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Could you move in together if you are not married?
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
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I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.
He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.
So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.
There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.
What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.
Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just wouldn't live with anyone
Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous  "
It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just wouldn't live with anyone
Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous
It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself "
You could probably sell that to someone on here  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"I just wouldn't live with anyone
Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous
It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself
You could probably sell that to someone on here "
Rule 34, rule 34. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely. My husband and I lived together for just over a year before we got married.
Jeez, that was 20 years ago, how time flies when you're having fun |
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"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me.
Halves the costs and chores , free massages, there’s lot of benefits , but also lots of disadvantages. "
I loose the Council Tax discount, end up having to clear up after someone else cos they don’t put things where I want them put.
You don’t have to move in together to get your free massages, infact I’d need one more if they moved in so I could de-stress
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
Derbyshire village |
"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.
He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.
So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.
There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.
What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.
Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice "
We lived together a few years before we wed, didn't seem out of the ordinary in any way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just wouldn't live with anyone
Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous
It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself
You could probably sell that to someone on here
Rule 34, rule 34."
Rules are for losers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Married or not, why people want to move in together beats me.
For that thing called love 
Think you’ve been reading too much Mills and Boon Ruby "
 noooooo, I'm talking from my personal experience of love. Nothing beats it. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"I just wouldn't live with anyone
Imagine living with you. The hair in that plughole must be horrendous
It is! This is the worst thing about not having a man, having to clear the hair out the plug myself
You could probably sell that to someone on here
Rule 34, rule 34.
Rules are for losers "
Rule 34
Rule 34 - If it exists, there is porn of it. |
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"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.
He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.
So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.
There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.
What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.
Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice "
It’s 2023. Is this even a consideration these days?
And a marriage is not just a piece of paper. It’s a legally binding contract and you are agreeing to share your wealth in the event of a future divorce. It’s not something to be entered into lightly.
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"TBF Marriage is a bit more than 'a piece of paper'.
It's a legally binding contract is my understanding of it."
I was reluctant to move in with my bf without getting married cos it involved moving abroad. That was back in the 00s and he was very perplexed and embarrassed cos he saw everyone in the uk cohabited, no question about it. In my culture nobody did, no question about it. He was at the tender age of 22 so admittedly too young. Immigration laws changed with Brexit and for a stretch of months/years despite our marriage I had no claim to living here, so that was an interesting experience! Our kids are "legit" tho so that's something  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've lived with 2 different men, never been married.
Not sure I could do the marriage thing and living with me is complicated. I have a council house and I'm fucked if I'm putting anyone on the tenancy agreement.
So I'm more of a would live with someone not married type rather than married. |
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Back in the day it was expected that u got married! I had a shotgun wedding at 16 as was expecting my first daughter it was either that or the unmarried mums home! And that was only 1974! How times have changed thank goodness! Second time around no marriage much as he wanted to x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yep. I very happily bought a house with my partner. We've been living together for six years now, we'll be married soon but I've never had any real issues about living with him. I enjoy it a lot. I don't think marriage will change the happiness I feel in having a home together with him. |
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We lived together for seven years before we got married.
I disagree that marriage is 'just a piece of paper'. If people don't want to marry for whatever reason I respect that, just don't dismiss my marriage in those terms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We lived together for seven years before we got married.
I disagree that marriage is 'just a piece of paper'. If people don't want to marry for whatever reason I respect that, just don't dismiss my marriage in those terms. "
We probably won't, but 1000% it's more than a piece of paper... its all about the meaning of it personally to you 2 |
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"We lived together for seven years before we got married.
I disagree that marriage is 'just a piece of paper'. If people don't want to marry for whatever reason I respect that, just don't dismiss my marriage in those terms.
We probably won't, but 1000% it's more than a piece of paper... its all about the meaning of it personally to you 2"
Exactly. All relationships are about their meaning to the individuals in it. Dismissing cohabiting couples with the phrase
'Oh they're just living together' is equally disrespectful in my view. |
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We've lived together for over 6 years ,I have no interest in getting married at all.
Like others said I think it would be odd to never live with a person before you commit to marry them,they might drive you crackers.
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
Yes i don't believe in god and i lived with my ex wife for 5 years before we got married, she was a catholic non practicing but her mum and dad were practicing catholics so we got married in a catholic church |
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'If marriage didn't exist, would you invent it? Would you go "Baby, this shit we got together, it's so good we gotta get the government in on this shit. We can't just share this commitment 'tweenst us. We need judges and lawyers involved in this shit, baby. It's hot!" ' Doug Stanhope
The party and celebration etc sure cool... The legal stuff? One could argue the reason we have binding contracts is due to a lack of trust. |
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When my father in law died his partner was not his next of kin because they weren't married. She was unable to do things that a NOK could. She said at the time she should have married him when he asked.
I think you either marry or you don't it's thankfully a personal choice for many in the west now. If you want legality there are other ways of achieving it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only bit of advice my mother gave me was try before you buy.
Do a test run before you commit. "
I really wish my Mum had said those words to me. It would of saved a lot of tears, upset and stress. |
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By *ornyguyMan
over a year ago
Hillsborough, NI |
I'm not married but cohabiting.
For marriage, there are tax benefits and next of kin benefits should the unthinkable happen. Same could also be achieved through civil partnership I guess. Anyway, that piece of paper can be important in certain circumstances.
I get frustrated with HMRC, who, when they want money, class you as Living as a Married Couple and when you want money from them, they say no because you're not married.
Sorry, I got a bit romantic and mushy there
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"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.
He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.
So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.
There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.
What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.
Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice "
Yes I could and have done 3 times. Obviously not straight away but after 3 or 4 months then yeah. |
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"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.
He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.
So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.
There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.
What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.
Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice
It’s 2023. Is this even a consideration these days?
And a marriage is not just a piece of paper. It’s a legally binding contract and you are agreeing to share your wealth in the event of a future divorce. It’s not something to be entered into lightly.
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You are also liable for the debts  |
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By *hagTonight OP Man
over a year ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I was listening to one talking about it and it was interesting.
He was talking about memories from when he went to college and there a question came about it, he remembered how the teacher asked the class if you could move in together if you are not married.
So, if you could you would raise your hand and if couldnt do it, you wouldnt raise it.
There were 30 pupils in the class where 27 hands went up and 3 didnt, so the majority wouldnt mind doing it.
What about about you, could you move in together if you are a couple before getting married? I could and I wouldnt have any problems with it.
Personally, I dont see how a piece of paper makes a lot of difference to a relationship, it definitely comes down to personal choice
It’s 2023. Is this even a consideration these days?
And a marriage is not just a piece of paper. It’s a legally binding contract and you are agreeing to share your wealth in the event of a future divorce. It’s not something to be entered into lightly.
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Yes, you are right there. I dont think that it is a consideration these days, more so back in the days |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Yes I have lived with two men. Not sure I’d want to live with a man again though. They can keep their home and I’ll have mine and we’ll meet up for sex and conversation every Thursday evening. Throw in a Saturday too if they’re good in bed.  |
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