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By *os19 OP Man
over a year ago
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Two dates in and I don’t feel comfortable with the way things are going.My thinking is I should let her go away and enjoy her holiday and then breakup.What would others do how would they play it would anyone end it before someone went on their holiday in the sun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s only two dates in, I would imagine there’s not much in the way of investment yet. Personally I’d say let her know as soon you know it’s not going anywhere. Why drag it out and who knows, she might find herself someone fun to be with on holiday |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I doubt you’ll ruin her holiday telling her. You’ve only had 2 dates, I can’t imagine she will be overly invested in the relationship just yet. I’d tell her before she goes so she can enjoy herself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two dates in and I don’t feel comfortable with the way things are going.My thinking is I should let her go away and enjoy her holiday and then breakup.What would others do how would they play it would anyone end it before someone went on their holiday in the sun."
I did smile..........
As mentioned before after two dates I doubt if the relationship is fully developed? Tell her before she goes and she can fill her boots with sen, sea and sex. If she has any sense she might send you a few action pictures! |
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Has she given you any indication that she sees your relationship as more than casual?
I think if you don't feel you know her well enough to judge her reaction then telling her before she goes will be fine.
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"Is 2 dates classed as a relationship now??? Oh Jesus, I think I’m in too many relationships "
I think older people go about things differently. If we were dating someone we did used to consider that we were 'going out' with them and that we wouldn't be dating anyone else. Times change of course and so does the definition of dating but if someone asked me to date them I'd also expect them to tell me they no longer wanted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two dates in and I don’t feel comfortable with the way things are going.My thinking is I should let her go away and enjoy her holiday and then breakup.What would others do how would they play it would anyone end it before someone went on their holiday in the sun."
When’s her birthday? Do it then ! Save some money. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell her before. She can enjoy her holiday being single rather than knocking Stavros back because she has a boyfriend."
I was going to post something deep and meaningful, but actually geordie pretty much summed it up nicely here! Yup! What they said!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2 dates really isn’t that sinfict she probably still considers her self single
I would say before you not ruin her holiday she probably use the holidays to cut loose have some fun have a couple off mindless sexual incounters and be ready to jump back in to the dateing as soon as she comes back |
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By *os19 OP Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
Thanks for all the comments.With hindsight breakup is probably the wrong choice of word but I really don’t know what word to use.I did say to her I wasn’t comfortable with everything between us and potential problems further down the line that it may not be a good idea to continue seeing each other.It was she who suggested that we meet and talk face to face after her holiday.It was her who was more excited and then left disappointed when I cancelled two dates prior to yesterday. |
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"Thanks for all the comments.With hindsight breakup is probably the wrong choice of word but I really don’t know what word to use.I did say to her I wasn’t comfortable with everything between us and potential problems further down the line that it may not be a good idea to continue seeing each other.It was she who suggested that we meet and talk face to face after her holiday.It was her who was more excited and then left disappointed when I cancelled two dates prior to yesterday."
In my opinion it's probably better that you make it unambiguously clear now that you won't be meeting again, even to talk about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my opinion it's probably better that you make it unambiguously clear now that you won't be meeting again, even to talk about it"
This !!
There is no point giving her false hope , cut it off now , make it clear and don't give any mixed signals . |
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By *os19 OP Man
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the advice.When we met Saturday I wanted to actually end it then.My way of ending it was by explaining all the potential problems we face.She actually asked me do you want to break up with me and I said I think it would be easier for both of us especially me.It was she who suggested to speak face to face after her holiday.Since Saturday evening she has not messaged me nor have I messaged her. I don’t think I will message her this week unless she messages me first and if I message back it will be to wish her a nice holiday. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for all the advice.When we met Saturday I wanted to actually end it then.My way of ending it was by explaining all the potential problems we face.She actually asked me do you want to break up with me and I said I think it would be easier for both of us especially me.It was she who suggested to speak face to face after her holiday.Since Saturday evening she has not messaged me nor have I messaged her. I don’t think I will message her this week unless she messages me first and if I message back it will be to wish her a nice holiday."
Seems to me that your the one dragging it out .. get in touch with her and put an end too it .. otherwise it's just cruel dragging it out .. but in reality 2 dates doesn't constitute a relationship and if you were into her there wouldn't even be a question . Kindest thing all round is brutal honesty not going around the houses . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Give her the freedom she deserves on her holiday.
As you've already decided, let her know now.
It's only two dates but she may want to honour what has began, then to be told it was a waste of her time.
Don't be a time waster, OP, we all know they're frowned upon. |
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"Thanks for all the advice.When we met Saturday I wanted to actually end it then.My way of ending it was by explaining all the potential problems we face.She actually asked me do you want to break up with me and I said I think it would be easier for both of us especially me.It was she who suggested to speak face to face after her holiday.Since Saturday evening she has not messaged me nor have I messaged her. I don’t think I will message her this week unless she messages me first and if I message back it will be to wish her a nice holiday."
Just delete and block. No need for all this faff. |
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"Thanks for all the advice.When we met Saturday I wanted to actually end it then.My way of ending it was by explaining all the potential problems we face.She actually asked me do you want to break up with me and I said I think it would be easier for both of us especially me.It was she who suggested to speak face to face after her holiday.Since Saturday evening she has not messaged me nor have I messaged her. I don’t think I will message her this week unless she messages me first and if I message back it will be to wish her a nice holiday."
She’s not messaging as she’s too busy sucking cock and getting her cunt eaten, she’s getting match fit for her holiday, when I say holiday I of course mean fuck fest ! |
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Tell her so then she can have a really good time.
