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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How are you all feeling? I get burnt out and depressed a lot due to the job market being vicious. I wanna make sure if anyone gets beaten down that there’s a thread here for people to feel completely free to just vent or complain about absolutely ANYTHING! Much love to you all xxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look after yourself
Considering how vicious this place can be at times am often pleasantly surprised how helpful people can be on threads like this
Esp as most are complete strangers |
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Im diagnosed neuro divergent and it leads to some highs and some lows but theres already some threads about that running so I won't post too much about that here and now.
What I will say is look after yourselves and seek help and support when times get rough, keeping it to yourself is not the best way to deal with it.
When I was at my lowest, I told no body and it led to events putting me in hospital.
Dont leave it that late to seek help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have an awful lot going on and my mental health is best described as fragile at the moment. I am, however, proactive at trying to manage it...but it is draining at times constantly trying to pull yourself out the hole. I'm thankful for having the support I do.
Our inbox is always open to anyone who is needing someone to talk to, and sending big hugs to anyone who needs it right now
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have an awful lot going on and my mental health is best described as fragile at the moment. I am, however, proactive at trying to manage it...but it is draining at times constantly trying to pull yourself out the hole. I'm thankful for having the support I do.
Our inbox is always open to anyone who is needing someone to talk to, and sending big hugs to anyone who needs it right now
Mrs"
Sending hugs back |
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Right now? I’m at a complete loss and don’t know what to do.
Recently I got told that I shouldn’t buy a new car cause it’ll depreciate (like all things), but that on my money I should be living in poverty.
It’s made me feel like total sh*t and now it’s going over and over in my mind like everything I’ve worked towards doesn’t count.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly?
Kind of all over the place.
But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.
A"
Give it time. Glad you're still about and looking forward.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Honestly?
Kind of all over the place.
But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.
A
Give it time. Glad you're still about and looking forward. "
Thanks Lib.
I'll get there. I'm working on it.  
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I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly. "
I feel your pain. You'll get there eventually.
That's what I tell myself each morning.
Good luck. 
A |
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"I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly.
I feel your pain. You'll get there eventually.
That's what I tell myself each morning.
Good luck.
A"
Absolutely. Even when it’s right and a relief, it’s not always easy. And the admin nightmare of separating your lives… this should be outsourceable |
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I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.
Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.
My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.
Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.
My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health. "
Hope it does pass. Are you watching the all Ireland tomorrow |
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"I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.
Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.
My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health.
Hope it does pass. Are you watching the all Ireland tomorrow "
It will, these points will pass for everyone.
I'm not no, Gaelic sports isn't really my thing. Give me a Ireland Rugby game any day of the week mind. |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is. |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is. "
Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right now? I’m at a complete loss and don’t know what to do.
Recently I got told that I shouldn’t buy a new car cause it’ll depreciate (like all things), but that on my money I should be living in poverty.
It’s made me feel like total sh*t and now it’s going over and over in my mind like everything I’ve worked towards doesn’t count. "
Buy the car if you want to! Of course it counts, what do they know. It's your decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"
a lot of people feel like that sometimes.
Have you sought medical advise or therapy? |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.
Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time "
True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.
I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it. |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
a lot of people feel like that sometimes.
Have you sought medical advise or therapy?"
Been there and done it and never again, actually made me worse and screwed one of the best things in my life |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.
Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time
True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.
I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it. "
Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.
Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time
True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.
I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.
Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without "
CBT isn't for everyone, and medication helps... but I'm not a fan.
I mean like actual therapy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"
I get this. While I would be devastated I want to be told I have a life ending physical condition as would give me an acceptable end. |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
I get this. While I would be devastated I want to be told I have a life ending physical condition as would give me an acceptable end. "
I have serious lung conditions, I don't like the look of my future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm incredibly open about my mental health and my "disorder" (it's on my profile). It's easy to speak and give advice for others but sadly everyone is different.
Personally I have good days and I have bad days. Today is probably an off day, it'll pass.
My in box is always open if people want a chat on mental health.
Hope it does pass. Are you watching the all Ireland tomorrow
It will, these points will pass for everyone.
I'm not no, Gaelic sports isn't really my thing. Give me a Ireland Rugby game any day of the week mind. "
Would be the same but taking advantage of bbc showing it tomorrow to tune in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ex missus and kids are finally moving out this wkd, it’s been a year, she’s had house purchase fall through one after the other, we have lived separate lives in the same space it’s been horrific, there’s light at the end of the tunnel, my philosophy is keep going it gets better which it will, much love to all and you OP x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
I get this. While I would be devastated I want to be told I have a life ending physical condition as would give me an acceptable end.
I have serious lung conditions, I don't like the look of my future "
Sorry to hear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm tired, I know that. Some days I just want to be left alone and other days I want to be the life and soul of the party. I think I'm just a bit lonely sometimes, funny how you can be surrounded by people but not actually feel connected to anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's always shocking sometimes to read just how bad things have gotten for others. And that if we don't talk to someone - that might be us. So please talk if nothing else - I know the feeling that everything you say is negative. But it seems that everyone on this thread understands that perspective.
I've no filters on if anyone here wants to chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm tired, I know that. Some days I just want to be left alone and other days I want to be the life and soul of the party. I think I'm just a bit lonely sometimes, funny how you can be surrounded by people but not actually feel connected to anyone. "
That's a feeling think many know all too well |
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"Honestly?
Kind of all over the place.
But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.
A"
Good man ... might I throw a notion at you that has helped me ...
Stop trying to get back to yourself ,,, we never go back and what you gain from your struggles add to the version of you going forward. You are all your days good and bad and thats a positive |
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"Right now? I’m at a complete loss and don’t know what to do.
Recently I got told that I shouldn’t buy a new car cause it’ll depreciate (like all things), but that on my money I should be living in poverty.
It’s made me feel like total sh*t and now it’s going over and over in my mind like everything I’ve worked towards doesn’t count. "
Look for what need wasn't met that is stimulating these feelings ? |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate"
That can't be easy to feel as if you don't want to wake anymore ? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much."
How sad to hear.
It's not always having someone to talk to.
When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.
I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.
Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.
I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.
People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.
I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.
My condolences to you. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.
Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time
True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.
I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.
Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without "
Have you tried diet? Eat yourself better kind of thing.
I know my stomach problems play a big part in my panic and anxiety issues, and possibly the clinical depression.
There's a lot to digest *pun intended* when researching as there are so many different experts, but I think it's worth looking at.
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
That can't be easy to feel as if you don't want to wake anymore ? "
Can't remember the last time I looked forward to waking the next day |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
We all have days and times like that, personally I wouldn't take the pill of offered it right now.
Pain, frustration, Anxiety, stress what ever does pass. It's just shit while you're stuck in that storm.
Everyday is a step forward no matter how small that step is.
Yeah I've been suicidal since I was about 7, it's lasted a long time
True I've been anxious since I was the same and wanted to take that final step for a few years till I got help.
I guess its about how you manage these things as well isn't it.
Yeah CBT therapy and drugs didn't help me, I just do my best without
Have you tried diet? Eat yourself better kind of thing.
I know my stomach problems play a big part in my panic and anxiety issues, and possibly the clinical depression.
There's a lot to digest *pun intended* when researching as there are so many different experts, but I think it's worth looking at.
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I just eat what I fancy when I'm hungry, I don't do diets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly?
Kind of all over the place.
But I'm determined to get back to being 'me' and so far dicking around in here seems a good source of therapy.
A
Good man ... might I throw a notion at you that has helped me ...
Stop trying to get back to yourself ,,, we never go back and what you gain from your struggles add to the version of you going forward. You are all your days good and bad and thats a positive "
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"I separated from a partner a couple of months ago. We’re selling the house, I’m trying to find my new place in a horrible market, we sold our campervan (sob) and I’m staying at my parents.’ Mostly I’m good because it’s the right thing but it’s stressful at times and I feel a bit in limbo with my usual routines all gone and not able to establish new ones properly. "
One day, soon I hope, your whole body will sigh in relief. |
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"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.
How sad to hear.
It's not always having someone to talk to.
When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.
I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.
Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.
I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.
People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.
I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.
My condolences to you. "
I have to agree with this.
I got found one night about 10 years ago ready to take that last step so to speak.
10 years on I went on meds back in January for the first time and honestly the best thing I've done.
It isn't right for everyone but I'd recommend just trying everything that is offered to you and finding what works for you, your situation and you're brain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know where to start.
I'm lost,I'm tired,I don't know who I am anymore.
You wanna talk about it "
I wouldn't know where to start,but thank you for the offer. |
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Just wanted a place to log that my depression has taken a downward turn of late. Feeling lonely and disconnected with a mind that feels like it's getting into a darker place. Have enough to keep afloat at the moment, but bloody hell it's tough. x |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.
How sad to hear.
It's not always having someone to talk to.
When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.
I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.
Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.
I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.
People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.
I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.
My condolences to you.
I have to agree with this.
I got found one night about 10 years ago ready to take that last step so to speak.
10 years on I went on meds back in January for the first time and honestly the best thing I've done.
It isn't right for everyone but I'd recommend just trying everything that is offered to you and finding what works for you, your situation and you're brain. "
For some it's a stepping stone to recovery.
Some need them to gain the strength to deal with the life stresses at the time.
As the stress becomes less the need for them wanes.
My issues aren't because of life problems. I've always had terrible nerves and becoming physically ill made them worse.
Depression was a side effect of my nerve problems.
If something comes up that is mentally challenging I live inside my head for a while battling it there, keeping myself strong enough to deal with it.
There's an answer for every problem.
Don't be afraid to take the medication if offered.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I dreampt of the past was wonderful at the time but its filled my brain with what ifs"
I have a lot of what if moments that make my whole body burn with panic.
Replace them with something that had a positive outcome.
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My mental health is very up n down at the minute. I hav fybromyalgia and it's bin flaring up all the time. Which makes my mood low which makes the pain worse. Vicious circle. At the end of the day all I want is to snuggle up in someone's arms n forget all about it |
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"I'll be honest and say if someone said here's a pill if you swallow it you will fall asleep and never wake up again that I wouldn't hesitate
That can't be easy to feel as if you don't want to wake anymore ?
Can't remember the last time I looked forward to waking the next day "
It sound exhausting mate ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just heard on the local news about a charity match to raise awareness about men's mental health and how it's a major factor for men under 50.
This may be true but still annoys me as mental health and suicide thoughts don't have barriers regarding sex or age. It can hit anyone at any time. |
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"Just heard on the local news about a charity match to raise awareness about men's mental health and how it's a major factor for men under 50.
This may be true but still annoys me as mental health and suicide thoughts don't have barriers regarding sex or age. It can hit anyone at any time. "
Your not wrong . Thankfully there are supports out there now for all ages ... |
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"Just heard on the local news about a charity match to raise awareness about men's mental health and how it's a major factor for men under 50.
This may be true but still annoys me as mental health and suicide thoughts don't have barriers regarding sex or age. It can hit anyone at any time. "
Of course,but men have been conditioned for far too long to not talk about their feelings so getting the message across that it's OK to not be OK.. |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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"I dreampt of the past was wonderful at the time but its filled my brain with what ifs
I have a lot of what if moments that make my whole body burn with panic.
Replace them with something that had a positive outcome.
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its a fair call iv found shutting off my brain with mind occupying things helps i think ooops i thought damn it |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
"A mate has just shot himself because of it.Plenty of friends and family to talk to but it just got too much.
How sad to hear.
It's not always having someone to talk to.
When life's pressures become too much a mind gives up.
I'd have been there myself if I had the means at the time.
Fortunately for me, my husband rang my GP and got me an appointment straight away and I got medication that helped me.
I moved to a different medication that I've been on and off for two decades and use it when I feel I need it.
People are led to believe medication for anxiety, depression, phobias, panic etc are the Devil, but they saved my life.
I'd rather not have to take them, as they do have side effects, but I will until I expire naturally.
My condolences to you. "
Thank you.He had been at odds with the world for over twenty years,(he was 75).Found some peace now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello all. I know there's a few threads about on cynicism and positivity - if your mental health is low it can be hard to be a ray of sunshine. Some days it's just keeping your head above water - and that's an achievement! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.
The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.
If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.
So that's a positive. |
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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago
Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at |
"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.
The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.
If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.
So that's a positive."
Exactly how I felt in January, hope days become easier for you soon x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
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This is one of the main reasons I am still here, though I really don't want to be. |
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"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.
The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.
If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.
So that's a positive."
So sorry to hear that posh, you always seem upbeat and very popular in the forums. I won't be giving you any unsolicited advice, just know that you are not alone and you have friends. Always happy to chat to anyone struggling  |
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"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.
The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.
If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.
So that's a positive."
You make me smile regularly with your bants and your threads, Posh |
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"Hello all. I know there's a few threads about on cynicism and positivity - if your mental health is low it can be hard to be a ray of sunshine. Some days it's just keeping your head above water - and that's an achievement! "
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Keep moving some days is all we can hope for ... and that's ok . Don't beat yourself up for falling down ... remember its takes far more strength to keep getting up and thar strength is truly honorable |
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Real bad, self inflicted but I have been scared of help as in therapies I can admit I've been toxic due to my MH but no excuse, I will be seeing my GP, seeking out charities to help and the friendships I've pushed away I hope to rebuild.
To anyone going through it, you've made it through your darkest days thus far so you can do this.
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The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now |
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"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.
The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.
If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.
So that's a positive."
NSP please please find some help. You shouldn't be living with so much pain. |
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"Apologies if this pisses y’all off
I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work
I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months "
It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen. |
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"Apologies if this pisses y’all off
I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work
I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months
It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen. "
I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something
I hate myself for it |
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"Apologies if this pisses y’all off
I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work
I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months
It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.
I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something
I hate myself for it "
Hey mate
Sorry to butt in but you are on a healing path, you will have things that still trigger you and make you feel down. Just try and change how you see the critiques.
Someone recommended a book to me called self coaching 101 that shows how to do that, let me know if you want me to send you a link to it mate.
Also hope you don't suffer alone, reach out
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"My mental health is in the toilet. I hate myself, hate my life and the world and the future scare the hell out of me.
The only good thing in my life are my dogs, a couple of really amazing people and my nephews. And I haven't spoken to my nephews in a while.
If I didn't feel so guilty about the pain I'd cause the few people who love me, I'd probably not bother being here.
But while I am, I'm going to carry on trying to make others smile.
So that's a positive."
Are you okay lovely? You are a lovely person definitely one of the nice ones on here. We have chatted privately before! If you need a chat I'm only a message away. Big hugs XOX |
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"Apologies if this pisses y’all off
I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work
I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months
It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.
I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something
I hate myself for it "
Words are so powerful but they are just words. Look for something good to hang onto. Feel free to talk to me. |
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"Apologies if this pisses y’all off
I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work
I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months
It doesn't piss me off but it does hurt my heart please try and get some help. You CAN beat this and your life CAN get better. I've seen it happen.
I am getting help but it seems that whilst I think I’m on the right track I end up at my lowest when I get criticised for something
I hate myself for it
Words are so powerful but they are just words. Look for something good to hang onto. Feel free to talk to me. "
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"Apologies if this pisses y’all off
I tried 3 times to commit suicide but it didn’t work
I’ve been going through this shite over 18 months "
Why do you feel you need to apologize for saying how you've had to struggle? |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now "
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over? |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over? "
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything "
Ok ... so you feel like you deserve less in life because you arnt working ?
It can't be easy to feel like you don't deserve any joy . |
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"Men’s mental health will never be accepted in this world and if there is that’ll be a minority of people who might understand what us men go through "
Coming in late here but very sorry to hear you've been having such a hard time.
It's SO much tougher for men to gain empathy, support, help. But there are people here and in real life who do get it. Do you struggle with gaining acceptance in real life? |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything "
Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work! |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything
Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!"
Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that |
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Isn't it scary how many of us are struggling at the minute. Life is meant to be easier these days. But I feel it's getting worse. Be it money job relationship or medical reasons. I think the good thing is that we can talk on here to complete strangers |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything
Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!
Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that "
It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so. |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything
Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!
Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that
It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so. "
Fair play to you for trying so hard and sending out so many CVS. I'm going to play devil's advocate a little and I hope it helps.
If you have sent out hundreds of CVS in a couple of weeks chances are you are applying to many jobs that don't suit you and that you are not suited. I also noticed that you said it only takes a couple of minutes which gives me the indication you aren't researching each company and providing them with a personalized informed open letter.
I would advise that you spend some time looking at some interview and application tips online and personalize each job application to each job genuinely.
In terms of the deflating factor of trying for so many jobs. Give yourself a break
you're doing an awful lot of work and frankly it is far harder to keep trying for jobs then it is to coast through life.
Put somebody you care about in your shoes and tell me what advice would you give them right now? |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything
Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!
Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that
It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so.
Fair play to you for trying so hard and sending out so many CVS. I'm going to play devil's advocate a little and I hope it helps.
If you have sent out hundreds of CVS in a couple of weeks chances are you are applying to many jobs that don't suit you and that you are not suited. I also noticed that you said it only takes a couple of minutes which gives me the indication you aren't researching each company and providing them with a personalized informed open letter.
I would advise that you spend some time looking at some interview and application tips online and personalize each job application to each job genuinely.
In terms of the deflating factor of trying for so many jobs. Give yourself a break
you're doing an awful lot of work and frankly it is far harder to keep trying for jobs then it is to coast through life.
Put somebody you care about in your shoes and tell me what advice would you give them right now?"
I’m not good at advice. I can’t say that I’m in any position to give any advice haha. I can write cover letters but they’re not often massively effective. |
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One thing to get off my chest is I have a friend that's sweet kind and very pretty yet she's appearing like she's stuck with this narcassist controlling stalker guy when she's not.
She doesn't live with him, she lives with her mum and he lives outside London they just happen to share her car.
She told me when she was younger she was nearly sectioned for trying to end her life, we went to watch a bit of karaoke and he turns up 1am when it finished calling her to ask where she is but all along he was behind us on the phone.
He tells me to go home and I just asked him take her home safely. She calls my phone crying that he doesn't love her and she felt as though he was trying to make her reach breaking point so she was going to the hospital
As a friend I want to inform police she's said no its between her and him so in other words mind my business is what she's saying but she's not doing anything about it.
A partner is someone to uplift you and grow with not tear you down. I decided I will visit her at her mum's but I won't go out anywhere with her its fucked up he shows up everywhere she goes to enjoy herself and doesn't go anywhere with her  |
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"The thing is I want to live but sometimes I forget that and I just switch off and forget everything and just be selfish and try something stupid
I hate myself for it I’ve been struggling for 18 months now
Sounds like you really want to enjoy life , however at times other feelings take over?
I’m struggling to find work at the moment and it makes me feel like I don’t deserve to enjoy anything or do anything
Can you reward yourself for every job applied for? Applying for jobs IS work!
Agree with this. When I was looking, I thought every waking moment had to be used to job hunt and I wasn't allowed to spend time doing anything else. I told this to someone at a job agency who was helping me and got told off. You are still entitled to do things for you and enjoy yourself, please don't feel guilty for that
It takes 10 seconds to apply for jobs that’s not the problem but I never hear anything back. I’ve had my CV reviewed by business owners and people in recruitment but I still don’t get anything back. I’ve applied for hundreds in this past 6 weeks or so.
Fair play to you for trying so hard and sending out so many CVS. I'm going to play devil's advocate a little and I hope it helps.
If you have sent out hundreds of CVS in a couple of weeks chances are you are applying to many jobs that don't suit you and that you are not suited. I also noticed that you said it only takes a couple of minutes which gives me the indication you aren't researching each company and providing them with a personalized informed open letter.
I would advise that you spend some time looking at some interview and application tips online and personalize each job application to each job genuinely.
In terms of the deflating factor of trying for so many jobs. Give yourself a break
you're doing an awful lot of work and frankly it is far harder to keep trying for jobs then it is to coast through life.
Put somebody you care about in your shoes and tell me what advice would you give them right now?
I’m not good at advice. I can’t say that I’m in any position to give any advice haha. I can write cover letters but they’re not often massively effective. "
I think you're deep into applying for jobs and it's hard to recognise that it does affect your self-esteem hugely. Every time you don't get a reply. Every time you get a negative reply. Every time the interview is unsuccessful. If you also don't allow yourself "time off" you're punishing yourself for the situation. Instead of nourishing your battered ego doing things that make you feel better. Because you deserve that. |
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