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Almost two-thirds of Tinder's users are already in a relationship - and half don't even want a date
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tinder is the biggest and arguably the best place for hookups. This isn’t that surprising. I’d say if you just want a leg over you’re better off there than anywhere else. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Tinder is the biggest and arguably the best place for hookups. This isn’t that surprising. I’d say if you just want a leg over you’re better off there than anywhere else. "
This is true, shame about the bots though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it’s mostly used for casual sex
People can hide behind it’s a date site less judgement
Than they on a swingers site or as some think a sex site
Mostly if friends or relatives or people they know see them on it they can cover with I looking for love a date
Instead off I am getting around everyone
Normal closed minded thinking to be honest
Instead off being open minded and telling the jugmenit people to take a fly fuck to them self exuse the language it’s not very often I use it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tinder is the biggest and arguably the best place for hookups. This isn’t that surprising. I’d say if you just want a leg over you’re better off there than anywhere else. "
Guess it varies greatly from person to person! I joined Tinder before I joined Fab, I've only ever had one match meet me from Tinder (social meet) she was not impressed that I was seeking hookups and never spoke since. All those who've matched with me subsequently also want serious relationships and ghost the second I admit otherwise. I've had much more fun via fab in the last 3 years, let's put it that way! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since when was tinder last about casual sex? I couldn't get laid if I'd been locked in a brothel and the lights were off."
'No ONS’ on 80%+ female profiles.
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Since when was tinder last about casual sex? I couldn't get laid if I'd been locked in a brothel and the lights were off.
'No ONS’ on 80%+ female profiles.
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And some 60+% of those specifying no ONS are exactly looking for that. But for all sorts of reasons say the opposite. The biggest difference between fab and tinder is women here are generally more explicit about what they're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it’s mostly used for casual sex
People can hide behind it’s a date site less judgement
Than they on a swingers site or as some think a sex site
Mostly if friends or relatives or people they know see them on it they can cover with I looking for love a date
Instead off I am getting around everyone
Normal closed minded thinking to be honest
Instead off being open minded and telling the jugmenit people to take a fly fuck to them self exuse the language it’s not very often I use it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it’s mostly used for casual sex
People can hide behind it’s a date site less judgement
Than they on a swingers site or as some think a sex site
Mostly if friends or relatives or people they know see them on it they can cover with I looking for love a date
Instead off I am getting around everyone
Normal closed minded thinking to be honest
Instead off being open minded and telling the jugmenit people to take a fly fuck to them self exuse the language it’s not very often I use it
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tinder is the biggest and arguably the best place for hookups. This isn’t that surprising. I’d say if you just want a leg over you’re better off there than anywhere else.
Guess it varies greatly from person to person! I joined Tinder before I joined Fab, I've only ever had one match meet me from Tinder (social meet) she was not impressed that I was seeking hookups and never spoke since. All those who've matched with me subsequently also want serious relationships and ghost the second I admit otherwise. I've had much more fun via fab in the last 3 years, let's put it that way! "
I’m poly and have that in my bio. So most of the people that end up matching with me actually say they’re cool because they aren’t looking for anything serious. |
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"Since when was tinder last about casual sex? I couldn't get laid if I'd been locked in a brothel and the lights were off.
'No ONS’ on 80%+ female profiles.
And some 60+% of those specifying no ONS are exactly looking for that. But for all sorts of reasons say the opposite. The biggest difference between fab and tinder is women here are generally more explicit about what they're looking for."
100% this. I’ve been on dates from tinder where women have talked about sleeping with guys even though the date has gone terribly because it’s tinder. That’s what people do. It isn’t hinge. |
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I used Tinder when living in the USA and it’s a very different site - basically hookups, nobody was on there looking for a relationship. In the U.K. Tinder site there’s more looking for relationships but I’ve had quite a few ‘dates’ that are obviously married women that went from Starbucks to a hotel room very quickly.. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Since when was tinder last about casual sex? I couldn't get laid if I'd been locked in a brothel and the lights were off.
'No ONS’ on 80%+ female profiles.
And some 60+% of those specifying no ONS are exactly looking for that. But for all sorts of reasons say the opposite. The biggest difference between fab and tinder is women here are generally more explicit about what they're looking for.
100% this. I’ve been on dates from tinder where women have talked about sleeping with guys even though the date has gone terribly because it’s tinder. That’s what people do. It isn’t hinge. "
I do think that part of the contradiction of tinder is that it's image driven. What's the expression about the mask showing you the (wo)man?
I'm not saying women on tinder are lying but it's not as easy for them to be honest about what they're looking for. So thats why so many stress they're #notthatsortofwoman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Surely if you are in a relationship the last thing you want to do is put your picture on the most popular "dating" site where you're likely to get spotted |
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"Since when was tinder last about casual sex? I couldn't get laid if I'd been locked in a brothel and the lights were off.
'No ONS’ on 80%+ female profiles.
And some 60+% of those specifying no ONS are exactly looking for that. But for all sorts of reasons say the opposite. The biggest difference between fab and tinder is women here are generally more explicit about what they're looking for.
100% this. I’ve been on dates from tinder where women have talked about sleeping with guys even though the date has gone terribly because it’s tinder. That’s what people do. It isn’t hinge.
I do think that part of the contradiction of tinder is that it's image driven. What's the expression about the mask showing you the (wo)man?
I'm not saying women on tinder are lying but it's not as easy for them to be honest about what they're looking for. So thats why so many stress they're #notthatsortofwoman"
So in order to appear less frivolous, women who want ONS explicitly state "No ONS!" on their profile and assume that men being men, and therefore mostly illiterate apes who think with their peepee, will still contact them for ONS?
That's some next level reverse psychology stuff. |
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"Since when was tinder last about casual sex? I couldn't get laid if I'd been locked in a brothel and the lights were off.
'No ONS’ on 80%+ female profiles.
And some 60+% of those specifying no ONS are exactly looking for that. But for all sorts of reasons say the opposite. The biggest difference between fab and tinder is women here are generally more explicit about what they're looking for.
100% this. I’ve been on dates from tinder where women have talked about sleeping with guys even though the date has gone terribly because it’s tinder. That’s what people do. It isn’t hinge.
I do think that part of the contradiction of tinder is that it's image driven. What's the expression about the mask showing you the (wo)man?
I'm not saying women on tinder are lying but it's not as easy for them to be honest about what they're looking for. So thats why so many stress they're #notthatsortofwoman"
Same can of baked beans... Just a different shop window |
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My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up. |
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up. "
How have they fucked it up? |
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I thought tinder was the original hook up site ? I have tinder and I think mine Says no ONS as well haha . I don't think I've ever met a person off tinder, not that I try hard but I've heard a few guys say they do much better for hook ups on there than here  |
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up? "
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up?
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
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Kudos for using the word "enshittens"... Simpsons fan? |
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"Tinder is the biggest and arguably the best place for hookups. This isn’t that surprising. I’d say if you just want a leg over you’re better off there than anywhere else. "
Do you think it's the same for fems on there?
I have no experience of dating sites, I like fab for the mindset of people on here, and less judged I imagine? |
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up?
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
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Totally agree. Because you had a lot of space to write you could really get a sense of the person much better than the Tinder blank ones or Bumble. When I did pay for OK Stupid once all my matches were from like Peru and China, literally. "Nearby", as you say, can be almost anywhere in the solar system.
Most of the time I get one or two messages on these things, then they read ny profile, ask me what "non-vanilla" means and if I'm in the RAF (I'm not but I wear something similar), and then it's like "I'm sure there are better options ". |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up?
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
Totally agree. Because you had a lot of space to write you could really get a sense of the person much better than the Tinder blank ones or Bumble. When I did pay for OK Stupid once all my matches were from like Peru and China, literally. "Nearby", as you say, can be almost anywhere in the solar system.
Most of the time I get one or two messages on these things, then they read ny profile, ask me what "non-vanilla" means and if I'm in the RAF (I'm not but I wear something similar), and then it's like "I'm sure there are better options "."
It was very noticeable when match bought up the competition and the focus completely changed into a pay to play exercise. |
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up?
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
Kudos for using the word "enshittens"... Simpsons fan? "
Not at all. I recently read an article called 'The Enshittification of TikTok', about how capitalism inevitably makes websites crap, so it's in my brain from there.
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Also on the question of Match, they've pretty much confirmed to me that they'll push you out more until you pay. That way you're more inclined to join as you think you'll have oodles of hot totty sitting in your inbox. Half won't reply, the rest are from China or something, and then you won't get a single match until your membership runs out. And then they all come in again.
These apps are crushing. Much like this place. Everyone wants to be wanted, regardless of your ultimate goal. Constantly being turned down because you're not good enough, not "solvent" enough, not "driven" enough, it's tough. |
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up?
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
Totally agree. Because you had a lot of space to write you could really get a sense of the person much better than the Tinder blank ones or Bumble. When I did pay for OK Stupid once all my matches were from like Peru and China, literally. "Nearby", as you say, can be almost anywhere in the solar system.
Most of the time I get one or two messages on these things, then they read ny profile, ask me what "non-vanilla" means and if I'm in the RAF (I'm not but I wear something similar), and then it's like "I'm sure there are better options ".
It was very noticeable when match bought up the competition and the focus completely changed into a pay to play exercise. "
I'm really glad you wrote "pay to play" and not "pay to win", because even if you do throw money at the exercise it's no guarantee of getting anywhere.
I know I've mentioned it already in my other reply, but the article 'The Enshittification of TikTok' is a really good summary of why websites, apps and services inevitably get worse rather than better. |
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"My impression was that Tinder started off as being the place for hookups, but then – like every other site that gets big – it got flooded with monogamists looking for The One™. Very depressing.
I miss old OKC, before they fucked it up.
How have they fucked it up?
Off the top of my head:
- The big one was when they fundamentally changed the longstanding format to make it a swipe-based app like Tinder, rather than just showing you a web page of results you could browse at your leisure.
- They also hid who likes you so you have to pay to see it.
- They broke the “Nearby” function, so it shows you people hundreds of miles away rather than close to you.
- They even broke their own new swipe format, so it now shows you the same people again and again and again no matter how many times you swipe left on them.
I’ve been on OKC for a very long time, and I’ve watched it go from the best dating site to one of the worst. All of these changes took place after the Match group bought them out. I’ve seen it suggested that Match deliberately enshittened OKC to try to drive the users to their own site.
Totally agree. Because you had a lot of space to write you could really get a sense of the person much better than the Tinder blank ones or Bumble. When I did pay for OK Stupid once all my matches were from like Peru and China, literally. "Nearby", as you say, can be almost anywhere in the solar system.
Most of the time I get one or two messages on these things, then they read ny profile, ask me what "non-vanilla" means and if I'm in the RAF (I'm not but I wear something similar), and then it's like "I'm sure there are better options ".
It was very noticeable when match bought up the competition and the focus completely changed into a pay to play exercise.
I'm really glad you wrote "pay to play" and not "pay to win", because even if you do throw money at the exercise it's no guarantee of getting anywhere.
I know I've mentioned it already in my other reply, but the article 'The Enshittification of TikTok' is a really good summary of why websites, apps and services inevitably get worse rather than better. "
And yet, we are all guilty of playing the game...only to rinse and repeat with the next website/app. If we stopped playing |
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