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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A great question.
I think it depends how many posts are going on at the same time. Sometimes there are a fair few that interest me, and you may miss others
I personally don’t need affirmation of others but also it’s nice to see others commenting.
I have had a bit of an epiphany lately, just be yourself and people will either interact or not, and if they don’t, well I’m sure I’ll survive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and no and depends if its my post or replies to others. Sometimes get good interaction and other times get ignored.
Why keep posting? Perseverance and other times I post for me and not for interactions. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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I got asked this earlier in a dm 
I think alot of people misunderstand me here. I genuinely do like making threads on niche but also actual sexual things to get peoples opinions on whatever they may be. I'm interested in the topics - I was genuinely curious as to whether women would prefer to sit on an uglier face with better skill
People also say I'm a horny golden retriever...I'm actually pretty mellow and chilled! But I don't air drama or woe is me on here, real life is for that!
But yes I feel heard and do I get a kick out of someone people eye rolling everytime I post....yes, yes I do |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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Most of the time, no, not at all, it’s just shouting into the void and so also, most of the time, I don’t bother commenting for exactly that reason, in fact I almost abandoned this comment, I’ve no idea why I do occasionally make the effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes but I don’t take this place too serious. I come on to have a laugh and share a few opinions and pass the time. If someone notices then great, if they don’t then it doesn’t bother me too much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here in the lounge.
Do you feel like people read your posts with any interest?
If you don’t, what inspires you to keep posting?"
You, Sam. You inspire me to carry on. |
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I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive  |
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"I'm not really invested these days, so I don't actually care who replies to what. I just dip in and out when I fancy.
Much like when I'm with your mum."
She is glowing in her twilight years.
Thank you, Libertine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really invested these days, so I don't actually care who replies to what. I just dip in and out when I fancy.
Much like when I'm with your mum.
She is glowing in her twilight years.
Thank you, Libertine."
I feel bad now... I bed she's lovely.  |
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"I'm not really invested these days, so I don't actually care who replies to what. I just dip in and out when I fancy.
Much like when I'm with your mum.
She is glowing in her twilight years.
Thank you, Libertine.
I feel bad now... I bed she's lovely. "
Deliberate typo |
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"I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive "
I think your observations are accurate, I’ve had people message me, following a comment I have posted, who don’t post on the forums at all, there are a lot of people who watch and read but never post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not really invested these days, so I don't actually care who replies to what. I just dip in and out when I fancy.
Much like when I'm with your mum.
She is glowing in her twilight years.
Thank you, Libertine.
I feel bad now... I bed she's lovely.
Deliberate typo "
Freudian.  |
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Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It's an interesting void to scream into though. Some of the stuff I post here could never go on facebook or insta but I feel better for having said it even it goes unnoticed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I do a post it's usually to interact with others and I try to reply to make sure everyone feels heard.
Most people likely roll their eyes at all my romantic notions.
Sometimes I'll overshare, sometimes I'll write smut and sometimes I'll think I'm being really funny.
It doesn't really bother me what others make of these things. I'm just here to join in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there is a lot less interaction in general than there has been previously. Maybe through lockdown we all became insular and have forgotten or dont want to converse as much. I did find myself interacting less to people on posts than I used to, but are making an effort to respond to things others say. I keep coming back when Im bored and whattsapp is quiet |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Sometimes. It can be dispiriting if no-one replies. But it's always nice if people acknowledge and enjoy something I've said that amused me.
Plus, the boob appreciation is nice  "
Sorry, did you say something? Was distracted by your boobs |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know. Sometimes, sometimes not. It's just one of those things isn't it? People aren't always going to make it known they've read or enjoyed your posts.
I know that my particular style of posting (and talking let's be honest because I talk in a similar fashion to how I type!) isn't for everyone.
I kind of like when I'm a bit more invisible and can post in to the void. |
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"Sometimes very, and sometimes not at all. There is very little in between. "
Pretty much sums it up, and that's fine by me. I don't really say anything particularly profound so no reason anyone would pay special attention! |
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I probably enjoy posting things that make me laugh, occasionally they make others smile too.
Sometimes I help with replies to serious subjects because I’ve been through a lot of horrible shit and can help others.
I’m mostly ignored and usually I’m ok about that. |
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You know there's loads of people on this thread whose posts I notice and enjoy. I don't always acknowledge because there are enough clique accusations without me fangirling over people. But yes I notice and yes I smile/laugh/feel the feels. Thank you!
Jx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite "loud" online I think because I have so little interaction with people IRL. I don't feel ignored that much. If I got my tits out, I might have an enormous audience.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I do feel heard but I ly because I've been her a while so people may be used to my posting style and can interact accordingly. I mostly just put my thoughts into the ether without really expecting a reply to it and will always try to respond to the replies.
I do feel sorry for members of the forum who are quite new and can feel ignored though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dip in and out really as and when i feel like it. What i do wonder though is why some people post, purely to irritate or annoy others"
It amuses them or they consider it banter, but agree I don't get it |
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I don't feel especially heard, I normally don't get replies when I contribute. No biggie, though. Posting is just something else to do for mindless temporary distraction from the freqent feeling of hopeless ennui.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly thought the thread title said ‘do you feel hard’ and I’m not sure whether I’m pleased or disappointed to be wrong."
You are always hard Ladies go get him |
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"I don't feel especially heard, I normally don't get replies when I contribute. No biggie, though. Posting is just something else to do for mindless temporary distraction from the freqent feeling of hopeless ennui. "
What she said. It fills time, it can be amusing and occasionally I might learn something new. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly thought the thread title said ‘do you feel hard’ and I’m not sure whether I’m pleased or disappointed to be wrong."
Well, do you feel hard? Tell us.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can easily go day with posting and not seeing a reply, and some days I’ll post a thread soo get to reply to lots. So I get my kicks now and again when people converse with me.
I don’t mind my stuff being ignored, it’s normally drivel and stupid humour anyway. Or a flirty chat up line, and let’s be honest, nobody replies to those in public do they… |
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I've said here before that I've started hundreds of threads over the years.
Every single one of those has been light-hearted with nothing contentious or argumentative and yet a number of them have been removed.
I've only ever had 3 threads that have gone over 30 replies and 2 of those were closed with no explanation.
Am I being heard? Probably not because I've seen some more prolific posters post exactly the same thread on the very same day as mine and those all run to 175 posts.
I rarely start threads these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I feel heard. "
And when I didn’t way back on my first account. I just kept posting because it’s a fun place to be and to get involved in regardless of interaction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No definitely don't think a lot of my posts get read
I keep posting to try and get a little more noticed, hoping that I might catch the eye of someone who potentially maybe interested in me |
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Only started one thread and I got some replies (thank you) so not a blank which is a nice feeling and sometimes get a reply to posts in threads…..when you purposely get skipped in those posts about the poster above sometimes tugs but hey ho…… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people reply to us because they feel sorry for us. Me.. Just for being me. And Mr for living with me.
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From what I see from your profile your Mr is very lucky "
The profile lies she's hard work and takes good pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think people reply to us because they feel sorry for us. Me.. Just for being me. And Mr for living with me.
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From what I see from your profile your Mr is very lucky
The profile lies she's hard work and takes good pics "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's genuinely the hope of annoying salty people
I'm always salty. Your come dripping down my chin is very salty.
F"
Bit early isn't it? I was having my toast  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only started one thread and I got some replies (thank you) so not a blank which is a nice feeling and sometimes get a reply to posts in threads…..when you purposely get skipped in those posts about the poster above sometimes tugs but hey ho……"
I never go near those threads. It's an exercise in masochism! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These days, not so much. But then I don't respond to many posts I find amusing or interesting, laziness usually, so I have to assume that any unanswered ones of mine might have been appreciated by one or two people.
My old single profile garnered far more responses.
Nell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's genuinely the hope of annoying salty people
I'm always salty. Your come dripping down my chin is very salty.
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Bit early isn't it? I was having my toast "
Never too early for a nice load on your face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's genuinely the hope of annoying salty people
I'm always salty. Your come dripping down my chin is very salty.
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Bit early isn't it? I was having my toast
Never too early for a nice load on your face "
I am not cut out for this world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive "
It's sad when people think they aren't noticed. If only there was a Like button..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive
It's sad when people think they aren't noticed. If only there was a Like button..
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I'd like that |
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"I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive
It's sad when people think they aren't noticed. If only there was a Like button..
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Yes that would be great. It was being asked about years ago. Don’t always want to post and quote especially if it’s long, but it would be good to show appreciation like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive
It's sad when people think they aren't noticed. If only there was a Like button..
I'd like that "
Like x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not going to reply individually to everyone here as in recent years I’ve personally found that really annoying on threads.
I personally think we all feel similarly at times but I’m confident that people don’t always want to acknowledge points made that they agree with, feel connected too or find funny publicly.
My point is, always continue to post your thoughts, anecdotes, hopes, fears and jokes no matter how insignificant they may feel to you because there will always be people that read them and the unpredictability of the lounge is what makes it so very addictive
It's sad when people think they aren't noticed. If only there was a Like button..
Yes that would be great. It was being asked about years ago. Don’t always want to post and quote especially if it’s long, but it would be good to show appreciation like that. "
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I hear people, but I purposely disassociate the person from the post. I don’t like to form opinions of people based on forum posts , because it’s usually way off. People are much nicer in real life |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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The simple fact is that some people no matter how much they resonate with something you post will never publicly agree with you purely based on a dislike of you (usually based on nothing more than images you post) which is quite sad really.
I will comment on topics where I feel I have a valuable or a tongue and cheek input for a bit of a giggle - should this strike a chord with someone or make someone smile then I’m happy in that knowledge, I don’t need the public acknowledgment of it.
It’s nice to think that something you’ve said may help or guide someone to a better place
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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Guys quote women to get favour, women as usual here have a selection of guys that appeal and they quote them, its life here...... Women rule understand that and you understand fab |
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Sometimes, yes. My threads tend to be wide-ranging, sometimes random, really depends what's in my head at the time! I post them because it amuses me. Sometimes they fly, sometimes they don't. I used to spend much more time curating them but don't tend to these days.
I don't chat as much about serious stuff as I used to in here, so feeling heard is less important to me.
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"I hear people, but I purposely disassociate the person from the post. I don’t like to form opinions of people based on forum posts , because it’s usually way off. People are much nicer in real life "
Life experience has taught me that nothing happens in a vacuum so forum comments reinforce my opinion on the poster.
There are a handful of posters I have strongly disagreed with on particular threads but fully agree with them on others.
That's down to how they post and how they are respectful of other people's opinions.
There are many others though who are incapable of that.
I have yet to be pleasantly surprised by a single forumite I've met at socials because they have all been exactly as they post. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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I genuinely have noticed everyone in this thread. I also genuinely think for the first time in a while there hasn't been an obvious dickhead on the forums.
But maybe that's because I'm not looking at myself? |
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"The simple fact is that some people no matter how much they resonate with something you post will never publicly agree with you purely based on a dislike of you (usually based on nothing more than images you post) which is quite sad really.
I will comment on topics where I feel I have a valuable or a tongue and cheek input for a bit of a giggle - should this strike a chord with someone or make someone smile then I’m happy in that knowledge, I don’t need the public acknowledgment of it.
It’s nice to think that something you’ve said may help or guide someone to a better place
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Makes me think that I may have feelings of an almost human nature... And that will not do!
