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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you mean in general I think yes...
If you mean, based on meets from profiles and a quick online chat... 50/50. Online profiles a persona don't necessarily correlate to real life |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I'm normally a good judge of character in everyday life. But on fabs I get it wrong every time ?"
Every time!? That is actually fairly impressive. I am unsure whether to congratulate or commiserate you. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Yes and no
I sometimes feel I am naive and trust peoples word, I am learning to be better with it "
Choosing to trust someone and being let down by them is a reflection on them not on you. Or something like that. Apparently. Damn that therapist was £40 an hour I should have taken notes. |
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
southeast , midlands, southern France |
"I'm normally a good judge of character in everyday life. But on fabs I get it wrong every time ?
Every time!? That is actually fairly impressive. I am unsure whether to congratulate or commiserate you."
Commiserate probably  x |
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In general I always trust my gut instinct. I've never once been wrong when I initially judge someone negatively but it's not infallible and I've misjudged a couple of times when people where were initially ok turned out to be anything but.
On here it's exactly the same except the effort some people put into deception is off the scale.
You really can fool most of the people all of the time. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"If you mean in general I think yes...
If you mean, based on meets from profiles and a quick online chat... 50/50. Online profiles a persona don't necessarily correlate to real life "
You are right. My name isn't even Amber! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes and no
I sometimes feel I am naive and trust peoples word, I am learning to be better with it
Choosing to trust someone and being let down by them is a reflection on them not on you. Or something like that. Apparently. Damn that therapist was £40 an hour I should have taken notes."
£40/hour I’d need to spend thousands  |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.
You just think they are all pricks.
And am I wrong??"
I don't think you are wrong. But some pricks are fun too right? Or is that where I am going wrong? |
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On the whole I'm quite intuitive and have sufficient acumen when engaging with women who wish to meet. I've never had a bad encounter but have been wise enough to suppress any potential time-wasters, fantasists or those who simply fall foul of my caveats and conditions stated on my profile.
I had a recent 'near miss' — things simply didn't feel right with her apathetic demeanor and subtle breadcumbing tendancies. I culled that engagement immediately. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"In general I always trust my gut instinct. I've never once been wrong when I initially judge someone negatively but it's not infallible and I've misjudged a couple of times when people where were initially ok turned out to be anything but.
On here it's exactly the same except the effort some people put into deception is off the scale.
You really can fool most of the people all of the time. "
Sometimes effort pays off. Though I don't think this is what my mum meant when she said it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now a days yes in the past no learned my lesson the hard way
Good job on learning, how did you figure that out?"
By them hurting me over and over before saying anuff was a nuff |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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For the most part yes. I'm getting better at recognising what it is that brings me joy, surrounding myself with people who make me genuinely happy.
I'm also getting better at realising when I might be... not filled with joy at spending time with a person so I'm practising saying no more now.
I don't think I ever really know someone until I take the chance to learn them but on the same hand; I'm better at knowing when some thing will or won't work for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reckon I'm pretty good at judging people.
You just think they are all pricks.
And am I wrong??
I don't think you are wrong. But some pricks are fun too right? Or is that where I am going wrong?"
Oh no, some are very fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope, no and not at all 
Sorry it is unclear. Could you reply once more? Are you saying you have bad judgement?  "
Aha, that might be an understatement… but you live and learn |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Recently no.
But whatever... live in the moment and enjoy it."
This will be my new screen saver.
"Whatever... live in the moment and enjoy it" will be bouncing around my screen in the morning.
Nothing else has been bouncing this weekend so that might as well. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I'm incredibly lucky to be surrounded by genuinely fantastic people at Dangerous Curves nights at Kubs and Curvaceous Creatures at Purple Mamba, so yes, I absolutely am! Xx"
Are you in marketing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello OP.
Would you like to spend some time with me 
I am unsure if I trust my judgement. Let me get back to you at the end of this thread.  "
I’ll be waiting. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Most certainly without any doubt on and off the site. It's funny as I have loads of male friends off the site but more female maybe because I don't act like a creep nor am one "
No doubt? Don't speak, I know just what you're sayin. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"My judgement on ppl to meat is crap I always seem to choose ppl who I think are great turn out to be dick heads n looses with out a back bone"
So does that mean you should do the absolute opposite of everything you have been doing so far? |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Sometimes I'm right, sometimes I'm wrong. I don't know how you can judge character until you know someone a bit"
Absolutely. I always hope my initial assessment is correct but only time will tell. That or the newspaper headline. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"On the whole I'm quite intuitive and have sufficient acumen when engaging with women who wish to meet. I've never had a bad encounter but have been wise enough to suppress any potential time-wasters, fantasists or those who simply fall foul of my caveats and conditions stated on my profile.
I had a recent 'near miss' — things simply didn't feel right with her apathetic demeanor and subtle breadcumbing tendancies. I culled that engagement immediately."
Lazy on the keyboard was she? Can I get a copy of your culling message to save for future use? |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"Now a days yes in the past no learned my lesson the hard way
Good job on learning, how did you figure that out?
By them hurting me over and over before saying anuff was a nuff "
Fuck them. Good for you. They don't deserve that power. |
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My gut instinct generally serves me better than overthinking.
I tend to go with that, be myself and be open - Which leaves me predisposed to the best people for me and perhaps ironically at times in my life: the worst. Not that they are necessarily 'bad' people just not good for me.
I am not afraid to be hurt, which is kind of my saving grace. And I tend to own it when that happens and remind myself that it was my choice.
I trust that my experience hones my judgement and I don't beat myself up when the outcomes aren't the best. It's good but it's fallible, because well - I'm human. |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"For the most part yes. I'm getting better at recognising what it is that brings me joy, surrounding myself with people who make me genuinely happy.
I'm also getting better at realising when I might be... not filled with joy at spending time with a person so I'm practising saying no more now.
I don't think I ever really know someone until I take the chance to learn them but on the same hand; I'm better at knowing when some thing will or won't work for me."
Ah Meli, the voice of reason. The word 'no' can be a more exciting and joyful word than 'yes' sometimes. Especially when it is reflecting your own desires. Your reply has brought me joy.   |
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By *mber81 OP Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I’m desperate.
Show the slightest bit of interest in me and I’ll be your dog.
Good boy.
*pants*"
I have a big juicy bone for you.
I mean don't but this is fab so it shouldn't take too long to find one. |
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"On the whole I'm quite intuitive and have sufficient acumen when engaging with women who wish to meet. I've never had a bad encounter but have been wise enough to suppress any potential time-wasters, fantasists or those who simply fall foul of my caveats and conditions stated on my profile.
I had a recent 'near miss' — things simply didn't feel right with her apathetic demeanor and subtle breadcumbing tendancies. I culled that engagement immediately.
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Lazy on the keyboard was she? Can I get a copy of your culling message to save for future use?"
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Certainly. I have a repertoire of such responses. |
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