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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yip not shour how his life turned out
But had the pleasure off turning down a offer from him
Could have made things worse for him sins he had a girlfriend as he told me so |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
Not the bully, but one of the "in" crowd that used to be disparaging towards me. He tried the whole "old school mate" thing to get in when I was doing door at a university gig. I told him to get in line like everyone else. He later came up to me when I was with a couple of other old school friends I'd bumped into and said one day someone was going to smack me. So I got in his face and told him if he thought it was going to be him he could go ahead right now and try so I could fuck him up. He left. Prick! |
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Yep. When they say karma is a bitch.
Was 19 and shop manager. She came in with her screaming brat shits.
Trolley full of food and wanted to pay by cheque.
Sorry we don't accept cheques.
Oh come on. You know me.
Yes I do, and that's why we don't.
Felt sorry for the kids, but never enjoyed putting stuff back on a shelf so much.
I'm not a bad person. Really I'm not. X |
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Each school bully ive had ive hurt badly when ive had enough of them.
Yes they bullied me for a long while until then.
Then they would leave me alone for a long while and then try by 2 onto one.
Ive met them later in life and they spoke civil with me with no threats or bullying from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't met him since school but worked with his sister. Turns out she doesn't like him either and she told me he was still living with their parents without a job doing live streams on YouTube. |
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This hits hard because I’d known our school bully our entire life and although he had repercussions and everyone thought he had changed; it turns out he was just bullying younger or more vulnerable people instead. Fast forward 5 years and he’d died. Puts a pretty permanent stop to any “We might be able to reconcile things in a few years” motion.
Didn’t go to the funeral as I felt it wasn’t the place for someone who knew him but didn’t get on with him. I hear a ridiculous amount turned up and quite a few didn’t even know him |
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"Yes he ended up a homeless smackhead last i saw him
Pretty much this but telling me he was going to turn his life around "
Thirded!! Same here , saw him in Wellingborough years back begging , just goes to show really  |
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Being a novelty coming from overseas in our lovely little market town I had just about enough status to be left alone.
The one who was a notorious bully to many is now a very successful chef with the odd stint on TV. Although he is no Gordon Ramsay
Before his move to London I bumped into him one day after someone had knocked seven bells out of him and helped try and preserve a tooth for him. Not sure Guiness worked but he was grateful for the attempt and was very open about how he was once a cock. I wished him all the best.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Honestly, I don't think my school had a bully at least for the 5 years I was there. None that I knew of or made it obvious.
Yeah, there were standard pocket instances of name calling among different kids, and while it is a form of bullying it was more hazing than actual targeting and singling out.
There was a kid in my year at high school, that during our 2nd year, hung himself. |
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Yes I met him in a petrol station - working behind a counter. He was on a heroin recovery programme with his key worker.
Seemed to be turning his life around. His step dad used to beat the shit out of him.
We were laughing about the fight we had on the rec. after school so the teachers couldn't break it up.
He thanked me for letting him up when he crying for me to stop. He said I don't think I would have done that. Then he said you only won cos you kicked me in the balls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not the bully, but one of the "in" crowd that used to be disparaging towards me. He tried the whole "old school mate" thing to get in when I was doing door at a university gig. I told him to get in line like everyone else. He later came up to me when I was with a couple of other old school friends I'd bumped into and said one day someone was going to smack me. So I got in his face and told him if he thought it was going to be him he could go ahead right now and try so I could fuck him up. He left. Prick!"
Well thats not very lady like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I did.
And on sight of one I had one of the most bitchy thoughts I've ever had and felt bad for it despite the satisfaction I got at the same time.
Another I vowed I would take my revenge on and bumped into her at a mother and toddler group with her mum. So wouldn't have been able to if I had the balls anyway. But my god would I love to do to her what she did to me..but I wouldn't miss.
But that's just my anger and feeling of injustice talking. I know I wouldn't actually do it.
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By *929Man
over a year ago
bedlington |
I don’t really remember the school having a bully as such at least not at high school.
The worst bully on our street was a lad a few years older than us he picked on one lad in particular from our group all the time the odd time he had some money for some sweets or wrestling cards if he seen the bully he would beat him up and take whatever he had off him. One time my Jack Russell who went everywhere with us tore his pants leg to shreds after he raised his fist to him to give him another unprovoked hiding.
Once a certain age he just stopped growing and when we were all grown men he wasn’t much bigger than a child still he couldn’t pick on anyone then. He killed himself a few years ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never really had any bullies maybe coming from a pit village we delt with things with fists also having a harder bigger sister she was a skinhead I was left alone but again I could handle myself.but was one guy later in life that used to pick on young ones when out drinking I no a few who he'd beaten up fast forward about 20 yrs he was found beaten nearly to death he's in a wheelchair now no one ever been charged. |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
There were a couple although they never bothered me,they knew I'd shoot them,both became addicts and served lengthy jail terms for beating people up and class A offences.There were a couple of teachers though,One teacher turned her ring into the palm of her hand and smacked me across the face,cut the bridge of my nose open,so I put her on her backside and left school permanently.The one and only time I've laid a finger on a female.She ended up in court on an assault charge,just dodged it but never worked permanent after only supply. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Not the bully, but one of the "in" crowd that used to be disparaging towards me. He tried the whole "old school mate" thing to get in when I was doing door at a university gig. I told him to get in line like everyone else. He later came up to me when I was with a couple of other old school friends I'd bumped into and said one day someone was going to smack me. So I got in his face and told him if he thought it was going to be him he could go ahead right now and try so I could fuck him up. He left. Prick!
Well thats not very lady like"
It isn't, is it?   |
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When I was at school I was a y little thing and shy. I was a soft target for a lot of the school bullies but mostly stayed away from them.
Thinking back, there are one or two whose injustices against me I would love to resolve the old fashioned way, but I mostly feel sorry for them.
The majority were from scummy families and the only role models they had were scummy parents and siblings. It’s no surprise they learned to live life like that, their only recourse being to get angry and throw punches. The really sad thing is they will have had at least 3-4 children of their own who will be brought up in the same fashion. It’s a cyclic societal problem and will never change.
So, our decent kids and every generation thereafter will be forced to endure scum who don’t know any better than to bully.
#brokenbritain!! I should work for the daily mail. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went on a couple of dates a few years ago with a girl that was one that ripped me to shreds daily as a kid.
She was lovely, we all behaved in ways we can’t explain as teens. |
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By *929Man
over a year ago
bedlington |
"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief"
Definitely mate seems their personality type seems to cause them trouble down the line
Another example of this I was assaulted down the woods when I was 13 by two 19 year old lads for no other reason than one of their girlfriends (who were about my age so can add noncing to their list of misdeeds) playfully stole my cap a while earlier. Within days my dad found out where one of them lived and went to his door the lad answered and when my dad asked if he was “insert name here” and if he hit someone down the woods the other day he answered yes and my dad chased him through the house and cornered him in the kitchen had him by throat about to pound him senseless and he actually started crying by this time his parents had came to the kitchen and his mother pleaded with my dad not to hit him he thought better and left. Anyway that bits regardless just wanted to include that to show the cowardice. within several years both had died through heroin |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
I've two examples and went throughout my school years being the easy target and picked on.
Initially I went to a private boys school and was their on merit and academic achievement and although my parents worked for the NHS we were still bottom of the social classes within those circles and I was badly bullied for this.
From their (and because of the bullying) I went to a state school. Were I was obviously gay and a posh twat because of my previous school. For nearly two years, I was physically and mentally bullied. (Only rest bite being when I'd taken my Swiss army knife into school and cut the lead bullies finger to the bone, I had my knife confiscated and he a week off with stitches but came back and shook my hand).
In later years, I've heard of both bullies. The latter committed suicide.
But the former messaged me a few years ago with a very sincere and apologetic message, explaining how it had stuck with him and he wanted to hold his hand out and apologise. One day I might reply.
The issue being isn't just how it affected them and how they've turned out but the lasting damage it can cause to the recipient as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She never bullied me, but I bumped into a girl who terrorised lots of people at school as an adult. She had two black eyes courtesy of her boyfriend and got quite teary saying she couldn't believe what she'd put other people through. I felt pretty sorry for her, but there'll be a lot of people she traumatised that won't ever know she regrets it so badly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interviewed him for a job about 15 years after we left school.
He smashed the interview, I gave him the job and he ruined the chance afforded him, I did get pleasure from terminating his employment.
Turns out he was a dick when he was 15 and when he was 30 |
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Yes years back he moved in across the road from me! I did remind him felt I should! He actually apologised to me! But later added me on f book he had not changed deleted him from there eventually! X |
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Nope but I was bullied by my headteacher, deputy head and HR woman as they were all best friends, covered each others backs and guaranteed to be the bullies when they themselves were at school. It changed my life and how much tolerance I have for people and also made me want to change my career...haven't stepped foot in a school since. Bullies are the only people that should go and hang themselves...and yes I absolutely mean it, absolutely vile animals. |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
"Nope but I was bullied by my headteacher, deputy head and HR woman as they were all best friends, covered each others backs and guaranteed to be the bullies when they themselves were at school. It changed my life and how much tolerance I have for people and also made me want to change my career...haven't stepped foot in a school since. Bullies are the only people that should go and hang themselves...and yes I absolutely mean it, absolutely vile animals."
A few teacher bullies at school.They tended to stay clear of me and a few others.Met each of them within a couple of years of leaving,one walked into the local and left as soon as I saw him and started to walk towards him,another got off the train a stop early when they saw me,and the third,I've never seen anyone run so fast in a tight skirt.Bastards each one. |
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I did/have, it was my brother.
All my childhood and even into young adulthood. It stopped when I left home and stopped seeing my brother when I was in my earlier 20s.
He was a bully too lots people at school.
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"Nope but I was bullied by my headteacher, deputy head and HR woman as they were all best friends, covered each others backs and guaranteed to be the bullies when they themselves were at school. It changed my life and how much tolerance I have for people and also made me want to change my career...haven't stepped foot in a school since. Bullies are the only people that should go and hang themselves...and yes I absolutely mean it, absolutely vile animals.
A few teacher bullies at school.They tended to stay clear of me and a few others.Met each of them within a couple of years of leaving,one walked into the local and left as soon as I saw him and started to walk towards him,another got off the train a stop early when they saw me,and the third,I've never seen anyone run so fast in a tight skirt.Bastards each one."
They are bastards indeed, I should have been clearer, these were all colleagues of mine that made my work life hell, at school! |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
"Nope but I was bullied by my headteacher, deputy head and HR woman as they were all best friends, covered each others backs and guaranteed to be the bullies when they themselves were at school. It changed my life and how much tolerance I have for people and also made me want to change my career...haven't stepped foot in a school since. Bullies are the only people that should go and hang themselves...and yes I absolutely mean it, absolutely vile animals.
A few teacher bullies at school.They tended to stay clear of me and a few others.Met each of them within a couple of years of leaving,one walked into the local and left as soon as I saw him and started to walk towards him,another got off the train a stop early when they saw me,and the third,I've never seen anyone run so fast in a tight skirt.Bastards each one.
They are bastards indeed, I should have been clearer, these were all colleagues of mine that made my work life hell, at school!"
It's a mentality many teachers develop,they are the only adults in the world everyone else is a child to be bullied |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
Essex |
I was bullied at senior school for 18 months. My dad told me I had two options fight back or take the shit.
Eventually I fought back after that I was left alone. I had no reputation to uphold they did.
We had several who bullied others. I saw one about 30 years ago he came into a pub I was working in smacked out his skull. Tried to get a free beer off me told him to jog on, he gave it the big one so I got him on hold (arm up his back) and esc0rted him out. Think he’s dead now. |
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One bully took his own life because the mother of his kids took them away from his behaviour and the other las t I saw him he tried to cause me of over charging him for drinks in a pub I managed. Told him no and he asked why the students were getting drinks cheaper, told him we had a student discount offer, told me to give him a student discount.
Are you a student?
No.
Then no.
Fucking trying to rip me off?
No, this isn't school, we aren't teens anymore, either accept the drinks prices or leave.
Felt amazing since he made my life absolute hell |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
In the intervening years I was able to tell the next generations of kids all the embarrassing stories that the teachers would rather forget,the piss taking lived on.Like the guy who went out pillion on his mates bike,had two pints,nicked the bike while his mate was in the chippy,ride it so badly the cops followed him,ditched it and hid in the park,in comes the dog team,out of a bush jumps the teacher and says "ahaaa nice dog you've got there officer".All read out in court when they nailed his hat on for everything they could think of. |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
(Above) was the same guy who stood up in court defending the teacher who cut the bridge if my nose open,he confiscated my catapult so I confiscated his briefcase, retrieved the catapult and threw the rest in the river.Happy days. |
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Oh 100%, used to get bullied in school by a lad, big time back in school. He got with a girl in the same year as us, they have kids and still together, she was soooo fit and still is. But I ended up shagging his Mrs everytime he was working away which would be most weekends.
She was soooo naughty and filthy. Had to bring an end to it after 5 years of fucking her as he's stopped working away.
Still see them both every now and again.
Always give her a cheeky smile and a nod to him
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief"
And whilst not defending bullies, it does seem to go someway to prove the theory the bullies are deeply unhappy/troubled people to have become bullies in the first place. |
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"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief
And whilst not defending bullies, it does seem to go someway to prove the theory the bullies are deeply unhappy/troubled people to have become bullies in the first place. "
It's pretty sad though, would be nice to see a story where maybe both people grew up and matured and found to be on good terms |
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Never had trouble - even when I asked two of them to leave someone alone who they decided was a soft target - It was known that I was ok at martial arts - so they just backed off. I hate bullying of any kind. Still do. |
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I met one of the school bullies many years later.
He’d completely changed since leaving home at a young age, and we actually had a long conversation.
Turns out his Dad used to beat the hell out of him all through his childhood, so violence was the only way he knew to solve problems or to have any sort of voice.
When he escaped the abuse and got to see that not everyone was out to hurt him, he started to regret his actions and hate himself, which ultimately lead to him attempting to take his own life.
Thankfully he failed, sought therapy and ended up being a really nice person.
Not everyone who was a bully was a bad person, a lot probably had an extremely hard upbringing and took control in the only way they knew or felt they could.
Everyone is entitled to be judged on current actions rather than their distant past |
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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"The theme seems to be all the bullies coming to grief
And whilst not defending bullies, it does seem to go someway to prove the theory the bullies are deeply unhappy/troubled people to have become bullies in the first place. "
Possibly... although I think society and acceptance can also play a part.
The worst examples all point to those from a trouble part, but as in my post above, in one case that was far from it. The bullies and ring leader as such, came from a pampered and well to do background and wanted for nothing (emotional or material) but it was lack of acceptance that gave them good reason.
The one difference in my two examples though, is that life apparently never changed in the rough end of the spectrum and that bully met his demise. Where as the bully from my private school, saw the error of his ways, was troubled by it and reached out for forgiveness with genuine remorse for his actions. |
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By *ndycoinsMan
over a year ago
Whaley Bridge,Nr Buxton, |
"Never had trouble - even when I asked two of them to leave someone alone who they decided was a soft target - It was known that I was ok at martial arts - so they just backed off. I hate bullying of any kind. Still do. "
Likewise,thankfully,still hate bullies,makes me grow horns and get into stuff I perhaps shouldn't,like the traffic warden shouting at a girl no more than 20,thin as a pencil,parked outside her own shop unloading a small box of stock,she was shaking and nearly in tears.So was the warden afterwards.She gave me a box of sweets! |
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