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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow deep question

Honest answer.

Part of me sometimes. All of me occasionally.

I do however believe if you can’t like yourself it’s very hard to allow someone else to

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By *KloganMan over a year ago

Ramsbottom

Yes… I have no choice but to. Do others like me? I hope so x

Do you like you posh?

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Away for Christmas

Not my face

The rest of my I'm okay with.

A few little things in my personality/mental side I'd change

But I do like the person that I am.

Overall I like me.

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By *hoirCouple over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Nope.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Yes I think I'm fucking amazing...

Unfortunately everyone else thinks I'm a cunt..

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By *luebellRacerCouple over a year ago

Shropshire

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

I used to really not like myself, but as I've gotten older I've grown to like me.

Age has increased my Jean size though, that's probably the only thing I don't like now.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

As a person absolutely, even if I do my own head in occasionally. Not quite there with how I look but I'm progressively getting there slowly.

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By *cottish guy 555Man over a year ago

London

Not really, no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Phsyicallllly - nah

Mentally - I'm awesome

Emotionally - I'm dead inside, so yeah.

I'd give me a

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By *929Man over a year ago

bedlington

Face and hair looks like shit so no to that. Think I’m in half decent shape from neck down for ages but for all I’m not content with build (purely as want to be bigger) I don’t dislike it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

Phsyicallllly - nah

Mentally - I'm awesome

Emotionally - I'm dead inside, so yeah.

I'd give me a

I spelt physically wrong.

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By *eau and ArrowCouple over a year ago

Bromsgrove

I (Beau) have a tendency to beat myself up over things I have done in the past and don’t think I deserve good things. I never understand why Arrow is with me. However when I do find clarity and step outside a little I can tell I am not a bad person. Just doesn’t happen as often as I would like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not particularly and I can't say I ever have

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Years ago I would have said no, not at all. As I've got older and realised that all the things I thought mattered don't - yeah I'm alright actually.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

I like myself now but didn't used to... its took some work but I got there

Mr has always loved himself, he genuinely thinks he's the funniest man on the plant

especially when he's poking my last nerve

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By *zael ElohimMan over a year ago

Scarborough

I did until I became single and started on dating apps. Now I am lonely and have a limited self esteem.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple over a year ago

Staffordshire

Rarely if I’m honest.

Most of the time I find myself absolutely ridiculous and not in a cute funny way either.

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

I love myself more than I hate myself, but sometimes I do hate myself.

I can very narcissistic in terms of staring at myself in a mirror and literally getting off on myself.

But I (like all) have those issues that haunt me... for me much of it evolves around issues with confidence and how I interact with other people (I am shit at it).

So I guess physically I am fairly happy with myself

Emotionally/mentally I am wavering

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By *avexxMan over a year ago

cheshire

yep i certainly do like myself why not,,

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"yep i certainly do like myself why not,,"

Just curious. I love that certainty Dave!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nooooooo

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By *cottish guy 555Man over a year ago

London

"I (Beau) have a tendency to beat myself up over things I have done in the past and don’t think I deserve good things. I never understand why Arrow is with me. However when I do find clarity and step outside a little I can tell I am not a bad person. Just doesn’t happen as often as I would like "

Snap. Although not the part involving your lady

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I love myself more than I hate myself, but sometimes I do hate myself.

I can very narcissistic in terms of staring at myself in a mirror and literally getting off on myself.

But I (like all) have those issues that haunt me... for me much of it evolves around issues with confidence and how I interact with other people (I am shit at it).

So I guess physically I am fairly happy with myself

Emotionally/mentally I am wavering "

Thank you for sharing. Are you more confident online maybe?

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

I don’t know about like, but I made peace with myself some years ago. It was either that or death, which kind of focused my attention on the issue. These days I don’t really dwell too much on myself. It’s hard to be kind and thoughtful to others when you spend all your time wrapped up in yourself. Relationships suffer. And I have so many reasons to appreciate those around me, I’m just too busy being a dad and a husband and chasing creative projects to be navel gazing.

What about you OP? How do you feel about yourself?

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By *r.SJMan over a year ago

Wellingborough

Not particularly...

Emotionally broken but honest

Physically not keen but fit enough

Mentally. I'm just working on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose I’m not that bad, I could get along with me although I can be a bit flaky

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Rarely if I’m honest.

Most of the time I find myself absolutely ridiculous and not in a cute funny way either. "

I didn't expect to read that from you. Thank you for being open

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I did until I became single and started on dating apps. Now I am lonely and have a limited self esteem. "

Apps destroy everyone. I just wish I knew the answer.

I'm sorry to read that.

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By *razzyhorseMan over a year ago

cambridge

Most of me yes but there are aspects I'm not comfortable with.

Wish I was more confident and less doubtful is just one.

Is it too late to change... Hmm

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I like myself now but didn't used to... its took some work but I got there

Mr has always loved himself, he genuinely thinks he's the funniest man on the plant

especially when he's poking my last nerve

This has made me smile Mrs.

He is pretty funny to be fair...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Rarely if I’m honest.

Most of the time I find myself absolutely ridiculous and not in a cute funny way either. "

You look pretty awesome from here

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Years ago I would have said no, not at all. As I've got older and realised that all the things I thought mattered don't - yeah I'm alright actually."

I think you're alright too actually

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Not particularly and I can't say I ever have "

Do you think you can or will?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

A bit of give and take then? That sounds balanced

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I’m

Happy with what I’ve got… Im not always totally good with my fitness but then who is? X

Over all I’m happy.,

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

Phsyicallllly - nah

Mentally - I'm awesome

Emotionally - I'm dead inside, so yeah.

I'd give me a

I spelt physically wrong. "

You really did. Spectacularly in fact.

And you're alright. Gob on it, quite bright. Decent arse.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Face and hair looks like shit so no to that. Think I’m in half decent shape from neck down for ages but for all I’m not content with build (purely as want to be bigger) I don’t dislike it "

What about mentally and emotionally?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Not really, no

Do you think you can or will? Have you ever?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"As a person absolutely, even if I do my own head in occasionally. Not quite there with how I look but I'm progressively getting there slowly. "

Do you do tell yourself off as well? Out loud? Where people can hear?

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

"I love myself more than I hate myself, but sometimes I do hate myself.

I can very narcissistic in terms of staring at myself in a mirror and literally getting off on myself.

But I (like all) have those issues that haunt me... for me much of it evolves around issues with confidence and how I interact with other people (I am shit at it).

So I guess physically I am fairly happy with myself

Emotionally/mentally I am wavering

Thank you for sharing. Are you more confident online maybe? "

Very much so, it's easy to be confident through a screen.

I think for me the biggest issue is going up to people and talking to them.

If someone comes and chats to me everything is fine, but instigating conversation with strangers is something I still can't get right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like who I am. I like my personality, I like my big soft romantic heart, I like my mind when it's full of wonder, curiosity and mischief. (I like getting to indulge my sexy imagination too.)

I also like my kind and caring nature.

I like my strength and resilience and I like how passionate I am when it comes to my beliefs and my personal values.

I even like my sense of humour and those moments when I say something hilarious /awkward or downright filthy without even meaning to!

I'm not a fan of how I look or my overthinking or my inability to always be sensible!

In general I'm lovely and I do like me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

I used to really not like myself, but as I've gotten older I've grown to like me.

Age has increased my Jean size though, that's probably the only thing I don't like now.

Mr"

I like that you've started to like you. Because I've always thought you were cool

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

Yes I think I'm fucking amazing...

Unfortunately everyone else thinks I'm a cunt..

I mean... *everyone* else?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

Nope.

Have you liked you? Do you think you can?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Not my face

The rest of my I'm okay with.

A few little things in my personality/mental side I'd change

But I do like the person that I am.

Overall I like me. "

I like that you like you. I like you too

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

Mostly yes. I'm proud of the job I did as a mum and the relationship I have with my kids. I think I'm a good person on the whole and I like my brain. Don't like bits of my body and its annoying that my memory isn't what it was.

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By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"Years ago I would have said no, not at all. As I've got older and realised that all the things I thought mattered don't - yeah I'm alright actually.

I think you're alright too actually"

You've said that before, you nutter, must be something up with you

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not my biggest fan, and I somewhat endure my own existence, but other people seem to like me. Idiots the lot of them.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes… I have no choice but to. Do others like me? I hope so x

Do you like you posh? "

There is always a choice. But I like that you like you. I think others do too. I do.

As the person that posed the question... I reserve the right yo not answer it fully yet. But no.

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By *amantha TSWoman over a year ago

Swindon

I'm finally getting to a place of peace with myself. It took 38 years to work out what was wrong and why I was never really, truly, happy. Now I know and am taking steps to fix it, I do like being me!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Wow deep question

Honest answer.

Part of me sometimes. All of me occasionally.

I do however believe if you can’t like yourself it’s very hard to allow someone else to "

I go deep occasionally...

I'm glad to read that.

And I agree with the last part.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have full confidence in myself. I love myself it sounds self centered but I achieved what I set out to do in life.

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By *929Man over a year ago

bedlington

"Face and hair looks like shit so no to that. Think I’m in half decent shape from neck down for ages but for all I’m not content with build (purely as want to be bigger) I don’t dislike it

What about mentally and emotionally?"

At times I detest myself in that regard mostly due to my failure to keep my family together and the result of that me not living with my daughter any more it’s getting better but I still beat myself up a lot mainly the days after she goes back to her mams but I always angry at self for this I got over the ex leaving but this taking a lot longer

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By *lay 4 your plessureMan over a year ago

Wigan

Personality wise I like myself, people tend to really like me and care about me, so I must be doing something right in that respect. Physically I really don't like myself, the inner me came in damaged/broken packaging. Mentally I'm a bit on the fence with, I'm extremely empathetic which I know is a good thing for other people but it can take it's toll on me if they lean on me too much, empathy is both a blessing and a curse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like most of me. I'm content with my body, personality, intellect, emotions etc. All except that really critical part of my inner voice that is forever exasperated and frustrated with various things I do or don't do. I don't like it and it doesn't like me.

Nell

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Nowhere

Yes - I’ve done ok and i try to make the world a bit better when i go to bed than it was when i woke up. Fun, a good deed here or there or just asking how someone is.. and meaning it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want to. But the voices in my head tell me every day to focus on the negatives and the evidence of people not liking me rather than the positives. My anxiety leaves me in tears sometimes. But I’m getting so much better with therapy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes if you don't like yourself then how do you expect others to like you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes if you don't like yourself then how do you expect others to like you?"

You don't, and are often bemused when they do.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

I'm a nice person. Hard working, loving, silly, etc. Don't especially like how I look or the image of myself in a wheelchair but hey-ho. I am me.

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By *riel13Woman over a year ago

Northampton

Mostly

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By *aucasian GhandiMan over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

On any given I swing between liking myself, to having no self-worth, self-esteem and viewing myself really badly

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a bit of a horror apparently.

I go with the 80 / 20 principle in my life. Try to be 80% good and like myself for it - and then try and forgive the 20% that's a nightmare.

x Jess

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

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Obviously I'm amazing in every way ( apart from spell checking the above)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes if you don't like yourself then how do you expect others to like you?

You don't, and are often bemused when they do."

Hmmm fair point

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By *antricSeeker60Man over a year ago

Durham

I’m at peace with myself and feel calm and contented, with no emotional conflicts within myself or with other people. It’s been a long slog but once I knew forgiveness in my soul I could at last be at peace with myself.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

Yes, and I like (some of) those who like themselves too

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By *cottish guy 555Man over a year ago

London

"Not really, no

Do you think you can or will? Have you ever?"

I am trying, although not terribly hard. I think I always had doubts but that changed to become a rather more intense feeling of seeing myself as a disappointment and failure

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By *eartsmanMan over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

I love myself, every morning when I wake up, I look in the mirror and say to myself. Wow you get better looking every day, can't wait till tomorrow

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Yes, I do.

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By *urvelover87Man over a year ago

stevenage

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Uh, deep question here. I used to not like myself at all, physically and mentally. Therapy and life experiences helped me to get out of my insecurities and accept myself for the flaming trainwreck I am. Mostly. Still hate my eyes, bloody things could function properly instead of requiring lenses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love myself, every morning when I wake up, I look in the mirror and say to myself. Wow you get better looking every day, can't wait till tomorrow

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman over a year ago

lancashire

It's a love and hate thing with me...some times I love me, parts of me I always love, then some times I hate some things about me..

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"As a person absolutely, even if I do my own head in occasionally. Not quite there with how I look but I'm progressively getting there slowly.

Do you do tell yourself off as well? Out loud? Where people can hear?"

All the time. Luckily work and my mates are used to it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just kind of *am* at the minute. I wouldn't say I love myself but I wouldn't say I focus too much on hating myself ether because I'd just fixate on those reasons and especially how to fix it and to be honest, I just can't be arsed to deal with that.

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By *oggoneMan over a year ago

Derry

On the whole yes, I'm not perfect but I can deal with what I got.

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By *heGateKeeperMan over a year ago

Stratford

In general yes, I’d be friends with me. I have off days though, like today.

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By *hitney NeilWoman over a year ago

Hiding in a marmite jar near you.

Yes, I’m not bad

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By *aretobareCouple over a year ago

Central Portugal

Sometimes

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"In general yes, I’d be friends with me. I have off days though, like today.

And when you've had a few

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Yes I do very much. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like that too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not a lot. But then I’ve met me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

33.3% twat.

33.3% not bad.

33.3% fucking amazing.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman over a year ago

Essex

Mentally, emotionally etc. . I’m a good soul.

Physically mostly.

I’m content with my lot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I do very much. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like that too

I’d drink you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Kinda, no, yes….probably.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Myself, absolutely. I’m the best version of myself I’ve ever been. Looks wise, I’m not perfect, I have a mum belly but I’m happy and healthy.

Mrs

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By *ansoffateMan over a year ago

Sagittarius A

Throw a log on the fire. Take a load off your feet and watch the flames. Thinking about that shit'll drive you nuts.

Nature is smarter than people think.

You're good posh,

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By *ath_ladMan over a year ago

Bath

I’m in a happy place just wish I had a better body then I’d like myself

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I love me

It's been a fucking long road to get here. But I'm awesome. I'm pretty. I'm a good person. And I appreciate me in the way I never used to understand other people appreciating me.

I am more than my parts and more than my flaws and I fucking rock

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By *ellhungvweMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am happy with who I am. There are things that I am sure others would change but I don’t live for other people. I am me and I can live with that.

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"Yes I do very much. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like that too

I’d drink you. "

Watch out… I’m a bit hot

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By *adbod2godbodMan over a year ago

Manchester

I'm a disappointment to me

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Most certainly

As I've had my lows and highs and still able to bring joy and smiles to others which in turn gives me further strengths and still smiling... Their is never a dull day because someone else might be worse off ....

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By *warf with a mulletMan over a year ago

barry

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

No, I'm a fucking prick.

I like the other 2 me's though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The short answer is no. I could go on and on about why but no one needs to read that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Yup...I am a once only model of me..l realise and accept that l'm not everyone's type , either here or in the real World and that's fine too but yup lm so happy that l'm the person l am , of course it wasn't always this way others played their role in my life too ..not anymore...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, although I do fight feeling like that.

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say yes, but there will be a forever work in progress, but the main thing is I address problems. I’ll try to work them out. of course easier said than done

Saying that I would say that is life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No apart from being smart, but if I am to be I’d surely realise there’s much more important things in life

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By *ittlelad69Man over a year ago

clay cross

No hate myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like swinging

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I do very much. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. And I like that too

I’d drink you.

Watch out… I’m a bit hot

I know. I know

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Yes I love myself! X

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Nooooooo

You don't? That's an odd emoji to choose for a no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I put on a face that I do I act confident in pictures

I act confident about myself when with other

I say act as it’s a good way to describe it

Truth is when I look in the mirror when alone I don’t see beauty I see ugly and hate for myself

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

Yes, I do!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, although I do fight feeling like that. "

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one"

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv"

See. Old.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv"

I do know the song. Not sure I've ever related it to self-esteem!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I don’t know about like, but I made peace with myself some years ago. It was either that or death, which kind of focused my attention on the issue. These days I don’t really dwell too much on myself. It’s hard to be kind and thoughtful to others when you spend all your time wrapped up in yourself. Relationships suffer. And I have so many reasons to appreciate those around me, I’m just too busy being a dad and a husband and chasing creative projects to be navel gazing.

What about you OP? How do you feel about yourself? "

I think you're right, if you spend all your time wrapped in yourself then yes, relationships do suffer. But people are always saying that one should practise self care and not always be concentrating on others, so where is the line?

I can dislike myself and just ignore myself as much as possible. Not practise self care, and yet care for and be kind to those around me, some of whom get frustrated and hurt by the lack of care nd thought I show myself. Effectively I actually self harm by not liking myself, because i neglect me.

I'm glad you have found peace and joy, and reasons to be happy and present.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I’m totally honest I don’t know what self-love is. Seen a bunch of therapists and they tell me I need to be kind and love myself but I physically don’t know what that is. I can love others but the idea of loving myself doesn’t register at all, i wish I could

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Not particularly...

Emotionally broken but honest

Physically not keen but fit enough

Mentally. I'm just working on it.

I think working on yourself shows a desire to like yourself. That's something to hold on to.

I like you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman over a year ago

In the clouds

Oh yeah I'm brilliant... honestly, an all round good egg and funny, caring, empathic, supportive, I'm ace!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh yeah I'm brilliant... honestly, an all round good egg and funny, caring, empathic, supportive, I'm ace!!

Humble too

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I suppose I’m not that bad, I could get along with me although I can be a bit flaky

You always seem rather lovely to me.

And I hope you can turn that one into a resounding yes soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP you so sweet, I appreciate that about you from quite a distance

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By *orkshireBeef26Man over a year ago

Kirkella

Yes.. if you don't like yourself

How is anyone else going to like you..

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Most of me yes but there are aspects I'm not comfortable with.

Wish I was more confident and less doubtful is just one.

Is it too late to change... Hmm

I don't think it is ever too late. Sometimes it is too much effort though. And I don't mean that negatively. I just mean that changing the way you think about yourself is work. And sometimes we just dont have that work in us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure I even really know who me is but the me I know I don't really like at all and haven't for a long time.

And am surprised when other people like me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes I’m

Happy with what I’ve got… Im not always totally good with my fitness but then who is? X

Over all I’m happy.,

That's all you can ask of yourself really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

https://youtu.be/8aShfolR6w8

I love myself.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I love myself more than I hate myself, but sometimes I do hate myself.

I can very narcissistic in terms of staring at myself in a mirror and literally getting off on myself.

But I (like all) have those issues that haunt me... for me much of it evolves around issues with confidence and how I interact with other people (I am shit at it).

So I guess physically I am fairly happy with myself

Emotionally/mentally I am wavering

Thank you for sharing. Are you more confident online maybe?

Very much so, it's easy to be confident through a screen.

I think for me the biggest issue is going up to people and talking to them.

If someone comes and chats to me everything is fine, but instigating conversation with strangers is something I still can't get right "

It takes a lot when you haven't always done it. For me, I have to put the Posh armour on... she is the exaggerated version of the things I wish that I could be more of... and I'm a major introvert who has ridiculous anxiety. That's the only way I can handle social situations. And by social I mean anything involving outside my front door.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I like who I am. I like my personality, I like my big soft romantic heart, I like my mind when it's full of wonder, curiosity and mischief. (I like getting to indulge my sexy imagination too.)

I also like my kind and caring nature.

I like my strength and resilience and I like how passionate I am when it comes to my beliefs and my personal values.

I even like my sense of humour and those moments when I say something hilarious /awkward or downright filthy without even meaning to!

I'm not a fan of how I look or my overthinking or my inability to always be sensible!

In general I'm lovely and I do like me. "

I love this. The joy you exude is evident even through the internet!

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv

See. Old. "

^^ old man

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Mostly yes. I'm proud of the job I did as a mum and the relationship I have with my kids. I think I'm a good person on the whole and I like my brain. Don't like bits of my body and its annoying that my memory isn't what it was. "

I can relate to the memory issue, big time. I like that you like most of you. You should. You rock

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm not my biggest fan, and I somewhat endure my own existence, but other people seem to like me. Idiots the lot of them."

I could have written most of that.

Do you feel settled in that feeling?

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm finally getting to a place of peace with myself. It took 38 years to work out what was wrong and why I was never really, truly, happy. Now I know and am taking steps to fix it, I do like being me!"

That's beautiful. I love that for you! And you always seem so bright and happy as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP is an amazing person

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have full confidence in myself. I love myself it sounds self centered but I achieved what I set out to do in life."

I absolutely disagree. It doesn't sound self centred. It sounds beautiful. And you should love yourself. That's brilliant!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv

See. Old. "

Cheeky [redacted]

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Face and hair looks like shit so no to that. Think I’m in half decent shape from neck down for ages but for all I’m not content with build (purely as want to be bigger) I don’t dislike it

What about mentally and emotionally?

You will get there. And all you can do is make sure your daughter feels loved and cared for at all times. You don't have to live with her to live in her heart. Nor she you.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS over a year ago

hexham

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Oh wow!

Erm, overall I think my good bits outweigh my bad bits. I wish I was cooler, calmer, slimmer

But I will support good people all the way. I hate injustice and bullying and will support victims of either to the best of my ability and I care about justice.

And I do have a good sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv

See. Old.

^^ old man

you are funny

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

Not particularly right now. I should really change that.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

I’m probably the most confident I’ve ever been lately.

There’s still a few tweaks I’d like to make physically.

Personality - I’m amazing!!!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Personality wise I like myself, people tend to really like me and care about me, so I must be doing something right in that respect. Physically I really don't like myself, the inner me came in damaged/broken packaging. Mentally I'm a bit on the fence with, I'm extremely empathetic which I know is a good thing for other people but it can take it's toll on me if they lean on me too much, empathy is both a blessing and a curse. "

It is at that. Learning to just stop is an important lesson when you have empathy. And knowing when your vessel is empty. You can't pour if it is empty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, although I do fight feeling like that.

I love that song that’s like ‘i can’t fight this feeling anymore’ or something. The people of the forum will know it, it’s an old one

https://g.co/kgs/KMLVQv

See. Old.

Cheeky [redacted]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not particularly right now. I should really change that."

I can tell you what I like about you

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I like most of me. I'm content with my body, personality, intellect, emotions etc. All except that really critical part of my inner voice that is forever exasperated and frustrated with various things I do or don't do. I don't like it and it doesn't like me.

Nell"

I think your deep inner voice is a meanie. Because you could just be content and happy without it spitting venom. It's wrong, by the way.

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS over a year ago

hexham

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?

Yes I think I'm fucking amazing...

Unfortunately everyone else thinks I'm a cunt..

I doubt you are.

I bet you are a right good laugh to be out with xxx

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"Not particularly right now. I should really change that.

I can tell you what I like about you

Aww hello little pickle

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I wish I was more confident in myself

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By *ansoffateMan over a year ago

Sagittarius A

"I love me

It's been a fucking long road to get here. But I'm awesome. I'm pretty. I'm a good person. And I appreciate me in the way I never used to understand other people appreciating me.

I am more than my parts and more than my flaws and I fucking rock

I loved reading this, especially the part about appreciating yourself the way others do. That's a beautiful thing, there's people I love: if I had a magic wand I'd wish that upon.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes - I’ve done ok and i try to make the world a bit better when i go to bed than it was when i woke up. Fun, a good deed here or there or just asking how someone is.. and meaning it.

I love that. You rock.

Leaving the world a little brighter. That's always my aim for a day as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not particularly right now. I should really change that.

I can tell you what I like about you

Aww hello little pickle

SG, I want you to come to London

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I wish I was more confident in myself

I don't know if you're being serious or not

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"I wish I was more confident in myself

I don't know if you're being serious or not

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman over a year ago

Bristol

Yes very much

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

"Not particularly right now. I should really change that.

I can tell you what I like about you

Aww hello little pickle

SG, I want you to come to London

Oh you do?? I’ll have to try and do that sometime

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I wish I was more confident in myself

I don't know if you're being serious or not

Not

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I want to. But the voices in my head tell me every day to focus on the negatives and the evidence of people not liking me rather than the positives. My anxiety leaves me in tears sometimes. But I’m getting so much better with therapy. "

Those voices, Pickle. I live with those voices all the time.

One piece of advice about them. You can't mute them forever. But you can turn the volume down for good. And turn the volume up on the good stuff. I know you can. People have proved that to me, they've done it. And you're still positive enough that you can believe me.

Don't be me. 20 years ago, even 10, I probably could have found the volume control. You can.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Yes if you don't like yourself then how do you expect others to like you?"

You don't.

I don't expect anyone to like me. Confuses the heck outta me.

I'd never wish the feeling on anyone, and I'm so happy when people don't understand it, because it means they've not felt it. But they don't understand.

I'm glad you don't get it. You're lovely and I love that you like you.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm a nice person. Hard working, loving, silly, etc. Don't especially like how I look or the image of myself in a wheelchair but hey-ho. I am me. "

You are a nice person. And nice doesn't cover it. You're so special to me.

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Mostly "

Mostly is a big thing. That's great!

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"On any given I swing between liking myself, to having no self-worth, self-esteem and viewing myself really badly "

Try and stop the swing at liking yourself for a little longer each day. Baby steps.

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By *929Man over a year ago

bedlington

"Face and hair looks like shit so no to that. Think I’m in half decent shape from neck down for ages but for all I’m not content with build (purely as want to be bigger) I don’t dislike it

What about mentally and emotionally?

You will get there. And all you can do is make sure your daughter feels loved and cared for at all times. You don't have to live with her to live in her heart. Nor she you."

Thank you she is spending more time here lately and says she wants to move In once her rabbit dies. Her mam buys her things but expects her to occupy herself in her room which she thought was great at first but now starting to realise what’s really important where she gets time and attention here

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

Surprised nobody said they've learned to live with themselves

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm a bit of a horror apparently.

I go with the 80 / 20 principle in my life. Try to be 80% good and like myself for it - and then try and forgive the 20% that's a nightmare.

x Jess"

I think that's a great way to look at it. Although the fact you say apparently makes me feel as if people have said that about you. And that's not fair or kind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes and no.

No (for reasons I cannot fathom), but that aside I know in my heart I'm one of the best humans I know, so yes.

Having sentience is so complex.

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By *uckmonkeyMan over a year ago

devon

I’d say most of me but definitely bits I’d change and bollocks to those who say you won’t be you if you change bits….

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By *amantha_JadeWoman over a year ago

Newcastle

Physically, I’ll always think improvements can be made. I’ll always be curvy rather than slim and it annoys me that I can’t naturally tan. But I’m pretty happy with my personality. I’m very kind, caring and generous and think I have a good sense of humour. I wish I was more decisive and didn’t procrastinate so much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love myself! - quite regularly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well... do you?

Physically, mentally, emotionally, anywhichway-ally.

Do you actually like you?"

Mostly yes

I am a bit lazy and fearful of failure. It has held me back. Im scared of change.

I am proud of my achievments but feel i should be doing more.

I am kind and generous and a good friend.

I am bit worried im a bit arrogant at times

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I'm a nice person. Hard working, loving, silly, etc. Don't especially like how I look or the image of myself in a wheelchair but hey-ho. I am me.

You are a nice person. And nice doesn't cover it. You're so special to me."

My dear lady, what a compliment. You are an absolute gem, a diamond and a total legend

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By *otSoPosh OP Woman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm actually shattered now... and as much as I wanted to respond to everyone who has been so kind and open and shared their feelings on this thread, I don't have the energy, or the remaining posts as it happens, I'm so sorry.

Thank you all for accommodating my whim once again.

To those who do like themselves more than not, that's something so special. It brings joy to you, and to those around you who can bask in that reflected joy. And brings hope to many that they can feel it too, I hope. You're seen. You're important. And you know you rock.

To those who don't... you are special. You're uniquely you, and you are the only one who can be a better you for yourself. What some have said isn't true, you don't have to like yourself in order for others to like you. They see something to like, or to love. And they would be so happy if you could see those things too.

It isn't easy. I know it isn't. We are often our own worst enemy. And what we would slap someone down for saying to a friend we often say to ourselves. That's a step we should all try and take. Whenever you find yourself being mean to you, remind yourself that you wouldn't allow anyone to say that to your friend. So don't let you say it to your friend's friend. Either that or ask your friend to slap you for every time you do. Unless you like being slapped. In which case find something you don't like.

You are all special. You are all seen and you are all appreciated. Sometimes fab can be hard, no matter who you are. Sometimes it can be soul destroying and make your internal volume dial turn the negative up and the positive down. And sometimes the forum can feel like you're shouting into a void.

The same is true of life.

And for both, when that happens, take a step back. Find a positive. Do something that feels good.

And every day, find something beautiful and take note of it.

Be good to you, dear fabber. Be good to others, sure. But be good to you

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By *uckmonkeyMan over a year ago

devon

My age…. Just realised a lot of people put up to 50 and I’ve just gone over it….less people to hit on now..

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

What about you OP? How do you feel about yourself?

I'm glad you have found peace and joy, and reasons to be happy and present."

This is something I’ve been thinking about just recently. I don’t have any specific or even general answers that are useful. I just know that ‘peace’ is a key concept for me. I am at peace with my flaws. I am confident that I’m a good person, that I mean well, that I am generous in spirit. I haven’t always made the right choices. I may even have hurt a couple of people along the way. But if I have, it was never intentional. I’m not a liar. I’m not a cheat. I’ve never fucked somebody over, acted maliciously or attempted to sabotage another person. I try to live lightly, love deeply those who are worth loving, and laugh often. This way, self care is as simple as having a nice sit down and a cup of tea, a few hours to read, or cycle or walk. It doesn’t have to be this grand endeavour to forge a new person or ‘correct’ any deficiencies. At least, not for me. Healthy food, exercise, being outside away from screens, good, consistent and regular sleep. Rest. Acceptance. Beyond that… I don’t really know what people mean by self care.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

I would say that some of the time,yes, I like myself... I am very satisfied to be Ms/Mr average ..simply ordinary.

I don't love myself and I don't hate myself and not attracted to those kind of people that do, and yes you can generally spot them..No strong desire to change very much (lazy?) .Fairly contented and thanks fir asking and making me think..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More than I used to...not as much as I should ..

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

Not really, no. Even less so lately.

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By *hagTonightMan over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Yes. I do

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan over a year ago

A den in the Glen

Mentally - absolutely

Physically - yep

Facially -yep

Emotionally - I need to feel a bit more empathy

Morally- Nope. Cheatin bastard that is battling between good and evil.

All in all safe 7/10

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