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Each to their own. Fully get it!
Just seen a few couples and one in particular that state they only want bareback sex with another male.
What are people's thoughts on this?
I appreciate the risk sits with them, but if STIs can be passed orally the risk may end up your way. Because let's face it, does anyone actually give/receive oral with protection prior to protected penetration.
I am interested to hear thoughts from across the board. |
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over a year ago
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You can't control what other people do so I guess it's down to each person to do what's right for them.. protection or not etc. And ask the people they're sleeping with |
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"You can't control what other people do so I guess it's down to each person to do what's right for them.. protection or not etc. And ask the people they're sleeping with"
I'm not sure I'd trust the word of someone else. It's a tough one. |
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My thoughts are that I wish people who prefer bareback could state it openly without judgement. If everyone is aware of how others play then they can make fully informed decisions when choosing partners. |
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"My thoughts are that I wish people who prefer bareback could state it openly without judgement. If everyone is aware of how others play then they can make fully informed decisions when choosing partners."
No judgement, as per opening statement. The couples I see do state it pretty clearly. Just kind of caught me a little surprised on Fab I guess. |
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"My thoughts are that I wish people who prefer bareback could state it openly without judgement. If everyone is aware of how others play then they can make fully informed decisions when choosing partners.
No judgement, as per opening statement. The couples I see do state it pretty clearly. Just kind of caught me a little surprised on Fab I guess. "
Fair enough. However as you say sti can be transmitted orally so neither partner needs to have had unprotected vaginal or anal penetrative sex to have one. |
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"You can't control what other people do so I guess it's down to each person to do what's right for them.. protection or not etc. And ask the people they're sleeping with
I'm not sure I'd trust the word of someone else. It's a tough one."
Well you have the choice of asking for a recent test...or taking the risk. Even with a test you still don't know that they haven't had sex since etc... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Each to their own. Fully get it!"
Risk aware consensual sex with everyone involved regularly tested and knowing their status is *NOT Russian Roulette.
Relying on a condom during penetrative sex as a magic shield regarding STIs *IS* Russian Roulette.
We find the people who preach "safe sex" do not get tested regularly or even when they last got tested a lot of the time, do not know their status, and when we ask say "we don't do bareback so we don't need to". Needless to say if they can not tell us their very recent test results they don't fuck us "protected" or not.
Miss does not like condoms because guys pull too far out and can't feel it, then plunge back in with bad aim and hit the wrong spot. If using anything she prefers to use femidoms for penetration and we almost always use a dam when guys are licking her. She really does not like beard/stubble burn.
We also see it a lot in clubs where the guy will have a condom on then when they are close the "safe sex" woman/couple are happy for the condom to come off and the guy cums all over her pussy/ass. Then the next "protected" guy is lined up ready to fuck her, pushing the previous guy's cum deep inside!  |
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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago
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I've had a few contacts where they state "safe sex" then when we get chatting further the bareback question comes up.. It is very common place, more than you would think. I guess as I have had the snip.. then it seems that bare is fair game. Generally, I play safe unless long term regular funsters.... no easy answer...it's your choice |
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We can only control what we do ourselves. As long as everyone is honest I am happy and can make an informed decision. What I can't stand is snakes! People who lie saying "I only play safe" then don't and don't get tested or lie about testing.
I know my friends, I know I can trust them, we send each other our monthly negative test results as reassurance.
I don't use condoms for oral. SO I cannot say "I always play safe" But I do test monthly including my throat , not many do. But I do try to be safe as I can
To each their own , as grown adults condoms are a personal choice between consenting adults. (Obviously stealthing is a different matter) |
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"I've had a few contacts where they state "safe sex" then when we get chatting further the bareback question comes up.. It is very common place, more than you would think. I guess as I have had the snip.. then it seems that bare is fair game. Generally, I play safe unless long term regular funsters.... no easy answer...it's your choice"
There are very few men I've spoken to who don't ask about bareback after a few messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My sexual health worker has told me that while STDs can be passed on orally, in practice this is rare. It is significantly less risk than with anal penetration.
Therefore I'm happy to take the risk with oral, but I am not prepared to do so with anal.  |
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“Safe sex” doesn’t necessarily mean “no bareback”.
For us it can also mean that we all get retested and not sleep with anyone else until after the results are in and we have met. It also means that there are endeavours to avoid pregnancy
Up to now we have only played with condoms but wouldn’t rule out the alternative scenario either |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think regardless of how anyone chooses to have sex, they should be honest with those they're having sex with. And take responsibility for their own sexual health - if you use condoms, you still need to get tested.
I think there's slowly less of a stigma surrounding discussing sexual health which is brilliant - I know that for me if I can't discuss it with them or don't trust them, sex is not happening. Regardless of how much I want it to.
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That’s absolutely right , the bottom line is people need to get tested as often as they can end of the story . We have the luxury to have the clinics and even home test kits so we need to use them . |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Each to their own. Fully get it!
Just seen a few couples and one in particular that state they only want bareback sex with another male.
What are people's thoughts on this?
I appreciate the risk sits with them, but if STIs can be passed orally the risk may end up your way. Because let's face it, does anyone actually give/receive oral with protection prior to protected penetration.
I am interested to hear thoughts from across the board. "
Of course you are  |
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"You can't control what other people do so I guess it's down to each person to do what's right for them.. protection or not etc. And ask the people they're sleeping with
I'm not sure I'd trust the word of someone else. It's a tough one."
So you've answered your own question then!
Either have sex, or don't! Have oral, or don't! Be on a swingers site, or go on a dating site and find someone with a limited sexual history!
It's your choice! |
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"You can't control what other people do so I guess it's down to each person to do what's right for them.. protection or not etc. And ask the people they're sleeping with
I'm not sure I'd trust the word of someone else. It's a tough one.
So you've answered your own question then!
Either have sex, or don't! Have oral, or don't! Be on a swingers site, or go on a dating site and find someone with a limited sexual history!
It's your choice! "
Or if they want total safety buy a fleshlight |
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To reach their own, firstly. But it’s Bareback all the way, for us. Test regularly and expect the same from partners. We may use Condoms as props during role play but really we love the freeness of bareback, and all the other juicy perks. It’s always a gamble, but we take precautions such a a testing and communication between our regular participants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We would prefer bareback and we state on our profile so....
Yes it's a bit of a risk however we have no intention on sleeping with lots of people and will be very selective with doing so too.
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We primarily play safe but if other couples produce recent (and we mean recent) negative STI results as we can and do, then we'll fuck au-natural. It feels better. It's easy to get tested these days in the comfort of your own home. |
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"We primarily play safe but if other couples produce recent (and we mean recent) negative STI results as we can and do, then we'll fuck au-natural. It feels better. It's easy to get tested these days in the comfort of your own home."
I still wouldn't trust .. its a sex site after all .. play safe |
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I appreciate the risk sits with them, but if STIs can be passed orally the risk may end up your way. Because let's face it, does anyone actually give/receive oral with protection prior to protected penetration.
I am interested to hear thoughts from across the board. "
Yes, I only give oral if they wear condom, which means usually don't bother. I didn't like receiving oral anyway so just go without x |
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Always wondered , why people say they test regularly, but in my mind they already have done the deed been creampied or whatever then test ???
Is it like ooh now il sit and wait to see if I caught anything , it don't seem logical to me ,it's a gamble , specially with some people on here getting rogered on a regular basis , do you test after everytime ? |
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