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So...how do people cope with epic dry spells as a singleton? Fab isn't helping me and no fwb. I'm not one for d*unken one night stands but like meeting new people and keeping things fun and casual.
I am also losing my mind!!! |
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over a year ago
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"I wank and cry a lot. It’s not easy OP. 
She’s right. It’s expensive too…..I found I went through twice as many tissues this way.
I had to start using old T-shirts to cry into.  "
May I donate some of my shirts to your cause |
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"I wank and cry a lot. It’s not easy OP.
She’s right. It’s expensive too…..I found I went through twice as many tissues this way.
I had to start using old T-shirts to cry into. "
Tears can be used for lube I think  |
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"I wank and cry a lot. It’s not easy OP.
She’s right. It’s expensive too…..I found I went through twice as many tissues this way.
I had to start using old T-shirts to cry into.
Tears can be used for lube I think "
Narrator - This is odd even at your standards Woody!!! |
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Wouldn’t know as I never really have “dry spells” my dynamic is set up that way
If I am have a “dry spell” I just hope off to a sanua for a couple off hours and “dry spell” over yes it’s cheap meanless sex but no “dry spell” |
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"Wouldn’t know as I never really have “dry spells” my dynamic is set up that way
If I am have a “dry spell” I just hope off to a sanua for a couple off hours and “dry spell” over yes it’s cheap meanless sex but no “dry spell” "
Oh to be gay sometimes |
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"Wouldn’t know as I never really have “dry spells” my dynamic is set up that way
If I am have a “dry spell” I just hope off to a sanua for a couple off hours and “dry spell” over yes it’s cheap meanless sex but no “dry spell”
Oh to be gay sometimes"
I can highly recommend it |
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over a year ago
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"Been yearrrrs now
Fuck off.
 work with me here
Oh ok, jeez that must be sooooo hard for you. "
It's awful, I do everything right  I even read a profile once, I just don't get it! |
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"Been yearrrrs now
Fuck off.
work with me here
Oh ok, jeez that must be sooooo hard for you.
It's awful, I do everything right I even read a profile once, I just don't get it!"
Unfortunately you can't be attractive to everyone. Hang in there, someone will take pity soon. |
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"Been yearrrrs now
Fuck off.
work with me here
Oh ok, jeez that must be sooooo hard for you.
It's awful, I do everything right I even read a profile once, I just don't get it!
Unfortunately you can't be attractive to everyone. Hang in there, someone will take pity soon. "
I need to go to a club, or try those cam bedrooms |
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"Been yearrrrs now
Fuck off.
work with me here
Oh ok, jeez that must be sooooo hard for you.
It's awful, I do everything right I even read a profile once, I just don't get it!
Unfortunately you can't be attractive to everyone. Hang in there, someone will take pity soon.
I need to go to a club, or try those cam bedrooms"
Perhaps ask for a profile review?  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"I haven't had a dry spell since i left my ex  "
I think the only epic dry spell I’ve ever had in my life was when in a monogamous relationship!
I do fast from it occasionally , 1-2 months, it’s not that hard because choosing to go without gives you a huge psychological boost |
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"Been yearrrrs now
Fuck off.
work with me here
Oh ok, jeez that must be sooooo hard for you.
It's awful, I do everything right I even read a profile once, I just don't get it!
Unfortunately you can't be attractive to everyone. Hang in there, someone will take pity soon.
I need to go to a club, or try those cam bedrooms
Perhaps ask for a profile review? "
And let the monsters of Fab ridicule me 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been yearrrrs now
Fuck off.
work with me here
Oh ok, jeez that must be sooooo hard for you.
It's awful, I do everything right I even read a profile once, I just don't get it!
Unfortunately you can't be attractive to everyone. Hang in there, someone will take pity soon.
I need to go to a club, or try those cam bedrooms
Perhaps ask for a profile review?
And let the monsters of Fab ridicule me
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Oh yeah, sounds fun mwah haha |
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You are in the West Midlands, shouldn't be too difficult to get to Xtasia or Chameleons, speak to people, attend events like the BBW party or Greedy Girls nights. Don't wait to be invited out based on your Fab profile, go where the people are. |
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"You are in the West Midlands, shouldn't be too difficult to get to Xtasia or Chameleons, speak to people, attend events like the BBW party or Greedy Girls nights. Don't wait to be invited out based on your Fab profile, go where the people are."
Are those nights not normally more of a pay to play arrangement? Have seen them advertised at the Private Club and seems to be pros. Not being offensive - I'm entirely ignorant of that side of things!
Going alone to chams or xtasia feels quite intimidating tbh. Ive backpacked solo all over the world and been in all sorts of crazy places but that makes me more nervous than anything! |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it."
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment."
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do. "
I self-impose dry spells & focus on self-care (which seems to go out of the window when I’m partnered!) I do LOADS of exercise and pamper myself silly until I feel ready to cougar  |
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"Almost 24 month dry spell, hoping someday to find the unicorn FWB
Part of the reason I work lots and have taken up golf
Don't Wank a day before a round of golf put you off your stroke "
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do. "
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing."
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there? |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?"
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant. "
A) it's You're
B) I suggested the insinuation was there. Only you know what you meant.
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
A) it's You're
B) I suggested the insinuation was there. Only you know what you meant.
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A) "it's You're" I don't care
B) I was quite clear |
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Depends what you mean by dry spell?
For some that could be a few days, for others years.
I've gone for 10 years without so anything after that is just a blip and I don't give it a second thought and never thought of having to deal with it.
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant. "
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full.... |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full.... "
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing."
Masturbation does not compare. But in terms of managing dry spells, if that's the option for men because they physically require a release for their balls, then that's what they should do if they require that, not push it onto someone else as if it's their problem.
If you find having a wank or a wet dream shameful so you absolutely must find a willing orifice maybe it's something to take up with a therapist. |
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"So...how do people cope with epic dry spells as a singleton? Fab isn't helping me and no fwb. I'm not one for d*unken one night stands but like meeting new people and keeping things fun and casual.
I am also losing my mind!!!"
You should try it in my situation. I've not had sex for some years and hoped fab might help. In fact I've found it far more difficult to get ladies/couples to recognise the difficulties of advancing years and disinterested spouses. |
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I used to go through lots of batteries but then I got one that plugs into the mains.
It's hard. Can be lonely, but id rather have no sex than bad sex so. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise."
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Masturbation does not compare. But in terms of managing dry spells, if that's the option for men because they physically require a release for their balls, then that's what they should do if they require that, not push it onto someone else as if it's their problem.
If you find having a wank or a wet dream shameful so you absolutely must find a willing orifice maybe it's something to take up with a therapist."
"not push it onto someone else as if it's their problem." Nowhere did I say that. And just because I do not find wanking or having a wet dream pleasurable doesn't mean I need a therapist it means I like the real thing which is natural and not artificial. Maybe your the one that needs the therapist. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise."
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.  |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally. "
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that."
I know that comment was directed at prey, but why do men have fewer options than women if they're frustrated? |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that."
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that."
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that.
I've seen incel be used here a couple of times now. It's pretty ugly language to use. It's a pretty pejorative term and shouldn't be used casually. "
Was I using the term casually? |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that.
I've seen incel be used here a couple of times now. It's pretty ugly language to use. It's a pretty pejorative term and shouldn't be used casually.
Was I using the term casually? "
I didn't think so. And I kinda dislike seeing a woman told off for using a term which is accurate tbh. Not about the person but about the perspective. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that.
I've seen incel be used here a couple of times now. It's pretty ugly language to use. It's a pretty pejorative term and shouldn't be used casually.
Was I using the term casually?
I didn't think so. And I kinda dislike seeing a woman told off for using a term which is accurate tbh. Not about the person but about the perspective. "
It wasn't accurate. It would be like me referring to her as 'hysterical' because she expressed a point of view. It has connotations that are quite repulaive and she absolutely meant it as a slight. |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that.
I've seen incel be used here a couple of times now. It's pretty ugly language to use. It's a pretty pejorative term and shouldn't be used casually.
Was I using the term casually?
I didn't think so. And I kinda dislike seeing a woman told off for using a term which is accurate tbh. Not about the person but about the perspective.
It wasn't accurate. It would be like me referring to her as 'hysterical' because she expressed a point of view. It has connotations that are quite repulaive and she absolutely meant it as a slight."
"The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full.."
It was a mildly worded comment. Not directed personally at anyone, so how can it be a slight? |
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"I'm usually good at compartmentalising.
Just tuck that particular desire away for a time when I can deal with it.
I hear and read women say this a lot. I cannot speak on the female experience, but compartmentalising someone's sex drive and natural urge to have sex is very difficult for some men, it gets to a point where it has to be released. Some men do not like wanking, so, it's released in the form of a wet dream but that just ends a mess and feeling of embarrassment.
"It has to be released" what does that mean? Lots of men manage their urge to have sex just as lots of women do.
Meaning cum, ejaculating, orgasm, bust a nut. And I did say some men. Masturbation doesn't compare to the real thing.
Depends on whether the real thing is a) good sex and b) you orgasm from it.
It was more the insinuation that (some) men struggle more than women when they dont have sex. I've seen it used to justify a lot of bad behaviour but I don't think there's any evidence of it is there?
A) Your not a man. B) You, cannot tell me, what I meant.
She was asking a question.
The description in your post sounds a little like something off an incel site that's all. An excuse for bad behaviour. They can't help it, their balls were full....
If that was the case then I misunderstood, and if I was wrong then I apologise.
I've known other men to use it as an excuse. Unfortunately. So it's a bit of a red flag, I guess, which is why I queried it with you. I wasn't accusing you personally.
If I was to mansplain about periods of female hormones I'd understand but to invoke the pejorative use of "incel" is low. Perhaps some understanding of male sexual frustration is needed on your behalf. Clearly women can be frustrated too but the options available are a lot less for men -wank or call a pro. Intimacy is another issue entirely. Noone has suggested women cant also experience sexual frustration and noone said that if they do they are some sort of predator. You comment a lot on posts to take pop shots at men. Think on that.
I've seen incel be used here a couple of times now. It's pretty ugly language to use. It's a pretty pejorative term and shouldn't be used casually.
Was I using the term casually?
I didn't think so. And I kinda dislike seeing a woman told off for using a term which is accurate tbh. Not about the person but about the perspective.
It wasn't accurate. It would be like me referring to her as 'hysterical' because she expressed a point of view. It has connotations that are quite repulaive and she absolutely meant it as a slight."
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