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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure! |
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It does come up a lot in here, and there are many who have differing ideas as to how people should respond, but to be honest why worry or delete your account just because of the way others respond. It is their choice if theyy want to reply or not and they will have their reasons.
Deleting your account means definately no meets, so just accept and move on.
Good luck in the future
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one  budge up what you got? "
Toffee popcorn and a bag of revels....you can have the coffee ones if you like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arghhhh 
Why have I not got my spiel ready to copy and paste.
It is not rude to not reply, read in the site FAQ
Also people can do whatever they like with their accounts!
Don't moan about, no answer is a clear no, so move on!
And don't forget to reply yourself to EVERY piece of unsolicited mail, or cold callers you receive or else you are being rude  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
Toffee popcorn and a bag of revels....you can have the coffee ones if you like "
Awwwww the coffee are my favourite, but I'll settle for the orange ones too  |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure!"
So if you've read the threads on the reasons behind a lack of response and someone deleting unread before, why create a new one?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
Toffee popcorn and a bag of revels....you can have the coffee ones if you like
Awwwww the coffee are my favourite, but I'll settle for the orange ones too "
Awwww not fair I love the orange ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses "
Read the profiles then and don't mail people who deem you not suitable!
You are being rude assuming the recipient is a match! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure!"
I'm afraid that's just people for you. One of us will always respond, but you must remember that you are not on a site where everyone is lovely and 'fun', in spite of what they claim. You are right to be pissed off, but, looking on the positive side, a delete is a sort of response. |
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"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses "
The thing is, when we 'advertise' we are looking for something specific, something that we have a choice over. If you are not that specific thing then there is no need to take things any further
Would you prefer a 'delete' or would you prefer to be told the honest truth which could include something that could hurt your feelings????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure!
I'm afraid that's just people for you. One of us will always respond, but you must remember that you are not on a site where everyone is lovely and 'fun', in spite of what they claim. You are right to be pissed off, but, looking on the positive side, a delete is a sort of response."
Absolute rubbish as on the site rules and faqs! Which if everyone read there would be no issue! |
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Here I go again lol,,
If someone puts a meet today or event up they could get dozens of responses. You might think its just a thanks but no thanks but to them having to do that fifty times just inset feasible.
In no way is it rude or arrogant to delete without response, it's said in the fab FAQ. Just accept it as a thanks but no thanks.
I had a pre approved visa application put through my door earlier. I just chucked it in the bin. Maybe I should fish it out and give em a quick bell to tell
Them I don't want a credit card... Only problem with that being they'd try to talk me into it... Same applies on here. A lot of people don't take no for an answer so it's just easier to delete. |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses
Read the profiles then and don't mail people who deem you not suitable!
You are being rude assuming the recipient is a match!"
I don't see how that's rude to assume that. It'd be rude in a club to walk up and start fondling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh god I almost forgot!
Why on earth would anyone reply to coarse or vile messages when they are being rude!
"I'm going to bang you hard" or something else equally tactless,
I think not!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can somebody hold my whilst I go to the gents
 this isn't diet ....flush it immediately and get a new one lol "
I said hold it not drink it! You owe me a |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can somebody hold my whilst I go to the gents
this isn't diet ....flush it immediately and get a new one lol
I said hold it not drink it! You owe me a "
Here have some popcorn....now we're even go on then have a sip of my too |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Oh god I almost forgot!
Why on earth would anyone reply to coarse or vile messages when they are being rude!
"I'm going to bang you hard" or something else equally tactless,
I think not!
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Oh I agree, those messages are wrong totally, I've been on the club scene for years and people who act like that get nowhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses
Read the profiles then and don't mail people who deem you not suitable!
You are being rude assuming the recipient is a match!
I don't see how that's rude to assume that. It'd be rude in a club to walk up and start fondling "
If you do not read a profile and think you could offer what the other persons requirements are then yes it is.
It is a waste of your time and theirs to message, a clear delete is a no, so as I said move on.
Even if you say no it normally follows a thanks but why, or will you change your mind |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Im wondering......if you received a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' would you then ask why???? or would you just accept that and move on?
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Accept and move on. I've learnt with swinging no means no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im wondering......if you received a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' would you then ask why???? or would you just accept that and move on?
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Exactly as that is 99.9% what then happens! |
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"Im wondering......if you received a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' would you then ask why???? or would you just accept that and move on?
Accept and move on. I've learnt with swinging no means no. "
Good on you. And if everyone were the same then I'm sure more would the the time to reply but sadly that's not the case. |
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By *yronMan
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
I've got ice cream. 
OK what flavour? could mix it with the chocolate "
Ben and Jerry's Chocolate fudge brownie.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on "
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good |
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"Im wondering......if you received a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' would you then ask why???? or would you just accept that and move on?
Accept and move on. I've learnt with swinging no means no. "
So its just that fact that they say nothing that annoys you?
Ill be honest, I think maybe you have been deleted a lot recently and you are feeling a bit sore. Just move on and enjoy those on the site that match you and are responsive, dont waste emotions on those that simply delete. Its their perogative.
Yours is to move on
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
Toffee popcorn and a bag of revels....you can have the coffee ones if you like geee thanks  lol"
I'm nothing if not generous lol....wanna dip in my bag of popcorn too |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses
Read the profiles then and don't mail people who deem you not suitable!
You are being rude assuming the recipient is a match!
I don't see how that's rude to assume that. It'd be rude in a club to walk up and start fondling
If you do not read a profile and think you could offer what the other persons requirements are then yes it is.
It is a waste of your time and theirs to message, a clear delete is a no, so as I said move on.
Even if you say no it normally follows a thanks but why, or will you change your mind "
I understand that but I do read the profile. Trust me I know I'm not everyones cup of tea, but there's no harm in being polite. Most of swinging is about communication if I'm chatting with someone and they are not interested we both agree and move on and chat when we see each other |
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good "
Didn't say it wasn't |
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By *arl828Man
over a year ago
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I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on. |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Im wondering......if you received a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' would you then ask why???? or would you just accept that and move on?
Accept and move on. I've learnt with swinging no means no.
So its just that fact that they say nothing that annoys you?
Ill be honest, I think maybe you have been deleted a lot recently and you are feeling a bit sore. Just move on and enjoy those on the site that match you and are responsive, dont waste emotions on those that simply delete. Its their perogative.
Yours is to move on
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No I barely message people tbh. Swinging is hard enough but being a single guy is even harder |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't"
Didn't say you didn't say that |
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"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses
Read the profiles then and don't mail people who deem you not suitable!
You are being rude assuming the recipient is a match!
I don't see how that's rude to assume that. It'd be rude in a club to walk up and start fondling
If you do not read a profile and think you could offer what the other persons requirements are then yes it is.
It is a waste of your time and theirs to message, a clear delete is a no, so as I said move on.
Even if you say no it normally follows a thanks but why, or will you change your mind
I understand that but I do read the profile. Trust me I know I'm not everyones cup of tea, but there's no harm in being polite. Most of swinging is about communication if I'm chatting with someone and they are not interested we both agree and move on and chat when we see each other"
Ill say it again. Just because you behave that way doesn't mean the thousands of other people on here do too. So you can blame the ones who don't take a no thanks on the chin and move on for the lack of responses x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't reply to rudeness or oneliners or people Im not suited to.
On the other hand, if I send a message and never receive a reply, unless its a friend, I would never dream of checking whether it was deleted unread.
Thats up to the reader, not for me to lose sleep over. |
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on."
Finally someone talking sense xx |
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"Im wondering......if you received a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' would you then ask why???? or would you just accept that and move on?
Accept and move on. I've learnt with swinging no means no.
So its just that fact that they say nothing that annoys you?
Ill be honest, I think maybe you have been deleted a lot recently and you are feeling a bit sore. Just move on and enjoy those on the site that match you and are responsive, dont waste emotions on those that simply delete. Its their perogative.
Yours is to move on
No I barely message people tbh. Swinging is hard enough but being a single guy is even harder"
Sorry, so if you barely message people then I have lost the point of this conversation.
joining the couch people, budge up and pass the voddy and popcorn lovely people |
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For starters, chatting online and in person are 2 very different things, although if I was out inthe town and someone cane up to me who I didn't like I probably would just turn away and ignore them.
There are no rules to say you have to reply and a lot of people get abusive messages when they politely decline someone....should they have to put up with that just to make you happy?
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over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx"
And it was a bloke too |
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't
Didn't say you didn't say that "
I'm glad to hear you didn't say that I didn't say that, didn't I????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Will someone get me a drink please as I was relaxed but not now
Should've joined me with the popcorn hun "
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too "
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x |
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't
Didn't say you didn't say that
I'm glad to hear you didn't say that I didn't say that, didn't I????? "
Fuck that and come and relax and don't dare even think about not replying |
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x"
I am lying down  xx |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Perhaps the best idea would be a thanks but no thanks button. We have a fab button.
I'm not a bitter person just think politeness is running low all over the place.
Off topic I know but I'm the guy who holds doors for people, who gives way to people in my car and says thanks to people when they do the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Will someone get me a drink please as I was relaxed but not now
Should've joined me with the popcorn hun .
I am sweet enough "
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to
a guy/couple in a club who just ignored
them and walked away? Pretty pissed
off I'm sure!"
I've had a woman come up to me in a vanilla nightclub but I just thought 'yuk' and walked off. She stank and was d*unk.
As for on here.....get used to it. It happens on occasion and why waste your energy stressing about it? Don't worry about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't
Didn't say you didn't say that
I'm glad to hear you didn't say that I didn't say that, didn't I?????
Fuck that and come and relax and don't dare even think about not replying "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Will someone get me a drink please as I was relaxed but not now
Should've joined me with the popcorn hun
Yeah cos your a drink thief, so you'd only pinch it! "
I was simply testing it, just to make sure it was cold enough, nothing worse than warm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I delete all the time ....delete delete delete. Because im not interested in that person and I cannot bothered to engage in conversation or send them a message. Do I care if you think im rude....no....if I send a message and it gets deleted I know they weren't interested whats the point of a no thanks message it just means the same as a deleted message. So this 'rude' couple is just going to carry on deleting |
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By *arl828Man
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too "
HAHA thats surprised you hasn't it |
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"Perhaps the best idea would be a thanks but no thanks button. We have a fab button.
I'm not a bitter person just think politeness is running low all over the place.
Off topic I know but I'm the guy who holds doors for people, who gives way to people in my car and says thanks to people when they do the same. "
The thanks but no thanks button would be a good idea if it then automatically prevented the recipient from replying back again. Or the same problems would still arise x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps the best idea would be a thanks but no thanks button. We have a fab button.
I'm not a bitter person just think politeness is running low all over the place.
Off topic I know but I'm the guy who holds doors for people, who gives way to people in my car and says thanks to people when they do the same. "
I do all that! But the person I hold open a door for or wave to say thanks are not then expecting sex or a way to work around the no thanks! |
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over a year ago
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If any of my nessages get deleted I assume they are mentally ill
Seriously though if any get deleted assume they are not interested whilst frustrating you need to realise yours is just one message out the tons the females receive there is no obligation to reply and nor should be. |
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure!"
Many people will only even open a message after reading the profile of the sender. If there's nothing to see or nothing of interest on the profile many messages are deleted without even being read... |
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx"
Room for a little one?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Will someone get me a drink please as I was relaxed but not now
Should've joined me with the popcorn hun
Yeah cos your a drink thief, so you'd only pinch it!
I was simply testing it, just to make sure it was cold enough, nothing worse than warm "
Hahaha Warm flat is worse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't
Didn't say you didn't say that
I'm glad to hear you didn't say that I didn't say that, didn't I?????
Fuck that and come and relax and don't dare even think about not replying
I'm relaxing, but all these cheeky buggers have jumped on the sofa first & they won't share the orange Revels "
You can have me instead then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one?? "
If you squeeze in the middle xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who the fuck is throwing malteasers at me from row f"
I hope it was a malteaser, and the culprit is capable and well versed in the subtle differences between Revel identification. I don't wanna see any of the orange ones going to waste |
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By *rant981 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one??
If you squeeze in the middle xx"
Julie I've accidently sent a reply in the form of a pm ignore it I won't take offence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one?? "
Me lap is nice & cosy, and reserved for you if we're getting pushed for seating. Its getting busy in here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one??
If you squeeze in the middle xx
Julie I've accidently sent a reply in the form of a pm ignore it I won't take offence"
Just seen and was about to say I think you can guess my stance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure!
Many people will only even open a message after reading the profile of the sender. If there's nothing to see or nothing of interest on the profile many messages are deleted without even being read..."
What you should do is to make to make the first line (i.e. the one that they see first) look attrative. Then they will open the whole email and see the rest. |
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one??
Me lap is nice & cosy, and reserved for you if we're getting pushed for seating. Its getting busy in here "
Ooh lovely ill try not to wriggle around too much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't
Didn't say you didn't say that
I'm glad to hear you didn't say that I didn't say that, didn't I?????
Fuck that and come and relax and don't dare even think about not replying
I'm relaxing, but all these cheeky buggers have jumped on the sofa first & they won't share the orange Revels
You can have me instead then "
Deal, they can stick their orange revels up their ass, well them pervs probably like that!
Psssssst, don't tell anyone but I've got a secret stash of haribos here |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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OP , please ignore the popcorn comments
you will find that a lot of mail will get deleted and not replied, it goes with the territory, don't let it get you down... onwards and upwards,
welcome to the forum and goodluck |
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one??
If you squeeze in the middle xx"
Who's either side? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been messaged a couple of weeks later from people who have deleted an email I have sent previously. I've been told that due to the sheer volume of mail ladies and couples receive they sometimes use the bulk delete option. So a message can be missed in this instance, if a 'thanks, but no thanks' message was sent back, at least it would show there wasn't any interest.
But as stated by another poster, its best to assume the delete to be a 'thanks, but no thanks' and move on
I have 600 + unread on this account and this is only a posting account, no way I am replying especially when people can't read the profile so yes bulk delete is good
Didn't say it wasn't
Didn't say you didn't say that
I'm glad to hear you didn't say that I didn't say that, didn't I?????
Fuck that and come and relax and don't dare even think about not replying
I'm relaxing, but all these cheeky buggers have jumped on the sofa first & they won't share the orange Revels
You can have me instead then
Deal, they can stick their orange revels up their ass, well them pervs probably like that!
Psssssst, don't tell anyone but I've got a secret stash of haribos here"
I don't like sweets!
But wine will suffice and oh Miss Hottie is in the middle of our bed, so looks like you are on top of me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one??
If you squeeze in the middle xx
Who's either side? X "
Me and M you nana! |
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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago
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"Arghhhh
Why have I not got my spiel ready to copy and paste.
It is not rude to not reply, read in the site FAQ
Also people can do whatever they like with their accounts!
Don't moan about, no answer is a clear no, so move on!
And don't forget to reply yourself to EVERY piece of unsolicited mail, or cold callers you receive or else you are being rude "
Excellent last point there! X |
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
Finally someone talking sense xx
And it was a bloke too
I know! Should get warnings of such things... I wasn't sitting down lol x
I am lying down xx
Room for a little one??
If you squeeze in the middle xx
Who's either side? X
Me and M you nana! "
Oh., I thought you meant the popcorn brigade. Lol. Ok then... I'm in x |
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"Sorry if this subject has been raised before but how hard is a thanks but no thanks, as a single guy on here I find it really hard and nearly deleted my account because I sent a good few messages out to women/couples who are looking for guys. But rather than reply with something simple like "no thanks" they just delete your message. How would they feel of they went up to a guy/couple in a club who just ignored them and walked away? Pretty pissed off I'm sure!
Many people will only even open a message after reading the profile of the sender. If there's nothing to see or nothing of interest on the profile many messages are deleted without even being read...
What you should do is to make to make the first line (i.e. the one that they see first) look attrative. Then they will open the whole email and see the rest."
Regardless of what is in the mail.. If the profile doesn't appeal or says absolutely nothing, the mail will be deleted unread by me. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on."
You're such a fibber. You lost all your friends after that unfortunate incident with the goat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many people will only even open a message after reading the profile of the sender. If there's nothing to see or nothing of interest on the profile many messages are deleted without even being read...
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Yeah I do this, if the profile has been written by a dullard then I really can't see any reason to assume the message will be any less dull.
I do answer many of my messages even when it's a no but honestly some just don't warrent a response. |
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By *arl828Man
over a year ago
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"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
You're such a fibber. You lost all your friends after that unfortunate incident with the goat "
Well the goat should've replied to say it wasn't interested then shouldn't it. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I have good friends on here that are single women, they get on average 100 to 200 messages a day off single men, so you expect them to sit and answer every single one with 'thanks but no thanks'? Non response is part and parcel of being on here, I've been a member for about 8 months now and take the non replies with a pinch of salt and move on.
You're such a fibber. You lost all your friends after that unfortunate incident with the goat
Well the goat should've replied to say it wasn't interested then shouldn't it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude  "
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I can take the heat I've been on the scene for years it's just the rudeness that happens. Nothing more demoralising than your message being deleted without a reply. I have plenty of friends on here who make the effort! It's worse when it's a message responding to a meet or event. Don't advertise if you don't want the responses
The thing is, when we 'advertise' we are looking for something specific, something that we have a choice over. If you are not that specific thing then there is no need to take things any further
Would you prefer a 'delete' or would you prefer to be told the honest truth which could include something that could hurt your feelings?????"
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked "
Bloody trouble maker |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
Room for a little one and are we on a sofa or bed "
I think the sofa is a little small now but I've been bad, this is a serious thread, best not continue having fun |
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked
Bloody trouble maker "
Think I might need taking in hand Ryan |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked
Bloody trouble maker
Think I might need taking in hand Ryan "
Bend over, touch your toes and bite down on a satsuma |
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
Room for a little one and are we on a sofa or bed
I think the sofa is a little small now but I've been bad, this is a serious thread, best not continue having fun "
Everyone else is |
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked
Bloody trouble maker
Think I might need taking in hand Ryan
Bend over, touch your toes and bite down on a satsuma"
Ooohh EErrrr, ok then but be gentle |
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We ignore winks if they don't interest us but all ways reply to messages even if its a no thanks which winds me up when you bother to message some 1 or couple and not just a 1 liner either and they can't be arsed to reply.
For example some couple winked us a while back so we messaged them to say hi thanks for the wink etc we new to this but eager etc blah blah and no reply then 2 months later they wink again what's that all about. If they had at least replied and said we not into newbies we could understand and may be in the future might be tempted with a few meets under our belt |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked
Bloody trouble maker
Think I might need taking in hand Ryan
Bend over, touch your toes and bite down on a satsuma
Ooohh EErrrr, ok then but be gentle "
can i have a turn at spanking ur bottom u are naughty |
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked
Bloody trouble maker
Think I might need taking in hand Ryan
Bend over, touch your toes and bite down on a satsuma
Ooohh EErrrr, ok then but be gentle can i have a turn at spanking ur bottom u are naughty "
Spanking....when did it become a spanking? |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"To be honest I think it's ruder to hijack a thread with 'popcorn etc''' comments and flirting than to not reply to all messages yeah girls rude
Oh dear......am I bad, not part of the "in crowd" so not allowed to have a little fun...best go sob in the corner then and consider myself well and truely bollocked wen u bent over and stuck ur arse in the air i cant resist
Bloody trouble maker
Think I might need taking in hand Ryan
Bend over, touch your toes and bite down on a satsuma
Ooohh EErrrr, ok then but be gentle can i have a turn at spanking ur bottom u are naughty
Spanking....when did it become a spanking? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hmmmm may have to get comfy with my popcorn for this one budge up what you got?
Room for a little one and are we on a sofa or bed
*pats the bed* "
Is it a big bed ? |
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