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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Or words to that effect - faf counts. Barely. Saying I like you to someone. Is it something you can do easily? Would you rather someone made the first move or are you happy to do it?"
Happy to flirt with anyone I want and let them know they are hot.
How they go from there really makes up my mind if I actually fancy them or would ever want to meet.
But yes, I tell people easily! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I can be a tad stand offish at times.
I definitely hold back a lot more now, but I think the guys I like know I like them, possibly.
I don't get over gushy about it all though, I'll say it once and that's it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the relationship and stuff
Ie if it’s a total stranger then we’ll that’s easy to say as if you get knocked back then you don’t have to see them again
If it’s something that could potentially end a friendship or make things awkward then no it not grate at that
I tend to just bury those feelings deep inside with suttle hints in gifts or compliments hopeing the person picks up on it and they take the first step |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Or words to that effect - faf counts. Barely. Saying I like you to someone. Is it something you can do easily? Would you rather someone made the first move or are you happy to do it?
Happy to flirt with anyone I want and let them know they are hot.
How they go from there really makes up my mind if I actually fancy them or would ever want to meet.
But yes, I tell people easily!"
If someone read this to me, I'd know it was you Brucey.  That's a compliment! Please don't think otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t really struggle telling people I have feelings for them. Don’t care who says it first. I think anyone older than 18 is entirely too old to be playing coy hard to get games. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Err... I'm OK at saying it online but in real life no bloody chance... my mouth goes drier than the Sahara  "
Oh real life feels very real doesn't it? They're right there. You can read their body language in a way virtually wouldn't afford you. Completely understand this. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think I can be a tad stand offish at times.
I definitely hold back a lot more now, but I think the guys I like know I like them, possibly.
I don't get over gushy about it all though, I'll say it once and that's it. "
As long as they know and you want them to, that's all that matters isn't it? You don't need to gush over them on a daily basis for it to be valid. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?"
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim. "
It is all part of over thinking/overactive mind! Brain just gives all sorts of ideas.
Most of mine make little sense to be fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim. "
You first. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim.
You first."
 Fine. Sometimes, very rarely my Aldi version of a muse inspires me. Sometimes it's just random thoughts. Other times I'm curious as to how others view something.
Your turn. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
I find it difficult to say unless someone has said it to me. But... I do also have a propensity for word vomit. So I've been known to blurt that shiz out.
Then I have to hide, change my entire identity and start over  |
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Someone said it to me the other day. I was a little shocked, but appreciate they're being clear.
I don't usually say it outright, I usually just think it's obvious if I do.
Should I start saying it? |
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"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim.
You first.
Fine. Sometimes, very rarely my Aldi version of a muse inspires me. Sometimes it's just random thoughts. Other times I'm curious as to how others view something.
Your turn."
I do enjoy your questions _eli. And find my answer evolving and changing as I think more about the response.
Your questions are like having counselling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never really that forward. My flirting isn't the best either.
I'm not keen on rejection so just hint badly, hope they then either pick up on it and give me something to go on or feel sorry for me and take the lead in the initiation. |
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"Or words to that effect - faf counts. Barely. Saying I like you to someone. Is it something you can do easily? Would you rather someone made the first move or are you happy to do it?"
I dont like anyone I hold everyone with thr same amounts of contempt and disdain.....( jokes but the way before ppl get butt hurt)...
Despite thr fear of embarrassment and rejection, ill put it out there that I like someone, and understand that it's ok for them not to like me back, it does t actually mean anything about me, only if i make it mean something about me |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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"Or words to that effect - faf counts. Barely. Saying I like you to someone. Is it something you can do easily? Would you rather someone made the first move or are you happy to do it?"
Generally yes. Only if I think it could impact an existing relationship do I hesitate.
If I tell you I fancy you. Don't panic. You can say you are not interested I will be ok.
No it doesn't mean I am falling in love with you.
If you fancy me back please verbalise that. I suck at signals.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim.
You first.
Fine. Sometimes, very rarely my Aldi version of a muse inspires me. Sometimes it's just random thoughts. Other times I'm curious as to how others view something.
Your turn."
What makes him (or her - could be a her) an Aldi muse? Are they good value? Surprisingly tasty? Do you like browsing their middle aisle?
My approach to women is very Charles from Four Weddings. I feel comfortable being uncomfortable. |
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Hmmm. Yeah, I tell people they're hot/I like them quite easily (really easily online!), but I know I can be quite circumspect/understated so might not be as fulsome in telling people as others are!
How quickly I'd act on it is another question - I'm definitely a slow burn on that front... |
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I used to find it hard to tell a girl I liked her. After 14 years of marriage followed by divorce, I seem to have lost the shyness 
Life's too short, just let it out. That should be a site slogan... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I like the build up.
The tentative, shy, flirty, suggestive chatter. The beating about the bush. The 'do they or dont they' anticipation.
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Does that make me a romantic or a tease? |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"I think I like the build up.
The tentative, shy, flirty, suggestive chatter. The beating about the bush. The 'do they or dont they' anticipation.
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Does that make me a romantic or a tease? "
Good at it is what it makes you! Do you give lessons?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am outgoing but if I fancy someone. Usually I don't say anything apart from some flirting. Not used to making the first move. Been disposed off too many times in rl. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Someone said it to me the other day. I was a little shocked, but appreciate they're being clear.
I don't usually say it outright, I usually just think it's obvious if I do.
Should I start saying it?"
No, do what feels best. Sometimes it doesn't have to be said does it?
You can kind of tell (sometimes!) when someone does; you don't need to always shout it to the world. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Or words to that effect - faf counts. Barely. Saying I like you to someone. Is it something you can do easily? Would you rather someone made the first move or are you happy to do it?
I dont like anyone I hold everyone with thr same amounts of contempt and disdain.....( jokes but the way before ppl get butt hurt)...
Despite thr fear of embarrassment and rejection, ill put it out there that I like someone, and understand that it's ok for them not to like me back, it does t actually mean anything about me, only if i make it mean something about me "
That's such a well adjusted approach to it - I really like that Ghandi. I think there can be a big fear of rejection, even on here, sometimes it's worth saying fuck it and going for it isn't it? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Where do you get these ideas from, OP?
I'm not sure truth be told. Good question.
My endless curiosity about the human psyche perhaps. I'll have a think, you can always answer my op in the interim.
You first.
Fine. Sometimes, very rarely my Aldi version of a muse inspires me. Sometimes it's just random thoughts. Other times I'm curious as to how others view something.
Your turn.
What makes him (or her - could be a her) an Aldi muse? Are they good value? Surprisingly tasty? Do you like browsing their middle aisle?
My approach to women is very Charles from Four Weddings. I feel comfortable being uncomfortable."
Love browsing their middle aisle - you never know what unexpected bollocks you can find there that you didn't know you needed in your life.
You are such a Charles. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Brilliant. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
I'm absolutely terrible at thelis and generally leave it to the other person. A lot of this is due to not believing the other person would be interested in me etc.
I think I'm good at showing interest without actually saying the words though  |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
I try to be fairly open about telling people I fancy them once we have some rapport, unless I feel it’s inappropriate and would either embarrass them or make them feel uncomfortable. |
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I find subtlety the best approach. Something that isn't going to make the other person uncomfortable or attract unwanted attention. A wolf whistle is my go to.
Seriously though. I am quite happy to tell someone. The first move is often a subjective thing though. I do like when you can't tell who that was, or even care.
I've definitely had experiences where I've been the first one to say it, but it's not even close to the first move. More a self-realisation: rabbit in the headlights moment |
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"Or words to that effect - faf counts. Barely. Saying I like you to someone. Is it something you can do easily? Would you rather someone made the first move or are you happy to do it?"
Does saying I fancy YOU work LOL |
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