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Do you call someone out when they lie?
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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't waste my energy. If they popped up again I'd just politely say I'm not down for playing games but take care. People lie all the time on here but it's up to us to choose if we accept that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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In your example OP? No; I'd probably say fuck it and block him and move on. Never experienced it but I can't imagine I'll be too impressed.
In the real world? I'll ask them. You know, check I've not got it wrong. If there's evidence it was definitely a lie, it depends on how close I am to the person and how big a lie it was. Some things aren't worth burning bridges over and once I'm over my initial hurt, I move on from it. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I would just ask directly, without accusing them, I’d just say can you explain this as im confused. If you learn to ask directly without assuming anything you get answers or reactions. He may have a valid reason, or he may apologise, you never know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Haven’t you just called home out with this thread.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Just block and move on
He obviously doesn't care about being caught lying since he wasn't discrete about it in the slightest
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If you have the time, wherewithal, patience and craftiness, play along with his scheme. Once he's back in touch breadcrumb him and lead him up the garden path, mess him about until you bore of him.
Then dispense of him forthwith. |
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Pick your battles. There's times to call out lies and times to just leave them. This seems like a leave it and move on situation to me. |
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It would depend on my connection to the person. Someone I was just casually chatting to on here, I’d just consider them unreliable and forget about it. Somebody I knew in the real world, I’d probably dig a little deeper. I’d want to know why they felt the need to lie and why they couldn’t be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get plastic surgery to look like him, then meddle with his entire life until he is a broken, lonely, bankrupted mess of a human being, devoid of purpose and meaning in his life. Then when he is at his darkest hour jump out of a cupboard with a ta da and use google maps to demonstrate 2 miles and what it looks like in satellite view. You could feign a little compassion before withdrawing it, like taking that last sip of water away from the desert trekking fool.
Or block him. Whichever is easier really. |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
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Never worth the effort to call anyone out on it to be honest, If it’s someone I know in real life I just make a mental note of it and know never to believe a word thst person says ever again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not likely to bother in the case of the OP, as to me there's no point.
Seems they changed their mind and didn't have the nerve to say, confronting that is just that, confrontational and unlikely to bring any joy. |
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"Get plastic surgery to look like him, then meddle with his entire life until he is a broken, lonely, bankrupted mess of a human being, devoid of purpose and meaning in his life. Then when he is at his darkest hour jump out of a cupboard with a ta da and use google maps to demonstrate 2 miles and what it looks like in satellite view. You could feign a little compassion before withdrawing it, like taking that last sip of water away from the desert trekking fool.
Or block him. Whichever is easier really. "
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Call him out for what ?
He said he had changed his plans and wouldn't come to see you.
End of.
I do understand what you mean and what it looks like to you but he didn't leave you hanging , he said he'd changed his plans - which is not a lie and like the rest of us .... he's a free agent.
Hope you find a meet that's worth it x
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you said he planned to come at the weekend and then his plans changed.Today when you checked is monday.
without wanting to know details on here .only you know what you chatted about such as if you told him at some point you could only meet at weekends or any other variable that would make him think you might not be available during the week on days or times he would be.
You either move on and block him or send a him message but from what you wrote i can't see where he lied because its not the weekend today. |
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Nah, just block and forget. There's no investment on either side.
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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block and forget him, his loss |
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"you said he planned to come at the weekend and then his plans changed.Today when you checked is monday.
without wanting to know details on here .only you know what you chatted about such as if you told him at some point you could only meet at weekends or any other variable that would make him think you might not be available during the week on days or times he would be.
You either move on and block him or send a him message but from what you wrote i can't see where he lied because its not the weekend today. "
I can't see the lie either. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Nope if he wants to meet you he will some people don't want you to know where they live in fact the forums are a testament to that many women and couples don't show the town where they live |
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I look at it this way.
I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.
I change my plans/mind and let them know.
I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.
I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.
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By *ingdang OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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There was a time, and place to meet arranged, which he said he is no longer coming to this city. Yet a few hours later he changed his location to this city and is physically here. I hope you can see why I said he was lying. But anyway, I should have known not many people are reliable here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Their loss. Let’s hope he gets blue balled lol x |
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
I would... that's just a blatant lie..why do that? Don't see the point in lying... just say "don't want to see you" it's not bloody hard is it..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope just do one better rade his verified list that’s on show even if they don’t take your fancy it’s serveing a purpose message one off them and let them bang and leave you a verification and desplay it
Then put up new pictures and message asking if he likes your new picture so they go to your profile
They see you had a new meet click and then release its someone they know
If they ask just say yip they got what you could have had
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"I look at it this way.
I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.
I change my plans/mind and let them know.
I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.
I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.
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This. Some of the replies here are shocking the guy hasn't done anything wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have the time, wherewithal, patience and craftiness, play along with his scheme. Once he's back in touch breadcrumb him and lead him up the garden path, mess him about until you bore of him.
Then dispense of him forthwith."
I'd do this 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I look at it this way.
I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.
I change my plans/mind and let them know.
I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.
I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.
This. Some of the replies here are shocking the guy hasn't done anything wrong "
So often, I'll see here someone complain that a woman or couple changed their mind, or even ghosted them.
The response is to get over it, nobody owes you anything.
It seems this guy has changed his mind and stated so, in a gentle way, and yet some of the reactions here. (Shrugs) |
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"I look at it this way.
I chat for ages to a bloke on here. I say to him I will be near his at the weekend.
I change my plans/mind and let them know.
I start to look for another meet and they call me 'out' call me a 'liar'.
I'd be backing right off. It's not up to anyone else who I meet or when or where.
This. Some of the replies here are shocking the guy hasn't done anything wrong
So often, I'll see here someone complain that a woman or couple changed their mind, or even ghosted them.
The response is to get over it, nobody owes you anything.
It seems this guy has changed his mind and stated so, in a gentle way, and yet some of the reactions here. (Shrugs)"
Yes would definitely be a whole different response if it was a woman changing her mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been chatting to this guy for sometime, and he said "he is visiting Manchester yesterday". Then he sent me a message saying "his plan changed and he won't come this weekend". I thought fair enough. But when I checked his profile today, he changed his address to Manchester, and the phone app shows that he is just 2 miles away. He is "looking for a meet today".
Anyway, this doesn't shock me at all after been on this site for years. But it's still tempting to call him out. Would you do that?
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Nope. People can change their minds |
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