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For better and for worse

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some of us do like to take a break from here from time to time for whatever personal reasons. Some unlos and some get forced out. If you go on sabbatical, do your friends reach out to you and maintain the contact outside of fab? Or perhaps just remember you existed when you appear back and become 'useful' again? Are you a friend for better or worse?

Tones

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

Some Fab friends will reach out to me on Telegram and WhatsApp. I'm always grateful for those kindly gestures.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some Fab friends will reach out to me on Telegram and WhatsApp. I'm always grateful for those kindly gestures."

Good for you. It is a good friendship tester. Who needs you to shine in the limelight and who actually cares.

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

All of my friends, I speak to on other platforms, so nothing really changes when I have a forum break

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one on here has our contact details so they wouldn’t be able to get in touch with us when we take a break anyway. But when we came back after a break away we got a few messages welcoming us back which was nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No one on here has our contact details so they wouldn’t be able to get in touch with us when we take a break anyway. But when we came back after a break away we got a few messages welcoming us back which was nice

So it's a pure break ! Kudos

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one has my details here.

I came off for a year. Left my account dormant. No pics, no bio. Full silhouette mode.

Sometimes it's nice to take a break from fantasy.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

If and when I took a break I could confidently predict maybe 2 people would stay in contact off fab ..

And I have a fair few fabbers numbers..

It's just my idea of friendship clearly isn't some others

Tis cool though

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By *weetiepie99Woman over a year ago

cardiff

I don't have friends from here. All of my good friends and social circle are completely separate from this site...which is how i like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't have friends from here. All of my good friends and social circle are completely separate from this site...which is how i like it

I think that's quite important! I can't imagine only having friends originating from here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do have numbers for a couple of fabbers we have met, however if they go unlos I wouldn't feel it would be right to contact them. They have left for a reason. And even though we may be fab friends, I don't think they'd appreciate people checking in (or maybe they would. I wouldn't though). If I left here then I'd expect all those who have our number to not contact us, even to check in.

But hey, that's just me. I like to be uncontactable, unfindable. If I leave here don't all rush to my grave!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do have numbers for a couple of fabbers we have met, however if they go unlos I wouldn't feel it would be right to contact them. They have left for a reason. And even though we may be fab friends, I don't think they'd appreciate people checking in (or maybe they would. I wouldn't though). If I left here then I'd expect all those who have our number to not contact us, even to check in.

But hey, that's just me. I like to be uncontactable, unfindable. If I leave here don't all rush to my grave!

I'll just a light a candle alone then .. in the wind

Why do you feel it wouldn't be right to contact them? I wonder if we make assumptions about what people need in this situation ? Both you and I.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I keep my humour alive for anyone that needs it, break or no break!!

Some peoples idea of friendship though is piss poor unless they want something/gossip.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I keep my humour alive for anyone that needs it, break or no break!!

Some peoples idea of friendship though is piss poor unless they want something/gossip."

And you use my favourite gif.. that's 70s show one

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

We used to have forum friends on telegram and WhatsApp. Almost all stopped talking to us. When we came back, a couple of people said hello, but for the most part, those who knew us before do not speak to us now. There is only one person from the ‘old-days’ who keeps in touch outside of the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But hey, that's just me. I like to be uncontactable, unfindable. If I leave here don't all rush to my grave!

I'll just a light a candle alone then .. in the wind

Why do you feel it wouldn't be right to contact them? I wonder if we make assumptions about what people need in this situation ? Both you and I. "

For me, the people I've met off here are due to swinging. If they came off here, presumably to have a break then I wouldn't feel I had a right to contact them. Considering our mutual interest is swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again. "

We do appreciate you always messaging us when you're back from trucking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again.

You leave more than me!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again.

We do appreciate you always messaging us when you're back from trucking

My pleasure treacle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again.

You leave more than me!!"

Fair one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again.

You leave more than me!!

Fair one"

Also my plans for you don't include talking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again.

You leave more than me!!

Fair one

Also my plans for you don't include talking. "

that's some Harold Shipman shit!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get the odd message when I leave.

Everyone's just doing life really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*Damn. Some posts cut deep lately don’t they?

Op. I’m a good friend for those that think I’m a friend. Here or off here.

I’d still talk to people who don’t log in here or if I left. But sometimes, fab is all you’ve got in common, and other times you got to talking about other stuff you can explore in conversations. And I like real life and the real world. so I have that in common with them.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I don’t leave but I do hide my profile from time to time, either when I’m busy or just fancy a break. I do think a break from fab is good for the soul

I have one or two lovely people that I keep in touch with when I log off and one very special person who I speak to every day whether I’m on Fab or not

I suppose I enjoy it when I’m here but I don’t miss it when I’m not, if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have contact details of people that swoped theirs when started chatting on other means, always nice to drop a text or message , a connection is a connection no matter how long it is since chatting or meeting.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I have left and returned a few times and am in regular contact with friends I made here previously who haven't been on the site in about 5 years.

I haven't taken a break since creating this profile in 2019 but my circle of friends is miniscule so very few people know what is going on in my life and therefore wouldn't know when to reach out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I left it was to try and re kindle a relationship with my ex partner ut worked for about a year then we parted as good friends... And I only kept in touch with a couple of people and it was purely to keep in touch and ask how things were going.

I guess if I’d contacted others I’d have had similar conversations.

One was a good friend but that’s fallen away, which is sad as we shared lots. But life is full of people that come into your life. Some stay, some go and some leave good memories behind to.

But when I came back I had nice comments welcoming me back.

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By *aizyWoman over a year ago

west midlands

I like taking fab breaks from time to time and I keep in touch with a few people from here when I do on telegram or whatsapp, a few others I only chat to on here I usually let them know when I'm disappearing and msg them when I come back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have quite a few friends I met through Fab, but we're just regular mates now so we keep in touch on WhatsApp regardless of whether we're active on here.

There is one old friend I'd quite like to check in on, but it doesn't seem right to text as I don't know why they left. They might be married by now or something

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say most of my 'friends' who I met here and talk daily on whattsapp are no longer here anyway so they dont know my comings and goings (which are more goings than comings

)

Some here I have known since the beginning of time and they reach out when I return and they recognise my pictures, which I like. I think I try and do the same. I try not to pester people on here too much because I know everyone usually has multiple connections and things going on. I can simmer friendships, even penpal/online ones for years though and can pick up where we left off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But hey, that's just me. I like to be uncontactable, unfindable. If I leave here don't all rush to my grave!

I'll just a light a candle alone then .. in the wind

Why do you feel it wouldn't be right to contact them? I wonder if we make assumptions about what people need in this situation ? Both you and I.

That's fair. I get that.

No platonic friends from here if that is not too nosey of me to ask?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's fair. I get that.

No platonic friends from here if that is not too nosey of me to ask? "

Not too nosey at all. I don't want any platonic friends from fab. I'm happy to chat and meet platonically whilst I'm here but otherwise I just don't have time in the real world for them to merge into

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would say most of my 'friends' who I met here and talk daily on whattsapp are no longer here anyway so they dont know my comings and goings (which are more goings than comings

)

I love your effortless phrases - Simmer friendship!

That's pretty much me. Slow burning for years rather than checking in on daily. The friends who expect daily good morning might be disappointed. Or constant verbal diarrhoea. But I think I do make effort when it's important. Although life does take over at times.

When I say friends I don't mean just sex partners. In fact those less so. This is meant to burn out and be shelved eventually. I mean people with who you have more than fab in common, as someone said above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have quite a few friends I met through Fab, but we're just regular mates now so we keep in touch on WhatsApp regardless of whether we're active on here.

There is one old friend I'd quite like to check in on, but it doesn't seem right to text as I don't know why they left. They might be married by now or something

I hope one day you'll get your answer to that. Preferably not from a surprised spouse

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When I left it was to try and re kindle a relationship with my ex partner ut worked for about a year then we parted as good friends... And I only kept in touch with a couple of people and it was purely to keep in touch and ask how things were going.

I guess if I’d contacted others I’d have had similar conversations.

One was a good friend but that’s fallen away, which is sad as we shared lots. But life is full of people that come into your life. Some stay, some go and some leave good memories behind to.

But when I came back I had nice comments welcoming me back. "

For me in those situations it would be important not to interfere with your relationship using your example so I'd be careful not to get in a way of something real and important with frequent texts or calls.

I'm sorry someone you were close with is gone. Its OK to drift apart but it leaves a gap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I may leave on occasion.

There's the odd one I talk to now and again away from here.

There's one I always message when I return.

But in all honesty I wouldn't be overly fussed if I never spoke to anyone off here again. "

Healthy distance and a

Nice return ritual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess if I’d contacted others I’d have had similar conversations.

One was a good friend but that’s fallen away, which is sad as we shared lots. But life is full of people that come into your life. Some stay, some go and some leave good memories behind to.

But when I came back I had nice comments welcoming me back.

I'm sorry someone you were close with is gone. Its OK to drift apart but it leaves a gap. "

It’s ok like I said people come and go and if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple over a year ago

Cumbria

We have no Fab friends only people we have fucked or would like to fuck not interested in making friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We used to have forum friends on telegram and WhatsApp. Almost all stopped talking to us. When we came back, a couple of people said hello, but for the most part, those who knew us before do not speak to us now. There is only one person from the ‘old-days’ who keeps in touch outside of the site. "

There is always a good reason or a few, why people are in the past not the present right? Because they don't consider you a part of their future.

I am sorry not many survived the challenge of your break. Less is truly better sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We have no Fab friends only people we have fucked or would like to fuck not interested in making friends.

And that sounds pleasantly uncomplicated

But sometimes they just happen. The friendships. Unless you have a clear no more than sex policy.

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