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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is sexual attraction important ???
i think so but just be told im been too picky !!!!"
For me to play one on one its the main thing... If its a group situation then no.. but everyone around me can tell the difference when I happen to have a guy in a group situation that I fancy..
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is sexual attraction important ???
i think so but just be told im been too picky !!!!"
Of cause its important just because we are swingers doesn't mean we can't have a choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm with Cali in this one, if I meet someone one to one I have to like them as a person and be attracted to then to play, if I'm in a open room at a club I don't even care what they are called lol I do have limits tho if they really really stand out as not my type I will say no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not as if you always have a paper bag handy, is it?
I want to be enjoying myself, and I would find that hard to do if I wasn't attracted to someone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fussy and I don't care what anyone says, just because we are on a swinging site, doesn't mean we have to lower our standards. If you were out in a pub/club would you take someone home just because they asked, regardless of whether you found them attractive or not? damn sure I wouldn't, and to be fair, being fussy has meant the meets I've had have been great.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just been called picky cus i wont accomm ...my reasons are a single mum of young children and to get told my 2 yr old who still in my room wont understand whats happening ....to me thats not the point....and again cus someone just wants to meet for sex and its just sex so there doesnt need to be an attraction !!! |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Is sexual attraction important ???
i think so but just be told im been too picky !!!!
For me to play one on one its the main thing... If its a group situation then no.. but everyone around me can tell the difference when I happen to have a guy in a group situation that I fancy..
Cali"
I don't understand this Cali. Why is it different to you between one on one and group?
I have seen this said before and I struggle to grasp it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just been called picky cus i wont accomm ...my reasons are a single mum of young children and to get told my 2 yr old who still in my room wont understand whats happening ....to me thats not the point....and again cus someone just wants to meet for sex and its just sex so there doesnt need to be an attraction !!!"
Would you really want to meet a person with that attitude anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sexual attraction definitely important, especially in a 1-1, and so tbh is a bit of social rapport - you probably wouldn't want to bed someone you thought was a total git no matter how good looking. well, maybe not.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very important, if theres no sexual attraction or chemistry, then there's no play. And if it's a social meet first and there's no connection or a huge difference with regards to way of thinking, outlook etc, then I'll politely decline.
*wonders why he can't get a meet of late* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is sexual attraction important ???
i think so but just be told im been too picky !!!!"
Some people have a mindset people should fuck a personality but lets face it for may of us this doesn't work. You have to be attracted to get stimulated, well I do so if you are in the same club keep being fussy and don't drop your standards after all each person has a right to choose who they will and won't have sex with. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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have stood behind the bar in a swingers club where couples have said 'are you attracted to that couple across the bar' or singles speaking amongst themselves... and the answer at the beginning of the night has been NO, not for me
hours & a few wines later, they are hugging and thanking each other for a great shag and uttering the words '' thanks, that was great, we liked you guys when you came in'.....
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For me of cause there has to be a sexual attraction, that can be through looks or personality but im certainly not going to shag someone im not attracted to, thats not being picky its being normal surely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes for me it is ....... and i will not close my eyes think of England just to have some fun ... why should I its a turn off . I know we could put a blindfold on a think all sorts. But i would think its some creep and turn me off thinking all sorts even if he was nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is sexual attraction important ???
i think so but just be told im been too picky !!!!"
Really?
Of course it's important for me. If I'm not sexually attracted to someone then I'm not going to have sex with them. It's not being picky... |
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"Is sexual attraction important ???
i think so but just be told im been too picky !!!!
For me to play one on one its the main thing... If its a group situation then no.. but everyone around me can tell the difference when I happen to have a guy in a group situation that I fancy..
Cali
I don't understand this Cali. Why is it different to you between one on one and group?
I have seen this said before and I struggle to grasp it"
Don't understand it either, but I don't meet in groups, clubs and the thought of having sex with someone whose name I don't know makes me shudder.
In fairness op, you only have to read some of the threads where people give oral and fuck smelly muffs to get an inkling into the mindset of some on here.
Any man that wants to push to visit you at home with a todler BLOCK! Don't justify your choices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not realy attracted to that many men,
i am more interested in how clean and how nice they are, most of the time."
i feel like that at times, the type of guy i really go for are very few and far between on this site, theres a difference between men i find attractive and men that id class as my type
So i tend to just go for guys that are clean, polite and dont heave teeth growing out their ears |
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