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As in emotional strength? Just been listening to a podcast and it was talking about this term. And it's not one I'm overly familiar with. What do you perceive as emotional strength and do you possess it? Do you see it others? How do you train to become more emotional strong?
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"As in emotional strength? Just been listening to a podcast and it was talking about this term. And it's not one I'm overly familiar with. What do you perceive as emotional strength and do you possess it? Do you see it others? How do you train to become more emotional strong?
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I think for me emotional strength is being able to remain positive no matter what life throws at you. No matter what situation I am in and no matter how difficult I find things I gain strength from somewhere deep inside to pick myself up and keep going.I am not saying I find it easy but my way of thinking is more of a coping mechanism. |
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"As in emotional strength? Just been listening to a podcast and it was talking about this term. And it's not one I'm overly familiar with. What do you perceive as emotional strength and do you possess it? Do you see it others? How do you train to become more emotional strong?
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I perceive emotional strength as being able to deal with good and bad things in spite of circumstances. That might mean knowing when to ask for help or knowing when to say you can't cope with it. I'd say both of us have it to an extent. I see it in others but I don't think you can train for it as such. I do think you can build it by trying to increase resilience, understanding that feeling bad is inevitable at some point in life and by looking at the bigger picture.
That said everyone needs support sometimes and there are occasions when not being emotionally strong is the only way to be. |
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I am an inspirational speaker as a double transplant recipient. I've also lost a brother when he was 21 and have other health issues. Even now I'm in a cast with a broken leg. I broke my foot a few years back walking and didn't know. I was told only ever to wall 5 miles on a flat surface. Two years after I did 17 miles and 4 mountains in one day in the brecon beacons. For me I would consider mental strength to be no matter all this I have been through I still gey up, raise thousands for charity through distance walks and use my life experience to provide support and am involved in many projects to help thousands of patients. It's having the belief that no matter what is thrown at you in life you can roll with it, accept the bad days as normal and rejoice in the good ones too. |
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I'm a catastrophiser, we train for scenarios whilst imagining, role-playing the worst, so when the scenario occurs, we are hardened to it and can process the scene properly
Lambing and a uterus prolapse for instance, I need to be cool, calm, collected and efficient immediately or she dies
I also think my emotional strength and emotional intelligence, compliment each other and result in making each other stronger |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"As in emotional strength? Just been listening to a podcast and it was talking about this term. And it's not one I'm overly familiar with. What do you perceive as emotional strength and do you possess it? Do you see it others? How do you train to become more emotional strong?
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I have something in my make up that doesn't allow the negative things in life to get me down, so yes i am emotionally strong  |
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I'm a "just have to get on with it" type because falling apart has never been an option for me. I don't mean that it's an option for others or that they choose to. I know that's not the case.
My reality is that I've had to cope, it's always just been me when it comes to my sons. So I've had to be strong.
I don't mind admitting it's exhausting though.
So I guess that makes me emotionally strong and resilient.
However there's times I'm not emotionally strong and wish I was when I'm ruled by my heart and make decisions I know I shouldn't but I'm too weak.
So maybe I'm not as strong as I think x
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I actually had to go look up my own OP, because I didn't know the difference between emotional strength and resilience. So here's a definition I found.
Emotional strength is defined as ‘the ability to respond in an open and vulnerable way in the face of intense emotional experience, feeling one's way deeper into the emotion which allows access to implicit functional processes driving action’. We present four hallmarks of emotional strength:
(i) openness and vulnerability
(ii) emotional responsiveness (iii) self-description using vulnerability-related words (iv) continuing engagement in action.
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"As in emotional strength? Just been listening to a podcast and it was talking about this term. And it's not one I'm overly familiar with. What do you perceive as emotional strength and do you possess it? Do you see it others? How do you train to become more emotional strong?
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I had brain cancer as a kid, I lost most of my friends, I am basically invisible in public, I’ve survived pandemics, I struggle to find work, I still wake up every day work out go for walk and pull a smile.  |
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"I actually had to go look up my own OP, because I didn't know the difference between emotional strength and resilience. So here's a definition I found.
Emotional strength is defined as ‘the ability to respond in an open and vulnerable way in the face of intense emotional experience, feeling one's way deeper into the emotion which allows access to implicit functional processes driving action’. We present four hallmarks of emotional strength:
(i) openness and vulnerability
(ii) emotional responsiveness (iii) self-description using vulnerability-related words (iv) continuing engagement in action.
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I really don't know, I know I'm very resilient and I know I'm very good at supporting others emotionally. I'm less good at putting my need front and centre but I think that's ingrained behaviour from childhood, where my needs were often not the priority for my mother. |
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"I actually had to go look up my own OP, because I didn't know the difference between emotional strength and resilience. So here's a definition I found.
Emotional strength is defined as ‘the ability to respond in an open and vulnerable way in the face of intense emotional experience, feeling one's way deeper into the emotion which allows access to implicit functional processes driving action’. We present four hallmarks of emotional strength:
(i) openness and vulnerability
(ii) emotional responsiveness (iii) self-description using vulnerability-related words (iv) continuing engagement in action.
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This is really interesting, but I equated emotional strength with resilience too, but that's not quite it according to the definition. More not running or hiding from your emotions. In which case, it's something I've got better at over time
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"I actually had to go look up my own OP, because I didn't know the difference between emotional strength and resilience. So here's a definition I found.
Emotional strength is defined as ‘the ability to respond in an open and vulnerable way in the face of intense emotional experience, feeling one's way deeper into the emotion which allows access to implicit functional processes driving action’. We present four hallmarks of emotional strength:
(i) openness and vulnerability
(ii) emotional responsiveness (iii) self-description using vulnerability-related words (iv) continuing engagement in action.
This is really interesting, but I equated emotional strength with resilience too, but that's not quite it according to the definition. More not running or hiding from your emotions. In which case, it's something I've got better at over time
Mrs TMN x"
Same Mrs TMN resilience I had nailed since forever. Strength I'm slowly learning to be better at |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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This is a difficult one. I do feel I have emotional strength in a lot of ways. I allow myself to be vulnerable and experience the emotions when is safe to do so, i.e when I have dealt with the situation at hand. Being vulnerable infront of others is a different story. I am able to talk openly about experiences that have happened in the past but only when I have had time to process things myself. When I am 'in the vulnerable place' I share with no one. No one has ever seen that side to me  |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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I would do emotion again but iv come to realise it tastes of ashes now so iv chosen to wall off emotions of any kind as best i can its much safer that way no more love no more passion excitement no more dispair no more happiness i refuse it all it has no place within me its a dull life but its a stable much calmer healthier one and better for me and those who choose to know me if you cant replicate the past in a new life theres no sense in trying |
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I think it's acknowledging and being self aware of all of your emotions whether they are good or not and realising the impact it has on your life and on others. It takes a lot of self reflection and learning about yourself and what triggers certain emotions but once you have it fine tuned, that's a measure of emotional strength in my opinion  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Knowing emotions are usually temporary and exaggerated responses is a useful tool. Being able to deal positively with tough challenges, failure or disappointment is essential to mental well-being. Sometimes I’ll say quietly to myself ‘Just get on with it’ |
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I am yes! I have been through some awful stuff but we all have our stuff and own story. Everything you go through makes you stronger, But it's also being aware that you can be vulnerable and not always emotionally strong too as we are human not robots. |
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"I'd be interested to know what podcast you were listening to 
It was diary of a ceo, been listening to a few this week. But can't remember which one it was sorry "
He is brilliant! |
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"Thank you all for your input, definitely something I need to work on rather than rely on resilience "
Why do you need to work on it? (I read the description you posted.) It sounds shit to me. We don't have to be vulnerable.
(I mean the description sounds shit, not that you are asking. It's an interesting thread. ) |
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"I'd be interested to know what podcast you were listening to
It was diary of a ceo, been listening to a few this week. But can't remember which one it was sorry
He is brilliant!"
He is literally just submitted an application for a new job less than 5 min ago. Because I actually got off my arse after listening to them. |
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"Thank you all for your input, definitely something I need to work on rather than rely on resilience
Why do you need to work on it? (I read the description you posted.) It sounds shit to me. We don't have to be vulnerable.
(I mean the description sounds shit, not that you are asking. It's an interesting thread. )"
Hmm see I coming to think that being vulnerable doesn't necessarily have to mean it's a weakness. Some of the podcasts I have listened to recently have been about how people have understood their vulnerability and used it in a positive way. Aren't we all a tad vulnerable when we allow ourselves to love and to be loved?
I may be well off track and a bit waffley. The last one I listened to was the Russel Brand one  |
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"Thank you all for your input, definitely something I need to work on rather than rely on resilience
Why do you need to work on it? (I read the description you posted.) It sounds shit to me. We don't have to be vulnerable.
(I mean the description sounds shit, not that you are asking. It's an interesting thread. )
Hmm see I coming to think that being vulnerable doesn't necessarily have to mean it's a weakness. Some of the podcasts I have listened to recently have been about how people have understood their vulnerability and used it in a positive way. Aren't we all a tad vulnerable when we allow ourselves to love and to be loved?
I may be well off track and a bit waffley. The last one I listened to was the Russel Brand one "
I think allowing yourself to be vulnerable is a strength. It's accepting all the parts of you, even the bits you don't like. It's giving yourself the grace to be without trying to change or hide. Showing this self to others can be very scary, but very empowering when met with acceptance. I think many of us are willing to accept others' vulnerabilities but much less accepting of ourselves.
Mrs TMN, in navel-gazing mode x |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"As in emotional strength? Just been listening to a podcast and it was talking about this term. And it's not one I'm overly familiar with. What do you perceive as emotional strength and do you possess it? Do you see it others? How do you train to become more emotional strong?
I think for me emotional strength is being able to remain positive no matter what life throws at you. No matter what situation I am in and no matter how difficult I find things I gain strength from somewhere deep inside to pick myself up and keep going.I am not saying I find it easy but my way of thinking is more of a coping mechanism. "
I like this approach.
It's hard sometimes though, even though it's the best way.
I'm trying to adopt this mindset daily and while there are frequent times when I fail, it's the only way to get through some things.
The alternative isn't manageable long term.
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"I'd be interested to know what podcast you were listening to
It was diary of a ceo, been listening to a few this week. But can't remember which one it was sorry
He is brilliant!
He is literally just submitted an application for a new job less than 5 min ago. Because I actually got off my arse after listening to them. "
Good luck!! X |
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For me, emotional strength is about being able to control your emotions and not allowing them to control you.
So being able to continue in a positive direction even if your emotions are pulling you in a completely different direction.
Controlling anger so that it doesn't drive you to be unkind or violent, controlling upset so it doesn't leave you in a heap on the floor, controlling fear so that it doesn't leave you frozen and unable to move forward, etc.
Obviously...way easier said than done!
Maybe that's a bit of an oversimplification, but it works for me. |
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True emotional strength comes when you are able to admit that you need help.
I don't think you can train yourself for emotional strength,it comes with age and life experience.
Someone who has breezed through life with no trauma or hardship will have no way to advise someone who has not.
That said someone can be empathetic towards others.
Does this make you strong? I don't think so.
As a very young boy life went tit's up for me and I had a difficult and traumatic childhood and youth culminating in the death of my father in my early 20's.
I decided to build an impenetrable wall around my emotions not letting anything in or out.
It wasn't until I suffered a severe head trauma when I was 40that the walls came down and EVERYTHING came out in a tsunami of depression and emotions.
It's only now that I am realising that true strength isn't about being strong it's about being there, being consistent and love.
Asking for help if needed and offer it when you see someone in need.
Peace and love. |
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"True emotional strength comes when you are able to admit that you need help.
I don't think you can train yourself for emotional strength,it comes with age and life experience.
Someone who has breezed through life with no trauma or hardship will have no way to advise someone who has not.
That said someone can be empathetic towards others.
Does this make you strong? I don't think so.
As a very young boy life went tit's up for me and I had a difficult and traumatic childhood and youth culminating in the death of my father in my early 20's.
I decided to build an impenetrable wall around my emotions not letting anything in or out.
It wasn't until I suffered a severe head trauma when I was 40that the walls came down and EVERYTHING came out in a tsunami of depression and emotions.
It's only now that I am realising that true strength isn't about being strong it's about being there, being consistent and love.
Asking for help if needed and offer it when you see someone in need.
Peace and love."
This is possibly the best response to any thread I've posted. Thank you for sharing |
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A really interesting question OP!
I view emotional strength as being resilient. The ability to deal with setbacks no matter how big and still grow from that experience; become a better person for having gone through that experience.
Some of the traits of resilience include having an optimistic outlook, having a circle of friends, being able to ask for help, a sense of humour, having an attitude of self compassion.
I recently read a great interview by the late BBC journalist George Alagiah who died from cancer...he said he actually grew as a person from his experience of cancer.
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By *bi HaiveMan
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"A really interesting question OP!
I view emotional strength as being resilient. The ability to deal with setbacks no matter how big and still grow from that experience; become a better person for having gone through that experience.
Some of the traits of resilience include having an optimistic outlook, having a circle of friends, being able to ask for help, a sense of humour, having an attitude of self compassion.
I recently read a great interview by the late BBC journalist George Alagiah who died from cancer...he said he actually grew as a person from his experience of cancer.
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If you haven't already watch 'Be Here Now', the Andy Whitfield documentary.
Puts a lot about life into perspective.
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