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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it? 
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? |
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I find people expect a no sex social first. If they didn't it would be an immediate red flag. Now not all of the people who tell you they are looking for a fwb are telling the truth or their version of a fwb is more akin to a fb ie someone you contact just for sex. So insisting on a social first isn't a guarantee but I think it dies help to out the one and done merchants. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes in a way, but if you look closely even some of those that are swingers give vibes of hookup addicts.
The 2 can coexist in the same place at the same time."
Agreed!
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
yes it is.
Yes FWBs are it seems. |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
It depends who you are asking....
I see couples voicing their frustration at not being able to find decent single males, and of course we know single males are always expressing frustration at being ignored by couples!
So somewhere there is a disconnect .
And no I couldn't solve your riddle either....?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I keep being told if i want socials etc then I'm on the wrong site. ‘Its not a dating site, folk are here for sex’. Its certainly feeling like hook up culture is taking over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s always been a sex site for some. Or a site to source single sexual partners rather than maybe engaging in more traditional swinging.
On your experience that’s really interesting. I definitely think it’s a fair reflection of the expectations lots of men have. But I also think the lack of wanting a social can also be blissful ignorance and/ or disregard for women’s safety and boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On our meets we always say its a social thay may lead to more if we all want it to that way everyone has a way out "
I have quite a strict social only and no physical rule.
Which I did break twice but it's very rare. But the rule is there so that if I need to turn them down as there was no chemistry or enough attraction, I don't end up in an awkward situation with someone who doesn't take no for an answer or rejection well. |
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I only ever want a social first.
There's been one exception, but we spent about 3 weeks talking on the phone due to distance.
The issue I am finding is that what I consider friends is more intimate than the other person desires, before they want the 'benefits'.
So yes in a way, but perhaps for different reasons? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I keep being told if i want socials etc then I'm on the wrong site. ‘Its not a dating site, folk are here for sex’. Its certainly feeling like hook up culture is taking over. "
Yes I'm getting this too.
And the difference between friends and relationships seems very blurred. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep being told if i want socials etc then I'm on the wrong site. ‘Its not a dating site, folk are here for sex’. Its certainly feeling like hook up culture is taking over.
Yes I'm getting this too.
And the difference between friends and relationships seems very blurred."
Yes I fully agree members seem to be looking for permanent fwbs |
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"I keep being told if i want socials etc then I'm on the wrong site. ‘Its not a dating site, folk are here for sex’. Its certainly feeling like hook up culture is taking over.
Yes I'm getting this too.
And the difference between friends and relationships seems very blurred."
I agree with that part. A friendship is a relationship to me. I don't have sex with acquaintances. That's a fuck buddy in my eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
No. I'm probably too social to be fair.
Exactly as you described happened today, monthlies occurred. So what, we'll go out for dinner, mooch, talk shit and have a great time catching up.
I don't really like labels or adhering to them, but, I stay in touch with everyone that I come across (no puns, we're better than that) and touch base to catch up regularly because, shocker, I give a shit, rather than fishing for some action.
I even do that with those that didn't make it to anything physical, because guess what, they are awesome people and amazing company so I love to see them too.
This place is what you make of it. Good eggs and rare gems are hard to find, but, they are here.
So no, I'm definitely not a "swinger" nor is this a hook up site for me.
I'm a tart, slag and a few other things in between (thanks guys!) but ultimately, I do my own thing and for better or worse, it works.
Like a lot. So much. Honestly. I am like, the bestest at this shit.
^ obviously needed some Jay energy in there, I sounded too much like me for a second. Ick.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I keep being told if i want socials etc then I'm on the wrong site. ‘It’s not a dating site, folk are here for sex’. Its certainly feeling like hook up culture is taking over. "
Haha I got told that yesterday  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first "
Ffs stop tying with your dick |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe he thought you'd be a mardy arse during your period and wanted to save you the pain of being out while cramping, him the pain of that being your first social.
My personal experience? No. I've never had issues with people when I want a social, never been cancelled on by a fab person etc.
I'm not using the term fwb because I'm not the biggest fan of terms but I'm very happy with the people I've met platonically and otherwise.
People are generally very understanding that I'm approaching things as friends first and foremost. Sex is never guaranteed with me, whether it's the first time I've met you or the hundredth.
I'm not a swinger though so I'm not sure if that's why I still see it through rose coloured glasses. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first
Ffs stop tying with your dick "
I'm now wondering what you're typing with? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first
Ffs stop tying with your dick
I'm now wondering what you're typing with? "
Pahahaha well spotted |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first
Ffs stop tying with your dick "
Imagine typing with a pinky finger that a rubber thimble on it with no skeletal material to support it.
Have you? Good?
Ironically, it's hard isn't it.
Be kind Fluffy. Or I'll take away your Comrade status. |
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first
Ffs stop tying with your dick
I'm now wondering what you're typing with?
Pahahaha well spotted "
Fluffy chicken it's fcuking catching innit fam |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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No social????
Crikey - if it wasn't for socials then I'd hardly meet anyone.
Online chemistry is one thing, but until you actually meet someone (face to face) then you don't 100% know things will progress.  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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The site hasn't changed in this respect since we joined...there are people who like socials first then meet at a later date, there are people who have a social and meet on the same night and people who just meet up for sex altogether.
We all do things differently, if a person is not matching with what a person wants then we can move onto the next person who does
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first
Ffs stop tying with your dick
I'm now wondering what you're typing with?
Pahahaha well spotted
Fluffy chicken it's fcuking catching innit fam "
Yeah yeah I’m going back to work |
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But I also think the lack of wanting a social can also be blissful ignorance and/ or disregard for women’s safety and boundaries. "
Absolutely this. I don't often bother to engage with them any more, but I'm a bit horrified by the sheer volume of men who are blissfully unaware of why I might be hesitant to rock up to a hotel room to meet one or more strange men in the middle of the night. Or why I don't want to invite them to my home, you know, the place I live in, with my children. Ugh. |
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"Nah onky here to get my photos fabbed.......a social first....what's a social? Hook up make my excuses to pop off after I've popped off, wiping my dick on thr curtains and pillow case first
Ffs stop tying with your dick
I'm now wondering what you're typing with?
Pahahaha well spotted
Fluffy chicken it's fcuking catching innit fam
Yeah yeah I’m going back to work "
Don't lick the paint lid |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"The site hasn't changed in this respect since we joined...there are people who like socials first then meet at a later date, there are people who have a social and meet on the same night and people who just meet up for sex altogether.
We all do things differently, if a person is not matching with what a person wants then we can move onto the next person who does
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There is a lot of persons in that last sentence  |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
I’d much prefer a social first and then it’s not awkward if you don’t gel… As for changing the date I think that’s a bit presumptuous of him, what type of woman does he think you are? |
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I think the difference in some respects is the mechanism for meeting. If you meet at a club, through a group or through others in the scene
If you are meeting via a 1:1 online interaction for safety and compatibility purposes you would think (hope) that a social, with a get away exit strategy would be the most sensible way of arranging a first meeting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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But I also think the lack of wanting a social can also be blissful ignorance and/ or disregard for women’s safety and boundaries.
Absolutely this. I don't often bother to engage with them any more, but I'm a bit horrified by the sheer volume of men who are blissfully unaware of why I might be hesitant to rock up to a hotel room to meet one or more strange men in the middle of the night. Or why I don't want to invite them to my home, you know, the place I live in, with my children. Ugh. "
Literally on here and on dating apps the amount of men that offer to pick my gf up from and get offended when she says no. Or says no to then coming round. I am convinced a lot of men don’t care because they can’t be that ignorant. |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
I agree, that most think a social is a precursor. Its not.
So yes, FWB's are harder to find x |
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"The site hasn't changed in this respect since we joined...there are people who like socials first then meet at a later date, there are people who have a social and meet on the same night and people who just meet up for sex altogether.
We all do things differently, if a person is not matching with what a person wants then we can move onto the next person who does
There is a lot of persons in that last sentence "
It's a swingers site after all, in some cases the more persons the merrier |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes the time I've spent here (on and off over 2 years) I've come to the conclusion that I will never find a FWB here. So I've stopped looking. Perhaps if you have the time and energy to attend socials it's a chance to connect more? |
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Can swinging not be hooking up? Or what exactly makes a social meet first swinging? Not saying there's anything wrong with a social at all, just why are we kind of implying those who want to get down to it not swingers?
It seems to me individual one on one arrangements between singles outside of clubs/parties is not exactly what I'd say is exactly swinging anyways, with or without a social first, one off or regular. Swinging to me is more when you have situations where there are more than two or individuals from couples with other than their partner (with consent) or within the context of a club/party/gatherings.
To be fair we all just do our thing and find the experiences we seek. We can argue to the cows come home what is and isn't swinging. And I get what your saying interms of how you like to do things. However I think it's unfair to say your a swinger but folk looking for new sexual experiences without a social meet and possibly on a one of basis are not swingers. Who decides on here who is a swinger and who is not?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You scaring the guys off again OP ? "
I'm a pro at it!!! I should get a certificate or gold star soon. I'm sure there's space for them on my profile near the flags ...thank god those flags aren't red. Maybe they should be |
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It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further. |
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It's tricky because it doesn't matter what the site was created for, it has people in it and they will find a way to use it for something else. Look at anyone that has used a hammer to put in a screw before as a prime example. |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
I do find a lot of people seem to think a social means sex afterwards however for me a social is just that a social, see if we all get on and there's that attraction and connection there.
A quick hook up isn't really my thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's tricky because it doesn't matter what the site was created for, it has people in it and they will find a way to use it for something else. Look at anyone that has used a hammer to put in a screw before as a prime example."
Or used a knife as a screw driver. Not the intended purpose but they do it anyway love the analogy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can swinging not be hooking up? Or what exactly makes a social meet first swinging? Not saying there's anything wrong with a social at all, just why are we kind of implying those who want to get down to it not swingers?
It seems to me individual one on one arrangements between singles outside of clubs/parties is not exactly what I'd say is exactly swinging anyways, with or without a social first, one off or regular. Swinging to me is more when you have situations where there are more than two or individuals from couples with other than their partner (with consent) or within the context of a club/party/gatherings.
To be fair we all just do our thing and find the experiences we seek. We can argue to the cows come home what is and isn't swinging. And I get what your saying interms of how you like to do things. However I think it's unfair to say your a swinger but folk looking for new sexual experiences without a social meet and possibly on a one of basis are not swingers. Who decides on here who is a swinger and who is not?
Mr"
Maybe there's a misunderstanding here, or my poor articulated thread could have been better. I wasn't saying or trying to imply that people aren't swingers.
I think my definition of hook up is a one off experience. A fb is someone you fuck repeatedly ....and I don't mean in the same session. And Fwb entirely different. I think there are variations of how people go about things if they are swingers or not and crossovers too.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"The site hasn't changed in this respect since we joined...there are people who like socials first then meet at a later date, there are people who have a social and meet on the same night and people who just meet up for sex altogether.
We all do things differently, if a person is not matching with what a person wants then we can move onto the next person who does
There is a lot of persons in that last sentence
It's a swingers site after all, in some cases the more persons the merrier "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think if two people meet up on their own then it's always kind of a hook up.
Socials are important for safety reasons but they are also fun. I want to leave them wanting more and hopefully the other person does too. I want that excitement building for the next time. I could get a bit giddy on that. In a lot of ways I see it the same way I would a date but with the knowledge it's not likely to become a relationship.
I want seduction and a bit of romance along side epic sex so maybe I look at it differently to others.
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"The site hasn't changed in this respect since we joined...there are people who like socials first then meet at a later date, there are people who have a social and meet on the same night and people who just meet up for sex altogether.
We all do things differently, if a person is not matching with what a person wants then we can move onto the next person who does
There is a lot of persons in that last sentence "
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I just replaced "person/s" and "people" with "trifle" in my silly mind. Quite amusing actually. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think if two people meet up on their own then it's always kind of a hook up.
Socials are important for safety reasons but they are also fun. I want to leave them wanting more and hopefully the other person does too. I want that excitement building for the next time. I could get a bit giddy on that. In a lot of ways I see it the same way I would a date but with the knowledge it's not likely to become a relationship.
I want seduction and a bit of romance along side epic sex so maybe I look at it differently to others.
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This! Completely this. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
Yes. Totally…
Nothing wrong with hookups, I fancy one once in a while, but yes, getting a social meet is becoming more hard work that I can be arsed to do.  |
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"It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further. "
May I suggest a social in a graveyard |
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"It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further.
May I suggest a social in a graveyard "
You may suggest it, any in particular you recommend |
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"It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further.
May I suggest a social in a graveyard
You may suggest it, any in particular you recommend "
He'll get back to you when he's had a look in his diary to choose the best one. He wouldn't want to reccomend one that's dead with no atmosphere  |
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"It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further.
May I suggest a social in a graveyard
You may suggest it, any in particular you recommend "
Well I hear the one down near that Car park is partially nice this time.of year |
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I've been here on and off for many years and it hasn't changed in that respect.
I never insist on a social meet, it's not my thing, and there are plenty of guys who feel the same.
Someone said "It's a red flag", why, if both parties feel the same?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further.
May I suggest a social in a graveyard "
Great way to pull a goth. |
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"It may have changed over the years, you have a majority that this is just a hook up site and that’s for them.
For me it’s a social first always, talking online for me will never be the same as meeting in person to see if that vibe is there to take it further.
May I suggest a social in a graveyard
Great way to pull a goth."
All about the over dramatic mascara....fuck me that's hot |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
And when you start to arrange a social the the conversation leads to.." we could get a hotel or back to mine if we get on"
But just because you "get on" with someone doesn't mean your going to jump into bed with them.
I totally agree with your post O.P |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find??
And when you start to arrange a social the the conversation leads to.." we could get a hotel or back to mine if we get on"
But just because you "get on" with someone doesn't mean your going to jump into bed with them.
I totally agree with your post O.P"
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
Yes , social is a must and FWB is impossible these days … RED TAPE everywhere |
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Fab is used in so many ways ! It's each to their own. With the ability to put up "meet now" thingy that's ideal for hook ups. Then everyone has a profile they can use it a bit like a dating site I suppose. Then you have the events to find. I'm not into hook ups at all but that's what a lot are into , not my business |
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"Swinging , I mean define swinging. I call myself a swinger but technically can a single be a swinger?
Or just a "tool" for couples to use in their own swinging? 
Things to think about "
You calling me a tool ? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Swinging , I mean define swinging. I call myself a swinger but technically can a single be a swinger?
Or just a "tool" for couples to use in their own swinging?
Things to think about
You calling me a tool ? "
Maybe! 
All singles in the swinging world... So yes, I am calling you a tool... |
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"Swinging , I mean define swinging. I call myself a swinger but technically can a single be a swinger?
Or just a "tool" for couples to use in their own swinging?
Things to think about
You calling me a tool ?
Maybe!
All singles in the swinging world... So yes, I am calling you a tool... "
As long as we are clear then
To be honest I don't play with many couples. When I do it's usually friends so not so much tool but little fuck toy, it's hot  |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find??
And when you start to arrange a social the the conversation leads to.." we could get a hotel or back to mine if we get on"
But just because you "get on" with someone doesn't mean your going to jump into bed with them.
I totally agree with your post O.P
FAF "
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"Fab is used in so many ways ! It's each to their own. With the ability to put up "meet now" thingy that's ideal for hook ups. Then everyone has a profile they can use it a bit like a dating site I suppose. Then you have the events to find. I'm not into hook ups at all but that's what a lot are into , not my business "
Good point on the meet nows. And swingers do hook ups.
I really should have thought about my wording more. Though I'm not sure any wording would have avoided some of the comments. |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
But surely the fact that you had your monthly (therefore i'm assuming you told him), so it must have been on your mind also that it could have been more than a social...otherwise why tell him... |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find??
But surely the fact that you had your monthly (therefore i'm assuming you told him), so it must have been on your mind also that it could have been more than a social...otherwise why tell him..."
Because of where he suggested going |
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I’m really not sure about fab as a whole but it’s still very much swinging from where we stand.
We just wouldn’t want a ‘hook up’ type meet.
It’s got to be a social and see how things progress and build a relationship.
That’s not to say we don’t end up in a naked sweaty primal mess at the end of the first social sometimes |
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Paul and myself started as singles on here, we chatted for quite a while and then met for a social and then met a few times before it turned into fwb relationship. We enjoyed eachother that much that we are now in a fully committed relationship and now we are looking forward to playing with couples but we will always insist on a social first |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Paul and myself started as singles on here, we chatted for quite a while and then met for a social and then met a few times before it turned into fwb relationship. We enjoyed eachother that much that we are now in a fully committed relationship and now we are looking forward to playing with couples but we will always insist on a social first"
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I don't do separate socials to meets generally, basically because I just haven't the time. I like to combine the two. I wouldn't call it a hook up though as I exchange at least 5000 words before meeting.
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"I don't do separate socials to meets generally, basically because I just haven't the time. I like to combine the two. I wouldn't call it a hook up though as I exchange at least 5000 words before meeting.
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Do you do a word count or just guess?
I'm curious
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"I don't do separate socials to meets generally, basically because I just haven't the time. I like to combine the two. I wouldn't call it a hook up though as I exchange at least 5000 words before meeting.
Do you do a word count or just guess?
I'm curious
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It's an educated guess. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I don't do separate socials to meets generally, basically because I just haven't the time. I like to combine the two. I wouldn't call it a hook up though as I exchange at least 5000 words before meeting.
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It's a good job you don't talk to me.
I don't think I know 5000 words. |
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In my experience yes it does appear many users here don't want a social, are hoping for a quicker route to sex.
I've had some amazing socials with people on here though and have led to excellent playing, even full sex. If we vibe and the chemistry is good I'm quite happy to play same day.
I do feel some people on here think swinger means up for sex with anyone but I just feel that shows their immaturity. |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
We would never have a social with a single guy its very much a 'fuck n fuck off' situation . We've never encountered a problem and find most guys prefer it.
Couples we would always meet for a social first but would be happy to play on the first meet if all 4 were up for it.
We don't meet single females but if we did we would expect them to be like the single guy scenario. |
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"If I’ve not got my hand in her knickers whilst sipping on a cappuccino within 15mins then I’m outta there. She’ll get a shit veri and will be blocked & reported for wasting my time as well "
Make it an iced coffee and you're in. |
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"If I’ve not got my hand in her knickers whilst sipping on a cappuccino within 15mins then I’m outta there. She’ll get a shit veri and will be blocked & reported for wasting my time as well
Make it an iced coffee and you're in. "
I’m only buying you a regular cause it’s a social |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
I was always under the influence that there was a social side of swinging, that's why clubs have social areas and such, I get that some just want to get straight to it but there does seem to be less people open to social meets now compared to pre lockdown well that's my experience anyway |
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"We would never have a social with a single guy its very much a 'fuck n fuck off' situation . We've never encountered a problem and find most guys prefer it.
Couples we would always meet for a social first but would be happy to play on the first meet if all 4 were up for it.
We don't meet single females but if we did we would expect them to be like the single guy scenario. "
This! |
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I think people use this site for a myriad of reasons. We all have different expectations and as long as they are communicated, then let people do what they want.
Personally, I always like a social meet first when I'm meeting or at the very least a video call. |
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"Social  anyone?
Yes please...we would have a meaty beefy hug lol
Me too.
That's 3 of us.
I'm going in the middle.
Hopefully- you're cumming in the middle. "
Oyyy. Behave, or you'll be having a close encounter with morrigan the black. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Social anyone?
Yes please...we would have a meaty beefy hug lol
Me too.
That's 3 of us.
I'm going in the middle.
Hopefully- you're cumming in the middle.
Oyyy. Behave, or you'll be having a close encounter with morrigan the black."
Sounds kinda kinky tbh.  |
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All types on here, many think a conversation is a shoe in for a fuck in the next 12 hours. We aren’t like that because we have a life and responsibilities and we have been treated very rudely by those who expect action immediately. |
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over a year ago
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"It's just another site that proves fat men can't get layed
Bollocks
Well that's my experience of it
Possibly your experience stems from your approach...."
Well that's their problem not mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
A social is just a social to me. If they suggest things may go further I cancel the social.
I found all my FWB's outside of Fab. |
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"It's just another site that proves fat men can't get layed
Bollocks
Well that's my experience of it
Possibly your experience stems from your approach....
Well that's their problem not mine "
Tbf it's yours as well, we hear about it often enough |
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"It's just another site that proves fat men can't get layed
Bollocks
Well that's my experience of it
Possibly your experience stems from your approach....
Well that's their problem not mine
Tbf it's yours as well, we hear about it often enough "
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"It's just another site that proves fat men can't get layed
Bollocks
Well that's my experience of it
Possibly your experience stems from your approach....
Well that's their problem not mine
Tbf it's yours as well, we hear about it often enough
The block me and don't read my threads"
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We understand that different people configure their dates in different ways that suit them. That's absolutely fine and expected.
What isn't quite so fine is that certain people, quite a few, seem to have the idea that their way of doing it is "the one true way" and that anything other is "hookups not swinging" or they just generally look down on it.
We don't do "socials" as such other than in very unusual circumstances. There are good reasons for this; primarily that to us they are a complete waste of everyone's time for a first meet. They might have a place in subsequent meets, but not the first.
We have limited time for play, between the kids, work schedules and the real world things that need to happen swinging is sadly only a small part of our lives. We don't have time to artificially limit the outcome of a meet to some arbitrary line of look but don't touch. The end result of doing so is that by the time we get another opportunity to rearrange for a play meet it's months down the line and frankly the interest on both sides will have waned.
So we conjoin the meet. A meet for us is neither a play meet nor a social meet.
It's not a play meet because it's certainly not guaranteed that any play is going to happen. It's not a social because there is certainly no guarantee play isn't going to happen. It's both.
A meet at a club bar; usually at least a couple of hours of chat and getting to know each other and then if everyone wants to play then we play. If they don't then they don't. We fail to see how this approach is any less valid, or respectful than any other. |
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When I first joined fab 4 years ago, I didn't do socials, we met and fucked. I only really started doing them after I came on the forums 6 months later, when I went to socials and met people a distance away.
So in answer Yes. To many in fab it is a fuck site, and to many on the forums, it is not |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"When I first joined fab 4 years ago, I didn't do socials, we met and fucked. I only really started doing them after I came on the forums 6 months later, when I went to socials and met people a distance away.
So in answer Yes. To many in fab it is a fuck site, and to many on the forums, it is not "
That's a great answer |
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I found it was like that years ago when I was single ,suggest a social meet and they'd often go quiet or try and bring it round to more.
I think you're always gonna get those who don't want a social cos they want to get down to it .or those who can't meet socially or public due to their situations.
If you like a social first (we do) you're just not compatible with people who don't
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
It's like everything tbh , some view it as a sex site ..it's not... it's a swinging site ..if people are into swinging well n good ..if they're not .. they're not , if they're here to find a person that they like and the other person likes them back well then they could end up fucking , women here will tell you , and rightly so , that's it's not Dial a ride , Women here do want to fuck but they want to fuck the person that interests them , not ALL guys interest them for whatever reason, it's an individual choice. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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It would always be a social first. It doesn’t matter how much you see or chat on here it just isn’t the same as meeting face to face.
Some people do just want sex and that’s fine if all are happy with the arrangement. |
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Socials were never on the cards for me back in the day when I first joined fab. However, they've become a prerequisite for me to play these days, as its simply deeper than physical attraction based on looks. I have to vibe with you on a personality level....yes I have a personality deep down by my little toe. |
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"Swinging , I mean define swinging. I call myself a swinger but technically can a single be a swinger? "
I think if you are single and you get into relationship with someone who is vanilla. They are going to think you are a swinger. They may use alternate terminology depending on their disposition. I am not quite sure they will go for the 'technical' defence. |
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This thread makes no sense to me. I don’t understand how people can be saying that swinging needs a social meet else it is a hookup. That’s the _whole_ point of swinging!
I think the real question is whether fab has become more dating than swinging - from my perspective there are a _lot_ more people now looking for a partner than there used to be. That’s fine but it isn’t swinging in my opinion - it is dating. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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having a social does not make it swinging there are 1000s of couples who swing and never do socials way way more than those that do ... alot of forum members like socials but what does that mean when the forums are such a tiny tiny part of fab ??
the scene is way bigger than online or clubs |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
Not harder to find, I think we all need to understand we have lives outside of this … |
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I always understood the interpretation of swinging to involve a couple and at least one other person, so technically anyone only looking for one to one’s is just seeking hook ups. The reality is that along with the genuine swingers on fab there are also many that view it as an alternative to any of the other hook up sites. |
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"This thread makes no sense to me. I don’t understand how people can be saying that swinging needs a social meet else it is a hookup. That’s the _whole_ point of swinging!
I think the real question is whether fab has become more dating than swinging - from my perspective there are a _lot_ more people now looking for a partner than there used to be. That’s fine but it isn’t swinging in my opinion - it is dating."
Is swinging just fucking? |
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over a year ago
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
I'm wondering why you would even mention that to him at all. |
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over a year ago
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If the guy can't meet me for a social with no expectations first, that's a very good indication that I wouldn't want to play with him. I'm no longer into fuck and go, so its a good filter! |
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
You’d be surprised how many woman and couples don’t do socials first though
I’ve been on here for a few years now met some really nice people through social events like Barnsley n Leeds even just a few solo 1 on 1 dates but at the minute it’s like come here eat my pussy then go |
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I have a theory that there are some people who have swiped all the way through tinder and have now moved on to fab. The amount of messages we currently get with the words “meet now?” or something similar are getting ridiculous. The sooner they swipe through everyone here and move onto the next place the better for all of us |
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By *lappyMan
over a year ago
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
I always insist on a social as it’s important to know if there’s a vibe there or not, either way you get to have a few drinks with someone and it helps eliminate all the people using false identities from those who are using it for tge dites main purpose which is swinging |
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Well they're not going to get anything, hook up or more without a social, so that's just tough. I'm only really here for the casual sex, so I can't really comment too much on the swinging aspect, but I've noticed a lot of people say this. |
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We always have socials first. Maybe we don't get as much interest as others because of that, but I've never really thought of it as being off putting to other people before. I guess everyone just has to do what feels right for them. - Mrs P |
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over a year ago
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"I’m here for the Banter, not sure about everyone else
I'm just here for the cock pics.
I better upload more if that’s the case
Will 20 of the same dick suffice?"
For tonight yes. |
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"I’m here for the Banter, not sure about everyone else
I'm just here for the cock pics.
I better upload more if that’s the case
Will 20 of the same dick suffice?
For tonight yes."
Looks like I’m in short stock so videos will have to suffice for the evenin |
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"I’m here for the Banter, not sure about everyone else
I'm just here for the cock pics.
I better upload more if that’s the case
Will 20 of the same dick suffice?
For tonight yes.
Looks like I’m in short stock so videos will have to suffice for the evenin "
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Depends how you define swinging.
I don’t see having a fwb as swinging.
There’s people on here looking for all sorts, I’m sure as long as everyone’s honest about what they want, there’s something for everyone
For me, swinging is clubs.
And open to all |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"More hook up than swinging?
Mention a social first and it seems more often than not that it stops a conversation dead.
It was also very apparent recently when I spoke to someone that the fact I had my monthly altered the date he would see me for a social. But a social is just social isn't it?
Are FWB's becoming harder to find?? "
It's virtually impossible. I have had 2 socials booked up in the last 2 weeks (I should have been on one tonight). They nearly always ghost or cancel last minute |
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over a year ago
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"I’m here for the Banter, not sure about everyone else
I'm just here for the cock pics.
Not getting mine
Seen it before
When!?
That one time...
Ahh a dream. It's not as impressive "
I never said it was... |
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