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Difficult one! No I wouldn't but wish I wasent put in that predicament my best friends son found me on here! Asked to meet which I immediately declined for all manor of other reasons but if it wernt for those reasons him being atatched would be enough! I dreaded seeing my friend ! Knowing I couldn't tell her! She gives me updates on him as we both do on our children she told me other week he proposed to his gf sending pics of her ring etc! I feel bad not telling her as we been best friends best part of 50 years! I don't really know the girl! But yes feel bad for her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they're a close friend then yes, absolutely I'd tell them.
I'd prefer to be hurt but know that my friend has my back, rather than live in ignorance on both counts.
I'd loose trust if a close friend keept something like there from me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looking for discreet fun. Would you go to your friend as a man/ woman?
Thought I’d stick to the cheating theme.
Is looking for 'discreet fun' the same thing as cheating?"
For the fun of the thread it is |
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Actually had my (now friend) then just an acquaintance, partner match with me on a dating app.
Didnt recognise him as he used very, very flattering photos and I'd only seen him a handful of times before.
Fortunately, his convo was rubbish so I unmatched.
Found out when she discovered his cheating ways and was showing me screenshots of the dating app stuff.
Bad times
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"If they're a close friend then yes, absolutely I'd tell them.
I'd prefer to be hurt but know that my friend has my back, rather than live in ignorance on both counts.
I'd loose trust if a close friend keept something like there from me."
I totally agree....I would tell my mate and also show her his profile and get pics from him just for back up so he can't deny it. Going back some years I saw an older friend of mine who was a good friend..her hubby out with another women..he saw me and his face reaction told me exactly what he was doing...I did tell my friend...turned out he had been having an affair with this women  they worked things out and are still together...and me and her are still good friends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If they're a close friend then yes, absolutely I'd tell them.
I'd prefer to be hurt but know that my friend has my back, rather than live in ignorance on both counts.
I'd loose trust if a close friend keept something like there from me."
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By *rLordMan
over a year ago
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A very good lady friend of mine, I found on this site. We have a good friendship, she comes on ghe back of my bike on rides.
Told her that I had found her, she said yes she had seen me to. We agreed that was all , still great friends. Although one or two kisses have been more passionate |
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If it was a close friend then definitely tell them, a not so close friend no.
I had this dilemma not so long ago, actually asked here for advice and went with it and didn't say anything just distanced myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who would tell their friend. What would you tell them? Given that the facts are their partner appears to be on here and is asking for discreet fun."
I’d ask if they knew about the site first just in case the partner was on here with the friends knowledge  |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
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If it was my closest friends who I've known for 30 years then yes without hesitation.
If it's anyone else and they message me I'd tell them what I thought of them and then warn them if they message again I'll be in contact with the partner.
I hate cheating, literally can't stand it |
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There's quite a lot of variables. But say their partner was putting their health at risk e.g.looking for bareback sex and I knew for example they were trying for a baby. I'd feel obligated to tell them.
Think in all honesty it would individual decision based on the friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who would tell their friend. What would you tell them? Given that the facts are their partner appears to be on here and is asking for discreet fun."
I'd know if my closest friends are in some some of open relationship as they know I'm a perv.
I detest drama and injecting myself into someone person life more but there's no chance I wouldn't say something to the few people I actually trust, and they would definitely do the same.
Each to their own, but... this thread is actually eye opening.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I would be absolutely devastated to have to tell my friend if I saw her partner on here, but I would.
I'd hope that someone was using his photos.
I'd also hope he hadn't met anyone yet, if it was him.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating? "
I know my childhood friend well enough to know it wouldn't be her thing.
To be honest, it's not something I can see him doing, in reality.
Another not so close friend I'd keep my mouth shut as she's
cheated on her husband many times.
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As I dont know the dynamic inside someone else’s Relationship - id say nothing as it could be entirely consensual and intensely private for them for any number of reasons. The thought that i knew might be hugely embarrassing for them. On this occasion - say nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a chance!
I used to work with someone and she showed me a pic of her boyfriend. I recognised him off here because we had met! He was still on here when I saw the picture. I said absolutely nothing and never would. It's none of my business. If I were to say something, it would be to the person on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating? "
I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.
For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today  |
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?
I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.
For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today "
ok, I like to know exactly what's going on in these hypothetical situations . If I'm going to put my sticky beak into other people's hypothetical relationships I want to be 100% hypothetically sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?
I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.
For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today
ok, I like to know exactly what's going on in these hypothetical situations . If I'm going to put my sticky beak into other people's hypothetical relationships I want to be 100% hypothetically sure "
Sticky? Mmmmm tell me more   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?
I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.
For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today "
Hey!
I can't accommodate. Largely as I'm sleeping on the sofa at present with two dogs. Snoring bastards....
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why "
Trust me, there's worse. 
A |
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome. "
We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating |
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why
Trust me, there's worse.
A"
I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome.
We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating "
still not my business. I just need to know how I know... for thread purposes |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why
Trust me, there's worse.
A
I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email "
Carrier pigeon?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why
Trust me, there's worse.
A"
A- just big love man. Here if you want to chat. I’m bad at messaging but  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?
I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.
For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today
Hey!
I can't accommodate. Largely as I'm sleeping on the sofa at present with two dogs. Snoring bastards....
A"
They can watch us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome. "
They’re cheating babes. |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
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"ok another question, well two. Why tell the friend and not the person who's on here and why assume that they're cheating?
I’d probably tell them too. And then tell them that I’ll tell their partner if they don’t.
For the purpose of the thread the person is cheating. I’m just using the language everyone thinks is associated with cheating because it’s funny init. I was gonna say their profile says they can’t accommodate but that’s already being talked about today
Hey!
I can't accommodate. Largely as I'm sleeping on the sofa at present with two dogs. Snoring bastards....
A
They can watch us. "
Getting into dodgy territory here |
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome.
We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating still not my business. I just need to know how I know... for thread purposes"
It's your friends business to know if being cheated on though, if I found out a friend knew and they didn't tell me then they would no longer be my friend because real friends don't keep important things like that from them |
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why
Trust me, there's worse.
A
I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email "
Yeah, I’m a bit old fashioned about these things, I’d use text |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome.
They’re cheating babes. "
Pickles thread. Pickles rules.
And cheers dude. I'm all good. Two bitches to cuddle up to every night.
What more could a guy want?
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*except maybe a blowie and a back rub...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome.
They’re cheating babes.
Pickles thread. Pickles rules.
And cheers dude. I'm all good. Two bitches to cuddle up to every night.
What more could a guy want?
A
*except maybe a blowie and a back rub...... "
 a blowie? Ew no |
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why
Trust me, there's worse.
A
I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email
Carrier pigeon?
A"
It might have bird flu, so guess that's even worse |
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"It's worse seeing your own partner on here with a new partner a full profile and doing all the things you talked about together, only days after she's emailed you saying it's over and she can't explain why
Trust me, there's worse.
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I'd be pretty pissed if someone broke up with me through email
Yeah, I’m a bit old fashioned about these things, I’d use text "
I'd not know if they sent email as I rarely check |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is the assumption they are cheating!? You would not know that for a fact. I won't get involved in anyone's relationships as I've had "sticky beak friends" involved in mine. Your opinions are not that welcome.
We do know this for a fact though as above it says for the purpose of this thread they're cheating still not my business. I just need to know how I know... for thread purposes
It's your friends business to know if being cheated on though, if I found out a friend knew and they didn't tell me then they would no longer be my friend because real friends don't keep important things like that from them "
Well so be it. Sometimes other people's shit is best left to them to deal with. Maybe, just maybe they are happily in denial. Believe me, the partner of someone who is cheating pretty much already knows. They aren't idiots. They choose to deal with it in their own way. I'm not butting in on that. I'll be there to support but I'm not sticking that knife in. |
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This happened to me.
He even flirted with me.
I told him to tell her, or I would.
They split for a while.
They are married a few years on, with another kid and seem happy, so hopefully its all good. |
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