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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on who’s giving it, skills can vary greatly!
A sensual, hands free, full eye contact BJ with just the right amount of suction and tongue action can be mind blowing.
However I’m not a fan of toothy BJs (one lass in a club even drew a little blood  ) or those aggressive wanking ones where it’s 90% hand wank and 10% mouth action.
Honestly I’d rather go without than have some aggressive thrashing about with it tbf |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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I hate it lying down. I do need to be looking down at the action, not sure why...just can't fully relax lying back with it happening. But I'm pretty get up and go when it comes to sex and am always moving  |
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I can easily relax, savour and enjoy the moment of her lips, mouth and tongue around my shaft; the warming and enveloping feeling, the rhythmic movements of her head...but I won't climax.
I can't orgasm from oral. Intromission is my only way. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Gosh there's a myriad of reasons.
One is definitely because I can be a tad self conscious - when I'm aroused I get very aroused.
After a previous partner told me I get "too" wet (this isn't from squirting or gushing or anything like that, it's just me being far too excited and very turned on), I'm always a bit worried about someone wanting to dive face in. Whether they'd enjoy it.
Another thing - I hate when anything is done as a precursor. You know when someone gives you oral and you can tell they're just thinking about getting it over and done with so they can get down to fucking. I'm good to move straight into fucking without lacklustre licking.
I also think I find it easier to focus my attention on others - I love giving, love seeing how others respond to me, love getting into that headspace where I'm thinking about nothing other than the other person and how I can intensify what they're feeling, how incredible their body is and the sounds... love that. I struggle to get into that not thinking headspace when the attention is on me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can easily relax, savour and enjoy the moment of her lips, mouth and tongue around my shaft; the warming and enveloping feeling, the rhythmic movements of her head...but I won't climax.
I can't orgasm from oral. Intromission is my only way."
Is intromission stopping for an hour or two?  |
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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago
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"Gosh there's a myriad of reasons.
One is definitely because I can be a tad self conscious - when I'm aroused I get very aroused.
After a previous partner told me I get "too" wet (this isn't from squirting or gushing or anything like that, it's just me being far too excited and very turned on), I'm always a bit worried about someone wanting to dive face in. Whether they'd enjoy it.
Another thing - I hate when anything is done as a precursor. You know when someone gives you oral and you can tell they're just thinking about getting it over and done with so they can get down to fucking. I'm good to move straight into fucking without lacklustre licking.
I also think I find it easier to focus my attention on others - I love giving, love seeing how others respond to me, love getting into that headspace where I'm thinking about nothing other than the other person and how I can intensify what they're feeling, how incredible their body is and the sounds... love that. I struggle to get into that not thinking headspace when the attention is on me."
And you do need to get into the headspace to relax and allow yourself to be the focus of attention. Knowing the person between your legs wants to be there makes a difference. Knowing they are going through the motions makes a difference in the other direction.
Funny is the wrong word but it's interesting how many prefer to give than receive. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Gosh there's a myriad of reasons.
One is definitely because I can be a tad self conscious - when I'm aroused I get very aroused.
After a previous partner told me I get "too" wet (this isn't from squirting or gushing or anything like that, it's just me being far too excited and very turned on), I'm always a bit worried about someone wanting to dive face in. Whether they'd enjoy it.
Another thing - I hate when anything is done as a precursor. You know when someone gives you oral and you can tell they're just thinking about getting it over and done with so they can get down to fucking. I'm good to move straight into fucking without lacklustre licking.
I also think I find it easier to focus my attention on others - I love giving, love seeing how others respond to me, love getting into that headspace where I'm thinking about nothing other than the other person and how I can intensify what they're feeling, how incredible their body is and the sounds... love that. I struggle to get into that not thinking headspace when the attention is on me.
And you do need to get into the headspace to relax and allow yourself to be the focus of attention. Knowing the person between your legs wants to be there makes a difference. Knowing they are going through the motions makes a difference in the other direction.
Funny is the wrong word but it's interesting how many prefer to give than receive."
I do think that sometimes people on here will say they prefer to give rather than receive because it makes them appear (or so they hope) really generous. Like someone that you should meet because your pleasure is of the utmost importance to them.
Maybe I'm being a tad cynical though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gosh there's a myriad of reasons.
One is definitely because I can be a tad self conscious - when I'm aroused I get very aroused.
After a previous partner told me I get "too" wet (this isn't from squirting or gushing or anything like that, it's just me being far too excited and very turned on), I'm always a bit worried about someone wanting to dive face in. Whether they'd enjoy it.
Another thing - I hate when anything is done as a precursor. You know when someone gives you oral and you can tell they're just thinking about getting it over and done with so they can get down to fucking. I'm good to move straight into fucking without lacklustre licking.
I also think I find it easier to focus my attention on others - I love giving, love seeing how others respond to me, love getting into that headspace where I'm thinking about nothing other than the other person and how I can intensify what they're feeling, how incredible their body is and the sounds... love that. I struggle to get into that not thinking headspace when the attention is on me.
And you do need to get into the headspace to relax and allow yourself to be the focus of attention. Knowing the person between your legs wants to be there makes a difference. Knowing they are going through the motions makes a difference in the other direction.
Funny is the wrong word but it's interesting how many prefer to give than receive.
I do think that sometimes people on here will say they prefer to give rather than receive because it makes them appear (or so they hope) really generous. Like someone that you should meet because your pleasure is of the utmost importance to them.
Maybe I'm being a tad cynical though."
I don't believe that people would lie to get a meet! Oh Meli  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Funny is the wrong word but it's interesting how many prefer to give than receive.
I do think that sometimes people on here will say they prefer to give rather than receive because it makes them appear (or so they hope) really generous. Like someone that you should meet because your pleasure is of the utmost importance to them.
Maybe I'm being a tad cynical though.
I don't believe that people would lie to get a meet! Oh Meli "
I'm sorry Outsider. Look, I highly doubt anyone would actually lie to get a meet, I think I'm just cranky and need coffee. Ignore what I wrote, forget about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always hated it due to a past trauma, then I started to like it and now I'm just meh. I find it all a bit wet and boring - I want to be ravished like the most delicious thing in the world not a half hearted lick- would rather not bother and just fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Funny is the wrong word but it's interesting how many prefer to give than receive.
I do think that sometimes people on here will say they prefer to give rather than receive because it makes them appear (or so they hope) really generous. Like someone that you should meet because your pleasure is of the utmost importance to them.
Maybe I'm being a tad cynical though.
I don't believe that people would lie to get a meet! Oh Meli
I'm sorry Outsider. Look, I highly doubt anyone would actually lie to get a meet, I think I'm just cranky and need coffee. Ignore what I wrote, forget about it. "
Phew! Thank you. I'll buy you a coffee.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Tell us why. Does it just not get you where you need to go? Do you feel self conscious? Or not able to relax and be the focus of attention? "
I've spent 5 hours trying to think of an answer as to why I don't like receiving oral.
Still can't think of one, try as I might.
Sorry.
A
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By *oggone OP Man
over a year ago
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"Gosh there's a myriad of reasons.
One is definitely because I can be a tad self conscious - when I'm aroused I get very aroused.
After a previous partner told me I get "too" wet (this isn't from squirting or gushing or anything like that, it's just me being far too excited and very turned on), I'm always a bit worried about someone wanting to dive face in. Whether they'd enjoy it.
Another thing - I hate when anything is done as a precursor. You know when someone gives you oral and you can tell they're just thinking about getting it over and done with so they can get down to fucking. I'm good to move straight into fucking without lacklustre licking.
I also think I find it easier to focus my attention on others - I love giving, love seeing how others respond to me, love getting into that headspace where I'm thinking about nothing other than the other person and how I can intensify what they're feeling, how incredible their body is and the sounds... love that. I struggle to get into that not thinking headspace when the attention is on me.
And you do need to get into the headspace to relax and allow yourself to be the focus of attention. Knowing the person between your legs wants to be there makes a difference. Knowing they are going through the motions makes a difference in the other direction.
Funny is the wrong word but it's interesting how many prefer to give than receive.
I do think that sometimes people on here will say they prefer to give rather than receive because it makes them appear (or so they hope) really generous. Like someone that you should meet because your pleasure is of the utmost importance to them.
Maybe I'm being a tad cynical though."
People misrepresenting themselves? You're not being cynical. People will of course present themselves as selfless lovers where your pleasure is their pleasure.
But outside the context of a fab meet I think getting into that 'receiving headspace' can be difficult for people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not crazy about receiving oral from guys that have no idea, some guys it's any technical or skill, which is why I prefer to sit on their face as that way I am in control. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I absolutely love receiving oral, feeling those luscious lips wrapped around my hard cock wow!!!
That wet,warm sensation is just fantastic
I have no problem climaxing through oral
I do enjoy giving a woman oral to,definitely not selfish at all |
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Doesn't stimulate me enough to get me going and I find it a bit boring. I need quite vigorous stimulation and a mouth/tongue is too soft for what gets me off. It is hot when a guy really likes doing it and I find that arousing but I still won't get anywhere near cumming. |
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"Depends on who’s giving it, skills can vary greatly!
A sensual, hands free, full eye contact BJ with just the right amount of suction and tongue action can be mind blowing.
However I’m not a fan of toothy BJs (one lass in a club even drew a little blood ) or those aggressive wanking ones where it’s 90% hand wank and 10% mouth action.
Honestly I’d rather go without than have some aggressive thrashing about with it tbf "
I have always found it hard to cum off oral sex. Some women think they are playing tug of war when they wank you off. Also as you said i have bled off a toothy blow job. So i rather give than recieve these days. John |
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"I can easily relax, savour and enjoy the moment of her lips, mouth and tongue around my shaft; the warming and enveloping feeling, the rhythmic movements of her head...but I won't climax.
I can't orgasm from oral. Intromission is my only way.
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Is intromission stopping for an hour or two? "
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No, you're referring to "intermission". I'm talking about "intromission".  |
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"With a guy who has skills I'll take oral for aaaages 
For the rest no I'd rather skip that part, as it either ends in him finger blasting me or with the hump as he can't get me to cum 
I'd give it a bash.  "
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"Doesn't stimulate me enough to get me going and I find it a bit boring. I need quite vigorous stimulation and a mouth/tongue is too soft for what gets me off. It is hot when a guy really likes doing it and I find that arousing but I still won't get anywhere near cumming. "
I would say that sums it up for me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I need other parts touched and caressed at same time. Just focusing on my cock doesn’t really do anything for me and won’t get me to cum…well, not usually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like giving and receiving, my preference for giving is after sex. Only ever had one partner who has come during sex, so I like to make her come using my tongue after I've cum, even better with a partner who likes it bareback and taste my cum along with her juices.
And Meli..the wetter the better as far as I'm concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not crazy about receiving oral from guys that have no idea, some guys it's any technical or skill, which is why I prefer to sit on their face as that way I am in control. "
Someone into face sitting  |
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