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Some are indifferent to such things and it doesn't bother them. Others it's a bugbear, and to some others it's a positive thing.
There's no real clear cut answer.
Most people are usually concerned about too many photographs of genitalia. |
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Personal preference I guess but I’m sure this a veritable minefield.
Remember not every verification means there’s been sexual contact. My old profile had several that had been socials that had gone nowhere, but they were proof that I was genuine and not someone who ghosted so were useful from that point of view.
Verifications are literally meant to be proof that you’re who you say you are, it’s generally guys who use them as a cheap porn script to list all the acts that have taken place…….usually finished with “treat her with respect” 
And ask yourself this…… would you judge a woman with lots of verifications different to a guy or couple with lots of verifications? Like I said, a minefield…… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And ask yourself this…… would you judge a woman with lots of verifications different to a guy or couple with lots of verifications? Like I said, a minefield……"
Yup on my old profile I was continually judged, in fact I had men specifically message me to tell me!! It came as a bit of a shock tbh. I foolishly thought the judging would end in the swing scene.
For me, I like to see veris, I'm more likely to reply to initial messages as it means the guy isn't a fantasist. And you can't beat good word of mouth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand the idea behind the verification process.
However, I want to meet someone because of what they say about themselves. Not a review of what someone else has said about them.
I can verify myself to anyone privately, should we message and should they wish to meet.
But it shouldn't come down to SexAdvisor to seal the deal. |
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"There could be … are we talking sex verifications or socials? Repeat meets or one off? So many variables  I’m put off by content rather than number. "
This for us too
Especially if they're totally ott with every detail in.
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The amount doesn't bother me, especially as the ones I've seen with lots are a mix of socials, clubs and meets, overly graphic tends to put me off more than anything, but then I've read some and have swayed my minds towards wanting to chat so it kinda goes both ways.
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I think it's a potential incompatibility issue. Some people think that promiscuity or meeting lots of people (sexually or not) is a bad thing. Some people aren't a fan of slut shaming and the like on a site like this.
Information is useful, and if it saves you from meeting someone you won't get along with, that's a good thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's a potential incompatibility issue. Some people think that promiscuity or meeting lots of people (sexually or not) is a bad thing. Some people aren't a fan of slut shaming and the like on a site like this.
Information is useful, and if it saves you from meeting someone you won't get along with, that's a good thing."
It always amazes me that this question pops up in here… it’s personal, but if you can’t accept that on a swinging site, some people will have fucked other people before you, then you need to rethink this place. |
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Doesn't really bother me. I'm not fond of overly graphic ones, the ones where the guy uses it to brag about his sexual process etc, or people that do multiple meets and write a verification every single time. If I do a social and a subsequent play meet, I may leave a veri for each, but that's it, no matter how many times we meet.
Do remember reading a guy's profile where he had 9 verifications, over 3 months. 8 of which were from the same person, over multiple cam chats. |
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"I think it's a potential incompatibility issue. Some people think that promiscuity or meeting lots of people (sexually or not) is a bad thing. Some people aren't a fan of slut shaming and the like on a site like this.
Information is useful, and if it saves you from meeting someone you won't get along with, that's a good thing.
It always amazes me that this question pops up in here… it’s personal, but if you can’t accept that on a swinging site, some people will have fucked other people before you, then you need to rethink this place. "
That's what I think too. Others who think differently, more power to them, but they won't be compatible with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it doesn’t matter about how many they have
Be it sexual social or anything at the end off the day people are single or in a open relationship and entitled to do what we like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't really take notice of verifications although I will wonder why someone is messaging me if all of their verifications are from slim/white women when I am the polar opposite of that |
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"I think it's a potential incompatibility issue. Some people think that promiscuity or meeting lots of people (sexually or not) is a bad thing. Some people aren't a fan of slut shaming and the like on a site like this.
Information is useful, and if it saves you from meeting someone you won't get along with, that's a good thing.
It always amazes me that this question pops up in here… it’s personal, but if you can’t accept that on a swinging site, some people will have fucked other people before you, then you need to rethink this place. "
Exactly my thoughts ^^^
Most my verifications are friends but I like having them as I think they are nice  |
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I'm on my 243rd meet now with more veris to follow, I like reading them as each and every one is a memory for me
I'm not really bothered about what people think of my quantity, as it's another good incompatible filter
But I do love reading what people say about each other in their veris, as it's a good insight to personalities |
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"Depends what the veris say and if they contradict the "I'm not looking to shag the whole site"."
OK seriously, what is that tipping point?
Its such a vague term. |
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"Depends what the veris say and if they contradict the "I'm not looking to shag the whole site"."
I honestly think people just write that to try and make themselves look good cause more often the men who write that if they were offered every vagina on here on a silver platter they would probably accept it |
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I couldn't care about the amount of veries someone has. Some show them, some don't, some just show some. The content of the veries is more important to me as it tells me a little more about the person(s) |
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"Could there be too many verifications for someone?
No as we can get 20 veris from on e weekend social. We’ve not fucked all those people, just chatted! "
Exactly, on my old profile I even had veris off men who I'd not even spoken to lol "didn't chat but hopefully next time " |
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I don't think so. I have a lot of verifications displayed but I'd hope people would read them and realise that a big, big, big majority are from group socials and wouldn't be put off. If they are though, then that's up to them but it wouldn't put me off at all |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't think so. I have a lot of verifications displayed but I'd hope people would read them and realise that a big, big, big majority are from group socials and wouldn't be put off. If they are though, then that's up to them but it wouldn't put me off at all "
Be proud of your manslut ways Beanie.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think so. I have a lot of verifications displayed but I'd hope people would read them and realise that a big, big, big majority are from group socials and wouldn't be put off. If they are though, then that's up to them but it wouldn't put me off at all
Be proud of your manslut ways Beanie. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends what the veris say and if they contradict the "I'm not looking to shag the whole site".
I *am* looking to shag the entire site. Its on my fanny-like-a-bucket list.  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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It shouldn't but it does a little. I actually find it intimidating rather than pass judgement.
I do find indepth and multiple veris from the same person cringe.
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"Depends what the veris say and if they contradict the "I'm not looking to shag the whole site".
OK seriously, what is that tipping point?
Its such a vague term."
Well, if they've got numerous weekly veris, with different women, that says they're not a picky as they claim and aren't taking time to get to know people. |
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"Depends what the veris say and if they contradict the "I'm not looking to shag the whole site".
I *am* looking to shag the entire site. Its on my fanny-like-a-bucket list. "
20 down... 37,388 to go! Good luck |
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"Depends what the veris say and if they contradict the "I'm not looking to shag the whole site".
I honestly think people just write that to try and make themselves look good cause more often the men who write that if they were offered every vagina on here on a silver platter they would probably accept it "
They definitely do and they definitely would! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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The majority of my veri's come purely form attending social events and I know a lot of others are the same. It really depends on the context and how long someone has been on the site for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What about FROM someone? can you have too many?
I've got 4 from the same guy.
This is what they say...
1 she's alright
2 great in the bedroom, not so good at locking doors
3 I’m not sure you could ever describe meets as perfect with somebody. But, fuck me (and that’s not an invitation btw) that came pretty close…
4 Yet another disappointing meet. If only I had .....(I can't actually type that.)
True story....obviously number 4 is slightly different |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about FROM someone? can you have too many?
I've got 4 from the same guy.
This is what they say...
1 she's alright
2 great in the bedroom, not so good at locking doors
3 I’m not sure you could ever describe meets as perfect with somebody. But, fuck me (and that’s not an invitation btw) that came pretty close…
4 Yet another disappointing meet. If only I had .....(I can't actually type that.)
True story....obviously number 4 is slightly different "
I'm always wary of that. I thought just one would be enough but if the situation is different enough then more than 1 can be justified. E.g. social, hotel meet, club meet, maybe a more kink based meet to others they're safe etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some are indifferent to such things and it doesn't bother them. Others it's a bugbear, and to some others it's a positive thing.
There's no real clear cut answer.
Most people are usually concerned about too many photographs of genitalia."
Yes, because we all know what a vagina is all know what a cock is but this is fab. Some people prefer veris... Some show veris some not. It is each to our own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could there be too many verifications for someone?"
If the veris all describe how they are who they say they are that is the point of a veri. As to how many should be displayed again each to their own op |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could there be too many verifications for someone?"
Not really as they may have none on other apps, sites, or in real life. In any case, the best verifications always come from an ex-husband, partner or boyfriend  |
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Too many Veris in quick succession?
It is for me.
Not judging. Live your life how you want.
But remember, when you’re having sex with someone. You’re also having sex with whoever they had sex with & so on...
You don’t know any of these people really. You don’t know whether they take precautions or get tested. And you don’t know whether the people they mess with get tested or take precautions either.
And in my youth I’ve caught STIs even when protected. |
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A red flag for me I'm afraid. Nothing personal, good luck to them and I'm sure they've enjoyed each and every one of them. However it's not what I'm looking for, I'd prefer a first meet with a couple who've never done it before. |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
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More the merrier! Some people have 100s but that doesn't mean they have played with 100s. If we hadn't left and returned so many times we would easily have 250+, and probably around 30 of those would be from play. The rest would be from couples we have chatted to at parties/clubs. |
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Depends on the type of verification.
If someone predominantly has them from camming as opposed to actually meeting others then you can be better reasonably assured they are in the closet.
Conversely if they have multiple ones from meets you may have reservations about their promiscuity.
Either way it's a matter of personal interpretation.
Good luck. |
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"A red flag for me I'm afraid. Nothing personal, good luck to them and I'm sure they've enjoyed each and every one of them. However it's not what I'm looking for, I'd prefer a first meet with a couple who've never done it before. "
But said virgin couple could just not be displaying them or just not telling.
I think that they can be helpful in giving a snapshot of the kind of person they are. For good or ill.
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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It's not a red flag for me, it's just something that isn't what I look for in a meet. I know verifications don't always mean sexual partners, but if someone has 100 odd verifications, regardless of circumstances, it still says to me that alot people know that person, and I prefer a bit or subtlety to my meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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No men cos that might mean he's gay  . And certainly not couples. The very idea!!
He can have as many as he wants from women that are classy but fatter than me. Then I won't be as insecure. |
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