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Age limits - Do you always stick to them?
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Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good? |
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By *M737Couple
over a year ago
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"
Break it for us please X |
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over a year ago
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I've generally always gone for older though every guy in the last couple of years has been younger.
Older guys can be immature little pricks.
Younger guys can not be immature little pricks.
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?
Break it for us please X"
Aaaargh! The mammy vibes are strong!  |
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over a year ago
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Stick with the range, 18-99 seems undiscerning, whilst anything younger than early 40s and I'd be a cradle snatcher *and they may be taking me to ICU or the morgue). |
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over a year ago
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I suppose it's mostly about attraction and how you get on and I think my age range covers a broad spectrum of women and couples. I've chatted to women older than my upper age range but my lower age range will never go below 20 (I have been thinking of raising it recently) as the thought of having sex with someone still in their teens gives me the ick.
I have also chatted to and met women and couples where I'm not in their age range and the subject has never been brought up  |
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Yes we always stick to our age range. In my opinion age isn't just a number and I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man more than around 15/16 years younger than me in a sexual context.
Socially however age is irrelevant. Interestingly to younger people the reverse often applies, the ones interested in us sexually wouldn't be seen dead with us socially  |
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As I enjoy interesting people, I find very young people have not had enough time to have experienced life yet.
What about you OP, how did you come to the decision that 55 is the age that life ends? |
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Age limits are more of a starting point, someone can be what I’m looking for looks-wise but older or younger so it’s better to be open minded. Very rarely do I flex, but the option is there.
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My age filters are set up only for another useful filter purpose.
If there’s mutual attraction and connection, it’s the person who counts, no matter the age.
I draw the firm line at the lower age of 21 though. |
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over a year ago
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More importantly I draw the line at "don't be an arsehole" that isn't age specific. Nothing may come of it other than a flirt. But you won't even get that if your an arsehole. |
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I have my limits as I am looking for guys with certain skills/emotional intelligence and most under and over that range, don't have them for me, yes some do and we will find each other if we are meant to. Otherwise I'm happy to keep them as they are  |
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over a year ago
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"Yes we always stick to our age range. In my opinion age isn't just a number and I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man more than around 15/16 years younger than me in a sexual context.
Socially however age is irrelevant. Interestingly to younger people the reverse often applies, the ones interested in us sexually wouldn't be seen dead with us socially "
I’d go out with you socially  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."
Men.  |
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"Yes we always stick to our age range. In my opinion age isn't just a number and I wouldn't feel comfortable with a man more than around 15/16 years younger than me in a sexual context.
Socially however age is irrelevant. Interestingly to younger people the reverse often applies, the ones interested in us sexually wouldn't be seen dead with us socially
I’d go out with you socially "
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.
Men. "
*Those* men. I'm sure the good gentlefolk of fab would all be very open and accepting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"
It's all relative, they would have to be quite a mature one for me to dip below 25. At a certain point, you start to feel a little take advantagery.
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.
Men.
*Those* men. I'm sure the good gentlefolk of fab would all be very open and accepting "
Yes yes sorry mrs N. #NotAllMen.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.
Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.
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"To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.
Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.
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I'll be honest you use a lot of words and phrases I have to consult urban dictionary for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it tends to be more of an issue for women. But also consider the difference in perception when we think of older women and younger men relationships compared to the other way round. I’ve dated people much older than me, held hands in public and all that jazz and I don’t care. But some can’t stand the looks. And the judgement. |
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"To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.
Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.
I'll be honest you use a lot of words and phrases I have to consult urban dictionary for "
Equally I learn so much from you. It’s also one of the best things about Intergenerational conversations and friendships. Is that rude? I don’t mean it to be sorry |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve always preferred an older man - don’t know if that’s an intentional thing or just the way it’s worked out in who I’ve connected with.
I think that’s the thing for me, you can strike a common ground or mutual interest with several people of differing ages but should it become a situation where sexual activity were to be involved I wouldn’t go any younger x |
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It’s just casual sex to me so it’s purely based on physical attraction for me
18+ is fine not like I am trying to date them or be best friends. Usually it’s just one off meets anyway bar a couple of people that I have as a fuck buddy |
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."
Yes some have the emotional intelligence of a slug lol |
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"It’s just casual sex to me so it’s purely based on physical attraction for me
18+ is fine not like I am trying to date them or be best friends. Usually it’s just one off meets anyway bar a couple of people that I have as a fuck buddy "
So you don't converse with your meets prior to sex? Connection is so important to me to get my knickers wet, regardless whether it's for 1 hour or weeks together with that person. Ape like behaviour is a massive turn off |
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"To answer the OP I’m pretty open minded. But I would not meet anyone under the age of 21.
Age limits are tricky because usually older people don’t get me or my humour and they only like the serious ‘mature’ side to me. But of course not all older people. So I keep an open mind. If we can share a laugh and I’m attracted to them then I’m down for whatever. I’ma slut.
I'll be honest you use a lot of words and phrases I have to consult urban dictionary for
Equally I learn so much from you. It’s also one of the best things about Intergenerational conversations and friendships. Is that rude? I don’t mean it to be sorry"
No it isn't rude. I'm not afraid of how old I am.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s just casual sex to me so it’s purely based on physical attraction for me
18+ is fine not like I am trying to date them or be best friends. Usually it’s just one off meets anyway bar a couple of people that I have as a fuck buddy
So you don't converse with your meets prior to sex? Connection is so important to me to get my knickers wet, regardless whether it's for 1 hour or weeks together with that person. Ape like behaviour is a massive turn off"
Agreed. If I wanted to "get off" without conversation I'd turn to my favourite actress online. |
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As with all these types of questions it’s attraction that is key for both of us.
We’ve met with much younger people and had absolutely fantastic fun.
We’ve only really met with one substantially older person and she was absolutely fantastic fun too.
Which has prompted me to reassess our age range filters.
Good thread op |
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"
I agree...if someone's younger than my eldest then I just can't do it.. its an instant "sorry too young" and they always come back with "but I'm very mature and love older women" |
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."
Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?
I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, my profile even says that my ages are a guide only.
Seems you can’t do anything right when it comes to ages sometimes. If you set them you’re called ageist or discriminatory and if you leave it 18-99 you get called out as desperate  |
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.
Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?
I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch."
*saddo not daddy. |
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"Nope, my profile even says that my ages are a guide only.
Seems you can’t do anything right when it comes to ages sometimes. If you set them you’re called ageist or discriminatory and if you leave it 18-99 you get called out as desperate "
That's true. Impossible to please everyone on here. |
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.
Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?
I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch."
Yes, 'mutton ' was mentioned. It was clear that these men found it disgusting. It was a few years ago, I don't know if things have changed. That and your experience are (admittedly very low down) on my list of reasons I won't meet much younger men for sex. They might be ok with it but lots of other people won't. |
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I mostly conform to my age bracket as this is where I feel the most 'comfortable', and yet I don't really know what 'comfortable' really means. Most of my meets have been on the back of women messaging me and therefore age didn't really figure.
My recent meet was 24 years younger than me. It took me a month prior to meeting to get my head around that and seek the counsel of one or two forumite friends. |
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"I mostly conform to my age bracket as this is where I feel the most 'comfortable', and yet I don't really know what 'comfortable' really means. Most of my meets have been on the back of women messaging me and therefore age didn't really figure.
My recent meet was 24 years younger than me. It took me a month prior to meeting to get my head around that and seek the counsel of one or two forumite friends."
Dirty 'ol devil |
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"It's their attitude that counts. Not age however i never been with anyone over 44"
 I am tempted to say what have you missed, but I know you are sound enough to have made the best decision for you. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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I am comfortable with the age parameters set in my profile, it is highly unlikely that I will meet anyone older than me. but I do seem to attract interest from women around the lower end of my age range.
My most recent meets on here however have been women in their late 60s. |
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By *age500Woman
over a year ago
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I always stick to it…on here and out in the world. I just don’t tend to find I have anything in common with people out of my age range so I have it set as a filter. Plus especially the younger guys who are new here can’t seem to take rejection without hurling insults…seems as though one of their mates has found the site, passed it around their group and said they’d get sex instantly. I just need more maturity than that |
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"I mostly conform to my age bracket as this is where I feel the most 'comfortable', and yet I don't really know what 'comfortable' really means. Most of my meets have been on the back of women messaging me and therefore age didn't really figure.
My recent meet was 24 years younger than me. It took me a month prior to meeting to get my head around that and seek the counsel of one or two forumite friends.
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Dirty 'ol devil "
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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None of my kids are over 18 so I don’t have that problem with younger…
As for older, yes, my limits are firmly established. I know I am headed that way, but I am not attracted to older men, can’t help it. I wish I could change it but I can’t. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"None of my kids are over 18 so I don’t have that problem with younger…
As for older, yes, my limits are firmly established. I know I am headed that way, but I am not attracted to older men, can’t help it. I wish I could change it but I can’t. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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My age limit is set by the day I was born. Sadly it isn't a concept anyone is willing to see beyond, possibly due to the sag of aged wood soaked in vintage spirit. The decades of experience count for nothing when it comes to expiry dates, and it would seem my best before has passed on through while the use by has passed away. Now my age limit is no longer a preference so much as a limitation. If only the new generation had been taught to give it a sniff first, then decide if it is safe to consume.
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Mine is more of a guide. It's not rigidly fixed in stone as I consider everyone is an idividual and there might just be someone outside that range that I might otherwise miss out on a potential experience of a lifetime |
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We have our preference, but wouldn’t rule anything out in a moment of time with the right people.
Granted we all have kinks and turn ons and some find having sex with someone younger than themselves a turn on, and equally someone younger may find it a turn on to have sex with someone older. As consenting adults, that’s a personal choice.
However for us connection is key, as people have stated above, rather than age.
As the op targets the question more leaning with the younger generation, we’ll share our thoughts in that direction:
Whilst we would typically align with a similar age to ourselves, we have met with quite a lot of younger people, who we have connected with.
Their approach to the swinging lifestyle, the way they carry and present themselves, has been aligned to what we look for.
We do find some of the younger swingers have a different mentality to people of their age that hit the high street on a weekend. They want the fun of a night out but not with the potential agro they may face from d*unken people. For that as a possible reason, we’ve enjoyed the dynamic they bring to swinging.
As such, we’ve made some really good much younger friends in the lifestyle. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"
They are generally guidelines. If we're attracted to someone, with similar morals and desires as us, then the age isn't as important. We're open to older or younger than our limits within reason. We wouldn't go as far as teens anymore, but that's just us getting older. When we started on here in our 20s life was a little bit different. |
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever."
Women who flirt are such sluts. Old women should know better. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"
On here? Generally, because 'filters'.
In clubs? Nope. Not at all.
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"Or is it really just a number?
I wonder if this is more of an issue for women rather than men. The mammy in me will sometimes stop me from thinking those thoughts about someone who is young enough to be my son or daughter. Or is above 18 all well & good?"
On Fab, I try to stick to it but I have gone out of the range for couples. Single guys not so much.
In clubs, I don't do that because it would alienate people in person. If I get chatting with a younger or older man and I take a shine to them, then it's not a barrier.
As a woman, I know men my age and older want to go for women in their 20s and 30s. Doesn't bother me but it is entertaining when they steal their Netflix. At my age, I don't have the energy to be petty. Lol! |
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"I watched a much older woman flirt with a younger man once in a social group. The way the men of all ages in the group spoke about the woman afterwards made me never want to risk doing that, ever.
Making her sound like a desperate old daddy I imagine?
I witnessed something similar on recent night out. Lady in her late 50s who was clearly on a mission to get a man that night. The looks and sniggering the moment turned her back was difficult to watch.
Yes, 'mutton ' was mentioned. It was clear that these men found it disgusting. It was a few years ago, I don't know if things have changed. That and your experience are (admittedly very low down) on my list of reasons I won't meet much younger men for sex. They might be ok with it but lots of other people won't. "
Where I come from nothing more tasty than a bit of curried mutton roti. 
Carribean fusion with the Indian subcontinent.
I also look younger/( and sound verbally younger?) than my age so that's something I have to navigate. |
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