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How has 2023 on fab been for you so far?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Mine started out as part of a couple on here, now I'm a single.
It's been ok but more people have messed me about. It seems harder to find people but I can't explain why. Fab seems different compared to before COVID, does anyone else feel the same?
But, I have some awesome friends too that I've had some really almost perfect times with.
So how has it been for you so far?
Are you finding what you'd like to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People do not understand that its difficult on here regardless if you're a man or a woman due to the nature of the site
It's really difficult on here as a woman ATM especially compared to a few years ago
I've had meets from here but only people who I've met already
I don't even check my messages from new guys any more cause it seems completely point less |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So so rocky
Some mistakes were made real life stuff spilled over on to fab and the fourms
I hold my hands up and say it was my fault just hoping people allow me a second chance but if not I understand |
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I started the year with a promise to myself that I’d make more time for Fab. That I’d commit to meeting some of the friends made here, even if it meant travelling, or spending. And that, hopefully, I’d sleep with some of them too.
I’ve stuck to that. And I’ve been having a great time.
On top of that … I’ve found something I wasn’t looking for. Someone not too far away who I want to see again and again and again. I’m not taking that connection for granted. I’m surprised by it and grateful for it every day.
So … kinda positive all round really. Lucky me. |
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Turning 50 definitely hasn't helped for 2023 but it's not exactly dire if you're not too hungry and happy to let friendships build and develop. As a single guy is normally the long game both now and pre covid anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meh it is what it is. For me it passes the boredom of working alone. Something to do.
Occasionally I have a great PM with someone (last night was particularly funny)
But other than that, it's a place I can be a kinky devil, who can display his body in ways which mainstream social media would revolt against x |
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Hmmm
So so…
People are nice enough, to a degree.
But, being incredibly fussy I am often disappointed as nice doesn’t get people very far if they don’t look the part too.
Also, there are lots of couples only looking for bi-play with the female which rules out a lot of the ones with potential on first glance.
First world problems really  |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
It’s been a good journey so far. 
2019 was probably the best year for me as I met incredible people who are still great friends now. Fab got me through the pandemic and the lockdowns which many people enjoyed but were completely traumatic for me. I loved chatting to people then.
I’ve met a few people since after covid but no one really with such a great connection as I did pre-covid and it’s not looking like I will anytime soon  Also having been able to go back to my job that I was so depressed about losing during the pandemic has given me little time to go to socials and my confidence has gone down a bit. 
But all in all Fab has been a great addition to my life. |
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I’ve met some great people, some that are becoming FWBs and great social friends, visiting clubs a bit more often, had some great parties, reconnected with playmates and had some fantastic meets. Continuing to explore. 2023 is going well.. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
When it comes to Fab - I've pretty much stopped looking. I've got to the stage where I think 'if it happens, it happens'
I was very quiet at the beginning of the year, but I'm now getting more active in the forums again.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Better than during the covid period. Met someone I enjoy spending time with, and others who I chat with on and off Fab. Some nice people, and the Forum can be entertaining.
Hope your 2023 picks up OP. |
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We've had some great social meets, we have probably not sought any meets this year the ones we've had have come from general forum chatting and gone that way.
We've changed our boundaries a little and like the idea of meeting with a couple (previous only met with women) but my god 4 way attraction online is hard to find.
I have stopped seeking meets on fab and prefer to find people we click with at the social events, it's so much easier for me at face value & I don't have that worry they have precondition ideas of me due to the photos that way.
Overall I guess this year has changed our approach and broadened our horizons.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some ups, some downs. This is my second time on Fab after a little break. Was previously here for a couple of years and had a lot more success than this time round, and thats not even sleeping woth people. Success in sparking up a conversation. It seems that a huge influx of members, primarily single blokes that don't know how to behave has a lot of Women/Couples on tender hooks.
Not being 6 foot with a 7 inch cock and gym fit body makes it all the harder too hahaha |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
If I was to judge how Fab has been for me by the number of meets, I'd have to say it's been pants but... If I was to make my judgement on how great that one meeting was and the fact that through Fab I'd found a fantastic club, then I'd say it's been brilliant. |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
Umm... not sure I've found anything in 2023 OP (if anything i feel lost and slowly finding my feet again) and agree it feels like it's changed a bit but could just be as I try and find my voice again on the forums.
Got back to a social though and had contact again with some from old. So not all bad and with little/ no expectation it whiles away the time. |
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How has it been? It started off wonderfully and I'm still glowing because of that.
How has it been since? I wish it was more capital but I've continued to accept the undulating path of glossy profiles that don't live up to realism; the geographical distances between me and some wonderful people and, finally, the socials that keep me sane and humbled.
There are some green shoots however...  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
In a word? Great.
But we've always had zero expectations re anything - meets, how any chats and engagements will progress or whether there's anyone we feel compatible with on site or not.
It's the best approach we find.
Fab will always be Fab (and of course fab  ). It's just a tool and a means to an end, not a magic wand or a series offering any kind of guarantee.
The stress and angst it seems to cause some people both amuses and worries me at times in equal measure.
But I guess you'll get a different viewpoint from the forum community vs the other 99% ot site users who are simply using it as a site to find sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's going alright
I still get nice penis
Also got some new penis
And some adventures away
Plus loads of socials to attend
So not too shabby so far
You copied my last sentence  "
I never even read yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had many fab outings over the past 12 years and can honestly say this has been the best one.
I signed back up initially just for the forums but then I decided to embrace it more and actually enjoy being single. I wanted to be bolder, braver and say yes more. It's not disappointed me.
I'm planning adventures and doing things I'd never have before. I'm meeting so many incredible people along the way.
I've lost the worry about what people think and I'm just being me. I no longer feel like I'm on the sidelines. Although I still don't see myself as a swinger
Best of all, I've met someone who has restored my faith in men and who continues to surprise me and delight me in equal measures.
Cheering each other on in solo adventures without it ruining the connection we share is something I didn't think possible. I'm glad I've been proven wrong and I can't wait to see what happens next for us both.
So my 2023 (so far) on Fab has been full of wonder and long may it continue. |
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It's frustrating a lot of the time. I am very open to meeting but most men just seem to want a pen pal (I can only comment on men)
There was a really bad spell of just being let down. I've taken most of my profile off and doing things slightly differently, so we'll see how that goes!
Had some lovely socials recently, so there's definitely hope! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
Well after being off for a year and wandering back at the start of February I had no expectations at all. I have been lucky to meet so many wonderful people that I can call friends.
I'm looking forward to more social events to meet lots of other lovely people I've been chatting to and exploring things with a very special someone I have been blessed to find  |
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I ended 2022 bored with the whole thing and took a break up until February 2023, then returned back to the forums and everything seemed strange for a while.
I'm wishing now I had more time for real life meets and planning to have more time in the autumn to do so.
If it wasn't for the forums and the friends who I keep in contact with I would have probably finished with fab all together to be honest. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I ended 2022 bored with the whole thing and took a break up until February 2023, then returned back to the forums and everything seemed strange for a while.
I'm wishing now I had more time for real life meets and planning to have more time in the autumn to do so.
If it wasn't for the forums and the friends who I keep in contact with I would have probably finished with fab all together to be honest."
I'm glad you didn't give up. |
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"I ended 2022 bored with the whole thing and took a break up until February 2023, then returned back to the forums and everything seemed strange for a while.
I'm wishing now I had more time for real life meets and planning to have more time in the autumn to do so.
If it wasn't for the forums and the friends who I keep in contact with I would have probably finished with fab all together to be honest.
I'm glad you didn't give up. "
Thank you, I am too. |
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"It's going alright
I still get nice penis
Also got some new penis
And some adventures away
Plus loads of socials to attend
So not too shabby so far
You copied my last sentence
I never even read yours "
No change there then |
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Non existent.
Haven't met anyone new since 2020 by choice but created a couples profile last year with a friend with the plan to explore more.
Nearly a year down the line and health issues, external circumstances and and a complete can't be arsed attitude and we have yet to meet as a couple or as individuals.
2023 just like 2022 has been crap in general with very little light at the end of the tunnel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A little difficult.
We've been very short on spare time with family and work issues.
Earlier in the year, we managed a couple of weeks to venture this way, and so we set out our profile to express clearly (as we usually always do) what we were seeking and that we are very short on time.
We did the phonecalls, chatted for a while, and though we touch on certain aspects to express us, it's never naughty talk to get off to, we exchanged face pics, kept in touch via WhatsApp etc.
And yet we were let down by two men, two separate occasions, both suddenly not opening our WhatsApp messages even though they've been online several times, with the same 'reason' and both got back in touch a few days later to suggest another chance.
We've not been let down before, and I can now understand how so many couples and women can become cynical here.
I keep saying sceptical when I mean cynical. (Shrugs) but I remembered this time.
A round of applause please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A little difficult.
We've been very short on spare time with family and work issues.
Earlier in the year, we managed a couple of weeks to venture this way, and so we set out our profile to express clearly (as we usually always do) what we were seeking and that we are very short on time.
We did the phonecalls, chatted for a while, and though we touch on certain aspects to express us, it's never naughty talk to get off to, we exchanged face pics, kept in touch via WhatsApp etc.
And yet we were let down by two men, two separate occasions, both suddenly not opening our WhatsApp messages even though they've been online several times, with the same 'reason' and both got back in touch a few days later to suggest another chance.
We've not been let down before, and I can now understand how so many couples and women can become cynical here.
I keep saying sceptical when I mean cynical. (Shrugs) but I remembered this time.
A round of applause please. "
I'll add ......
We explained clearly that we were short on time and said if you feel there's an issue preventing us to meet at any point, please just say, we won't take offence and we may have time to look at arranging something else.
Solo guys don't realise how much effort goes into arranging a meet for a couple, balancing family life, both have children from previous relationships, juggling between two jobs, two lots of hobbies, activities with the little ones, mixing with friends and family.
When we manage to force some time to meet in all of that, it's so disheartening to be let down in that way.
We often see people mention respectfully responding to first time messages, but they don't experience the total disregards shown here.
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
On the whole it's been a great year. I'm really sad that my regular FWB took employment that meant we couldn't meet. Over a year of regular fun suddenly ended.
However in March I spent 5 consecutive nights with a gorgeous gent which was brilliant. Recently I've been meeting a local guy and it's going well.
Still enjoy forum chat and attending my local clubs. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
S. Northants |
"Mine started out as part of a couple on here, now I'm a single.
It's been ok but more people have messed me about. It seems harder to find people but I can't explain why. Fab seems different compared to before COVID, does anyone else feel the same?
But, I have some awesome friends too that I've had some really almost perfect times with.
So how has it been for you so far?
Are you finding what you'd like to?"
Firstly, you're right. Fab is definitely different since pre-covid. The site became full of ghosts and fantasists during the lockdown. Where are the reliable and genuine people now?
For us, it's been a mixed bag. Met one lovely couple and have had some great filum there, but life gets in the way sometimes.
We'd love to find more friends we can have fun with, but our dynamic stills seems a bit taboo for fab (only the fantasists seem interested). The majority of our meets have still come from the real world. We've been here around 7/8+ years now. So for that reason, I think we'd have to say no, we're not finding what we'd like on here anymore.
We're starting to consider packing it all in and just accepting it's not meant to be x |
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I seem to have accidentally put out a net for mostly catfish this year!! Ha ha Not quite sure how I managed that, I have spoken to a few awesome people in the mix too but it's certainly more time wasters with excuses than genuine good times atm for me and is making me start to think fab has run it's course
Who knows though. Probably just having a pessimistic day |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I honestly can’t complain. Pre covid I just used search , but found the forums during lockdown and now mostly meet people via there. I think it’s different, far less people, but easier.
I’ve only met 2 new people this year due to being out of the uk and there’s less fabbers in or willing to travel to Dubai ! But I still meet people I’ve met over the last few years. |
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I have only joined a year ago so can’t really compare to pre covid Fab really.
2023 started off well but then I got set back due to health issues and currently facing complicated family situation so I’m no longer as active as I wanted to be.
Having been let down by multiple people recently has made me to rethink my approach but honestly I can be the only one to blame.
I’m enjoying the Lounge and chats and on very rare occasion meetings with people I know and I’m happy with that. |
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Mixed.
A couple of bad experiences, one was a Walter Mitty type, another was rough and I should have vetted better, so I blame myself. Sobering from the point of view of my personal safety.
Conversely, reconnected with a friend and made a couple of promising connections, so all in all, feeling positive |
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Pretty fucking good... in some ways life changing.
I met my Mistress and the two of us have become very good friends.
I've gone from being a weird an awkward man... to a weird an awkward man in a wig with fake titties
My sex life has expanded tenfold in the last few months.
Wish a few more women showed an interest... but that's just the way Fab goes |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Let's see.
First few months of the year I lost quite a bit of confidence in myself, found myself doubting if someone would choose to spend time with me when there are far more enjoyable people out there (it wasn't strictly a fab experience that led to it). I said no to a lot of things. Actually, everything.
But the past month? It's been fantastic. I've met some wonderful people, dipped my toes into exploring kink finally. Slowly. I've also been reminded of how brilliant the friends are I've made thanks to Fab - I love them so much and was going to give a few of them a shout out for the cringe factor but decided against it. I've started feeling more me again, saying yes to dates and socials.
And, thanks to a thread on this very fora (fora fora fora), I've reconnected with a fantastic friend seamlessly and very much enjoying our unique friendship.
I'm really excited about what the coming months hold, I just need to work out what I want to prioritise as I don't have enough time for everything going on. I'll get there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its been poor for me so far, you message people they don't reply or even if they do and give their number to you, they they answer phone calls or reply to texts. Probably will give up dating comepletely after my membership expires on here. |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
Despite all the dross on here I have made connections with some fantastic people on here - as friends, sexually and a combination of the two. This year has been particularly rewarding for me and I'm looking forward to having something special waiting for me when I return to the UK. |
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I can't say this year has been very productive for me to be honest, it seems (at least for me) to be more in the queue for me.
I have made some friends, which is always beneficial though so I can't complain about that. |
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Pretty good for me so far
Met regularly with a guy I met once last year
Met once with a guy I met with regularly last year
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Met regularly with a guy I’ve been chatting to the whole time I’ve been on fab
There have been a couple of fuck and go meets too but not many as I prefer a bit of a connection of some description.
I’m also chatting with several other guys that I like the sound of meeting up with and so when we can get schedules to align hopefully some more meets will happen.
I’d like to find a kink fix for a couple of things but I’m in no rush and currently not meeting anyone new until a small health issue is resolved so I’m enjoying my time here for sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmm. 
Ups and downs. I’ve been lucky to actually meet anyone here in person. So it’s been good with that in mind.
It’s been bad with respect to how fab (or some people) can leave you feeling. I just need to shake that off though.
And surprised with some really really good people coming into my life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Post Covid not been good, think we got out of the habit."
I think some of the actual swingers left at that time, whilst also attracting those looking for a virtual escape. |
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Mixed.
Didn't think it would be as hard as it is finding what I want.
At the moment, and yet again, seem to be attracting pen pals, which I'm getting a bit fed up with.
Mostly come online for the Forums. |
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I seem to be attracting deceptive married cheaters atm, so my moral compass is stuck in frustration and I'm trying hard not to take it out on others,but it does spill out in my thread comments, I guess I resent my time being wasted, over the lies I'm told...
Thank heaven for my long term special friends and I'm very happy meeting new and old people at the socials, but I will definitely be reassessing the way I fab when I come back off holibobs |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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The first 3 months of the year were beautifully quiet, as I was on an extended break. Since then, been a pretty delightful year actually.
Just regarding fab, anyway. |
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Quiet to start as we've had too much life stuff going on to think about meeting and such, I managed a group social solo which was a big step for me as I hate going anywhere on my own. More actively looking now and more socials are hoping to be be attended as the year progresses but we shall see
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2023 was the first foray onto fab.
Good thimgs so far:
Chatted with some lovely people
Felt bit better about liking the things I like (ie can be in a relationship and still play with others, without it seeming like a bad thing)
Bad things so far:
Has really dented my confidence facade and made me even more aware of my flaws/failings
Made me cautious about speaking to women oddly
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine started out as part of a couple on here, now I'm a single.
It's been ok but more people have messed me about. It seems harder to find people but I can't explain why. Fab seems different compared to before COVID, does anyone else feel the same?
But, I have some awesome friends too that I've had some really almost perfect times with.
So how has it been for you so far?
Are you finding what you'd like to?"
I try to make the most out of everyday so yes it's been brilliant simply because l refuse to not let it be .
Even though there are things that l'd love to find or have l don't let that l don't get me down , l always try to take the best out of everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been back 2 weeks after a 6 year lay off, and it’s been like learning how to ride a bike again.
Caught up with a few people I knew before, and getting a lay of the land as is now.
Thankfully, I have a keen interest in people and their stories, so I don’t need to chase meets.
Now I’m back on the forums, I believe my experience will get even better |
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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago
Hampshire |
Tbh we've had more success with genuine couples by meeting at pre organised socials & the club scene than trawling through the endless timewasters,dreamers, pic collectors & fake profiles- but at the same time, we have actually met some lovely people & had some great playdates as well  |
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2023 has been the same as any other year with respect to meets so can’t complain.
Again, pre COVID Fab was great. If what you’re talking about feeling different is the forums then I tend to agree with you. 2023 does feel like the worst it’s been in the 10 years I’ve been here. I know some of the older regulars don’t frequent the Lounge anymore due to one or two of the ‘newer users’ and are giving them a wide berth.
Am I finding what I like? Yes, I can’t grumble  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only had one social since I've been back and he wasn't for me for various reasons but it also made me reevaluate and decide to hold off meeting for a while as I don't want to give up my valuable time. |
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i find it frustrating when your in the middle of a conversation and the other person just goes off line , it would also be good if the other person knew you were typing , like on messenger that way they would know you were still there |
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