some examples of what you mean?
All the info we recieve as a child from very close circles,ie parents ,gran- parents,siblings,school etc. All form us, like a CD, what program we put on it thats what it is. Same with humans.
But we humans and the brain is way far complex and deep. It stores all info's .consious,subconcious plus more.
Ive explained abit,about flushing on the other segment!
Please explain flushing, if you don't wanna hijack the thread dm me as I'm intrested in what this is "
there is alot to it really,yet simple.
I was on a life support machine at 14 nearly died,and could have been in a wheelchair and worse.
That trauma via coma and other pain changed me.,plus my best mate a Pro-boxer killed hìmself 4 yrs ago.
And my cousin got shot in the back of the head.
All this hampers us!!
Il pm you the info!! |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
Like a quality street chocolate that’s left over from last Christmas?
Not the toffee penny? Ugh.
No one eats them at Christmas let alone 6 months after
Or if you have fillings. "
Definitely not! |
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"We get mistaken for our looks,or assumed we are one way,until we speak,share,open up a little!
Many looks are percieved to be something,i think its a shell,and we take on this image we want to portray outwards.
Just thoughts,jump in with info?
Is this like assuming all big tattooed bearded bikers are bad guys? not at all.
But conditioning of info,streotyping,since childhood has a bareing upon your viewpoint, unless challenged and earased to see otherwise.
Can you give me some examples of what you mean?
All the info we recieve as a child from very close circles,ie parents ,gran- parents,siblings,school etc. All form us, like a CD, what program we put on it thats what it is. Same with humans.
But we humans and the brain is way far complex and deep. It stores all info's .consious,subconcious plus more.
Ive explained abit,about flushing on the other segment!
Please explain flushing, if you don't wanna hijack the thread dm me as I'm intrested in what this is there is alot to it really,yet simple.
I was on a life support machine at 14 nearly died,and could have been in a wheelchair and worse.
That trauma via coma and other pain changed me.,plus my best mate a Pro-boxer killed hìmself 4 yrs ago.
And my cousin got shot in the back of the head.
All this hampers us!!
Il pm you the info!! "
Dm me and explain this flushing process, that deals with trauma, memories and nutured conditioning |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes looks can be deceiving yet you can also often see the look in their eyes, read their face as they react to your words and actions. I've known many folk at all levels and learnt that attractive faces, their looks, count for nothing. Time is the only way to truly discover what is inside, sometimes it is beautiful and pure, sometimes horrible and twisted beyond our comprehension...."
Time and real actions always show the true colours of many.
If you want to know of people.
Sit and eat with them,then travel with them,then lend them money.
And you will see far more than any of it is worth. |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
There are equally "ugly" people that do this though too.
I don't agree with the association.
I know loads of good looking people who are awesome.
No one is perfect though. *shrugs*"
I agree 100% that "ugly" people do the same but people who are deemed "good looking" are thought of being good all round I.e like their personality must match their looks which in some cases is so far from the truth x |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
There are equally "ugly" people that do this though too.
I don't agree with the association.
I know loads of good looking people who are awesome.
No one is perfect though. *shrugs*
I agree 100% that "ugly" people do the same but people who are deemed "good looking" are thought of being good all round I.e like their personality must match their looks which in some cases is so far from the truth x"
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x"
This looks familiar |
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x"
On a site such as this it's unfortunate that many people are so dazzled by the wrapper that they choose to ignore the ugly contents.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have seen some "good looking" people but once they start to speak etc you can see the pure ugliness seeping from them. Just because the wrapper looks beautiful, doesn't mean the rest is x
There are equally "ugly" people that do this though too.
I don't agree with the association.
I know loads of good looking people who are awesome.
No one is perfect though. *shrugs*
I agree 100% that "ugly" people do the same but people who are deemed "good looking" are thought of being good all round I.e like their personality must match their looks which in some cases is so far from the truth x"
In what environment?
I say this thread earlier and didn't know how to answer without overcomplicating things.
Are they more accepted if they're terrible at everything? Probably.
Otherwise? Absolutely no. |
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Are people saying that we're more likely to assume good looking people have good personalities or that good looking people are bound to have poor personalities?
Do people assume less attractive (whatever that means) people automatically have good personalities?
Do we all in fact, judge based on looks? |
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"Are people saying that we're more likely to assume good looking people have good personalities or that good looking people are bound to have poor personalities?
Do people assume less attractive (whatever that means) people automatically have good personalities?
Do we all in fact, judge based on looks?"
In general I base my judgement on how people act rather than how they look.
On fab I do likewise but some people appear to be more forgiving of a lack of personality or a nasty one if that person has a "hot" profile. |
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"Are people saying that we're more likely to assume good looking people have good personalities or that good looking people are bound to have poor personalities?
Do people assume less attractive (whatever that means) people automatically have good personalities?
Do we all in fact, judge based on looks?
In general I base my judgement on how people act rather than how they look.
On fab I do likewise but some people appear to be more forgiving of a lack of personality or a nasty one if that person has a "hot" profile. "
You said it better than me. |
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