FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Are single Dad's less appealing?
Are single Dad's less appealing?
Jump to: Newest in thread
Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Not at all. Infact sometimes it makes them more likely to understand my lack of time.
However some people might be put off because they want someone at evenings and weekends and I guess for some parents that's hard. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
You could speculate about so many reasons; it's an overthinking tunnel and waste of time. Maybe just try and see it as a positive early exit rather than disappointment later.
Kudos to you for sticking around for your kid(s).
Tones |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Not at all. Infact sometimes it makes them more likely to understand my lack of time.
However some people might be put off because they want someone at evenings and weekends and I guess for some parents that's hard. "
Thank you for replying, that makes total sense. Keep being a fab Mum!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
Hi OP,
I am in the same boat. It doesn’t effect meets on here and some finds it a bit attraction however on normal dating scene it’s a huge disadvantage as most single women in my age range for dating aren’t ready to be shared with my kids and wants their own kids as well. Single mums are hard to get due to extra complexity to sync dairies for meets. I realised I am staying single till kids leave home
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You could speculate about so many reasons; it's an overthinking tunnel and waste of time. Maybe just try and see it as a positive early exit rather than disappointment later.
Kudos to you for sticking around for your kid(s).
Tones"
I never thought of it like that, but that makes sense Thank you x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It's more to do with knowing you will have less free time to juggle with.
Those with out children would have more free time to juggle between friends away from swinging to playing time.
Don't see it as it being you being a dad its more about your free time is a little unpredictable unless you have schedules when you have free time its down to you to voice that across to others so they know xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It didn't put me off the other half. But what I would say it can make life more complicated. Trying to arrange things as two single parents is hard. Then there is the fact you're always attached to their ex via the child. My ex is generally fine my other half has not been and has tried to be destructive. So I guess if someone had a bad experience it could put them off, but I think it'll depend on the person.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Hi OP,
I am in the same boat. It doesn’t effect meets on here and some finds it a bit attraction however on normal dating scene it’s a huge disadvantage as most single women in my age range for dating aren’t ready to be shared with my kids and wants their own kids as well. Single mums are hard to get due to extra complexity to sync dairies for meets. I realised I am staying single till kids leave home
"
I feel your pain about syncing diaries mate, very true  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It didn't put me off the other half. But what I would say it can make life more complicated. Trying to arrange things as two single parents is hard. Then there is the fact you're always attached to their ex via the child. My ex is generally fine my other half has not been and has tried to be destructive. So I guess if someone had a bad experience it could put them off, but I think it'll depend on the person.
"
Thank you. It definitely makes life more complicated, as we'll always put our kids before our own needs. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing, I guess  x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It's more to do with knowing you will have less free time to juggle with.
Those with out children would have more free time to juggle between friends away from swinging to playing time.
Don't see it as it being you being a dad its more about your free time is a little unpredictable unless you have schedules when you have free time its down to you to voice that across to others so they know xx"
Absolutely true, thank you for this. They live with me too, so Mon-Fri is pretty much out of the equation. I'll keep plugging away though, Dad's need a life too x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
That's a shame. To be honest, I think it's a positive trait, because it shows that you're a good human being! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol
That's a shame. To be honest, I think it's a positive trait, because it shows that you're a good human being!"
Thank you  Easy to judge yourself and ask 'what am I doing wrong?' X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
No not at all, I'm a single parent so I would never judge someone else solely on that reason.
I'm surprised this is a factor on fab. Hope your luck turns.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"There's no difference, unless they are looking for a relationship and seeing that you have children is something that puts them off.
Very true... surely this site is all about fun? Ha ha "
Definitely for us, but there are some looking for more than fun. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm a single mum, Tallman and I don't live together, but we are a couple. I have to arrange things around my children, so I completely understand single dads and the difficulties they face. It would not put me off in the slightest. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Not less appealing at all. I'm guessing some just know that it can make arranging meets more difficult. "
Hi Op
I am with this poster.
Have a lovely day |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
hey keep plugging away you'll get where you wanna be in the end competition is good for the soul  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Well done OP.
You have managed to post a thread which seems to bring only positivity and sympathy for your situation.
The ladies are loving you.
I wonder would there be the same level of sympathy and understanding for attached dads playing solo who have similar difficulties in syncing diaries due to family commitments.
Asking for a friend..... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Well done OP.
You have managed to post a thread which seems to bring only positivity and sympathy for your situation.
The ladies are loving you.
I wonder would there be the same level of sympathy and understanding for attached dads playing solo who have similar difficulties in syncing diaries due to family commitments.
Asking for a friend....."
If the person playing solo is doing it without their partner's knowledge, then the answer will be no. But I suspect you know that already, and aren't really wondering.
Mrs TMN |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
Depends if they’re gonna walk round my house turning lights off and moaning about the leccy bill  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol
Depends if they’re gonna walk round my house turning lights off and moaning about the leccy bill "
Best answer yet... made me properly chuckle x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Your on here for fun don’t have to tell them everything about your life "
True ..not everything...but being a single Dad is gonna crop up at some stage in the conversation..no ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
Nowt wrong in single dads |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"There's a very handsome fuckable forumite who's a single dad. If he didn't live so far away I'd be all over him! Lol x
Ahhh shucks..l don't know what to say .....but l didn't put the lrish sea there 
PS..l know you didn't mean me but a guy can dream "
Haha OK, ok, I can include you too!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
•
Let the conversation fade. They are not worth pursuing. Focus on those rare gems who aren't fussed or constrained by your wonderful circumstances.
Good luck, Sirrah.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
Single dad here too (reprazent! reprazent!)
I reckon it will make a difference yes. It's hardly himbo studmuffin dreamboat stuff is it... but I'd rather be a dad and accept those compromises.
Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol
Single dad here too (reprazent! reprazent!)
I reckon it will make a difference yes. It's hardly himbo studmuffin dreamboat stuff is it... but I'd rather be a dad and accept those compromises.
Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.
"
"Hey hot stuff, just been looking at those bags under your eyes and awwww baby yeahhh I really wanna see you on your back in a big grubby sweatshirt, snoring like a rock tumbler. I've got eight inches of rock hard madeira cake and I'd love to cone round there and pop it in your microwave to see if it might be edible after 30 seconds on the defrost setting' |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *929Man
over a year ago
newcastle |
I can’t speak from experience but I’d imagine it makes no difference if both parties just looking for. Meet
I do reckon it puts us at a disadvantage if looking for a relationship though the bloke with no ties and more free time would be more appealing than us single dads I reckon |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol "
no. I find them much less pushy and more understanding of my limited availability
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Genuine question - I've had a number of conversations on here, but conversation always fades when I mention that I'm a single Dad. I just wondered if anyone understands this? Single Mums are amazing too, just for the record lol
Single dad here too (reprazent! reprazent!)
I reckon it will make a difference yes. It's hardly himbo studmuffin dreamboat stuff is it... but I'd rather be a dad and accept those compromises.
Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.
"
Love this idea!   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *apnDomMan
over a year ago
London |
Generally speaking: yes.
Of all the men to pick, why pick the one who is busy with a child?
Same with women really. If they have a child, they're less attractive.
This never means unattractive by default, just less. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Single dads seem to be quite appealing in the world of romantical dating though. You know, those places where people tell you they are Capricorn and deeply empathic and they do watercolour painting and they just want to find somebody called Mister Wonderful to snuggle up to, FOR EVER.
LITERALLY FOR EVER.
And you meet them and fusion occurs and then you're slowly absorbed into their molecular structure and assimilated into a massive boob of comfort, FOR EVER.
LIKE... PERMANENTLY FOR EVER |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"
Maybe there should be a FabParents site; a place for single parents to hook up and have a nap together.
Love this idea! "
Great Idea. Especially with option what you are looking for as ‘nap together’
I’ll join for sure |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Single dads seem to be quite appealing in the world of romantical dating though. You know, those places where people tell you they are Capricorn and deeply empathic and they do watercolour painting and they just want to find somebody called Mister Wonderful to snuggle up to, FOR EVER.
LITERALLY FOR EVER.
And you meet them and fusion occurs and then you're slowly absorbed into their molecular structure and assimilated into a massive boob of comfort, FOR EVER.
LIKE... PERMANENTLY FOR EVER "
And your mates ring the doorbell to ask you if you want to go and play skateboards in the underpass, and you're all like "nah I can't lads, I'm a massive boob now" so they abduct you in Morrisons one day and reverse the fusion process, and it's successful except you used to be 6'3" and now you're only 4'8" and they say "you can't afford to do that again mate" but you keep clicking the app anyway.
Those places do love a single dad. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
