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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago
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Reports that the old practice of ladies giving their wardrobe and hair a makeover after being dumped is now being called Revenge Hot to make former boyfriends jealous. Are they reinventing the wheel here. It's all over the news |
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract."
I hit the gym, burst my leg muscles. Not quite sure that was hot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
I hit the gym, burst my leg muscles. Not quite sure that was hot "
There will be someone somewhere with a nurse/patient kink that would be all over that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's revenge hot. More like reclaiming that person I used to be before the ex sucked all my energy and joy out of me - but with lipstick ;-p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually find that quite funny. What a funny expression.
I don't think I do that to be honest, I think I just take more care of myself as I'm not feeling so negative about myself. Can't say I've ever bought a whole new wardrobe of clothes either. I mean who can afford to do that?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's revenge hot. More like reclaiming that person I used to be before the ex sucked all my energy and joy out of me - but with lipstick ;-p "
I love the way you worded that...much better than what I just posted. |
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
I hit the gym, burst my leg muscles. Not quite sure that was hot
There will be someone somewhere with a nurse/patient kink that would be all over that."
Female nurse in scrubs....I'll suffer for that  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think it's about revenge. Not really. I think it's good when anything changes/ends to spend time focusing on you. It's like reclaiming who are you, enjoying yourself again. Finding people who do want to spend time with you.
I'm currently doing that. Ish. Fuck being made to feel undateable etc, it's great to actually go to the gym, take proper care of myself and get the piercings I've wanted to for a while. I did almost get a fringe but that's too obvious a move to do.
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
" I actually find that quite funny. What a funny expression.
I don't think I do that to be honest, I think I just take more care of myself as I'm not feeling so negative about myself. Can't say I've ever bought a whole new wardrobe of clothes either. I mean who can afford to do that? "
This is probably more from the imagination of a tabloid reporter than reality. Yeah, people fall down after a break up, then pick themselves up again. |
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"Why would I want my ex to care? In my teenage years this kind of thing was important but I'm a grown arse woman. "
The crushing effect on your psyche makes you do odd things. I lost four stone, went grey,and felt awful. The 'I'll show you' kicks in, so off to the gym etc. After a couple of years, you realise it's futile and ease into a normal reality. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract."
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense "
Where did I say they didn’t do that? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"So this is something the dumped do? Motivated from being dumped and rejected. The dumper has already checked out and is moving on with their lives."
Ha, no. I do it any time there's a change in my life. It's good to reconnect with myself a bit because sometimes I lose sight of things. More often than not I'm the one who says... "let's just be friends". |
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
I hit the gym, burst my leg muscles. Not quite sure that was hot
There will be someone somewhere with a nurse/patient kink that would be all over that."
Awesomeness deserved here, you’ve won the internet today. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense
Where did I say they didn’t do that?"
Directly in your comment ..get dumped then work on yourself and hit the gym .. why wait to get dumped |
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"Why would I want my ex to care? In my teenage years this kind of thing was important but I'm a grown arse woman.
The crushing effect on your psyche makes you do odd things. I lost four stone, went grey,and felt awful. The 'I'll show you' kicks in, so off to the gym etc. After a couple of years, you realise it's futile and ease into a normal reality. "
Does anyone ever leave a long term relationship just because of looks though? I suspect not. I don't think putting your relationship worth on your looks is ever a good idea in any way shape or form. I just think focusing on yourself and not your ex is a much better idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense
Where did I say they didn’t do that?
Directly in your comment ..get dumped then work on yourself and hit the gym .. why wait to get dumped "
You’re reading into this way too much. Everyone makes more effort when they’re trying to attract a new partner. It’s natural. This doesn’t mean they stop making an effort when they find one. |
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"Can't say I've ever bought a whole new wardrobe of clothes either. I mean who can afford to do that? "
I had to. Back when I went through a big break up and divorce I lost so much weight nothing fitted any more.
From stress, more than anything else, I think. The Divorce Diet is a real thing! |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense
Where did I say they didn’t do that?
Directly in your comment ..get dumped then work on yourself and hit the gym .. why wait to get dumped
You’re reading into this way too much. Everyone makes more effort when they’re trying to attract a new partner. It’s natural. This doesn’t mean they stop making an effort when they find one."
I get what your saying, my comment wasn't aimed at you with intention to debate I was merely making a valid point which I thought you'd of understood |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense
Where did I say they didn’t do that?
Directly in your comment ..get dumped then work on yourself and hit the gym .. why wait to get dumped
You’re reading into this way too much. Everyone makes more effort when they’re trying to attract a new partner. It’s natural. This doesn’t mean they stop making an effort when they find one.
I get what your saying, my comment wasn't aimed at you with intention to debate I was merely making a valid point which I thought you'd of understood "
Apologies. I thought you were disagreeing with my post. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
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"Everyone does this. You get dumped, you hit the gym and work on yourself to make yourself more appealing to the people you are trying to attract.
Instead of carrying on this endless viscous circle.. maybe they should try working on themselves all the time instead of waiting to get dumped to have motivation to do it .. people who work hard, train hard and take pride in themselves do it for their personal well being and will do well in life .. people who only better themselves just to bag a partner then let themselves go are just kidding themselves and the partner they are after.. nonsense
Where did I say they didn’t do that?
Directly in your comment ..get dumped then work on yourself and hit the gym .. why wait to get dumped
You’re reading into this way too much. Everyone makes more effort when they’re trying to attract a new partner. It’s natural. This doesn’t mean they stop making an effort when they find one.
I get what your saying, my comment wasn't aimed at you with intention to debate I was merely making a valid point which I thought you'd of understood
Apologies. I thought you were disagreeing with my post. "
No not at all it's a fact what you're saying for sure !! And I was following up by saying what I said about the alternative option of training and taking care of themselves FOR themselves all the time instead of for someone else temporarily |
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