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If it’s not a fuck yes, is it a no?
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I’ve often heard the above and bought into it for a period of time so lots of things have been a no.
But now I’m not so sure.
Is it better to say yes to some things with an air of uncertainty and hope it works out than say no and miss out altogether.
Meeting people off here, doing something new, taking a chance...
What’s your approach?
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Without ever taking a chance, how do you know for certain?
I tend to gauge everything as I find it. Sometimes it's a "fuck yes" and sometimes it's a "no"
You have to listen to your gut instinct sometimes x |
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"Without ever taking a chance, how do you know for certain?
I tend to gauge everything as I find it. Sometimes it's a "fuck yes" and sometimes it's a "no"
You have to listen to your gut instinct sometimes x"
I think my brain often says no without letting my gut have a chance. Fear wins 
That said, I’m starting to take a leap of faith with some things now. Life is SO short isn’t it! |
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"Without ever taking a chance, how do you know for certain?
I tend to gauge everything as I find it. Sometimes it's a "fuck yes" and sometimes it's a "no"
You have to listen to your gut instinct sometimes x
I think my brain often says no without letting my gut have a chance. Fear wins
That said, I’m starting to take a leap of faith with some things now. Life is SO short isn’t it!"
I would rather regret the things I've done.
Than get to the end of my life and regret the things I didn't do. |
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"I’ve often heard the above and bought into it for a period of time so lots of things have been a no.
But now I’m not so sure.
Is it better to say yes to some things with an air of uncertainty and hope it works out than say no and miss out altogether.
Meeting people off here, doing something new, taking a chance...
What’s your approach?
Sasha "
It has to be a fuck yes when we chat on the phone.
The rest you can figure out in person, attractions can vary and change depending on the interaction.
That initial yes has to be there, of course, but for me, we have to click intellectually, emotionally and personally.
If that is there, the rest will follow.
It's all in the eyes anyway, where the fun starts and ends. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If it's a fuck no instantly, it stays that way. I'm too old to not listen to my instinctive reaction and talk it away.
But most things I'm more... well, I'm quite prone to pondering things. And I was quite prone to doubting myself. Now I'm finding myself saying yes to more things - it's so much fun actually embracing things. The issue I have now is I don't have an infinite amount of time and can't do everything that's suggested.
So now I'm saying no to more things while trying to say yes to the right things for me. Without overthinking or telling myself I shouldn't go for it. When something is a fuck yes though? I'm leaping at the chance. Outcome be damned. |
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"If it's a fuck no instantly, it stays that way. I'm too old to not listen to my instinctive reaction and talk it away.
But most things I'm more... well, I'm quite prone to pondering things. And I was quite prone to doubting myself. Now I'm finding myself saying yes to more things - it's so much fun actually embracing things. The issue I have now is I don't have an infinite amount of time and can't do everything that's suggested.
So now I'm saying no to more things while trying to say yes to the right things for me. Without overthinking or telling myself I shouldn't go for it. When something is a fuck yes though? I'm leaping at the chance. Outcome be damned."
Love this attitude!
I suppose being less focused on the outcome is my goal too  |
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I say follow the arousal. Sometimes you have some hesitation but remain curious, then I tend to push past it but note the flags should I need to refer later. Equally there's time where logically you're like yeah this person is a great fit, but your bodies like 'meh'
Fab has been an interesting way to connect with my body as elsewhere in life I'm very head lead... all the best OP |
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If my initial thoughts are no then it's a no.
If I'm a bit iffy then I'll usually at least try because you never know especially as an overthinker I can put myself of so many situations that could have been good because my head's taken over once I relax I'm generally good.
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"If my initial thoughts are no then it's a no.
If I'm a bit iffy then I'll usually at least try because you never know especially as an overthinker I can put myself of so many situations that could have been good because my head's taken over once I relax I'm generally good.
Mrs "
I can relate to a lot of this too… overthinking can be such a blocker can’t it.
Thanks for your thoughts |
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"I say follow the arousal. Sometimes you have some hesitation but remain curious, then I tend to push past it but note the flags should I need to refer later. Equally there's time where logically you're like yeah this person is a great fit, but your bodies like 'meh'
Fab has been an interesting way to connect with my body as elsewhere in life I'm very head lead... all the best OP"
Following... 
All men are blocked though. Fair haha. |
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"I say follow the arousal. Sometimes you have some hesitation but remain curious, then I tend to push past it but note the flags should I need to refer later. Equally there's time where logically you're like yeah this person is a great fit, but your bodies like 'meh'
Fab has been an interesting way to connect with my body as elsewhere in life I'm very head lead... all the best OP
Following...
All men are blocked though. Fair haha."
Indeed, I'm a pacer, taking my own sweet time on that arousal follow   |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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If I am a bit lack lustre about something I’m not about to put my time and energy into it.
As I’ve gotten older I’ve less time for thinking I need to do something I’m not really up for doing just because someone thinks I should or I’ll be made to feel guilty if I don’t.
I know myself and what I want - that said had I not taken the opportunity for an impromptu coffee date last year I wouldn’t be with the person I am now, I wouldn’t say I took a chance on him though as I just had a gut feeling from the start he’d be pretty special xx |
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"Without ever taking a chance, how do you know for certain?
I tend to gauge everything as I find it. Sometimes it's a "fuck yes" and sometimes it's a "no"
You have to listen to your gut instinct sometimes x
I think my brain often says no without letting my gut have a chance. Fear wins
That said, I’m starting to take a leap of faith with some things now. Life is SO short isn’t it!
I would rather regret the things I've done.
Than get to the end of my life and regret the things I didn't do."
Yes, all the way. Rather to regret something than regret not doing it.
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"I say follow the arousal. Sometimes you have some hesitation but remain curious, then I tend to push past it but note the flags should I need to refer later. Equally there's time where logically you're like yeah this person is a great fit, but your bodies like 'meh'
Fab has been an interesting way to connect with my body as elsewhere in life I'm very head lead... all the best OP
Following...
All men are blocked though. Fair haha.
Indeed, I'm a pacer, taking my own sweet time on that arousal follow "
Ahem
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*look over here*
Excuse me, Veronica...
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"I’ve often heard the above and bought into it for a period of time so lots of things have been a no.
But now I’m not so sure.
Is it better to say yes to some things with an air of uncertainty and hope it works out than say no and miss out altogether.
Meeting people off here, doing something new, taking a chance...
What’s your approach?
Sasha "
I’m in agreement! Although sometimes they start talking dirty and “hell no” turns into “OMG that does sound enticing”! |
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"Without ever taking a chance, how do you know for certain?
I tend to gauge everything as I find it. Sometimes it's a "fuck yes" and sometimes it's a "no"
You have to listen to your gut instinct sometimes x
I think my brain often says no without letting my gut have a chance. Fear wins
That said, I’m starting to take a leap of faith with some things now. Life is SO short isn’t it!
I would rather regret the things I've done.
Than get to the end of my life and regret the things I didn't do."
This ^ |
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