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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Turned you down didn't I 
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually mention that I'm off to see one of my harem and that often kills it dead. Most men what you to themselves.
If they seem ok with that I just leave them unread for a good week or two...actually I do that to everyone because I ignore my inbox a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Talking about my hairy toes usually does the trick  "
I had to look didn't I.
So unless the photo of 11 October 2020 was following a shave, I assume that during lockdown your toe hair must have sprouted! 
Now, if you really want to be turned off, let's start talking about nostril hair (No!No!) or ear hair (talking Vince Cable here)  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff."
This explains why you keep changing the conversation to food  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Talking about my hairy toes usually does the trick
Some people like that... "
Now hairy backs are quite repulsive - unless you need a rug in the winter. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't mind coming across as a dick tbh. I have no issues turning people down. Same as I get turned down myself and just shrug.
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Me either, apparently some people struggle with it though. Embrace the bitchiness I say!!! |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff.
This explains why you keep changing the conversation to food "
Remember that time I showed you my crumpets. A bit like that yes. |
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"Do men turn women down???"
Yeah, we do. Well I do anyway. Can’t speak for my whole gender.
I don’t ghost any conversations, but I’ll steer them away from the filth if that’s not what I’m looking for. Or I’ll leave replying until the next morning, when the horn’s unlikely to still be there.
To be fair though, most times I welcome a bit of friskiness in my box. Just not *all* the time. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I tell them. My words depend on what they're saying.
I was recently contacted by someone I didn't meet from here who went quiet after I'd seen him a few times. He'd popped back up on the app I'd met him on.
He'd moved, got a new job, found and lost a girlfriend and saw me on the app so asked for my number.
I told him I'm not engaging in sex chat and when he started talking about the things we did I told him he's boring me, I don't want to that kind of conversation for him to wank over. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff.
This explains why you keep changing the conversation to food
Remember that time I showed you my crumpets. A bit like that yes. "
They were good crumpets though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell them about your recent bowl moments
Again, some people are into this.
I'm not judging but you're into some weird stuff  "
Weird is good though right?? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"If it is on here then I will probably realise that it _isn’t_ a couple or single lady that I am actually talking to and just block them.
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3.33333% chance it is a woman! Some of them think nothing but filth 24/7 |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff.
This explains why you keep changing the conversation to food
Remember that time I showed you my crumpets. A bit like that yes.
They were good crumpets though"
They were good! No crumpets today though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to feel a bit bad because I wouldn't want them feeling bad about themselves if I told them I wasn't interested. I know we all have preferences and I'm entitled to them too, but it still doesn't feel good to let people down if they're being friendly and flirty with me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to feel a bit bad because I wouldn't want them feeling bad about themselves if I told them I wasn't interested. I know we all have preferences and I'm entitled to them too, but it still doesn't feel good to let people down if they're being friendly and flirty with me "
Take one for the team? |
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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lol no men never turn down anyone. We will all shag anyone with a pulse of course.
I find online version of Just a Minute works well with Hesitation, Repetition and Deviation. Just keep asking about the weather a few times usually works. |
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By *_J111Woman
over a year ago
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To start with I would just not put multiple kisses or flirty emojis in my messages if I am not into them sexually and if they push it then I am just honest and tell them that I am happy to chat as friends but I am not interested in it being anything more than that.
MJ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have turned woman down. If I don’t feel comfortable with the way a chat is going or I don’t feel that we are a good match then I will tell them.
Sometimes it can be that the written word doesn’t have sentiment but on the whole o think you just get a feeling.
I won’t meet people I don’t feel I would get along with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the conversation dries up and they have not asked to meet me then I take it as a "not interested". Its extremely rare that I fab or wink so if I do then that's my come on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to feel a bit bad because I wouldn't want them feeling bad about themselves if I told them I wasn't interested. I know we all have preferences and I'm entitled to them too, but it still doesn't feel good to let people down if they're being friendly and flirty with me
Take one for the team?"
Bruh...  |
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" To start with I would just not put multiple kisses or flirty emojis in my messages if I am not into them sexually and if they push it then I am just honest and tell them that I am happy to chat as friends but I am not interested in it being anything more than that.
MJ x"
FAF  xxxxxxx |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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I think it's very different for women to men to be honest.
My general assumption is women are gonna give less of a shit if you've been flirty but don't progress because they will have 100 other men they could message and try again.
If a woman's flirted with a guy and then says no or stops my guess is most are gonna have a tantrum about it.
Long story short, I can't help. But telling them straight without being like now I've seen that face it's a no (brutal!) is the best way to go I think! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If it's someone I'm not interested in, I'll politely ignore it and focus on other parts of their message. And do that repeatedly until they get the idea. I love talking to people but it's very rare I get that grrr feeling until I've met them in person.
I don't mind a bit of friskiness but I do joke around a little bit if I feel it's becoming a bit too sexual if that makes sense?
I don't think I'm very flirty generally so I don't tend to give out mixed signals. In my mind anyway. :D |
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff."
^ This.
Except I haven’t turned you down yet OP |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff.
^ This.
Except I haven’t turned you down yet OP "
Oh you will |
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"Turned you down didn't I
Never really had it happen with somebody I'm not really interested in anyway.
I just don't respond in any kind of frisky way. Just direct the convo back toward none frisky stuff.
^ This.
Except I haven’t turned you down yet OP
Oh you will"
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"If it's someone I'm not interested in, I'll politely ignore it and focus on other parts of their message. And do that repeatedly until they get the idea. I love talking to people but it's very rare I get that grrr feeling until I've met them in person.
I don't mind a bit of friskiness but I do joke around a little bit if I feel it's becoming a bit too sexual if that makes sense?
I don't think I'm very flirty generally so I don't tend to give out mixed signals. In my mind anyway. :D"
I also do the ignoring the sexual or flirting part of the message and respond to the rest.
Sometimes they get bored and wander off; sometimes they carry on chatting-which may result in a little flirting down the line.
It takes me quite some time to warm up to some people.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If it's someone I'm not interested in, I'll politely ignore it and focus on other parts of their message. And do that repeatedly until they get the idea. I love talking to people but it's very rare I get that grrr feeling until I've met them in person.
I don't mind a bit of friskiness but I do joke around a little bit if I feel it's becoming a bit too sexual if that makes sense?
I don't think I'm very flirty generally so I don't tend to give out mixed signals. In my mind anyway. :D
I also do the ignoring the sexual or flirting part of the message and respond to the rest.
Sometimes they get bored and wander off; sometimes they carry on chatting-which may result in a little flirting down the line.
It takes me quite some time to warm up to some people.
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Yes, I'm exactly the same Nanna. I do enjoy flirting with some people but it takes me time to get to that point. I feel awkward if it's... almost unexpectedly thrust at me. Unless I'm ovulating and I really shouldn't respond to any messages. |
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"Oh and I have turned a couple of women down with varying levels of ‘how fucking dare you - you shallow prick!’ As a response … apparently some women handle q polite no thanks as badly as the men. "
Experienced this myself, and if you've seen what I'm working with externally, I can't afford to be shallow |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"If it is on here then I will probably realise that it _isn’t_ a couple or single lady that I am actually talking to and just block them.
3.33333% chance it is a woman! Some of them think nothing but filth 24/7"
Sorry. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I knew there was a reason I don't read my messages...
I just assume everyone realises I'm not actually meeting anyone and if they steer the conversation to the saucy areas... I tend to say something like "that's nice dear". Apparently that ruins an erection |
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"I knew there was a reason I don't read my messages...
I just assume everyone realises I'm not actually meeting anyone and if they steer the conversation to the saucy areas... I tend to say something like "that's nice dear". Apparently that ruins an erection "
Ooooffft……ahhhhhhhhh - not always!! |
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"...How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???"
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Yes they do. At least I do anyway. I'm going through a shortlist now and this will invariably require some letters of regret and disappointment.
I can always offer them to Rose Tinted Glasses as a form of recompense.  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I knew there was a reason I don't read my messages...
I just assume everyone realises I'm not actually meeting anyone and if they steer the conversation to the saucy areas... I tend to say something like "that's nice dear". Apparently that ruins an erection
Ooooffft……ahhhhhhhhh - not always!! "
Aww man!
What about "ok, jolly nice to hear from you" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Start talking about another man, they generally don't like the competition or they want you all to themselves. "
Unless he’s a cuck and then you’ve just turned him on even more. |
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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just block them that normally does the trick  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I think I’m quite good at deflecting the flirty comments and changing the subject in the hope that they eventually get the message. "
Now you have just admitted it and they will see it as a challenge now. Commence with the bombardment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’m quite good at deflecting the flirty comments and changing the subject in the hope that they eventually get the message.
Now you have just admitted it and they will see it as a challenge now. Commence with the bombardment "
I’m pleased you think people like me enough to do that |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I think I’m quite good at deflecting the flirty comments and changing the subject in the hope that they eventually get the message.
Now you have just admitted it and they will see it as a challenge now. Commence with the bombardment
I’m pleased you think people like me enough to do that "
I do. I'm just lazy so won't be doing it. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I'm thick, it never occurs to me that they might be flirty. When I say I thought we were chatting as friends they disappear.
#wethole"
It could be the sexy face pics you send that get them all worked up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thick, it never occurs to me that they might be flirty. When I say I thought we were chatting as friends they disappear.
#wethole
It could be the sexy face pics you send that get them all worked up. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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I turn people down if they query things more than once or go back on their word or seem fake  |
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
I turn people down if they query things more than once or go back on their word or seem fake "
What did you say |
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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speaking honestly I had to turn down a friend once whom I'd briefly seen previously, when I said its better we remain friends, she grabbed my erect penis! twice!
True story. A man actually turned down sex. There must be summat wrong with me
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There's a simple answer as in just own it:
'I don't feel that way about you, sorry.'
But then it's a grey area sometimes? Rules are great until you actually need them.
It's like I can see you are hot. I like the way you handle yourself. But all of that is just an idea in my head, a reflection. I don't really know you. So for me, sexual attraction hasn't had the chance to form.
So yeah I am often in a position where women get a lil 'frisky' and I'm not feeling it. I guess it's turning down in the moment, but it doesn't mean I am never going to feel it. If I have to, I explain that. Some take it better than others.
It's openness too. If it's just a bit of fun, both are aware it's a bit of fantasy, like this doesn't mean it's going to happen. You can't know without trying sometimes. And that can go either way.
There you go problem solved, cleared that all up for you. |
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Just say sexy talk isn’t for us if we aren’t feeling it.
We don’t really chit chat on here though - so it doesn’t really happen.
Don’t have time to mess about and keep people interested - they are either in the sexy chat bracket or not 
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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I turned down more offers than I've accepted on here usually because our definitions of chatting for "a while" are vastly different.
I'm always polite but if they persist I become less mannerly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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I just slow the conversation down between replies tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not having had the opportunity to turn anyone down, that’s hard to say. Also, I tend to be the one getting occasionally frisky, although I try to keep it in check….
More than one woman of whom my aim was solely to get in her pants has evolved into just a chat buddy …….. |
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"If you're the friendly type, message anyone kinda thing, then that other person starts getting a lil frisky. How do you turn them down without coming across a total dick?
Do men turn women down???
Obviously this isn't for me, I don't talk to people.
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I couldn't possibly say. I've not had a woman get frisky with me for quite a while. I live in hope though!
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