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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?
All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do? |
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"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?
All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"
The sex wasn't dynamite so not a problem  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?
All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"
Have a wank and don't let horn beat your brain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm, my ex-FWB always managed to reel me in every time, but thanks to friends I have realised how toxic the relationship was and that she is not a nice person, so now if she were to get in touch I would stay well clear. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?
All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"
Change her name on your phone to cancer don't answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Self discipline and self worth.
Make a point of going out to do something, visit friends, anything to keep you distracted, and turn down the toxic driven offer. |
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"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?
All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?
Change her name on your phone to cancer don't answer"
 why not just block?..
I don't find that funny.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Very good advice everyone, a few things though.
We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.
Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.
Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship. |
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"Very good advice everyone, a few things though.
We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.
Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.
Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship."
We both have kids (now adults) with exes, that doesn't mean they can visit wherever they want, or that you want them anywhere near your home.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm staying strong and logical as I know it would be stupid and more harmful than anything else.
Finding out she was the playing with what I thought were friends we played with a lot at the weekend, who have blanked me - thanks guys  , has made me think of her and now it's a bit like the whole reclaiming sex thing.
I'm trying to get out and make new friends, I've started playing football again, hoping to attend social events although I don't actually see many posted up here. |
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"Very good advice everyone, a few things though.
We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.
Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.
Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship."
Only communicate about the children, nothing else. |
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"Very good advice everyone, a few things though.
We have kids together so blocking her isn't an option yet.
Due to mental health reasons caused not just by the ex, I have not built up the courage or got over the anxiety of being around people.
Probably good enough reason on its own, my self worth has been destroyed throughout the relationship."
Keep her at arms length for your sanity's sake, involve some mediation service if necessary and seek some help and support for your mental health, sending hugs xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys, I'm sure many of you are aware of the type of emotions and pain I'm going through right now.
I guess I'm seeking some sort of physical validation from her that but feel like it would hand control back to her as it was me who left her. |
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"Thanks guys, I'm sure many of you are aware of the type of emotions and pain I'm going through right now.
I guess I'm seeking some sort of physical validation from her that but feel like it would hand control back to her as it was me who left her. "
I can only imagine, I'm sorry you're having a hard time.. sounds like you need some well earned you time... feel free to message if you need to vent |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating. |
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"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."
Don't think of us as strangers just friends you haven't met yet so glad you've taken the first few steps x |
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"Call my mate Dave and have him tell me how it is "
You know that Fluffy Chicken....and how did work out for ya...we all need a Dave in our lives
Basically Op an ex is an ex for reason let them stay that way, and give yourself the best chance to stay away from that toxicity |
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"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."
Get in touch with the RLB, sweetpea. H4H are just a rip off squad. RBL are better. Inbox open if you wanna chat? Ex RAF here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."
Sometimes offloading to people you don't know is easier - I am speaking from personal experience. I get professional counselling myself but have also used the Samaritans listening service, 116 123 is the number. You just talk, and they just listen. It's been the most helpful mental health support I've accessed recently.
Our inbox is always open if anyone needs a safe space to offload, please don't suffer alone. Take care.
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"Hmmm, my ex-FWB always managed to reel me in every time, but thanks to friends I have realised how toxic the relationship was and that she is not a nice person, so now if she were to get in touch I would stay well clear."
Had the same happen to me. I'm in a much happier place now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks very much but I can't dump all this on strangers. I finally registered with a GP, also in touch with Help 4 heroes but the waiting time has been excruciating."
Don’t be too hard on yourself OP
Breaking away from them can be really difficult, especially if you’ve been together a while. Sometimes they have this strange hold over us and we keep running back even though we know we shouldn’t. You’ll get there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No matter how toxic, mentally exhausting, pain inducing the ex is, how do you stop yourself when they are offering to come round tonight?
All the heartache and pain but the sex is fucking dynamite.. What would you do?"
As the song says .." you gotta be joking right ? "..can't even believe you're thinking about it |
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