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Second chance to a time waster?
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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago
manchester |
A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
If he had been in touch to arrange a meet again after a couple of weeks, yes. After a year, no.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This also happened to me very recently OP. Stood up them quite sone time later a message with excuses. I didn’t even open the message I just deleted it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op do not do it your worth more than that they had they chance they blow it
I understand ever one’s has stuff going on and stuff
But cancel a first meet and you never get another
If we meet before and you cancel without at lest 24 hours notice you never get another |
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?
If he had been in touch to arrange a meet again after a couple of weeks, yes. After a year, no.
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
It’s obvious you didn’t believe his excuses at the time, so you’ll probably not believe the new set when he lets you down again.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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You called him a timewaster; I don't think it bodes well.
Do you like him Op? Believe he won't? Think you'd have a brilliant time?
Then yes.
If you're wavering, not sure if he's telling the truth, don't do it. You don't need to be overthinking something that should be easy and straightforward. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
It sounds like he's been plucking courage up for some time and has eventually hit send. You should definitely paint the town red with him. It sounds like one of those leaps of faith but just reassure him and tell him how much you've missed him! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
Ignore and move on especially since he dodged the question |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've given second chances before and low and behold it's blown up in my face again and they are asking for a third chance. My mantra now is - never prioritise anyone that threats me as an option.
If they really wanted me then they would have met me. |
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
No forgiveness? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
No definitely not. Especially as he dodged the question.
I've had someone ghost me for a week when they agreed to aiming for this weekend for a date. I kept the weekend for them. There will be no second chance. Why bother with someone who can't even communicate? |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
give him another chance  |
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
Fuck what anyone else says, if you wanna give him a second chance then go for it.....
We've all had second chances in our lives, which people very conveniently forget....  |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
Think of the saying, "a leopard doesn't change its spots"
In this perspective, if the other person let you down once, it's possible they'll do it again!
If they even apologise, and make excuses etc, to me it would be a polite No Thanks then BLOCK them.
Harsh to some, but also hopefully, the other person may improve their communication on all levels.
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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99% of the time I block people that don't turn up at pre arranged meetings, Especially if I've spent a lot of time getting ready and they give me a lame excuse at the last minute.
He might have just got nervous and jibbed out but if you do agree to meet him, try and get a plan B, ie arrange a meeting an hour and a half later with someone else so you're not totally wasting your time. |
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
I'm always willing to give someone a second chance, depending on the reason they cancelled before.
You say he didn't show up but messaged an excuse - if the excuse came after the no show, and he's now dodging the question, bin him off. |
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I would give a second chance if the vibe is good and he truly repents the mistake. But him dodging the question works against his favour.
Also, as he was the one who let you down in the first meet, this meet should be in a place closer to you than him. |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
Bognor Regis |
1000% no.
From personal experience, on more than one occasion I've accepted an excuse/apology & agreed to arrange another meet, only to be let down again.
Now, if someone is a no-show or gives me a last minute excuse for cancelling, I simply tell them that I won't ever arrange to see them again, wish them all the best & block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Delete, block and move on."
It's funny how ruthless I am giving the advice, but I only managed two out of three myself.
Oddly, I really need help going full fuck you mode.
Thank god for friends.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
Not if he dodged the question or at least at the time apologised and gave you a proper explanation
We're all adults so we know that things do come up and things happen, it's all about how you communicate about such things |
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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago
Birstall, Leicester |
"A year ago, I arranged a meet with this guy. I trusted him, did my make up, too, a shower ect. When the arranged time came, he didn’t show up, but sent me a message with some excuses. I would expect a message before the time so I don’t waste time preparing for it.
anyway, this man approached me again yesterday asking for a second chance. I politely mentioned his behavior the first time, and he dodged question.
Would you give him another chance, or just ignore him and move on?"
No chance |
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No I wouldn't meet with him if he's had his chance to meet and let you down.
But don't block him just put a note on his profile (TW) then he can see what he's missing out on and never going to get x |
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