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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? |
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We don't meet assuming sex will happen but ofcourse if it doesn't, there is always a little disappointment, usually as so far, if it doesn't, it's because the chemistry isn't there and that's always a shame. |
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I am loving what's happening with a guy I've just met. We have agreed to take it slow so kissing and a bit of fondling is all we do . Fab meets tend to move too fast so it's so great to be taking it slow. It helps that he is a great kisser. |
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over a year ago
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Ooh _eli, that's a tough one! Spending the night with someone and just kissing could be very frustrating! And unless a very valid reason why nothing else is on the table, I can imagine a bit of a head fuck too (why don't they want me, what's wrong with me etc etc)
Good kissing can really stir the emotions, so keeping control maybe just too difficult! X |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
Not at all. If someone's not feeling it, they're not feeling it. Yes you might feel a little like urgh, but ultimately kissing is still really hot and if it's someone you have flirted with and wanted for a while, it's still a massive win.
I love sex, obviously, and get SO horny. But I do forget about how 'magical' it all was at the time a good day after with someone. I'll remember if it was good and what happened, but I have that mindset that I will get over it and it's not the end of the world of sex doesn't happen. It's rubbing genitals and feels great, but it's not winning a million. |
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I'm kind of a little denial junkie.
I almost like being put in situations where that's as far as things can go, and thriving on the frustration and wanting.
I think if the implication had been that there would be more, I would probably feel a little crushed. But if there was no expectation beyond hey let's see how it goes then I'd be happy enough to enjoy company and chemistry with nothing more than kisses. |
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Spending the night or just the evening?
If it’s the night, then I think a bit more than kissing is expected, but talking about it first helps. Smooches and naked spooning in bed can be rather lovely. |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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Another great question Meli!
I would be really clear before meeting what my lines were before meeting and what my hopes were.
I would want to know theirs too. What happens should be in the cross over of thier hopes and my hopes and which crosses neither of our lines.
It is unlikely that I am planning to spend the night with them if I haven't already met them either.
If thier lines were nothing more than kissing then ok, if that is all they ever wanted then probably going to end up more like friends for me though. |
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Another great question Meli!
I would be really clear before meeting what my lines were before meeting and what my hopes were.
I would want to know theirs too. What happens should be in the cross over of thier hopes and my hopes and which crosses neither of our lines.
It is unlikely that I am planning to spend the night with them if I haven't already met them either.
If thier lines were nothing more than kissing then ok, if that is all they ever wanted then probably going to end up more like friends for me though."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'd love this. Good kissing is incredible. It's hot, it's sexy and it's delicious. Yes, its going to give me tingles and leave me wanting much more but I'd be walking on air until then.
Its so underrated on here, everyone is in such a hurry to get naked and fuck. Which of course can be great but, I want slow seduction, I want to tease and be teased. I want that off the scale chemistry where kisses leave you breathless and I do want it to last all night.
To get lost in discovery of someone with only kisses is frankly beautiful.
And equally just because you've done the sex part, that's not to say you always have to. Think that's a bit of a misconception people have here.
One of my biggest fantasies involves just kissing and if it ever happens I think it will be glorious.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t feel meh about it, because I know that consent can be given and taken away at any time.
I’ve met up with people before with 100% intent to have sex, but then actually decided against it in the moment.  |
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
Kissing is fine by me, always feel if I'm kissed someone and we don't have sex that the next time we meet I'll be more relaxed.
Like kissing feels more intimate and a good starting point for things. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Is spooning aloud? If so a kiss would be sufficient…."
Of course it is. Spooning, cuddling, snuggling. Whatever you want to call it, that's fine. As long as spooning doesn't equal forking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
I think on a 1st meet kissing would be nice - I never go into a meet expecting any thing more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't see a situation where I'd be meeting someone from here, spending the night with them and just kissing. It's not why I'm here. If I arrange to spend the night with someone it's for sex. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We don't meet assuming sex will happen but ofcourse if it doesn't, there is always a little disappointment, usually as so far, if it doesn't, it's because the chemistry isn't there and that's always a shame. "
Ah this is interesting! I did wonder how couples would feel about it - I think it might be different because there's a different dynamic at play - if a couple met another couple and they just kissed all night... I'm not sure. There are soft swap couples but it would be taking the definition of that quite far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
Connection plus kissing leads to many wonders,all to do with the power of the mind.. dont expect nor assume. |
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We didn’t have sex the first time we met…but C had more orgasms on a first meet than any other time.
Sex isn’t the end game…penetration is just another part of sex but there’s amazing times to have before penetration.
Kissing for example is incredible when both of you are on the same page…
K
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had a meet where it was a good laugh, nice stroll and a kiss, defo happy with it ending as a kiss. Don’t expect sex on every meet "
I don't expect sex on every meet, but I would if I was spending the night with someone... otherwise I don't see the point in spending the night. I'd rather spend it on my own in my own bed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would depend why its just kissing...if they wanted to take it slow fair do's....but morning sex is the best, I love morning sex, its when I feel most connected to my partner and so yes, I'd feel a bit miffed (and frustrated). |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am loving what's happening with a guy I've just met. We have agreed to take it slow so kissing and a bit of fondling is all we do . Fab meets tend to move too fast so it's so great to be taking it slow. It helps that he is a great kisser. "
Oh Kat this sounds lovely! Not because of what's happening (although to me it sounds delightful), more because you're both happy to be going at that pace. Finding that compatibility is fantastic, I hope it continues going well for you. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmm, spending “the night” with them or an evening with them?
If the latter then, if they’re a great kisser, then an evening of cuddles and kisses can be awesome.
On a Fab meet - if we’ve committed to “overnight” with each other then I would guess we’d probably be at the point that the whole sex thing was kind of mutually agreed as something we’d both want (subject to the usual caveats that anyone is free to change their mind, of course!)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have had a meet where it was a good laugh, nice stroll and a kiss, defo happy with it ending as a kiss. Don’t expect sex on every meet
I don't expect sex on every meet, but I would if I was spending the night with someone... otherwise I don't see the point in spending the night. I'd rather spend it on my own in my own bed. "
^ well yes, what I was trying to say but put much more clearly!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi op
I met someone a few years back from here, kissing and fondling was all we did.
On a social I do not expect to jump to sex, no.
Its perfectly fine in my eyes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
Not at all kissing is good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We didn’t have sex the first time we met…but C had more orgasms on a first meet than any other time.
Sex isn’t the end game…penetration is just another part of sex but there’s amazing times to have before penetration.
Kissing for example is incredible when both of you are on the same page…
K
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Ditto.
When the mind is engaged many things can happen,beyond the limits once placed. |
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A kiss and a cuddle in a pub, at a bus stop, in the car....yes.
A night in bed? If there was no kissing, yes I could respect their wishes...but if they kissed me?
I hope I could kiss lust into them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn’t bother me at all
If fact I would just be happy with the company off someone to giggle and laugh with there’s so much more than sex
Sex is easy to get finding someone to spend time with that’s another matter
As yes beautiful I would be happy just to kiss you  |
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I've often said here that, typically, I chat to women for weeks and weeks and weeks, into months... by which time the language and dialogue has long transcended into the confines of sex and the mutual expectations and anticipations of sex.
Therefore I have a reasonable expectation that sex will occur, unless the rendezvous is for kisses / social / cake / cocktails etc.
I suppose the exception would be if either myself or the other person has a sudden change of mind. We would respect our consensual boundaries and then go our separate ways.
I didn't join Fab for knitting or to twiddle my thumbs or jerk off to the videos on here.
I'm here for the sex. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Ooh _eli, that's a tough one! Spending the night with someone and just kissing could be very frustrating! And unless a very valid reason why nothing else is on the table, I can imagine a bit of a head fuck too (why don't they want me, what's wrong with me etc etc)
Good kissing can really stir the emotions, so keeping control maybe just too difficult! X"
Completely aside - Little Beaver is such a cute name. 
Part of the enjoyment could stem from it being frustrating. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to feel about it at all! I was more curious (as ever) as to how others feel about. Good kissing really does stir the emotions doesn't it? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing?
Not at all. If someone's not feeling it, they're not feeling it. Yes you might feel a little like urgh, but ultimately kissing is still really hot and if it's someone you have flirted with and wanted for a while, it's still a massive win.
I love sex, obviously, and get SO horny. But I do forget about how 'magical' it all was at the time a good day after with someone. I'll remember if it was good and what happened, but I have that mindset that I will get over it and it's not the end of the world of sex doesn't happen. It's rubbing genitals and feels great, but it's not winning a million."
Aww Brucey! A not taking the pee reply  . I like it.
No it's not winning a million. That makes perfect sense, thank you. |
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Not at all. If the kiss was such that it invoked the desire for more then it's already cherished in itself.
I love to dwell in that fuzzy boundary where we savour and get lost in the moment. What does more even mean at that point? The concept is lost into the abyss. As we ebb and flow rhythmically upon the ocean of our emotional entanglement.
Damn Meli you've sent me on a memory spiral, I'm ruined again. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm kind of a little denial junkie.
I almost like being put in situations where that's as far as things can go, and thriving on the frustration and wanting.
I think if the implication had been that there would be more, I would probably feel a little crushed. But if there was no expectation beyond hey let's see how it goes then I'd be happy enough to enjoy company and chemistry with nothing more than kisses."
Ha, yes, I know this about you! We're quite similar in how we view certain things. Thriving on the frustration is a brilliant way of putting it, I might borrow that term. :D
Implications of more and for it to fall short? Yep, it's understandable why you might feel a bit crushed. I think that's when clear communication can come in to play - prevent any potential hurt and minimise overthinking that they're not attracted to you. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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Another great question Meli!
I would be really clear before meeting what my lines were before meeting and what my hopes were.
I would want to know theirs too. What happens should be in the cross over of thier hopes and my hopes and which crosses neither of our lines.
It is unlikely that I am planning to spend the night with them if I haven't already met them either.
If thier lines were nothing more than kissing then ok, if that is all they ever wanted then probably going to end up more like friends for me though."
Thank you Amber, that's very sweet. Sometimes I think out loud and wonder how others view topics.
I think if you're very transparent about how you think things will be, and they are also - that's the most important thing. Not what you do necessarily, more being on the same page. There's no set way to approach to Fab, as long as you do it with honesty and respect, that's all that matters really. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Personally I'd love this. Good kissing is incredible. It's hot, it's sexy and it's delicious. Yes, its going to give me tingles and leave me wanting much more but I'd be walking on air until then.
Its so underrated on here, everyone is in such a hurry to get naked and fuck. Which of course can be great but, I want slow seduction, I want to tease and be teased. I want that off the scale chemistry where kisses leave you breathless and I do want it to last all night.
To get lost in discovery of someone with only kisses is frankly beautiful.
And equally just because you've done the sex part, that's not to say you always have to. Think that's a bit of a misconception people have here.
One of my biggest fantasies involves just kissing and if it ever happens I think it will be glorious.
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Ah you write so beautifully and passionately on this topic Wyld, it's lovely to read!
I hope you are able to experience it, one day. It can be incredibly magical and intense, gives you that feeling of being unstoppable and leave you floating in a delightful combination of lust and happiness. I really should message him today. :D |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
Be honest . Depends why - body insecurity, a bit of a bratty streak that gets off on a hard cock not getting it’s way , or some kind of traditional approach to dating. It’s always best to be honest with people you’re sharing a bed with and they should understand
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A good sensual, passionate kiss fest is one of my favourite ever things.
We/I meet so rarely that just kissing might feel a bit disappointing, unless there's a second meet in the calendar very soon after. If that was the case, then an evening of kissing, nibbling, teasing, massaging, dry humping and general sensual loveliness would be heaven. That second meet would have to come round pretty quickly in order to resolve the pent up passion and desire though.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Also is it ever "just a kiss?" "
Yes if you're at a social and you've had a couple of tequilas and you think sure, I'll see if this person really is a good kisser.
Otherwise, no. It's more a nice little tagline that tickled me for personal reasons.  |
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If the chemistry is is good then only going as far as kissing would still be a great night for me. I love that tingle of electricity you feel in your lips that spreads through your body giving you butterflies in your tummy when you kiss someone you really want and feel a connection with. If its exciting, passionate and teasing, leaving you both knowing how much you want each other but not getting any further then I'm sure as hell going to want to meet up again and again, I want that chemistry, that feeling of passion and the excitement of waiting to see where things will go. It'd get me hooked and wanting more, if it was the same again on the next meet, if the butterflies are still there then I'm still going to want to do it all over again.
I wouldn't meet anyone with the expectations of sex on the meet simply because I need to feel comfortable with who ever I'm meeting before I'd do anything and I won't know if I'd feel that until I met them. Equally, I want them to feel comfortable with me too. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Let's see.
You're spending the night with someone from here. You're excited, the chemistry is good. Would you feel a bit meh if only kissing happened? Would a part of you expect sex to happen? Do you only entertain meeting people if sex is a sure thing? "
Meh? Nope.
Right now I'm missing any form of physical contact, so even just a hug would do just fine.
A
*anything else would equally be fine of course...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't expect anything more , would I secretly be a bit disappointed? probably.
I may wonder what the barrier could be if it's because they just wanted to get to know me better then that's actually kind of sweet and endearing.
Sometimes a kiss is enough though. |
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