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Should i ask her on a date
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By *paged OP Man
over a year ago
Doncaster |
Hell people Iv met someone who i relly like do i ask them on a date or just forget her She is a customer of mine and she want somework doing ,she is very chstty when i go round any advice please people dont want to throw it away ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to be debbie downer, but I'd be very cautious as you're crossing over from a relationship on a professional level (you did some work for her) to a personal level.
I think you have to really gauge her signals. Maybe you could contact her with the excuse of checking the work you carried out is going okay, and then see if she is still as chatty/friendly?
I only say this as I had a guy who fitted a new boiler for me years ago, come on to me. I was single, lived alone and felt very vulnerable by it .
If the attention is unwanted she may feel horrible, it's not a compliment, so be careful!
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to be debbie downer, but I'd be very cautious as you're crossing over from a relationship on a professional level (you did some work for her) to a personal level.
I think you have to really gauge her signals. Maybe you could contact her with the excuse of checking the work you carried out is going okay, and then see if she is still as chatty/friendly?
I only say this as I had a guy who fitted a new boiler for me years ago, come on to me. I was single, lived alone and felt very vulnerable by it .
If the attention is unwanted she may feel horrible, it's not a compliment, so be careful!
Good luck"
This, very much so this |
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I’d agree with others. Finish the work and then maybe ask if now that is done you’ve enjoyed her company and would she like a coffee one lunchtime. Then if it’s a no. Don’t return to it and get weird! This one is a one strike and you are out gig. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People get confused when someone really friendly. My friend is super flirtatious but happily married "
Yeah I’m exactly the same, I love to just flirt in a friendly way and people always assume I’m chatting them up, then when they bring it up I have to explain to them that’s just my personality |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Hell people Iv met someone who i relly like do i ask them on a date or just forget her She is a customer of mine and she want somework doing ,she is very chstty when i go round any advice please people dont want to throw it away ???? "
oh yes if you don't ask you don't get  |
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"Hell people Iv met someone who i relly like do i ask them on a date or just forget her She is a customer of mine and she want somework doing ,she is very chstty when i go round any advice please people dont want to throw it away ???? "
I would love to meet someone organically, as opposed to on a dating app, but I’ve always struggled to judge the difference between friendliness and flirting.
If it was me, I would finish the job regardless, otherwise you’re mixing work and a friendship/relationship. Is she a repeat customer? If it comes to nothing (now or in the future), would it have been worth it? I’m thinking about whether you’re self employed and running a small, blossoming business for which you need her custom?
If the work is done and you don’t need her future business, and you think there is something there, why not go for it?! I’d be disinclined to do it in person so you don’t make her feel uncomfortable. I imagine a great many relationships come from working with someone and realising you like each other and I don’t think we should lose that in this age of everyone being offended at everything. |
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"Do it. You only live once. If she’s not interested move on.
Humans interact and can pair off with people that they are attracted to. It matters not how you actually meet."
I agree with the proviso that he waits until he's finished working for her. |
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"Do it. You only live once. If she’s not interested move on.
Humans interact and can pair off with people that they are attracted to. It matters not how you actually meet.
I agree with the proviso that he waits until he's finished working for her."
Yes, very true, he shouldn’t move on until work is completed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to be debbie downer, but I'd be very cautious as you're crossing over from a relationship on a professional level (you did some work for her) to a personal level.
I think you have to really gauge her signals. Maybe you could contact her with the excuse of checking the work you carried out is going okay, and then see if she is still as chatty/friendly?
I only say this as I had a guy who fitted a new boiler for me years ago, come on to me. I was single, lived alone and felt very vulnerable by it .
If the attention is unwanted she may feel horrible, it's not a compliment, so be careful!
Good luck"
Spot on real advice. Many have really lost the art of eye contact,body language and other micro signs that many look over and will fail at the very first hurdle!
Esp with women. Its always a fantasy what many assume of that person from limited no knowledge of them,for anything to develop further.
Esp on screen typing and the net. No success rate.
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If you're having to ask people on the internet for advice on this, then it's a no. Unless you're really bad at spotting obvious signs that she wants more from you. Complete the works and give her your card, telling her to call you if she needs anything. If she wants more, she will call you. If you're pursuing persistently, it's a bit unprofessional at best. |
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Why have I got a vision of a washing machine repair man coming over in his overalls, just as I'd got out the shower..... still dripping wet..... towel covering my modesty...... with......
Oh, nope..
*click*
Back in the room!!  |
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"Hell people Iv met someone who i relly like do i ask them on a date or just forget her She is a customer of mine and she want somework doing ,she is very chstty when i go round any advice please people dont want to throw it away ???? "
Just continue cleaning her pipes nothing more |
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
Walking down the only road I've ever known! |
"Why have I got a vision of a washing machine repair man coming over in his overalls, just as I'd got out the shower..... still dripping wet..... towel covering my modesty...... with......
Oh, nope..
*click*
Back in the room!! "
Now I've got a vision of you stepping out of the shower |
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"Why have I got a vision of a washing machine repair man coming over in his overalls, just as I'd got out the shower..... still dripping wet..... towel covering my modesty...... with......
Oh, nope..
*click*
Back in the room!!
Now I've got a vision of you stepping out of the shower "
Ahould have been made reality long before now......  |
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
Walking down the only road I've ever known! |
"Why have I got a vision of a washing machine repair man coming over in his overalls, just as I'd got out the shower..... still dripping wet..... towel covering my modesty...... with......
Oh, nope..
*click*
Back in the room!!
Now I've got a vision of you stepping out of the shower
Ahould have been made reality long before now...... "
Agreed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Argh.
Dont do it in work. Just do it after.
But go and get that girl!!! The answer will always be NO if you don’t ask. 
*cue song - love is in the air/ John Paul Young. |
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