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If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But what's the point if your not interested? I usually say something along the lines of 'you look lovely, but sadly you aren't my type. Good luck in the site x'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you ask for a face pic don't you send yours first? I do"
I ask for one with the first message. It's on my profile and generally people do send then. If I initiate the contact then yes I would send my pic in the first message. |
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"But what's the point if your not interested? I usually say something along the lines of 'you look lovely, but sadly you aren't my type. Good luck in the site x'."
Thats very polite. I usually get "fuck off steve and stay in brighton". It's very disheartening, especially when the lady in question is only in Hove. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I ask for a face pic, I would send one of mine in return.
However, if the face pic was unsolicited, then I do not feel obliged to send one in return.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you ask for a face pic don't you send yours first? I do
I ask for one with the first message. It's on my profile and generally people do send then. If I initiate the contact then yes I would send my pic in the first message. "
Is a face everything ? Or would someone's charm and whit not be enough ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if they agree to swap face pics...yes
if they ask or you ask...no
even if someone isnt interested but have agreed to each send facepics I think thats being good to ur word, personally I have no interest in blocking those im not interested in, and I'd take a nothanks fine.
pretty much common decency when an agreements been made I'm afraid- the agreement doesnt end with one half getting what they want when they said they would share
why be so faceless? |
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"But what's the point if your not interested? I usually say something along the lines of 'you look lovely, but sadly you aren't my type. Good luck in the site x'."
Cos surely the agreement is to both show face pics..... not an agreement for someone to see yours and decide no thanks and not bother sending theirs...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But what's the point if your not interested? I usually say something along the lines of 'you look lovely, but sadly you aren't my type. Good luck in the site x'.
Cos surely the agreement is to both show face pics..... not an agreement for someone to see yours and decide no thanks and not bother sending theirs... "
But if I sent mines and they weren't interested in taking things further, why would I be interested in seeing theirs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you ask for a face pic don't you send yours first? I do
I ask for one with the first message. It's on my profile and generally people do send then. If I initiate the contact then yes I would send my pic in the first message.
Is a face everything ? Or would someone's charm and whit not be enough ?"
A nice face is my top requirement. Then there are a few boxes after that to be ticked. That's as far as this site is concerned. If I was looking for a lifetime partner then my priorities would be different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But what's the point if your not interested? I usually say something along the lines of 'you look lovely, but sadly you aren't my type. Good luck in the site x'.
Cos surely the agreement is to both show face pics..... not an agreement for someone to see yours and decide no thanks and not bother sending theirs...
But if I sent mines and they weren't interested in taking things further, why would I be interested in seeing theirs?"
agreement is the main point I think, not saying it matters greatly...but it is nice enough in the spirit of things to at least show face...its a pretty negative experience itself..why not just be nice about it..I'd say far more grown up
*not saying i'd pester for a facepic when they werent interested..but if I'd not sent one previous and had agreed to send both our facepics, I'd stand by my word...so many dont |
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"Cos surely the agreement is to both show face pics..... not an agreement for someone to see yours and decide no thanks and not bother sending theirs...
But if I sent mines and they weren't interested in taking things further, why would I be interested in seeing theirs?"
Surely you would want to see them.....it feels like the show Goldenballs where you both agree to share the prize money and then at the last minute one person gives you the finger.... in a manner of speaking  |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry but I dont see the point in sending my face pic if I dont like theirs.
Or if I dislike theirs but send mine anyway its like saying your ugly but look at me and see what your missing out on lol.
Fruit x |
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"Sorry but I dont see the point in sending my face pic if I dont like theirs.
Or if I dislike theirs but send mine anyway its like saying your ugly but look at me and see what your missing out on lol.
Fruit x"
But by not replying and not sending your pic you are saying you are ugly anyway. It could be that you both don't like each other and can have a laugh about it but when only one has seen pics and walks away you feel cheated.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but I dont see the point in sending my face pic if I dont like theirs.
Or if I dislike theirs but send mine anyway its like saying your ugly but look at me and see what your missing out on lol.
Fruit x"
What she said lol. I don't mean to be rude to anyone I just don't see the point. Nobody has been arsey with me or vice versa yet, we have happily gone our merry ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but I dont see the point in sending my face pic if I dont like theirs.
Or if I dislike theirs but send mine anyway its like saying your ugly but look at me and see what your missing out on lol.
Fruit x"
me:Hi how are u?(best line eh?)
really like ur profile would u be interested in mine?
you: nice profile maybe yes
me: would u like to share facepics?
you: yes thatd be nice
me:u go first, or me...how about we just agree to share facepics?
you: I agree
so does one side sit and wait for the other to send the pic over..with the intent of not upholding the agreement if its not to their liking..?
I'd find both pretty rude if thats how they wanna work
like I say its different when theres no actual agreement made ie one side asks or sends a facepic.. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry but I dont see the point in sending my face pic if I dont like theirs.
Or if I dislike theirs but send mine anyway its like saying your ugly but look at me and see what your missing out on lol.
Fruit x
But by not replying and not sending your pic you are saying you are ugly anyway. It could be that you both don't like each other and can have a laugh about it but when only one has seen pics and walks away you feel cheated...."
I am saying if they send me a face pic and I am not attracted to them there is no point me sending a face pic of me.
Its like....heres what you didnt win lol.
Hope that makes it clear what I am saying |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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In my 7 years of swinging no one has ever asked me for an agreement to bith send face pics and I have had thousands of messsges to be honest lol.
Many many many people have shown interest in me and included their pic but if I am not attracted to them then why on earth would I send mine.
Also never had any one questiin why I then have not still sent mine even after saying the chemistry isnt there for me.
Fruit x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my 7 years of swinging no one has ever asked me for an agreement to bith send face pics and I have had thousands of messsges to be honest lol.
Many many many people have shown interest in me and included their pic but if I am not attracted to them then why on earth would I send mine.
Also never had any one questiin why I then have not still sent mine even after saying the chemistry isnt there for me.
Fruit x "
it could be more a couples to couples thing..they seem to be the worst at agreeing to anything IMO |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I wonder if those saying well it was an agreement to swap pics would be so keen to stick with their agreement if it was the one person on earth that they do not wish to see their profile like their employer or any other persin that they reaaaly dont want to see their pic lol.
I doubt it |
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"I wonder if those saying well it was an agreement to swap pics would be so keen to stick with their agreement if it was the one person on earth that they do not wish to see their profile like their employer or any other persin that they reaaaly dont want to see their pic lol.
I doubt it"
That's another thing that goes through your mind when you send your pics and they don't reply.... am I going to be laughed at when I get into work tomorrow  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think maybe it is a couple thing as I've never come to agreement to share pics but then I am unlikely to get into a chit chat with someone without having seen their face pic anyway. The exception is people on the forums but that tends to be banter first that has occasionally turned into a bit of fun, but by then we have added each other as friends which is where my face pics are kept. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think maybe it is a couple thing as I've never come to agreement to share pics but then I am unlikely to get into a chit chat with someone without having seen their face pic anyway. The exception is people on the forums but that tends to be banter first that has occasionally turned into a bit of fun, but by then we have added each other as friends which is where my face pics are kept."
do u accept facial tributes? |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on "
Couldn't agree with you more. If you both agree to send face pics then you should send it whether you like what you get or not. The fact still remians that you have agreed to something which you should do else as you say it's dating in the dark with only one side turning the light on.
I have had this happen to me and personally it's one of the issues i have with some people on this site that really irks me. If i get a face pic and there's no attraction i would still send one back and politely decline.
I have said this in my profile too, but no one seems to pay attention to that they still ask to see mine first at which point, whether there is chemistry or not i tend to walk away. If you are interested in seeing someones face pic you should be willing to show yours and if you both agree to exchange pics i think it's rude and annoying if you don't go through with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't - doesn't seem any point. We reply with a 'no thanks' and then usually block. I know some don't like that but we've found it saves any unpleasantness and prevents either of us accidentally getting in touch again.
I think it's worse when you exchange pictures and the other party doesn't even reply. We block those too |
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over a year ago
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"If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on "
No!
Poor form or not if you reject someone and then bump into them in a club you get the arsey hubbie asking why arsey wife isn't good enough for you. So hell you keep your face pictures to yourself and fuck em..or not fuck em as the decision goes. No different to people not replying to every message in my book just a choice thing. |
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"If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on
No!
Poor form or not if you reject someone and then bump into them in a club you get the arsey hubbie asking why arsey wife isn't good enough for you. So hell you keep your face pictures to yourself and fuck em..or not fuck em as the decision goes. No different to people not replying to every message in my book just a choice thing."
It's not at all as you haven't upset anyone in the process of not replying to the message. They choose to contact you ...you look at profile and think not for me... they think oh well obviously not looking for someone like us but if you both agree to swap pics you are revealing yourself to someone that you wouldn't unless you thought it was progressing the relationship.....so it should not be a choice thing it's an unwritten agreement that you both wanted. If someone thinks I'm not for them I want the chance to think the same of them...  |
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Paddy it is not a couple thing!
We say on our profile and if someone messages us straight away have you got a face picture or else I don't see the point of continuing talking to them if I don't find any attraction.
We don't always send ones back, because as said above it seems pointless if you don't find them attractive and would not be talking to them further.
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"Paddy it is not a couple thing!
We say on our profile and if someone messages us straight away have you got a face picture or else I don't see the point of continuing talking to them if I don't find any attraction.
We don't always send ones back, because as said above it seems pointless if you don't find them attractive and would not be talking to them further.
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lol the couples thing was a joke lol..
anyway its about agreeing to swap pics..
agreeing and swap in the same sentence
once that agreements made I'd find it very childish for either half to wait for the face pic to arrive and then they decide its not worth them sending a facepic back, with their rejection response(if they even send one)
being approached and asked to send a facepic..then being blocked(seems to be the pattern), doesnt annoy me..however it does make me think its a level of immaturity that turns a cycle of frustration for lots getting the same treatment.I wont pop a vein over it of course..its only a shag, but as said above..I can show integrity, I'm instead already being labeled as the single guy who cannot accept a knockback.Work that out maths wise and what u get is an increasing pattern of frustration coming from members.
Its not about not having ur msgs read etc etc..its about an established communication being cut short(with no real suggestion the recipients done anything wrong other than not being for the other sides taste)..I wouldnt do it to anyone in real life, swingwise or cyber |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But what's the point if your not interested? I usually say something along the lines of 'you look lovely, but sadly you aren't my type. Good luck in the site x'."
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"If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on "
I never "agree to swap face pics"
As another poster said..... It's on my profile that I won't reply to messages without one.
If someone sends one and I'm interested in chatting to and meeting them, I'll send one with my reply. If I'm not interested, but they match what I'm looking for on paper and have sent a decent message, I'll reply no thanks, but wouldn't send a pic.
If they don't match what I'm looking for I don't reply at all. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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If I sent out my face pic to alk the people that send me pics regardless if you match my age preferances etc...then half of the bloody country would have seen my face pic.
Come be a single bi lady whi had meet single men on my profile and you would soon be sending your face pics to many false profiles stakers pic collectors and people I choose to not meet!!
The idea is just rediculous. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I have done so in politeness, as I only thought it was fair, so along with said pic, I did say thanks for the offer but not for me, only to receive the message back 'your not for me either' still not sure it I really wasn't or because I had already said the thanks but no thanks  |
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"I have done so in politeness, as I only thought it was fair, so along with said pic, I did say thanks for the offer but not for me, only to receive the message back 'your not for me either' still not sure it I really wasn't or because I had already said the thanks but no thanks "
ahh u'll never know...but hey...still was the right thing to do regarding the agreement issue |
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"Paddy it is not a couple thing!
We say on our profile and if someone messages us straight away have you got a face picture or else I don't see the point of continuing talking to them if I don't find any attraction.
We don't always send ones back, because as said above it seems pointless if you don't find them attractive and would not be talking to them further.
lol the couples thing was a joke lol..
anyway its about agreeing to swap pics..
agreeing and swap in the same sentence
once that agreements made I'd find it very childish for either half to wait for the face pic to arrive and then they decide its not worth them sending a facepic back, with their rejection response(if they even send one)
being approached and asked to send a facepic..then being blocked(seems to be the pattern), doesnt annoy me..however it does make me think its a level of immaturity that turns a cycle of frustration for lots getting the same treatment.I wont pop a vein over it of course..its only a shag, but as said above..I can show integrity, I'm instead already being labeled as the single guy who cannot accept a knockback.Work that out maths wise and what u get is an increasing pattern of frustration coming from members.
Its not about not having ur msgs read etc etc..its about an established communication being cut short(with no real suggestion the recipients done anything wrong other than not being for the other sides taste)..I wouldnt do it to anyone in real life, swingwise or cyber"
Well in that case, never really agreed to swap, I don't share |
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If I sent out my face pic to everyone who sends me theirs then half the north east would have it - and that's not what I want!
If I like someone's chat or If i think there's a chance we could play (aka I like their face pic) then I send one back for sure.
Charm and wit are absolutely not enough for me, I have to like the look of the persons face and body - like a previous poster said, I'm not on fab for a boyfriend I want a playmate! |
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"If I sent out my face pic to everyone who sends me theirs then half the north east would have it - and that's not what I want!
If I like someone's chat or If i think there's a chance we could play (aka I like their face pic) then I send one back for sure.
Charm and wit are absolutely not enough for me, I have to like the look of the persons face and body - like a previous poster said, I'm not on fab for a boyfriend I want a playmate!"
I hate using analogies...but heres one:
we sit and discuss buying eachother a coffee..lets surprise eachother..deal? cool..
we sit down and u order mine first..it arrives and I'm sitting thinking "this coffee taste of shit"
I stand up and say "sorry the coffee wasnt really for me, cheerio"
aint that rude?-same principle really..I broke an agreement |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is a trick to this guys
Have a back catalogue of pics of other men
Read the profile and the veris to get an idea of the type they go for
Send message with pic chosen appropriately
When they send pic back, just say 'ooh sorry I've uploaded a pic of our Brian by mistake, this is me !'
et voila
blocked
but hey, at least you've seen their pics  |
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"If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on "
If they're not for me, and I never initiate first contact, why would I? |
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over a year ago
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Biggest annoyance is sending a face pic after it being requested and then the receipient not even havin the decency to say thanks but no thanks! Gggrrrrr!!!! |
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"Biggest annoyance is sending a face pic after it being requested and then the receipient not even havin the decency to say thanks but no thanks! Gggrrrrr!!!!"
in their defence 'thanks but no thanks' is quite a hard thing to type when you're wanking furiously over someones pics |
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"I wonder if those saying well it was an agreement to swap pics would be so keen to stick with their agreement if it was the one person on earth that they do not wish to see their profile like their employer or any other persin that they reaaaly dont want to see their pic lol.
I doubt it"
It's the sense of entitlement that never fails to amuse me. |
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"Biggest annoyance is sending a face pic after it being requested and then the receipient not even havin the decency to say thanks but no thanks! Gggrrrrr!!!!
in their defence 'thanks but no thanks' is quite a hard thing to type when you're wanking furiously over someones pics "
And I thought women could multi task!!!! |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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The coffee analogy is rubbish imo.
The coffee isnt going to use your pics and pretend to be your husband and stalk you.
So using an object as a comparrison is terrible.
I do not want everyone that sends me their face pic to see mine if I know full well I dont want to meet them.
What about every person who sends me a friend request. Yes I know. Its not the best analogy either. Lol.
Really tho. Its just silly. What happens if you chat with a guy and arrange to meet for and you get there and he stinks of urine and sweat.
Are you still supposed to have sex with him because you arranged to meet for fun and it would be rude not to shag him lol.
No your not. Your gonna say I know we had planned to get saucy but sorry you need a shower I dont want to play. Under some posters feelings as a play meet had been arranged it would be rude to not get saucy!!
Just rediculous.
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Just had a face pics request and they said they fancied one of us they didn't both fancy us.....but they sent us their pics saying it was only fair.
We thanked them and we both went our seperate ways.....easy and no harm done...
We are both on the sofa wondering which one of us is ugly..... |
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We have face pics on public view, yet still get asked for face pics.. Though can be really annoying to be asked for pics and a meet, by people who won't show face pic.
Grumpys face pics tend to send most away though so it's fine lol |
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"If you agree to swap face pics and you then find out that they aren't for you after receiving theirs do you still send your face pics?
Personally I think it's poor form if people don't....its like dating in the dark and only one light goes on
I never "agree to swap face pics"
As another poster said..... It's on my profile that I won't reply to messages without one.
If someone sends one and I'm interested in chatting to and meeting them, I'll send one with my reply. If I'm not interested, but they match what I'm looking for on paper and have sent a decent message, I'll reply no thanks, but wouldn't send a pic.
If they don't match what I'm looking for I don't reply at all. "
Exactly how I do it. |
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"Biggest annoyance is sending a face pic after it being requested and then the receipient not even havin the decency to say thanks but no thanks! Gggrrrrr!!!!
in their defence 'thanks but no thanks' is quite a hard thing to type when you're wanking furiously over someones pics
And I thought women could multi task!!!!"
women can
'women' can't
if you get my drift |
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"If I sent out my face pic to everyone who sends me theirs then half the north east would have it - and that's not what I want!
If I like someone's chat or If i think there's a chance we could play (aka I like their face pic) then I send one back for sure.
Charm and wit are absolutely not enough for me, I have to like the look of the persons face and body - like a previous poster said, I'm not on fab for a boyfriend I want a playmate!
I hate using analogies...but heres one:
we sit and discuss buying eachother a coffee..lets surprise eachother..deal? cool..
we sit down and u order mine first..it arrives and I'm sitting thinking "this coffee taste of shit"
I stand up and say "sorry the coffee wasnt really for me, cheerio"
aint that rude?-same principle really..I broke an agreement"
Your analogy was rude, but it doesn't reflect the situation at all, first of all cos I'm talking about aesthetics not test driving. So if you want to use coffee, you'd be better off saying if you looked at the coffee and said it wasn't what you were looking for in a hot drink (no need to go into details about how the cup's too big or too small or too milky or too dark) rather than flouncing off from the table then that wouldn't be rude.
Also to add to your analogy I wouldn't be sitting with you at a coffee table, it's more comparable to me sitting at one end of a room and 500 other people filling the rest of the toom, all showing me the coffee they've so thoughtfully brought for me, I ain't gonna drink them all and I sure as sh*t can't afford to buy them all coffee so I filter on face pics and chat.
One thing that you've not considered though is the fact that I've never agreed to buy any of the 500 people a coffee.
So I never give anyone the impression that I'll send a face pic back and I openly tell people that if I think they look like our kind of playmate then I'll send a pic back. One thing we do with everyone is reply though so most people are pleased I've had the decency to respond, they're never put out cos I didn't want to share my face pic. It's like another posted has said, it's a bit like saying "this is what you could have had" and I don't like doing that to people.
R x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The coffee analogy is rubbish imo.
The coffee isnt going to use your pics and pretend to be your husband and stalk you.
So using an object as a comparrison is terrible.
I do not want everyone that sends me their face pic to see mine if I know full well I dont want to meet them.
What about every person who sends me a friend request. Yes I know. Its not the best analogy either. Lol.
Really tho. Its just silly. What happens if you chat with a guy and arrange to meet for and you get there and he stinks of urine and sweat.
Are you still supposed to have sex with him because you arranged to meet for fun and it would be rude not to shag him lol.
No your not. Your gonna say I know we had planned to get saucy but sorry you need a shower I dont want to play. Under some posters feelings as a play meet had been arranged it would be rude to not get saucy!!
Just rediculous.
Fruit"
its not ridiculous if we agreed on it, thats the only point I'm making.Have we even got to suggesting a meets on yet?- now thats ridiculous analogyzing...
what ur suggesting in ur analogy is that someone is trustable if u fancy them?- I think Ive seen that one fall on its face after even a few meets.....
I'm only taking the OP's statement as they 'agreed' to swap facepics with whoever it was and they received nothing back..I'll stand by how I think and it is still rude no matter if there wasnt any mutual interest |
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"If I sent out my face pic to everyone who sends me theirs then half the north east would have it - and that's not what I want!
If I like someone's chat or If i think there's a chance we could play (aka I like their face pic) then I send one back for sure.
Charm and wit are absolutely not enough for me, I have to like the look of the persons face and body - like a previous poster said, I'm not on fab for a boyfriend I want a playmate!
I hate using analogies...but heres one:
we sit and discuss buying eachother a coffee..lets surprise eachother..deal? cool..
we sit down and u order mine first..it arrives and I'm sitting thinking "this coffee taste of shit"
I stand up and say "sorry the coffee wasnt really for me, cheerio"
aint that rude?-same principle really..I broke an agreement
Your analogy was rude, but it doesn't reflect the situation at all, first of all cos I'm talking about aesthetics not test driving. So if you want to use coffee, you'd be better off saying if you looked at the coffee and said it wasn't what you were looking for in a hot drink (no need to go into details about how the cup's too big or too small or too milky or too dark) rather than flouncing off from the table then that wouldn't be rude.
Also to add to your analogy I wouldn't be sitting with you at a coffee table, it's more comparable to me sitting at one end of a room and 500 other people filling the rest of the toom, all showing me the coffee they've so thoughtfully brought for me, I ain't gonna drink them all and I sure as sh*t can't afford to buy them all coffee so I filter on face pics and chat.
One thing that you've not considered though is the fact that I've never agreed to buy any of the 500 people a coffee.
So I never give anyone the impression that I'll send a face pic back and I openly tell people that if I think they look like our kind of playmate then I'll send a pic back. One thing we do with everyone is reply though so most people are pleased I've had the decency to respond, they're never put out cos I didn't want to share my face pic. It's like another posted has said, it's a bit like saying "this is what you could have had" and I don't like doing that to people.
R x
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same again, if U had agreed to the way the OP has termed it, u wouldnt send a face pic back after agreeing to that itself?
I'm finding it hard not to see why people think its good to break an agreement thats all.. not really interested if they didnt like the peoples pic, or if they have issues sending their pic that they would have sent otherwise.
I'm not also viewing this from a single guys viewpoint, but from any group that uses the site
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"The coffee analogy is rubbish imo.
The coffee isnt going to use your pics and pretend to be your husband and stalk you.
So using an object as a comparrison is terrible.
I do not want everyone that sends me their face pic to see mine if I know full well I dont want to meet them.
What about every person who sends me a friend request. Yes I know. Its not the best analogy either. Lol.
Really tho. Its just silly. What happens if you chat with a guy and arrange to meet for and you get there and he stinks of urine and sweat.
Are you still supposed to have sex with him because you arranged to meet for fun and it would be rude not to shag him lol.
No your not. Your gonna say I know we had planned to get saucy but sorry you need a shower I dont want to play. Under some posters feelings as a play meet had been arranged it would be rude to not get saucy!!
Just rediculous.
Fruit"
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"If I sent out my face pic to everyone who sends me theirs then half the north east would have it - and that's not what I want!
If I like someone's chat or If i think there's a chance we could play (aka I like their face pic) then I send one back for sure.
Charm and wit are absolutely not enough for me, I have to like the look of the persons face and body - like a previous poster said, I'm not on fab for a boyfriend I want a playmate!
I hate using analogies...but heres one:
we sit and discuss buying eachother a coffee..lets surprise eachother..deal? cool..
we sit down and u order mine first..it arrives and I'm sitting thinking "this coffee taste of shit"
I stand up and say "sorry the coffee wasnt really for me, cheerio"
aint that rude?-same principle really..I broke an agreement
Your analogy was rude, but it doesn't reflect the situation at all, first of all cos I'm talking about aesthetics not test driving. So if you want to use coffee, you'd be better off saying if you looked at the coffee and said it wasn't what you were looking for in a hot drink (no need to go into details about how the cup's too big or too small or too milky or too dark) rather than flouncing off from the table then that wouldn't be rude.
Also to add to your analogy I wouldn't be sitting with you at a coffee table, it's more comparable to me sitting at one end of a room and 500 other people filling the rest of the toom, all showing me the coffee they've so thoughtfully brought for me, I ain't gonna drink them all and I sure as sh*t can't afford to buy them all coffee so I filter on face pics and chat.
One thing that you've not considered though is the fact that I've never agreed to buy any of the 500 people a coffee.
So I never give anyone the impression that I'll send a face pic back and I openly tell people that if I think they look like our kind of playmate then I'll send a pic back. One thing we do with everyone is reply though so most people are pleased I've had the decency to respond, they're never put out cos I didn't want to share my face pic. It's like another posted has said, it's a bit like saying "this is what you could have had" and I don't like doing that to people.
R x
same again, if U had agreed to the way the OP has termed it, u wouldnt send a face pic back after agreeing to that itself?
I'm finding it hard not to see why people think its good to break an agreement thats all.. not really interested if they didnt like the peoples pic, or if they have issues sending their pic that they would have sent otherwise.
I'm not also viewing this from a single guys viewpoint, but from any group that uses the site
or do we need fab to send a mutual facepic filter button thingy?"
You've got to think that 'agreements' on fab are a pretty grey area. As a few of us have said we've never made such an agreement but I dare say that some people believe they have made an agreement when in fact they haven't.
So I don't know anyone on here who would knowingly break an agreement, but perhaps as in OPs case the other party weren't aware there was a supposed agreement at all.
I think as a rule, women are a lot more guarded over pics. There's been a couple of times Jonny's sent our face pics back to couples when replying and I wouldn't have if I was replying coz I didn't like the look of one if them. He thinks its fair, I don't.
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and as a few others have said, its about integrity...try not glossing over the fact some have agreed its 'bad practice'
I can only stand by my point cant I, on the basis that the pic sending was supposed to be mutual
In the OP's case I've just assumed its another couple, but I've seen the same practices happen alot over the years...and it does fuck lots of people off- as they have essentially given out a level of trust and expected it back
personally as previously stated, it doesnt bother me that much...but I'm not going to sit and say its good practice to make another party feel like theyve just sent something that was expected back...its called reciprocity.This can be followed up by effective communication stating preference.
all appears simple to me..I dont need to dress it up as anything else really. |
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