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Life is full of ups and downs!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had an 'interesting' day yesterday!
Following a meeting with the boss found that restructuring is imminent and that our team (currently 6) will be dropping to 4 soon - impending redundancies, albeit not on a grand scale! There's no option of natural attrition or anyone jumping for early retirement due to the ages involved. As a result we're all up against each other regardless of which part of the country we currently work in - and the changes will result in larger areas to cover and increased workload for those remaining - for no extra dosh!
I then got home to be informed by my housemate who's dad owns the property (and lives abroad) that due to the shit state of finances in Europe he's decided to sell the house to release much needed cash - handing his daughter a deposit to buy a flat so she can continue to run his restaurant over here! And he already has an interested buyer lined up! Great for her - not so good for me!
So I went to the pub last night and contemplated life over a few jars and decided that although not an ideal situation to be in - there's still ups as well as downs!
I'm pretty sure (according to my boss anyway!) that I'm potentially the least likely to get the shove at work! Definite Up. But nothing's certain! Definite down!
If I keep my job my territory will increase, meaning ill be doing more travel which in turn opens up the possibilities to meet new folk on Fab from different locations. Definite Up! However, I'll be spending less time near some regular friends. Definite down!
If I move out of my house I could potentially look at going solo and being able to accommodate! Serious Up! My bills and expenses would more than double as I'm paying sod all right now. Serious down!
If I move - I could change location. See previous up/down argument re work location.
So after contemplating these and other up/down arguments - I decided not to worry or stress - at least for now as nothing is cast in stone yet - and have a couple more jars (and some jaegerbombs).
And after waking up this morning with a sore head shouting 'fuck' in a Hugh Grant manner a la the 'oversleeping moment' in Four Weddings - I've come to this conclusion!
What will be will be! I'm healthy (wouldn't say fit exactly!!), have my friends and family, am having a whale of a time as always on Fab - and let's face it - there are many people worse off than me.
So when something in life seems like a definite 'down' - look closer and there may just be a great big 'up' just around the corner!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Obi, I've got 15 years on you and arrived at your current state of near-Nirvana many years ago. At the end of the day, we don't really have that much influence on things that affect the direction of our daily lives. What happens, happens. Although we have all been indoctrinated in the last few decades to be as 'thrusting and dynamic' as we can, the reality is actually that that is just a way of diverting our attention from the things which are really shaping our lives.
As you say, life is just one merry-go-round of ups and downs... savour the 'ups', and ride-out the 'downs'... and at the end of it all just hope and pray your health and well-being are as intact as possible. No point in fighting it and stressing out about it. You're a long time dead.....
And that is the end of Philosophy Hour for today, children....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's so refreshing to see what could be a "woe is me" situation being handled in such a philisophical manner. Yes life has it's ups and downs and it's so easy to get swallowed up by negativity sometimes, but as you say life is short and each sticky situation will be resolved when they happen in one way or another.
I hope all works out well for you without too much stress, but in the meantime keep on having fun and looking on the bright side x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all!
Given up with 'stress' - there's rarely any point if things are beyond your control - as is generally the case with its things these days!!
Worse case scenario ill have way more free time on my hands but no car or money to fuel it to fill those hours!!
Still - there's always Jeremy Kyle to watch!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all!
Given up with 'stress' - there's rarely any point if things are beyond your control - as is generally the case with its things these days!!
Worse case scenario ill have way more free time on my hands but no car or money to fuel it to fill those hours!!
Still - there's always Jeremy Kyle to watch!! "
Or appear on if it really all goes tits up !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an 'interesting' day yesterday!
Following a meeting with the boss found that restructuring is imminent and that our team (currently 6) will be dropping to 4 soon - impending redundancies, albeit not on a grand scale! There's no option of natural attrition or anyone jumping for early retirement due to the ages involved. As a result we're all up against each other regardless of which part of the country we currently work in - and the changes will result in larger areas to cover and increased workload for those remaining - for no extra dosh!
I then got home to be informed by my housemate who's dad owns the property (and lives abroad) that due to the shit state of finances in Europe he's decided to sell the house to release much needed cash - handing his daughter a deposit to buy a flat so she can continue to run his restaurant over here! And he already has an interested buyer lined up! Great for her - not so good for me!
So I went to the pub last night and contemplated life over a few jars and decided that although not an ideal situation to be in - there's still ups as well as downs!
I'm pretty sure (according to my boss anyway!) that I'm potentially the least likely to get the shove at work! Definite Up. But nothing's certain! Definite down!
If I keep my job my territory will increase, meaning ill be doing more travel which in turn opens up the possibilities to meet new folk on Fab from different locations. Definite Up! However, I'll be spending less time near some regular friends. Definite down!
If I move out of my house I could potentially look at going solo and being able to accommodate! Serious Up! My bills and expenses would more than double as I'm paying sod all right now. Serious down!
If I move - I could change location. See previous up/down argument re work location.
So after contemplating these and other up/down arguments - I decided not to worry or stress - at least for now as nothing is cast in stone yet - and have a couple more jars (and some jaegerbombs).
And after waking up this morning with a sore head shouting 'fuck' in a Hugh Grant manner a la the 'oversleeping moment' in Four Weddings - I've come to this conclusion!
What will be will be! I'm healthy (wouldn't say fit exactly!!), have my friends and family, am having a whale of a time as always on Fab - and let's face it - there are many people worse off than me.
So when something in life seems like a definite 'down' - look closer and there may just be a great big 'up' just around the corner!! "
Whinging fucker! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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hope it works out 
fight hard but fair for your role, it is better to look for any future new role whilst in a job.
focus really hard on your results over the decision making time, they may be the final decision maker.
all the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all!
Given up with 'stress' - there's rarely any point if things are beyond your control - as is generally the case with its things these days!!
Worse case scenario ill have way more free time on my hands but no car or money to fuel it to fill those hours!!
Still - there's always Jeremy Kyle to watch!! "
I haven't done stress for years now. I refuse to shake hands with it, it isn't allowed to come out on the piss with me, and I've kicked it firmly in the nuts with a 'fook off ya cunt' statement ringing loudly in it's ears.
There is a slight, eenie-weeny downside to being stress-free though. You have to become a little selfish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had an 'interesting' day yesterday!
Following a meeting with the boss found that restructuring is imminent and that our team (currently 6) will be dropping to 4 soon - impending redundancies, albeit not on a grand scale! There's no option of natural attrition or anyone jumping for early retirement due to the ages involved. As a result we're all up against each other regardless of which part of the country we currently work in - and the changes will result in larger areas to cover and increased workload for those remaining - for no extra dosh!
I then got home to be informed by my housemate who's dad owns the property (and lives abroad) that due to the shit state of finances in Europe he's decided to sell the house to release much needed cash - handing his daughter a deposit to buy a flat so she can continue to run his restaurant over here! And he already has an interested buyer lined up! Great for her - not so good for me!
So I went to the pub last night and contemplated life over a few jars and decided that although not an ideal situation to be in - there's still ups as well as downs!
I'm pretty sure (according to my boss anyway!) that I'm potentially the least likely to get the shove at work! Definite Up. But nothing's certain! Definite down!
If I keep my job my territory will increase, meaning ill be doing more travel which in turn opens up the possibilities to meet new folk on Fab from different locations. Definite Up! However, I'll be spending less time near some regular friends. Definite down!
If I move out of my house I could potentially look at going solo and being able to accommodate! Serious Up! My bills and expenses would more than double as I'm paying sod all right now. Serious down!
If I move - I could change location. See previous up/down argument re work location.
So after contemplating these and other up/down arguments - I decided not to worry or stress - at least for now as nothing is cast in stone yet - and have a couple more jars (and some jaegerbombs).
And after waking up this morning with a sore head shouting 'fuck' in a Hugh Grant manner a la the 'oversleeping moment' in Four Weddings - I've come to this conclusion!
What will be will be! I'm healthy (wouldn't say fit exactly!!), have my friends and family, am having a whale of a time as always on Fab - and let's face it - there are many people worse off than me.
So when something in life seems like a definite 'down' - look closer and there may just be a great big 'up' just around the corner!! "
Well said and good luck. xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks all!
Given up with 'stress' - there's rarely any point if things are beyond your control - as is generally the case with its things these days!!
Worse case scenario ill have way more free time on my hands but no car or money to fuel it to fill those hours!!
Still - there's always Jeremy Kyle to watch!!
I haven't done stress for years now. I refuse to shake hands with it, it isn't allowed to come out on the piss with me, and I've kicked it firmly in the nuts with a 'fook off ya cunt' statement ringing loudly in it's ears.
There is a slight, eenie-weeny downside to being stress-free though. You have to become a little selfish."
Good shout!!
And hey - aren't we all at least a little selfish? Guess its easier for us singles!! |
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I hope it all goes 'ups' for you Obi.
I sometimes use the SWOT test to get a clearer _iew of things. You divide a page into 4 boxes and list the Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats of a situation and see how it balances out.
Can be useful.
All the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My hours were cut drastically this autumn but have gradually crept back up. They are less than they were and I have learned to live with less and won't be taking up any additional hours now.
So more time for me. Result. Some of it will be spent in the garden growing stuff and some of it with family. Cant be bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had so much happen last year I was so glad to see it go and welcome in 2013. And even though I am now living with my Daughter and Grandkids I'm Still smiling
Good Luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life this time last year was a lot different from what it is now, we were living somewhere where we wanted to live, both had great jobs that we enjoyed, friends that we could socialise with and family around us.... Then a phone call at the end of march changed all that, a very ill relative! So we upped and moved down south, somewhere where I in particular don't like, life seemed doomed, we had no jobs to start with so very little money... Now we both have good jobs, Luke likes his, Say no more about mine! And I am learning to tolerate the area!
What ever happens obi, life is what you make you it!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Obi, you are one of the most chilled, laid back person I have ever had the honor of meeting. I wish you the very best of luck re job and house. Having said all that I will never take a jelly from you again my friend, much love jules xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"PMA - that's what you've got Andy, and that will take you far.
Good luck with whatever happens, but remember you pma "
Pre Menstrual......or have I got that wrong??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"PMA - that's what you've got Andy, and that will take you far.
Good luck with whatever happens, but remember you pma
Pre Menstrual......or have I got that wrong?? "
Yes as you well know  |
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Well, Obi, if you get a job as a lift operator, then your life really would be full of ups and downs.
It's just change, so try not to overthink any situation, go with the flow but plan ahead if you can.
It all sounds all very exciting to me! |
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"You know where I am if you need a roof over your head... that is what friends are for xx
I thought your shed had blown away.........?  "
Noooo hahahaa going to do big girls thing on Friday and find out if I can get a mortgage.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You know where I am if you need a roof over your head... that is what friends are for xx
I thought your shed had blown away.........?
Noooo hahahaa going to do big girls thing on Friday and find out if I can get a mortgage.... "
Ooooh good luck with that, hope it all goes in your favour. xx |
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"You know where I am if you need a roof over your head... that is what friends are for xx
I thought your shed had blown away.........?
Noooo hahahaa going to do big girls thing on Friday and find out if I can get a mortgage....
Ooooh good luck with that, hope it all goes in your favour. xx "
I hope so too... He made out that its not just based on credit scoring... etc and that its about affordabilty x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt! |
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"I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt!"
Ohhhhh I want to move to Manchester can I move in haha x |
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"I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt!
Ohhhhh I want to move to Manchester can I move in haha x"
If you want to move in J yes, I'm looking for a lodger!! I thought my offer to Obi was such a nice one |
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"I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt!"
Oooohhh is that the going rate???????? I still have that spare room  |
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Its good you are able to step back and look at ththings objectively. Just half of that would have some reaching for the self destruct button.
I'm sure things will work out for you, can you forward some of your pma to me as I told my company I wanted to take redundancy today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obi, I've got 15 years on you and arrived at your current state of near-Nirvana many years ago. At the end of the day, we don't really have that much influence on things that affect the direction of our daily lives. What happens, happens. Although we have all been indoctrinated in the last few decades to be as 'thrusting and dynamic' as we can, the reality is actually that that is just a way of diverting our attention from the things which are really shaping our lives.
As you say, life is just one merry-go-round of ups and downs... savour the 'ups', and ride-out the 'downs'... and at the end of it all just hope and pray your health and well-being are as intact as possible. No point in fighting it and stressing out about it. You're a long time dead.....
And that is the end of Philosophy Hour for today, children.... "
thanks Dad |
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"I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt!
Ohhhhh I want to move to Manchester can I move in haha x
If you want to move in J yes, I'm looking for a lodger!! I thought my offer to Obi was such a nice one"
I like the offer hahaha x |
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"I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt!
Ohhhhh I want to move to Manchester can I move in haha x
If you want to move in J yes, I'm looking for a lodger!! I thought my offer to Obi was such a nice one
I like the offer hahaha x"
So do I - but apparently it would stop him being able to work! Haha |
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There is a slight, eenie-weeny downside to being stress-free though. You have to become a little selfish."
It is only when you look after number one can yoh be ready to look after all of the others... |
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"I thought my offer of a room in Manchester for a nominal rent of Obi style wake ups and being allowed occasional access to your cock was a very generous one! Some people! Pffftt!
Ohhhhh I want to move to Manchester can I move in haha x
If you want to move in J yes, I'm looking for a lodger!! I thought my offer to Obi was such a nice one
I like the offer hahaha x
So do I - but apparently it would stop him being able to work! Haha "
Problem solved with the job issue then as well ....... or have I got something wrong here lol  |
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