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By *ack688 OP Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
..does someone need to be to you before you would consider getting physical in some way with them? So if we use a 1-10 scale, would you only see people you consider a 9 or 10? Or a 6? Or 4? What’s your cut off? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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They have to be at least a nine in my eyes for me to want to have sex with them. It's not just about physicality when I'm thinking about attractiveness but yes. I want full lust, to want to kiss every part of them and enjoy whatever unfolds.
It's all really rather arbitrary giving a person a number like that. Basically, I have to be in to them to want them in me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters. "
 They have to be attractive to *me*.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters.
They have to be attractive to *me*. "
Not like Holly Willoughby |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They have to be at least a 7 through my eyes. I don’t care what anyone else of them or rates them. It’s about my own attraction to them that matters.
They have to be attractive to *me*.
Not like Holly Willoughby"
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...I just don't have the brain for a 1-10 scale, just the concept makes my brain itch.
Just make it a 1-2 scale, anything more is just... like, imagine finding out you slept with someone that viewed you as as 6, just in the pass mark but they could have done better, you'd be doing a two-bag shop in the Londis within the hour  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"The only scale for attractiveness I need is this.
Yes or no, to the question of whether I find them attractive or not. It's usually black and white.
A"
That's the ticket.
Rating people is absolutely awful in my view. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
sexual attraction has to be a 10 out of 10 for me im just not interested otherwise ... i / we swing for pleasure with others whom we think are hot we dont swing to feel like im we are just a hole for others ....10 out of 10 everytime  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only scale for attractiveness I need is this.
Yes or no, to the question of whether I find them attractive or not. It's usually black and white.
A
That's the ticket.
Rating people is absolutely awful in my view."
My feelings on this OP. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
What is attractive, though?
For example, the ideal of male beauty is generally men looking like Jason Momoa or Chris Hemworth- broad, muscular, beards. Tattoos, probably? I can appreciate the beauty but I am not attracted at that kind of looks *at all*.
For me, tall, even a bit lanky, why not, clean-shaven, geeky/nerdy kind of men make my heart beat faster. So for a guy to get my attention they’d have to have this physical appearance. Anyone else would have to be REALLY witty and make great convo/opening message for me to reply to their message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The power of attractiveness for me is not the lusting over a body, we have bodies, we have body parts, attractiveness for me lies in his eyes and his mind and his ears.
Whether or not his eyes tell me to seduce him his mind because I am interested in knowing him not just his body and lastly his ears to know that we are on the same level of understanding and listening. To me thats the power and art and law of attraction.
For me there needs to be a true connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.
0% 100%
50%
Rating 0, 5, 10......"
You don’t know me! You don’t know my thoughts!! |
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"Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.
0% 100%
50%
Rating 0, 5, 10......"
Yeah, there’s always the 3,4,5,6 pint scale some guys use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's not how attractive the person is, as attractions is subjective, it's how attractive I personally find the person
Would say about 7 upwards
But that being said a 7 to me may be a 1 to someone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me it's not how attractive the person is, as attractions is subjective, it's how attractive I personally find the person
Would say about 7 upwards
But that being said a 7 to me may be a 1 to someone else "
Personality also plays a big part in it |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"What is attractive, though?
For example, the ideal of male beauty is generally men looking like Jason Momoa or Chris Hemworth- broad, muscular, beards. Tattoos, probably? I can appreciate the beauty but I am not attracted at that kind of looks *at all*.
For me, tall, even a bit lanky, why not, clean-shaven, geeky/nerdy kind of men make my heart beat faster. So for a guy to get my attention they’d have to have this physical appearance. Anyone else would have to be REALLY witty and make great convo/opening message for me to reply to their message. "
attraction is down to each individual its human nature that the eyes attract first then everything else follows so you may say i dont look for visual attraction but we all do its how our brain processes stuff eyesight is away first then sounds smells ie how they put themselves across |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me it's not how attractive the person is, as attractions is subjective, it's how attractive I personally find the person
Would say about 7 upwards
But that being said a 7 to me may be a 1 to someone else "
So I’m definitely a 10 for at least a few supermodels out there  |
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By *ack688 OP Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
The idea of a number scale wasn’t to imagine that your perception of someone’s attractiveness level is ever going to be the same as anyone else’s, so your definition of 7 for example isn’t going to necessarily coincide with other peoples. It was more of an idea of just how attractive you feel you need to find someone, and I hear that a lot of people say that either they find someone attractive or they don’t, but there will always be people you find more attractive than others, so I guess the question was more one of, will you only go for utterly gorgeous (whether that be in a physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual way), or is ‘hmm good enough’ good enough? Or some point between the two |
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By *oo..Woman
over a year ago
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No such thing as an attractive scale for a person.
You either do or you don't.
The ones you see that rate themselves on here in bio as 10 and 10 plus and absolutely perfect are usually the ones with piss poor attitudes on the negative scales so you'd avoid them anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The idea of a number scale wasn’t to imagine that your perception of someone’s attractiveness level is ever going to be the same as anyone else’s, so your definition of 7 for example isn’t going to necessarily coincide with other peoples. It was more of an idea of just how attractive you feel you need to find someone, and I hear that a lot of people say that either they find someone attractive or they don’t, but there will always be people you find more attractive than others, so I guess the question was more one of, will you only go for utterly gorgeous (whether that be in a physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual way), or is ‘hmm good enough’ good enough? Or some point between the two"
I understood your op And I go for utterly gorgeous (to me!) utterly gorgeous spiritually/physically  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"The idea of a number scale wasn’t to imagine that your perception of someone’s attractiveness level is ever going to be the same as anyone else’s, so your definition of 7 for example isn’t going to necessarily coincide with other peoples. It was more of an idea of just how attractive you feel you need to find someone, and I hear that a lot of people say that either they find someone attractive or they don’t, but there will always be people you find more attractive than others, so I guess the question was more one of, will you only go for utterly gorgeous (whether that be in a physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual way), or is ‘hmm good enough’ good enough? Or some point between the two"
It made perfect sense to me OP. I've heard tales from friends of not particularly lusting after a person but having sex with them anyway because it's fun and they're good enough.
I couldn't do that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Even if people don't literally use a number scale they still have a scale of who they would and wouldn't fuck.
0% 100%
50%
Rating 0, 5, 10......
Yeah, there’s always the 3,4,5,6 pint scale some guys use."
I'm a 10  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got no issue with a scale. One persons 1/10 is another's 10/10. It's all down to the individual. We all have different tastes.
There's lots of other factors that alter someone's attractiveness such as humour, personality, intelligence and even the way someome moves.
We do find that most single guys that message us on Fab are very low on our personal scale of physical attractiveness. We use traditional dating sites to find single guys and on these we find that there are many more that are for us. We also find on Fab that when we chat to couples that often we find the woman attractive but the guy isn't, which can be frustrating. We've found clubs to be exactly the same, so have given up with these.
We go to smaller private parties and these tend to have more people we are attracted to both male and female and play with people at nearly every event. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The power of attractiveness for me is not the lusting over a body, we have bodies, we have body parts, attractiveness for me lies in his eyes and his mind and his ears.
Whether or not his eyes tell me to seduce him his mind because I am interested in knowing him not just his body and lastly his ears to know that we are on the same level of understanding and listening. To me thats the power and art and law of attraction.
For me there needs to be a true connection "
^^^^^this for me ^^^^
Also make me laugh |
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What I think is a 10 someone else will think is a 1.
But I need to be attracted to a face to kiss it and need some attraction to a body to want to touch that, but the thing that impacts it the most is their personality, I could see a photo and think nope but chat to them and think there amazing and become instantly more attractive.
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"They have to be at least a nine in my eyes for me to want to have sex with them. It's not just about physicality when I'm thinking about attractiveness but yes. I want full lust, to want to kiss every part of them and enjoy whatever unfolds.
It's all really rather arbitrary giving a person a number like that. Basically, I have to be in to them to want them in me."
Said it better than I could. And I think rating people’s appearance on that scale is extremely reductive at best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They have to get to 10 on my sex-o-meter before I will open my legs.
My sex-o-meter can take months to get to 10, even years! Or it can boing from 0-10 in mere minutes. Quite disconcerting when that happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?
Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2? ….. "
Attractive to me is the whole package
10 face/body/personality.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?
Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2? …..
Attractive to me is the whole package
10 face/body/personality.
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There you are. ^ she knows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is serious to seriously funny or dead pan oops bed pan not funny. I call that wavelength. Others call it hiting your humoursese bone. Laughter is the feed that lightens our brain. Life is fun,ideally. Life with a fab should be dib dab absolutely fab in the comedy skills. He needs to make me feel safe in his arms of silliness, giggles and make me wet with tears.. Of course 
Law of attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?
Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2? ….. "
Don't care. This is fab for me not dating world. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?
Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2? …..
Don't care. This is fab for me not dating world."
Oh they have to be 100 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?
Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2? ….. "
If they have zero personality they're not an 8.
If I know that a 10 fucked a 2 I won't go near the 10. |
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"But what if an 8 also has zero personality… what are they now?
Also, what if a 10 has fucked someone you think is a 2? ….. "
Why would anyone care about the attractiveness of their past lovers? What an odd concept. They found them attractive. |
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