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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You’ve joined fab, or been here a while, and realise there’s a lot more profiles than you can shake a stick at.
So, what’s the best way to get some attention?
(If you want attention?) because let’s be honest, EVERYTHING we do on fab is to be noticed in some capacity, whether it’s for the outcome of sexy sex or not.
Do you think you stand out amongst those around you? Is it not good to just ‘fit in’? Do you adopt an online persona different to others?
What positive things do we all do to get a positive result in the swinging world of fab?
Narrator- he’s doing a Sydney uni question isn’t he? He’ll be back later to collect results.
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I'm try to be authentic on here. Probably slightly less of a filter on Fab though if you've ever met me on a night out after a few vinos I can be just as "unfiltered".
I don't think I stand out particularly. This is a sex site at the end of the day and there are a lot if attractive people who are actually looking to bang unlike myself. So I imagine they'll be more memorable than me.
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Morning woody.
I don't think we stand out at as such I like to think we slot in well though, we do try and make an effort with our profile and pics and make sure the Mr is in all of them, we come as a pair after all.
One thing that's had a positive effect is the photos I'm not one tho likes pics of myself or selfies, but the ones the Mr does of us for fab has definitely increased my confidence although I do look and think how did I do that one that looks great - I guess it's a bit of an alter ego my vanilla self is a bit shy so it's like showing off that hidden side of yourself.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I think the best thing you can do is figure out who you are and what you want and go with that. Sounds easy , but very few people seem to be able to.
As an older guy with 3 daughters I have a little bit of patience for younger girls who are a little lost & confused , but I don’t imagine many women find it sexy in a guy. |
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I've never been one for trying to fit in and don't submit to peer pressure so I'm hardly about to start now.
At the same time I don't deliberately make an effort to stand out or be wildly different from everyone else.
I often go against the grain on here and don't do or say what is expected but it's not done to be unique.
That's why I'm like marmite.
Some people take ridiculous offence at what I say or because I have the temerity to say no, while at the same time others tell me that is a big selling point.
Fab is full of shallow ass kissing personas. It doesn't need another one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm definitely myself . I'm not sure if I stand out as such, I think I am suited to the swinging world. It's always nice to be found attractive that's a positive from fab.
I don't have an online persona, I do have a social filter however haha. I'm very self aware and know what I want, but I think that's lacking on this site in my experience. |
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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago
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I think as humans we instinctly want to be liked and fit it,and some people will not be themselves just to fit in or be liked. Be true to yourself and be nice. Your profile is the gateway into who you are . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Morning woody.
I don't think we stand out at as such I like to think we slot in well though, we do try and make an effort with our profile and pics and make sure the Mr is in all of them, we come as a pair after all.
One thing that's had a positive effect is the photos I'm not one tho likes pics of myself or selfies, but the ones the Mr does of us for fab has definitely increased my confidence although I do look and think how did I do that one that looks great - I guess it's a bit of an alter ego my vanilla self is a bit shy so it's like showing off that hidden side of yourself.
Mrs "
You stand out (to me) on the forums. But would I have found/seen you away from here? I dunno.
Do you get many DMs from people off forum or not met at socials? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never been one for trying to fit in and don't submit to peer pressure so I'm hardly about to start now.
At the same time I don't deliberately make an effort to stand out or be wildly different from everyone else.
I often go against the grain on here and don't do or say what is expected but it's not done to be unique.
That's why I'm like marmite.
Some people take ridiculous offence at what I say or because I have the temerity to say no, while at the same time others tell me that is a big selling point.
Fab is full of shallow ass kissing personas. It doesn't need another one. "
Ah. A rebel.  so you do t go along with the masses that are ‘you should do this’that and the other!? Yeh, we’d probably get along. |
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"Morning woody.
I don't think we stand out at as such I like to think we slot in well though, we do try and make an effort with our profile and pics and make sure the Mr is in all of them, we come as a pair after all.
One thing that's had a positive effect is the photos I'm not one tho likes pics of myself or selfies, but the ones the Mr does of us for fab has definitely increased my confidence although I do look and think how did I do that one that looks great - I guess it's a bit of an alter ego my vanilla self is a bit shy so it's like showing off that hidden side of yourself.
Mrs
You stand out (to me) on the forums. But would I have found/seen you away from here? I dunno.
Do you get many DMs from people off forum or not met at socials? "
We definitely aren't a couple that gets loads of dms just the odd few a day, generally the most we get is from men and we don't meet men.
We tend to chat mostly to people we meet at the socials I find that much easier.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't think I stand out on here or in life outside of here either. But being a bit of an introvert that suits me anyhow. I'm the same on fab as I am off fab (except I don't tend to go about my daily life wearing just lingerie  ).The comments I make on here are how I feel I don't pretend to be something I'm not. I'm just me and yes I'm unique everyone is. But no I don't think I stand out on fab.
I wouldn't want to compromise who I am essentially,just for attention.I don't need attention which on here is quite often as disingenuous as it comes anyhow,to have self worth on here or in life outside of here.
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"I've never been one for trying to fit in and don't submit to peer pressure so I'm hardly about to start now.
At the same time I don't deliberately make an effort to stand out or be wildly different from everyone else.
I often go against the grain on here and don't do or say what is expected but it's not done to be unique.
That's why I'm like marmite.
Some people take ridiculous offence at what I say or because I have the temerity to say no, while at the same time others tell me that is a big selling point.
Fab is full of shallow ass kissing personas. It doesn't need another one.
Ah. A rebel. so you do t go along with the masses that are ‘you should do this’that and the other!? Yeh, we’d probably get along. "
I don't go along with the masses but calling myself a rebel wouldn't be an accurate description.
That makes it sounds as though I go the grain because I have a different cause or hope that might draw attention to me.
The truth is the vast majority of what I say or do on fab is blindingly obvious and my forum comments are written eye rolls or a "seriously? Wtaf?" response.
Probably in an "Emperors new clothes" way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think as humans we instinctly want to be liked and fit it,and some people will not be themselves just to fit in or be liked. Be true to yourself and be nice. Your profile is the gateway into who you are . "
I really relate to what you say, and that would be my view. We are social creatures, oven those that don’t want to meet and join in on the forums, do it regularly, maybe trying to fit in??? Maybe.
My profile doesn’t reflect me apparently.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Believe it or not I have done fab the 'normal' way. Proper profile, boobs out and everything. And honestly, I just don't see how anyone puts up with the crap that comes with that.
Now I do it my way.
I take off fabs because I couldn't give a shit who likes my pics or not, and believe it or not I have other life goals than getting on hot pics.
I use my filters, shockingly they work
Who knew!?
Somehow my just being myself I actually manage to get all the hot funny guys.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think I particularly stand out - that's not in a self deprecating way, it's more... I don't believe I do.
I don't deliberately try and adopt any online persona - I type how I talk (sadly for those who have to endure my waffle). I think online you see a glimpse of who I am at any particular point; much like anyone else I'm multifaceted and not as 2D as a snapshot of my words would indicate.
What do I do to get a positive response from Fab? Increasingly it's being true to myself and doing what pleases me. I've found the right people, my sort of person? Well, they're happy and want to know me. Warts and all. Going to socials, saying yes and no to the right things has really helped.
I don't want, need or like to be liked by everyone.
I would like for those I respect/like to not think I'm an utter bellend.
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My profile on here isn't built like a shop window. I don't put effort into it. I do like the connections I make offline best, made some amazing friends. I am unique and probably "too much" for most in real life, exhibitionist, no filter and a free spirit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Believe it or not I have done fab the 'normal' way. Proper profile, boobs out and everything. And honestly, I just don't see how anyone puts up with the crap that comes with that.
Now I do it my way.
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So you changed the way you did things??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Believe it or not I have done fab the 'normal' way. Proper profile, boobs out and everything. And honestly, I just don't see how anyone puts up with the crap that comes with that.
Now I do it my way.
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So you changed the way you did things??
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Yeah. |
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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago
Nearer than you think |
We're all unique  but many of us hide our true selves on here for fear of recognition or judgement.
The personal stuff that makes me stand out from the rest is never going be revealed on my profile!  |
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I think I'm the same fat, grumpy, old bitch I am here as I am in real life.
I certainly don't try to fit in or be liked by changing who I am.
Used to worry me a lot what people though. Now it's the polar opposite. I literally don't give a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I perhaps might want less.
My back hurts.
And its only Sunday.
God help me by Friday.
I hope you're better soon, it sounds really wank. x"
It is.
Thankfully I'm doing lots of physio and stretches for it.
Probably too much physio and stretching.
I forgot some inverted commas. Somewhere.
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
Hi Sydney U
I stand out on fab amongst the dearth of 'just ask me' written profiles. I do not give a crap if people like me or not though. The positive thing I do to try and get the best out of fab is just be me after all the goal is to have fun with people I like and who like me.
I should probably do more with photos though. They are my best angles but only someone who has met me could say if they are representative or not.
I won't compromise on who I am and so make no attempt to fit in nor stand out and don't really care which happens. It has been amazing though to meet more people recently that are 'my kind of people '. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I perhaps might want less.
My back hurts.
And its only Sunday.
God help me by Friday.
I hope you're better soon, it sounds really wank. x
It is.
Thankfully I'm doing lots of physio and stretches for it.
Probably too much physio and stretching.
I forgot some inverted commas. Somewhere.
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Why. What have you done? |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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The important thing is that I don’t need to stand out, or fit in. I’m quite happy dipping in and out, doing my own thing in my own way.
I have been happier with my fab experience since I went back to basics and stopped getting caught up in what was happening on the periphery, so to speak and just focus on the positive aspects.
I don’t try to fit in, or need to, and I do very much enjoy the interactions I have |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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Hi Sydney U
I stand out on fab amongst the dearth of 'just ask me' written profiles. I do not give a crap if people like me or not though. The positive thing I do to try and get the best out of fab is just be me after all the goal is to have fun with people I like and who like me.
I should probably do more with photos though. They are my best angles but only someone who has met me could say if they are representative or not.
I won't compromise on who I am and so make no attempt to fit in nor stand out and don't really care which happens. It has been amazing though to meet more people recently that are 'my kind of people '."
My misuse of the word dearth is going to annoy me all day. I meant I stand out amongst the dearth of written profiles where many say 'just ask me'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure I want to stand out to everyone or even lots of people.
Thankfully I seem to attract the attention of the right people, though I never really know why.
I'm just here being me and for the first time in years I'm OK with that. |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
"I perhaps might want less.
My back hurts.
And its only Sunday.
God help me by Friday.
I hope you're better soon, it sounds really wank. x
It is.
Thankfully I'm doing lots of physio and stretches for it.
Probably too much physio and stretching.
I forgot some inverted commas. Somewhere.
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Is 'physio' some kind of new young person's sex position? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have been happier with my fab experience since I went back to basics and stopped getting caught up in what was happening on the periphery, so to speak and just focus on the positive aspects.
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I couldn’t promote this mindset enough. Positive attracts positive people.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the best thing you can do is figure out who you are and what you want and go with that. Sounds easy , but very few people seem to be able to.
As an older guy with 3 daughters I have a little bit of patience for younger girls who are a little lost & confused , but I don’t imagine many women find it sexy in a guy. "
I agree.
All is about value,worth or what one has to offer,in personality,and otherwise. Like in anything apart from paid objects we buy attain etc. We some or most offer something of us,firsty the personality then the physical that is attached to it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi Sydney U
I stand out on fab amongst the dearth of 'just ask me' written profiles. I do not give a crap if people like me or not though. The positive thing I do to try and get the best out of fab is just be me after all the goal is to have fun with people I like and who like me.
I should probably do more with photos though. They are my best angles but only someone who has met me could say if they are representative or not.
I won't compromise on who I am and so make no attempt to fit in nor stand out and don't really care which happens. It has been amazing though to meet more people recently that are 'my kind of people '."
Those photos don't come close to capturing your warmth, engagement and presence within the moment.
Your butt, oh god yes.
Still. Always. Forever.
Fuck. Yous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I perhaps might want less.
My back hurts.
And its only Sunday.
God help me by Friday.
I hope you're better soon, it sounds really wank. x
It is.
Thankfully I'm doing lots of physio and stretches for it.
Probably too much physio and stretching.
I forgot some inverted commas. Somewhere.
Is 'physio' some kind of new young person's sex position? "
I couldn't possibly say, a gentleman never says.
Discretion is the greater part of valour and all.
Erm.
Also.
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The important thing is that I don’t need to stand out, or fit in. I’m quite happy dipping in and out, doing my own thing in my own way.
I have been happier with my fab experience since I went back to basics and stopped getting caught up in what was happening on the periphery, so to speak and just focus on the positive aspects.
I don’t try to fit in, or need to, and I do very much enjoy the interactions I have "
Be you! Why should you be other wise. And rightly so.
It is abit more deeper than that or we believe it to be on here and the wider worlder at large. |
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"You’ve joined fab, or been here a while, and realise there’s a lot more profiles than you can shake a stick at.
So, what’s the best way to get some attention?
(If you want attention?) because let’s be honest, EVERYTHING we do on fab is to be noticed in some capacity, whether it’s for the outcome of sexy sex or not.
Do you think you stand out amongst those around you? Is it not good to just ‘fit in’? Do you adopt an online persona different to others?
What positive things do we all do to get a positive result in the swinging world of fab?
Narrator- he’s doing a Sydney uni question isn’t he? He’ll be back later to collect results.
*Woody hamds out paper and pens
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I don't know about the swinging world I've never swung .but yes I'm different I'm here to chat and help those into bdsm and find a new sub
I've been here ten years and got lot friends here met and trained a number of women covid fucked things up for everybody .but now things are getting better new subs on the horizon whatch this space for profile changes and new profiles been set .I'm also hopeing visit a club in the future .and looking to set up playroom for others to come and use when I'm not using it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is just people. There's a person behind every 'just ask' profile.
They are possibly more interesting than multiple arse/ cock/ vag/ tits pics and reams of boring 'well chosen' text and sex reviews.
Text and pics do not make someone a better piece of meat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is just people. There's a person behind every 'just ask' profile.
They are possibly more interesting than multiple arse/ cock/ vag/ tits pics and reams of boring 'well chosen' text and sex reviews.
Text and pics do not make someone a better piece of meat."
Can never beat the real thing,that is what is really missing!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm unique, because we all are! But Lana's not, she's just another 2d fab profile among thousands. Her job is just to connect me with people I find cool when I feel like it, so I'm not that concerned about her being unique. |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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I don’t try to stand out or be unique or make much of any effort at all. Here and in real life I don’t desire to stand out or fit in my “desire to belong” is literally zero. Only difference is I say what’s on mind a lot more in real life I don’t do it as much here not to fit in more so to avoid being banned |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
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Hi Sydney U
I stand out on fab amongst the dearth of 'just ask me' written profiles. I do not give a crap if people like me or not though. The positive thing I do to try and get the best out of fab is just be me after all the goal is to have fun with people I like and who like me.
I should probably do more with photos though. They are my best angles but only someone who has met me could say if they are representative or not.
I won't compromise on who I am and so make no attempt to fit in nor stand out and don't really care which happens. It has been amazing though to meet more people recently that are 'my kind of people '.
Those photos don't come close to capturing your warmth, engagement and presence within the moment.
Your butt, oh god yes.
Still. Always. Forever.
Fuck. Yous."
Hear that everyone I am warm, engaging and have a butt!
That is bloody lovely. Thank you A5Starman! And coming from someone that is absolutely, uncompromisingly, delightfully yourself in every situation it is quite the compliment.
Wait was that just a line? Fuck you...  |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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"Fab is just people. There's a person behind every 'just ask' profile.
They are possibly more interesting than multiple arse/ cock/ vag/ tits pics and reams of boring 'well chosen' text and sex reviews.
Text and pics do not make someone a better piece of meat."
You are totally right. Many will be incredible, warm, wonderful people that might be an amazing connection. For me though it feels like trying to engage with everyone you walk past on a busy high street impossible to do without spending huge amounts of time. Even a few lines of a profile can give a hint if this might be a wonderful person for me or a wonderful person but not for me or indeed an absolute twat in my eyes. Hearing how someone describes themselves can give real insight into who they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do we stand out. Maybe a little here in the Lounge forum but on Fab as a whole - no way. That suits me though, the way we're doing fab is fine and working for us.
J"
This is what prompted my post.
I find some of us may (including myself) might not be noticed away from the forums, and what, if anything, should we could we do to change that? Or do we just become another number?
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I blend in very well at the back of the room and only probably get noticed (maybe) when actively participating to forum threads. Hopefully my profile comes across as honest and I will just wait and wait and wait….. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unique?...yes we are all unique but I think I just blend in to the background on here.
I don't do anything extra special to draw attention to myself. I post photos because I enjoy taking them and have a genuine interest in photography, and do post status updates but that's all I do.
I will message people whose profile has caught my attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"……. If I want someone's attention on here, I'll just message them
Why can I not relate to that …. ?"
It's definitely a different game on here for men and women too tbf. As a woman I can get attention literally by ticking the box that says that, guys do have to work much harder to stand out. Not fair but thems the breaks  |
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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago
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"……. If I want someone's attention on here, I'll just message them
Why can I not relate to that …. ?"
Cos you've got a penis??? Imagine living in such a world where the opposite sex have an unfair advantage in various things because of their genitalia |
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"……. If I want someone's attention on here, I'll just message them
Why can I not relate to that …. ?
Cos you've got a penis??? Imagine living in such a world where the opposite sex have an unfair advantage in various things because of their genitalia "
Are you saying that’s not a fair exchange - being paid 25% less so you can have more choice on a website full of weirdos?
You make a reasonable point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is just people. There's a person behind every 'just ask' profile.
They are possibly more interesting than multiple arse/ cock/ vag/ tits pics and reams of boring 'well chosen' text and sex reviews.
Text and pics do not make someone a better piece of meat.
You are totally right. Many will be incredible, warm, wonderful people that might be an amazing connection. For me though it feels like trying to engage with everyone you walk past on a busy high street impossible to do without spending huge amounts of time. Even a few lines of a profile can give a hint if this might be a wonderful person for me or a wonderful person but not for me or indeed an absolute twat in my eyes. Hearing how someone describes themselves can give real insight into who they are. "
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I'm not here for the attention, or the plaudits and adulation. The attention received is sometimes the inevitable outcome of how one conducts themselves here, either favourably or unfavourably, irrespective of whether they care or not on how they are perceived.
There are exceptions and certain manifestations of 'attention', I'll admit. When I host the Nocturnal Thread the compass of attention tends to point towards the host and the main contributors. It's inevitable. But it's not the purpose of the thread.
My profile - particularly the narrative - has more or less remained unchanged since I joined Fab. I never altered it to fit into the fora. For me the fora came much much later. My profile is about me looking for sex.
If people are seeking attention then I suggest that they engage in sycophancy. Sycophancy prevails on here no end. I detest it. |
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Oh I’m a total attention whore
Everybody knows that. Don’t they? There is very little substance behind the tits.
In all seriousness. I probably stand out to those that want to notice me. I’m like a fly to be swatted by those that don’t want to notice. I don’t think I’m pushy or scream “look at me”. And I don’t put on a front to garner adulation or praise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not here for the attention, or the plaudits and adulation. The attention received is sometimes the inevitable outcome of how one conducts themselves here, either favourably or unfavourably, irrespective of whether they care or not on how they are perceived.
There are exceptions and certain manifestations of 'attention', I'll admit. When I host the Nocturnal Thread the compass of attention tends to point towards the host and the main contributors. It's inevitable. But it's not the purpose of the thread.
My profile - particularly the narrative - has more or less remained unchanged since I joined Fab. I never altered it to fit into the fora. For me the fora came much much later. My profile is about me looking for sex.
If people are seeking attention then I suggest that they engage in sycophancy. Sycophancy prevails on here no end. I detest it."
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"I'm not here for the attention, or the plaudits and adulation. The attention received is sometimes the inevitable outcome of how one conducts themselves here, either favourably or unfavourably, irrespective of whether they care or not on how they are perceived.
There are exceptions and certain manifestations of 'attention', I'll admit. When I host the Nocturnal Thread the compass of attention tends to point towards the host and the main contributors. It's inevitable. But it's not the purpose of the thread.
My profile - particularly the narrative - has more or less remained unchanged since I joined Fab. I never altered it to fit into the fora. For me the fora came much much later. My profile is about me looking for sex.
If people are seeking attention then I suggest that they engage in sycophancy. Sycophancy prevails on here no end. I detest it.
Omg you're so right!! "
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I believe that those of us that have been on here a long time and are still enjoying the environment for the most part, are probably mostly happy with themselves on the inside.
I have definitely learned how to market my profile more visually in the time I have been on here.
I can’t be bothered to update my photos that often because I know that will attract mostly the type of people I most wish to avoid.
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I've been thinking about this, and you know what, maybe I am. I think I'm nicer in messages, even towards those frustrating ones than I am in the forum.
I'm authentic, I believe.
I understand the frustration from all sides regarding messaging to seek a meet.
I don't understand what I deem as a bad attitude.
Though feel free to call me on mine, I realise I can struggle with self awareness.
The only attention we seek is that of the like minded, that we may hope to meet, and so I express myself with genuity.
By the way, it's fine if you like or thrive off attention.
In a certain setting, Mrs A loves all the attention. |
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We make no effort to fit in, but I don’t think we stand out either. In the past we have been quite popular, these days we are not. our presence of Fab is authentically us, we’re not trying to be anything here that we aren’t in real life. The only exception is that these days we are far more guarded here than we used to be. We have no agendas, no bucket lists, no goals, no axes to grind and we’re not looking for anything or anyone specific. We are simply open to connections, and if they happen then great and if they don’t it doesn’t matter. Fab is a tiny, occasional distraction in an otherwise busy and fulfilling life x |
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"We make no effort to fit in, but I don’t think we stand out either. In the past we have been quite popular, these days we are not. our presence of Fab is authentically us, we’re not trying to be anything here that we aren’t in real life. The only exception is that these days we are far more guarded here than we used to be. We have no agendas, no bucket lists, no goals, no axes to grind and we’re not looking for anything or anyone specific. We are simply open to connections, and if they happen then great and if they don’t it doesn’t matter. Fab is a tiny, occasional distraction in an otherwise busy and fulfilling life x"
I'm thinking I should have waited for you to post, so I could quote it and say .... This. |
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We have been on and off here since jan 2019.
We dont stand out, we dont have the best pictures either(some of the pics on here are unbelievable)
Weve had a handful of meets(only 1 of them being a full swap) that was 2 years ago.
We cant travel majorly far due to a child with medical needs so kinda puts alot of couples off. Local couples dont seem to want to meet local couples.
We just take pics and have our own fun but love having a nosey on fab at some of you gorgeous lot
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"We have been on and off here since jan 2019.
We dont stand out, we dont have the best pictures either(some of the pics on here are unbelievable)
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I know right!?!? Some are very good/clever/hot. |
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"I think the best thing you can do is figure out who you are and what you want and go with that. Sounds easy , but very few people seem to be able to.
As an older guy with 3 daughters I have a little bit of patience for younger girls who are a little lost & confused , but I don’t imagine many women find it sexy in a guy. "
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I don’t think I stand out. That’s for others to determine.
Though I’ve had a couple of approaches from people who have read my profile. I make that point because my photos definitely don’t stand out |
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