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Is social media healthy?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do people find them self spending too long on social media, I do include here as social media.
Does it actually “feed a need” or has it stopped you socialising and spending time with people as you can view their lives via a social platform?
For me I have learned I have to put my phone down and actually go and meet family and friends and not just interact via my phone.
With regards to places like Fab it seems to be that people will say things they may not face to face. Would people really walk up to someone and use their opening messages here as a first message to someone’s face?
Has social media and the phone killed or is killing off our social skills? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have any, doesn't interest me!
Comparison can ruin people, people compare themselves too much to what is on social media....all the models and savagely airbrushed pictures etc.
It's not healthy in that respect I don't think! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have fb and insta. Don’t go on either daily anymore as it’s such a time waster. Weirdly, even though it makes it easier to communicate with people I find you don’t bother! The feeds are full of adverts and shit you don’t wanna see. At least on here people actually talk!
As an aside, it’s all very unhealthy. Some struggle with comparison, leading to feeling like they’re failing or they’re not good enough because they don’t have xyz that everyone else seems to have.
We’re all pestered to buy stuff, spend money, do this and that when actually, we don’t need any of it |
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Like everything else social media is fine in moderation.
The problem is when it becomes an obsession.
We only ever add people we know well and like in real life. We segregate our social media as well. One platform for close friends, one for colleagues etc etc.
You are right though that many people are much more vocal online than they would be in person. The algorithms also lead people down rabbit holes or to more and more extreme views and into echo Chambers.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it all depends on whether your focus is on social, or media. I left all other SM as they all became too media, too broadcast for attention. The final straw (for me) was learning about some unforgivable behaviour of a someone I knew (now well). Fab is the only SM I use now apart from TikTok but on there I keep my circle very very small. |
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"Do people find them self spending too long on social media, I do include here as social media.
Does it actually “feed a need” or has it stopped you socialising and spending time with people as you can view their lives via a social platform?
For me I have learned I have to put my phone down and actually go and meet family and friends and not just interact via my phone.
With regards to places like Fab it seems to be that people will say things they may not face to face. Would people really walk up to someone and use their opening messages here as a first message to someone’s face?
Has social media and the phone killed or is killing off our social skills?"
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I have a like/hate relationship with social media.
I hate that my daughter is being brought up with social media as it is, fake news, trolls hiding behind keyboards, men who will flop their cock into any inbox regardless, dating is no longer dating it's sending nudes and sexting, living for likes and followers, getting attention online that isn't relatable in the real world can lead people to have unrealistic experience of what's out there, the public becoming judge & jury over any little thing reported regardless of whether it's true.
The only upside I have is I can keep in touch with family and friends that aren't close easily, I need it for business too otherwise I'd have deleted all of it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people find them self spending too long on social media, I do include here as social media.
Does it actually “feed a need” or has it stopped you socialising and spending time with people as you can view their lives via a social platform?
For me I have learned I have to put my phone down and actually go and meet family and friends and not just interact via my phone.
With regards to places like Fab it seems to be that people will say things they may not face to face. Would people really walk up to someone and use their opening messages here as a first message to someone’s face?
Has social media and the phone killed or is killing off our social skills?"
Stats show its not healthy worse yet to come with AI. it was meant as a tool. To send a message. Set up a date and meet.
Its gone very wrong!! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I have fb and insta. Don’t go on either daily anymore as it’s such a time waster. Weirdly, even though it makes it easier to communicate with people I find you don’t bother! The feeds are full of adverts and shit you don’t wanna see. At least on here people actually talk!
As an aside, it’s all very unhealthy. Some struggle with comparison, leading to feeling like they’re failing or they’re not good enough because they don’t have xyz that everyone else seems to have.
We’re all pestered to buy stuff, spend money, do this and that when actually, we don’t need any of it "
This 100000%
I can't recall the last time I looked at my personal FB. Got bored of endless random shite/what I'm having for dinner/I've been to the gym/look at my new pussy isn't it cute type bollocks from family and friends. Only reason I still have it is for business purposes because sadly for small businesses social media is a very necessary evil and essential to make money.
Insta? I haven't posted anything in months. Or looked at anything other than memes, fail videos and pygmy goat/otter/Donkey pages.
Fab is my primary source of interaction with others online.
Is it healthy? To me yes. Sure there's the hot heated debate but mainly its just random crap and entertainment, along with the chance to chat with friends as you would in a pub, make new acquaintances and vent when needed.
It's been a real boost to me of late and I'm eternally grateful to those I've been swapping messages with as they've helped me through a major life change. The positives far outweigh the negatives.
But that's my experience of course.
Others will differ and it can be hard for some to utilise and enjoy the virtual world of social media, forums included, just as much as many struggle face to face in social settings in real life.
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
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I honestly believe the social media is the devil in disguise. It's ruining relationships. Plus people don't interact with one another unless in through social media. I understand it has a place in our society , but some people
Have forgotten to talk on the phone or even meet face to face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We dumped all social media a few years ago, it's not just a tool for collecting your data and if you get your privacy settings wrong it's a good way for others to stalk you, even potential employers will look you up now. |
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"I honestly believe the social media is the devil in disguise. It's ruining relationships. Plus people don't interact with one another unless in through social media. I understand it has a place in our society , but some people
Have forgotten to talk on the phone or even meet face to face"
 and it's appaling to see when out and about parents constantly stolling their social media stuff rather than paying attention to their kids and what they are doing. |
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Let's face it, I grew up in a time when there were no phones in houses and maybe one on the street in large towns.
We thought nothing of walking a mile or two to knock on someone's door to ask them something and if it wasn't desperate for an answer or it was far away we wrote letters and waited a week for a reply.
We were mentally healthier that's for sure. |
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While I am at it.
Cos I grew up in that era , people FUCKING annoy me when they constantly text me with questions or pictures ..... ffs .. I am living my life STOP butting into my time and stopping me doing what I am doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly believe the social media is the devil in disguise. It's ruining relationships. Plus people don't interact with one another unless in through social media. I understand it has a place in our society , but some people
Have forgotten to talk on the phone or even meet face to face"
Ditto!! Worse yet to come! |
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"I honestly believe the social media is the devil in disguise. It's ruining relationships. Plus people don't interact with one another unless in through social media. I understand it has a place in our society , but some people
Have forgotten to talk on the phone or even meet face to face
and it's appaling to see when out and about parents constantly stolling their social media stuff rather than paying attention to their kids and what they are doing. "
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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I use FB quite a lot for promotional stuff for my band, etc. I rarely post anything personal on it, and I never look at the news feed page. I just pop onto my page, post, then leave. Twitter is linked to FB, so that repeats my FB posts, so I never log on to that. Don't have insta, and use Snapchat with a few workmates to take the piss out of the control-freak guy in our office. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you’re in a good place mentally social media can be great. It’s a good way to keep up with friends and keep up to date on things that are going on.
On the other hand if you aren’t in a good place it’s not always a great environment to be in. People spend too much time comparing themselves to others, not just physically but on materialistic things others have.
The oversharing some do on there is honestly crazy. It’s like nothing in their personal life is off limits and that can’t be healthy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have insta, just for hair pics and tutorials and Michael rosenbaums 'inside of you' and look at it 1 or 2 times a week if I can be bothered. I don't have Facebook anymore, that went 10 years ago. It became a bitch fest with my mates so removed myself from it and them.
I have here for a laugh, but also I like reading everyone's outlook on things.
I didn't grow up with mobiles, people used landlines or had face to face uninterrupted chats, my parents didn't grow up with computers and neither did I, and it worked for us. Mobiles are useful for emergencies, work purposes, for googling for research purposes but my opinion is social media brings out the worst traits in people, competitiveness and a form of bullying. Also an unhealthy look at the world. People under a certain age that walk with their eyes glued to the screen and miss actual life going on around them I find have a real attitude problem almost like we're in the matrix and what's on their phone is life and it must be true if its on social media. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I honestly believe the social media is the devil in disguise. It's ruining relationships. Plus people don't interact with one another unless in through social media. I understand it has a place in our society , but some people
Have forgotten to talk on the phone or even meet face to face
and it's appaling to see when out and about parents constantly stolling their social media stuff rather than paying attention to their kids and what they are doing. "
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Coming from an era when there was no social media I find it very polarising in its effect. Personally I am not on facepage, TickSpot, Instaspam, Twatter or any of those "social" sites except for Fab.
On the positive side it enables people living far apart to keep in contact, it can help create a community, with crowd funding it has helped many good causes and sites like Fab can help people maximise their life's experiences by putting them in real contact with similar thinking people.
On the negative side it appears to have created a generation of narcissists who spend their life posting pictures of themselves doing meritless silly dances on TikTok etc. It has allowed the dishonest, toxic, voices of profoundly antisocial people to be forced into the lives of others. It is responsible for the wholesale destruction of the truth and substantially the nurturing environment required for the proper development of the personalities of the young.
Perhaps worse of all it has created a world of polar opposites where the right and left of society stand back and hurl anonymous insults at each other. For humanity to survive peacefully in this overcrowded world we must all be tolerant of others. That tollerance is being destroyed by the very device that was supposed to bring them together. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Do people find them self spending too long on social media, I do include here as social media.
Does it actually “feed a need” or has it stopped you socialising and spending time with people as you can view their lives via a social platform?
For me I have learned I have to put my phone down and actually go and meet family and friends and not just interact via my phone.
With regards to places like Fab it seems to be that people will say things they may not face to face. Would people really walk up to someone and use their opening messages here as a first message to someone’s face?
Has social media and the phone killed or is killing off our social skills?"
Is that opening message you talk of successful though?  |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I only have FB and that is full of humour and positivity. I have very few FB friends added as what most people post is bollox and I don't need it clogging up my Buddhist quotes and dirty girls jokes!
My children are not allowed any social media accounts and they have noted the differences between their behaviour and their friends and they are happy (for now) to be different.
I'd love a world where social media disappeared.
Ron's gone wrong is a great film about kids peer pressure within social media and worth a watch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be positive, allowing internet groups to connect, build community. But teaching about social media and safety online (mental and physical) in schools would be excellent (assuming they aren’t doing that already) |
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I don't post on fb or twitter anymore. I keep it for business purposes, otherwise, it would be junked.
The number of adverts is horrific. They will die off eventually. Anybody remember Friends Reunited? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't post on fb or twitter anymore. I keep it for business purposes, otherwise, it would be junked.
The number of adverts is horrific. They will die off eventually. Anybody remember Friends Reunited? "
Cheaters reunited!! |
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The continual desire from some for acceptance or validation on social media including here is quite alarming. I also see the word ‘anxiety’ being mentioned quite a lot. Mix this with an unhealthy appetite to be liked or impress everyone is a dangerous cocktail for some folks mental health. |
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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago
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It’s unhealthy, life was much kinder when we interacted in person. I’ve had to keep reiterating to one of my friends that people but the best of their lives on faceache. Behind closed doors, their lives are probably very different.  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think like everything in this world it's based on how you approach it, how your mental health is and how oft you're using it. If it becomes your entire life? Not healthy.
I think people are more susceptible to comparison on social media as a whole, they find themselves not "measuring" up to a carefully curated image and then dissatisfaction kicks in. Look at the advent of certain terms like "FOMO" - would people feel that in the same way without it? I somehow doubt it.
Now we're in an era where everything is chronicled, where quick, fleeting dopamine hits can be accessed. It doesn't lend itself easily to finding real genuine connections, genuine happiness. There's also the disposable nature in which people treat others - I think that social media can lead to people believing that there's "more" out there with a click so why not discard people when not fit for purpose? In a similar vein, there's the increase in general bitchiness. It's far easier saying certain things when we're angrily typing our rage but face to face would we behave that way? Accountability can be lost with the relative anonymity online affords us.
I think we, a general we, can be guilty of not appreciating the moment. What we have. I don't think social media helps with that.
There are positives, many, but they can be easily lost. |
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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago
Redhill |
I think it depends on the user. You read so much crap and can give you a distorted view of the world sometimes.
The people with a bee in their bonnet shout the loudest, as long as you keep your sense of perspective then it's nonetheless great. |
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Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it. |
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"Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it. "
Well….one doesn’t need breakfast and some are not healthy so a little knowledge |
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"Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it.
Well….one doesn’t need breakfast and some are not healthy so a little knowledge "
I switched off listening when he got to "breakfast is an invention of the media and machine to make money and youre falling for it" |
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"Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it.
Well….one doesn’t need breakfast and some are not healthy so a little knowledge
I switched off listening when he got to "breakfast is an invention of the media and machine to make money and youre falling for it" "
Well…..humans wouldn’t really have eaten breakfast….so it was a man made creation…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people find them self spending too long on social media, I do include here as social media.
Does it actually “feed a need” or has it stopped you socialising and spending time with people as you can view their lives via a social platform?
For me I have learned I have to put my phone down and actually go and meet family and friends and not just interact via my phone.
With regards to places like Fab it seems to be that people will say things they may not face to face. Would people really walk up to someone and use their opening messages here as a first message to someone’s face?
Has social media and the phone killed or is killing off our social skills?"
Social media is the worst thing to happen to the world since the plague |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is the only social media we use, we may be dinosaurs but we like it that way.
Watch our for those meteors"
Now the world is flat they just fly right across and away again. |
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"Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it.
Well….one doesn’t need breakfast and some are not healthy so a little knowledge
I switched off listening when he got to "breakfast is an invention of the media and machine to make money and youre falling for it" "
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That has made my day.
Eating food after you get up in the morning is a money making scheme |
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"Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it.
Well….one doesn’t need breakfast and some are not healthy so a little knowledge
I switched off listening when he got to "breakfast is an invention of the media and machine to make money and youre falling for it"
Well…..humans wouldn’t really have eaten breakfast….so it was a man made creation…."
People usually 'break their fast' after a long period without eating. The word is very literal in it's meaning. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I am the first one to admit I am a twitter fiend…. I loved it as an instant news source and an instant reaction space….
I can’t be arsed with the constant arguments… but I do like conversations based on information and facts |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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All you will see on social media is the highs of people's lives .. when people are out having a lovely day or on holiday they share pics .. they don't share the bad times ,. And for less fortunate people that may not have that money to do that or the family or friends they sit and watch this and it makes them feel less of a person .. I remember hearing someone explain this before |
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Slightly at a tangent. I'm very glad that sm was in its infancy when our children were teenagers and they didn't have internet access on their phones. We had one pc in one of the main living rooms and we regularly checked the history on it, averting a couple of near disasters in the process.
What surprises me is that parents who would never dream of allowing their kids to spend hours alone with a real stranger will happily allow them to spend hours alone with millions of strangers in the net and never check on what's going on between them. Also the on line bullying that goes on from people they know could be minimised if parents and guardians checked up on sm use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes most people do spend to much time on social media
Ever one here is guilty off it as fab could technical be considered social media
Just a x rated forum off it |
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"I have fb and insta. Don’t go on either daily anymore as it’s such a time waster. Weirdly, even though it makes it easier to communicate with people I find you don’t bother! The feeds are full of adverts and shit you don’t wanna see. At least on here people actually talk!
As an aside, it’s all very unhealthy. Some struggle with comparison, leading to feeling like they’re failing or they’re not good enough because they don’t have xyz that everyone else seems to have.
We’re all pestered to buy stuff, spend money, do this and that when actually, we don’t need any of it "
I totally agree with that, and also I wish people would get off the phones when walking downstairs and crossing roads |
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The only SM I've ever had are FB and Instagram and I haven't used the latter in years.
Never used FB for anything other than keeping in touch with distant family and friends by posting pics of outdoor adventures but haven't even done that in a very long time either.
I spend less than an hour a day in here. I might log in a dozen times but never for more than 5 mins.
I do know people who depend on SM to get through their day and that includes on here.
Some people obviously live here based on their forum engagement.
How it affects each individual depends really on their personality and how they engage with others outside the confines of FB or fab. |
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"Do people find them self spending too long on social media, I do include here as social media.
Does it actually “feed a need” or has it stopped you socialising and spending time with people as you can view their lives via a social platform?
For me I have learned I have to put my phone down and actually go and meet family and friends and not just interact via my phone.
With regards to places like Fab it seems to be that people will say things they may not face to face. Would people really walk up to someone and use their opening messages here as a first message to someone’s face?
Has social media and the phone killed or is killing off our social skills?
Social media is the worst thing to happen to the world since the plague "
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"Ive just listened to my 23 year old step son lecturing me on the dangers of eating breakfast thanks to dr social media. Its fucking dangerous... Sorry... It can be fucking dangerous. The world would be a much better place without it.
Well….one doesn’t need breakfast and some are not healthy so a little knowledge
I switched off listening when he got to "breakfast is an invention of the media and machine to make money and youre falling for it"
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That has made my day.
Eating food after you get up in the morning is a money making scheme "
Im hoping he watches another video next week and moves onto the next conspiracy.. Why do people drink so much water... Its just a get rich quick scam by the machine |
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I use FB only 10 people are added as friends ,2 of those from uk that live 300 mile away and the others are people i know in europe,Its just an easy way to keep in touch between visits.
Only other thing i use it for is a couple of food groups for recipes ideas and posts people make about decent restaurants etc or where to source certain ingredients in the uk.
Both fabs i just enjoy reading the forum these days.
But Fabguys helped me ,after my partner died years ago i never fully got over it,There was a guy posted on forum he was going through the same thing.
We got chatting ,we have never met only chatted through Fab.We both got the support and help we needed talking to someone who fully understood how we felt.
It helped me move on and i am now happy content and in a relationship again for first time in 16 years.
So social media etc can screw up some people mentally or take over their life or in my case gave me my life back and improved my mental health. |
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over a year ago
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"I use FB only 10 people are added as friends ,2 of those from uk that live 300 mile away and the others are people i know in europe,Its just an easy way to keep in touch between visits.
Only other thing i use it for is a couple of food groups for recipes ideas and posts people make about decent restaurants etc or where to source certain ingredients in the uk.
Both fabs i just enjoy reading the forum these days.
But Fabguys helped me ,after my partner died years ago i never fully got over it,There was a guy posted on forum he was going through the same thing.
We got chatting ,we have never met only chatted through Fab.We both got the support and help we needed talking to someone who fully understood how we felt.
It helped me move on and i am now happy content and in a relationship again for first time in 16 years.
So social media etc can screw up some people mentally or take over their life or in my case gave me my life back and improved my mental health. "
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"I am the first one to admit I am a twitter fiend…. I loved it as an instant news source and an instant reaction space….
I can’t be arsed with the constant arguments… but I do like conversations based on information and facts "
Is there a course one can take to help discern facts and information from very adeptly disguised bs/misinformation (good profile name a propos of nothing)? |
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